frozen70:


If you want that particular line, go to MTN head quarters in VI that's where it can be solved

But for you not to have linked your NIN that's the punishment for you

I tried linking it but I didn't know it didn't go through because it has never for once stopped working

VI while I am in Niger State

My phone got stolen so I tried doing my SIM welcome back, only to discover that my SIM wasn't linked to my MTN line.
So I went to their office only to discover that my SIM card bears a different name from mine and doesn't tally with the name on my NIN and welcome back can't be done. This is a SIM I have been using for the past 7 years and I registered it myself.
At that point I started crying like a baby....

Please who can assist me

shortgun:

Did you registered it in MTN office or with an agent?

an agent

Blake755:
That is what the Sim card sellers do this days

Really I am hurting

My phone got stolen so I tried doing my SIM welcome back, only to discover that my SIM wasn't linked to my MTN line.
So I went to their office only to discover that my SIM card bears a different name from mine and doesn't tally with the name on my NIN and welcome back can't be done. This is a SIM I have been using for the past 7 years and I registered it myself.
At that point I started crying like a baby....

Please who can assist me

Rest in peace, He was a philanthropist. I once benefitted from him

Nice pictures

Children: 2 men and 2 ladies
In-law: 2
Parents: very cute with swag



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Omojudy:

I thought about this thing, a set of twins can’t be sent in as one entry? And how did u choose which of your twins to register not the other?

the other is a boy and it is said daughters are next to mothers.... I love both equally.

Please I want a transfer of service... I work under police and under ministry of interior of as a teacher... Someone should please help, I want ministry of works, for I studied Engineering

I need an urgent advice please

I was formally staying with my in-laws (my previous post has the details https://www.nairaland.com/3496373/pains-advice-needed ). I got a new federal government job and I started working in another town. Now it's as if life has bounced back on me. There was a new opening in my in-laws town in which I was transferred back to be a pioneer, is like going back to square 1 because my husband said I can't rent another house because his father has alot of apartments in his compound.. I have tried working my transfer back but all proven abortive. My kids are two years and I had wanted them to start school but not with my in-laws. I really want peace I don't want to go back to my sorrows

My question now is...
1)Must a married woman be transferred?
2) Must I stay in my husband's family house
3) is there a way out.

EfemenaXY:


You were advised to go on contraceptives and hold off on having kids till you both were financially stable. What was the rush if you don't mind my asking?

I got pregnant immediately after marriage,


The job I have can fend for my family and we can all live comfortable. My husband was the one that got me the job.

Now I even got a far better job and I am to move to another town! How do I clear the inception my FIL has given people cos it breaks my heart when I am been badmouthed.

yvelchstores:
I can totally relate to u on how our upbringing affects our marriage. I bought a book from a lady who sells e books here on naira land. I bought a book that transformed my life, 'created to be his help meet ''by Debbi Pearl .the book is such a huge blessing. I really don't know how dm works here, I would have said u should send your email so I forward the book to u. All the best.

please can I have the book too?

EfemenaXY:


Hmm...odd, but fascinating story.

This is what happens when people bow to societal pressure and rush to get married even when they're obviously ill-prepared for it.

Madam, you've walked straight into poverty and the sooner you accept your reality, the better for you. Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with being poor, but you need to learn how to sit up and cope with your situation.

I don't know what your culture is (not that it matters here), but it does sound very traditional, very communal and you need to adjust. There is a saying, when in Rome, do as the Romans do.

You knew the situation before walking into that marriage. You knew your husband was a low earner and couldn't afford his own place. You knew you'd both be living with your inlaws and you certainly knew your inlaws cooked with firewood etc.

What you need to do is come down to their level. As a new wife, this is your opportunity to learn from the older ones. At this stage, you'll be forgiven for making mistakes but expected to learn. From day 1, you ought to be very observant. So papa doesn't like your food - what do you do then? I'll tell you: when mama (MIL) wants to cook, take off your high heels, tie wrapper, and follow her to the backyard and learn how to cook with firewood. Find out what he likes and ask mama to teach you. Learn how to go down on your knees and work that grinding stone. See, there's a way to cook soup and there are ways to cook that same soup.

The same soup cooked the traditional way (grinding stone, fire wood, etc) would taste different from one cooked the modern way (blender, gas cooker, etc). I even heard / read somewhere that the smoke from the firewood gives its own special flavour. Find out what ingredients MIL uses for cooking his food too. Maybe she's not into Maggi but prefers traditional spices.

Let me ask you something: how come your "jobless sister in law" seems to be getting on well with the family but you aren't? Or you think she doesn't get tongue lashed by her in-laws too? I bet she does. The only difference between her and you is that she was smart, and quick to learn. You need to do the same too.

I think I kind of get where they're coming from too. Right now they probably feel you aren't even frugal with money. Rather than spend a fortune paying for kerosine/ gas and modern amenities, go for the cheaper traditional options and save that money towards getting your own place.

In the meantime, better start practicing family planning and go on contraceptives. Hold off on having kids until you both are financially stable.

I followed your advice, initially, it was tough but now everything seems working fine

I gave birth to twins and I and my husband status stepped up. we both got a better job than the previous in the same town but can't rent a house because my father in-law won't allow us to rent a house in the same town.

Na wa o! what kind of laptop electrocution is this?

Nancykay:

You welcome dear. Hope you're fine now?

Still the same my sister.... but am trying to be fine

Nancykay:
My dear no matter how good people are, when you live with them, there would be one problem or the other, mostly jelousy or looking into your finances or private life. I've had similar experience and I can boldly tell you it wasn't a sweet one. Leaving the house is the best option no matter how small your new house is, what is yours is yours. Hubby might want to discourage you from doing that but make him see reasons with you and pray about it that is you believe in any God. When we moved out, we didn't have so much, I actually loaned money but now we are so comfortable. Just take a step of faith and stop having that feeling of you can't afford it. If you move out, you'll see God putting your rent and others things in place for you. You've got to learn to be happy and don't let people push low self esteem to you, but don't be proud. Just be yourself. Also be wise on how you present leaving the house to your MIL and FIL because people seek for the slightest opportunity to crown you the bad one... Be good okay... One love.

Thanks very much

Slimmos:
House is cheap in kaduna naw... If truly u are working as stated, and ur hubby is doing little biz, u guyz should b able to join money and rent room and parlour even if it is in a face me I face u compound. It is better than staying a duplex and not being comfortable. Which part of KD?

Except we build our house we can't rent house within kaduna

wadetaw202:


Did you just say you can't afford to rent a place? Which state are you residing ma?

kaduna

lomaxx:


Lmao. Thanks for correcting me.
These women always become arrogant and disrespectful when they have a slight advantage

How do you mean?

ammyluv2002:
Okay,but you guys can move out right? Is the house owned by your father in law?

Yes it is

ammyluv2002:
Nne, you guys should pls move out! How can your husband, his brothee's family plus his parents stay in one house? Of course, you won't expect things to work out smoothly.

You guys should rent an apartment even if it's a single room, you have a job and he has something doing. You guys can start with 'face to face' pending when there will be money to rent a flat. There's nothing like having your own freedom as a married woman.

As for the gossip, just turn deaf ears to them. What matters is your conscience tho it won't be easy, but you don't have a choice.


Lastly, pls don't say "you're above your husband" next time. You got married to him and he paid your pride price so your superiority doesn't count anymore.

We stay in the same compound but different apartment

johnson232:

@bold above who?

i can perceive an undertone of arrogance & disregard for your father-in-law in your write up....

I am not the arrogant type. I just wanted to give reasons why they might be jealous. With all this I give my Husband and Father inlaw respect, Go to his room every morning to greet then mind my own business. Sadly maybe I shouldnt have stated that. I just need an advice. Besides I wasn't saying I was above my father inlaw

I am writing in pains, I stay in a family house with my inlaws. I got married the same day with my husband's younger brother who also leave with us. The problem here is that they find fault in everything i do and get jealous. I am the only one that does things in the kitchen while the rest cook with firewood. I stopped giving my fiL(father in-law) food (by my husband's order)since the day he asked some1 to throw the food away or give it to dog in my presence . The same food I served my husband and his friends which they ate. Ever since then he spoilt my image by telling people I can't cook with the help of my Bil. I have lost confident in myself Although my husband never complains. He credit my Bil wife simply because both my Bil
and his wife are jobless and they feed with the help of my Mil and the wife has been the one cooking with them. I do my things privately,I am an introvert, I teach in a school, my husband is into little business. But I am above him in all ramifications. but it didn't get into head. We can't leave the house cos we can't afford to rent a place. Now what will i do to gain back my reputation. I see people running away for my food just because of Fil. With the wide Gossip that I can only make snacks and noodles. I can stand anything as a woman but not someone telling me I can't cook. Please I need your advice?