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bigcee:
He is preying on your naivety. He is a weak mumu that's just playing mind games with you

Hmmmn

Animegirl:
After my ex used me to get back is ex-gal, I became wicked. I dash premium heartbreaks to all my exs without remorse.

Dear, no man deserves your pains to make a relationship work.

My advice, love yourself more and give yourself time to heal. I guess he is your first love, ehya.

Thank you Sis.... I really appreciate it.

Ocholu:
Stay jiggy op. Him no deserve you.

God bless!

Blunttruth:

You did good.stay strong and if he comes back begging don't take him back. If you think it's tough in relationship level it'll be worse when married. Men like that were brought up feeling insecure. They think women should dumb themselves down. Do you want to be in a marriage where you won't be able to express yourself. He thinks your world revolves around him. My dear block him. He is toying with your feelings ,cut all ties with him. Heal before you get into another relationship.
Learn from what you just went through and be very careful before accepting another.

You are so accurate. This is not the first time this is happening. But everytime he comes back, I always take him back so I think he's turned it to a play. I feel like I indulged him too much. No wonder some people never want to fall in love because it makes them vulnerable.

And like you said, I fear he'll do worse to me when we're married. What if we fight like normal couples do, is that how he will leave me and the kids for weeks? I don't want to be depressed in marriage.

Like I said earlier, everything you said is so accurate, like you know the story well and I really thank you for your advice.

czarr:
What makes you think your ex is not having relationship PTSD because of you?

So a guy would just ghost a wonderful girl abi? Because men don't like good things...abi?

But I guess women have to always be the victim.....we should blame the guy and say he doesn't deserve you so you can feel better about yourself. We should say you'll find someone better than him, when we know he is probably the best you can do.

This is someone who would beg me not to leave him, even though he knows he is not the emotional type. He said he doesn't feel emotions the way normal people do. But I like him a lot so I didn't want to let go. I thought if I showed him so much love, I could bring him to feel...just like a normal human would

I am not playing any victim here okay. This is someone who has been ghosting his biological father for years now and no, the ghosting didn't start today. it's been going on and on, I just got fed up now. Everyone has a breaking point. He ghosts me anytime I have a contrary view to his. Like I have to do everything he says and I can't have a mind of my own.

I never asked you to blame him for me, I'm just concerned about the effect the whole thing is having on me.

Pnorh:
You’ll be fine,... just engage in anything that makes you happy

Okay, Thank you.

bukky1994:
Stay single then and get some relief, then give a shot at it later....

Thank you, I hope this works

Hi guys, I posted a thread earlier on when to finally let go in a relationship. Well, I finally did.

However, I think I'm traumatized by everything. I'm really scared of relationships now. I feel drained. I'm scared of men.

My ex was a narcissist and he made me feel he was some trophy I should be grateful to have. I never dated him for money. He never paid any of my bills neither was he responsible for my feeding (not saying he should), I did everything myself. I liked him, and just wanted to be loved back in return....but life has a way of being mean. Because I feel I didn't deserve the way he treated me.

I gave him a sincere advice and apparently he didn't like it so he ghosted me. I feel so angry--- worse still, he never apologized. He just ghosted me...2 years + relationship and all I deserved was ghosting.

Well, I decided to let go this time around, but Its tougher than I thought. I don't know how to look at guys the same way again. I think they're all out there to hurt me.

I know it's all in my head but it's really tough, and no---i don't wish him well.

eazzzy1:
Did he give you a reason why he isn’t ready for ‘more’? When your relationship gets to the point where one person wants more and the other doesn’t is a good time to take a walk.

The relationship never remains the same, the laughter and the happiness in the relationship begin to slowly evaporate. The relationship become plagued with frequent fights, less energy, declining romance etc.

Usually the woman thinks the guy is being selfish and isn’t concerned about her feelings, the guy begins to question if she really wants him or she just wants marriage.

If he loves you and you him, I think you should have a discussion where you are not ‘demanding’ marriage but making him see reasons why settling down will be beneficial for both of you guys. If you are close to his parents, this is the time to be in their consciousness. Visit them often, buy little gifts and generally start acting like ‘our wife’. His parent will turn on the pressure on him to get married.

Thank you.

Kingosytex:


Love ain't a smooth ride, there are sacrifices that must be made to ensure that a relationship survives.
If neither of the partners aren't willing to compromise for the common aim of the relationship, it means that neither of them really values their union. They're just playing themselves.

Thank you.

bibianna:
Number 1:

When there's no peace of mind you have to let go. Period!

Sis, what if there's peace of mind but the relationship is taking forever and you feel like you want more. Like you know, you're at a point when you deserve more than just dating?

Goldbw122:
That will be a relationship turn friends ship with a distance length to avoid any form of temptation called cheating.

There are some Ex who become your enemies....bitter Ex(s)

Col0gne:
To err is human, so I fight only once. When the brings rubbish again, I just move on without a word. When she eventually knows it's over, she'd realize I'm long gone.

Naturally, it's easier to a guy to leave a relationship than for a lady. I feel like, you guys don't put your heart into things.

Kingosytex:
Relationships should be defined, the goals and objectives should be well outlined.
Where exactly the relationship is heading to as well as what is required from each of the duo should be outlined, if not, it's either you're playing the person or getting played yourself.

What if compromise is what is required, and either of the partner is refusing to compromise but instead want to stick to their plan?

fuckingAyaya:
Where fuel finish I drop you

Lol.....I wish it was as easy and simple as you said it.

Hi guys,

So I created this new account to ask this question.
For people who have dated a particular person for a period of time but the relationship didn't work, and you ended up marrying someone else. How did you do it?

Particularly for women who were with a guy for such a long time without the relationship been defined. How did you end it? How did you meet your current partner? How did you move on?

Hoping to read and learn from you all.

Gracias~