Thank you all for your contribution.

mabea:
This doesn't make sense. I rather you want a wife who listens and respects you.

I want a woman that has common sense and listens to medical/parental advise.You'll respect ur spouse if you respect ur parents?

MISSCONGENIALITY:
I hope she herself wears rags.
Anyways, dress your kid the way you want him to be since the clothes are there. She might need you to show her by practicing it. Whenever you are around dress your baby well. Feed him with what you want him to be fed with. Some women don't have time for babies. Hope you didn't force her to carry belle. She might be doing it as a way of hurting you. Also treat her right too. If you provide the clothes and the food and her only problem be is feeding and clothing the child then talk to someone. Makene no be say nah she dey buy the the food and your own na to command.

Can you buy what you don't intend to feed your baby?i bring home all the money 100% nothing from her cos she's unemployed.

See i can't force her to do the right thing,as for me i don't like arguing.

FloraEC:


Eziokwu, and you went ahead and married her okwaya.
So typical.
From milk to clothing to disrespecting you, Dr and her mom
Next will be she insulted your mother etc.
Fault finder.
Always labeling their spouse bad. She should come and give her own side of the story.

Is it only amala that she prepares at home or is that the only thing your child loves? At least is not ogi

lol u de vex,you have no idea whats going on.

FloraEC:


Because she disagreed with her mum means she disrespected her.

There's always two sides to a story.

she's always rude to her mum ,i saw it happen so many times before we got married ,i don't know why but it's the truth.

mariahAngel:


You as the father, what are you going to do about it?
Are just going to fold your arms and let her do whatever she wants at the detriment of your baby?
Don't allow her stubbornness harm your baby. You seem timid. Baba, shine your eyes!

Guy the only thing i will do is to keep calm and watch but he'll be my only child with her.

FloraEC:


You're just finding unnecessary faults.
From milk to clothing, next will be house chores, or cooking or maybe she's disrespectful.

Haa, let her be.

lol the clothing issue was first raised by her mum and aunt...marry someone that respects his/her mum(thats the foundation).

Biglittlelois:



Having discussions doesn't mean there won't be disagreement on certain things, it's obvious you want a "yes sir" kind of wife, and you will never get one 100%, this is where compromise and tolerance comes in play,

Have more kids with your present wife, try and sweet talk her to listen to you and do what you want, if you actually did this, she wouldn't be adamant to do what she wants.

lol @ yes sir kind of wife ...i only want a wife that listens to the doctor and her mum..period !!

Biglittlelois:



And if the next woman decides to feed your second child with pap and amala, you'd divorce her and move on to the next one right? You ain't maritally mature yet.

I'll know,we'll discuss it dont worry.I have learnt my lessons.

Ishilove:

The child is constipated which is why he cries when shitting, once in 3 days o... Adults are supposed to have bowel movement 2 to three times a day, how much less a toddler?

How can you feed an 18 month old baby cerelac in the morning,eba/amala in the afternoon and cerelac again in the night everyday mon-sun.

punisha:




If at all he'd understand ur sarcasm.
Marriage is not for everyone o... Not kids especially.
Keep coming to NL to update us on ur failure as a husband o don't go and make your young home work be seeking validation from NL where even yaba patients are members.

Find a way to talk to that woman. She cant be difficult. The love u have for that child no reach her own, so try and understand her point of view and reach a peaceful conclusion.

there's nothing to understand..she refused to do what the doctor,her mother and I say.I saw the signs,never marry anyone(man or woman) that disrespects his/her mum.

Biglittlelois:



I don't blame people that says marry your class, why will a mother prefer to wear rags for her child Background truly matters when choosing a spouse.

You just said exactly what i refused to say.

WandaMaximoff:


A woman can live with her mum or respect her mum and still hold strong opinions that are opposite to her mum's.

Even when her mum says exactly what the dr says..trust me if you dont respect ur mum,you can't respect anyone.

WandaMaximoff:


My previous comments were sarcastic, I hope you saw through it. Mothers go through a lot nursing their children and no mother will deliberately put her child in harm's way. Tbh, most kids would have stopped breastfeeding at that age and would be on pap or solids.

I'd suggest you talk to an elderly woman she respects or take her to seek counselling.

There are more issues to worry about in marriage than issues like this. If you're getting tired over this small issue, wetin u go come do if one wey big pass this one come?

You don't sound like you still love your wife. Is there a problem like that?

My only take from this marriage is never marry a woman that doesn't live with or respect her mum.I can't love a woman that doesn't listen to me or to her mum or to dr's advise...she lacks common sense.

VLTA:


Just because of that?
I guess that commenter is just being sarcastic.

I know he/she is being sarcastic but i have made up my mind to end the marriage.I can't spend the rest of my life with a woman that doesn't listen to me or to her mum or to dr's advise.

WandaMaximoff:


Like I said, send her back home and marry someone else.

I don't get how a mother won't know what's best for her child.

Not all mothers know whats best for their kids,the boy cries heavily when he poos which happens once in 2-3 days...the dr advised us to stop cerelac but my son's mother knows best.Like i said i'll have 3 more kids but he's my last child with her.

WandaMaximoff:
Return her back to her parents house, she's not wife material. How dare she tell you how to feed a baby she carried for nine months and nurtured till 18 months?

Send her packing jor, go and marry another woman that will take care of the baby she didn't carry so she can feed the baby according to your specification. If the new wife doesn't comply, send her packing and marry yet another woman.

Keep marrying new ones till they are ready to do a better job than the actual mother of the child.

Come back and tell us how it goes.

I have left her to do what she wants though its not what i want. But that'll be my last child with her.

Tomblaize:


Involve her parents bro

Her mum told her something similar when she came to nurse the boy,but she was arguing with her mum too..at some point her mum reported her to her family members(Aunties,Uncles etc) im just fed up tbh

My son has so many brand new clothes but he wears old rag looking clothes,i told her about this too but she argued.This happened some weeks ago.

culf:
its not by shouting or giving order, calmly explain to her, like someone said, advise her.

I don't even shout,i bought the milk myself and i work 8-5pm...i definitely help weekends but she just wants her way.

Ahmed0336:
Patience bro. most women are like that na to just manage her as we dey manage our own las las d pikin go grow.

I'm tired of the patience,i bought a box of the sma milk.

Today, I told my wife to start feeding our 18 month old son sma baby milk once a day so he could take in all the necessary nutrients from the milk since he was never breast fed.

Note: he eats cerelac in the morning, yoghurt at 12 noon, Eba/Amala at 4pm and cerelac again in the night. I mentioned to her to find a way to feed him sma milk at least once a day but instead she started arguing with me.

What do i do?