Adonispco:
Am sorry for my writing pattern; I am in a serious dilemma since January.

I live in a face me I slap you house with just four co-tenants and the landlord.

There is this neighbour of mine that parked in on December 2021, a married man with three kids; two daughters and a son,the eldest daughter should be around 14 years old while the son and the last daughter should be about 4 & 2 years respectively.

We where living in peace although one has to make tolerance a friend for there to be peace.
These my neighbour's eldest daughter to be honest is morally bankrupted, she steals and lies without remorse.

My neighbour's wife always try to cover up her daughter bad behaviours. During christmas time 2022, I noticed a sudden suspicious behaviours from my neighbours wife towards me in particular; she does as if am a diabolic person, as a cool headed guy I focused on my life until on January 21 2023 when I heard the worst words towards my dignity and reputation as a common person;

Fellow nairalanders guess what? My neighbours wife accused me of poisoning his two little kids.

As a cool guy and from what i learnt never to take action when angry, I maintained like its nothing but told our landlord.

My neighbour who is a driver usually travels and can stay there for weeks, so I have to wait for the man of the house to return and hear from him before taking action, so on 29 January he returned, a general yard meeting processed; he was asked to explain more on the accusation from his wife towards me and this was what he said;

"Someone in our yard premises poisoned his children using mirinda and biscuit" that we all are lucky nothing happened to his kids otherwise he will call the police to arrest everybody in our yard.

When asked how he found out that it was someone from our yard and what sickness his children suffered; he said that his children were vomiting blood in the middle of the night, and he went to a spiritual doctor who told him that it was someone from the yard he lives in.

Please Nairalanders what will I do cause I have tried to let go of this heavy accusation but it havent been easy and to make matters worse the once loved innocent easy going guy have become a depressed soul due to the crack on my previous solid reputation.

Please anyone with a good pragmatic solution should help a brother.

From your explanations u have done all what is expected but seems u are confused of how to end it all. U called for a meeting after the man came back, good. But pls let us know about the landlord, whose side is he on. Another thing u should have done when they had no solid evidence is to tell the landlord to warn them to close the matter and never talk about it again. Tell them if they refuse and still talk about it that you would inform the police about it. That would scare the landlord too as he knows he would also be involved, thanks to your nature you are not a troublesome person. Forget about the fact that you are saving money to start a business, If need be pls use part of the money to settle the issue with the police. Should not cost u much if u are just notifying the police, the police would warn them never to bring up the matter again if they have no solid evidence.
And as for those saying u should leave the house, I don't think that is the solution. Leaving there would mean u are guilty and just trying to escape. They are troublesome people and they would track u down to your new place and still take the news there to people. Worst of all u don't know people u are going to meet, chances are they might be worst.
Bro sometimes in life things don't always go smooth or as planned. You are saving to establish yourself but u might need to use part of it to hold your reputation. Remember your parents are involved in this which makes it worst.
And to those saying I don't talk to my neighbors at all, hmmm. If people want to put you in trouble, it's not about weather u talk to them or not they would try to because your mere existence might just anger some people. Talk to your neighbors, you yourself should know who to talk to and who not to talk to. The way u talk also determines weather u would be respected or not. We should remember that we are all humans, we all need each other. If you don't talk to anyone at all, you may not know the consequences till the day u might need their help . Your friends and families may be late to get to your place when you need help urgently in your room. Am not praying for bad things to happen but we are humans and we may need anybody's help anyday and anytime.

[quote author=mariahAngel post=123941551]Enticing words.
When they want to penetrate Africa, they use enticing words to make Africans feel good and relevant.

I won't even be surprised to know that he and his daughter never discussed about Burna and Rema.





Of course. And we don't need them to tell us that.

Rather, the questions (we should ask ourselves) should be do we need their validations?
Do we need them to tell us our worth?
What is the motive behind the "sweet words"?
Are we about to be exploited?
What do they stand to gain?

We should not allow ourselves to get carried away by enticing words.
We should always question their intentions.
It's bad enough that they believe Africans are dumb.
You said everything on my mind miss, the problem with Africans is that we don't love to think. This is just like the case of Jack who was hyping Africa but he was just doing so for the gains he would make in Africa through his company (Alibaba).

[quote author=AliEzeOlu post=123818946][/quote] Eweee, this wan don finish us.

Emceecee:


You can start small, with what you have, without even capital. Everyone already has something they can offer, if they think about it.



If you understand entrepreneurship/business, it not something hard
The root of business is just solving a problem for people.

I discussed more about both on this thread, check it out if interested:
https://www.nairaland.com/7724143/how-make-money-doing-what

Hi sir, I am one of the few youths with this type of mindset. I just looked up the link u posted and I figured out we reason in thesame direction. So am asking if we can be more private, i just sent you an email.