You were not submissive but a wife. You started it by giving him the attitude to have your own when the family your immediate family don't have one. You can get yours, if you guys have put one in place together no issue. That way he will not even see your mo ey has our money. You just have to make the uturn the same way it all started. From the look of things the love is there, but you just can't find common ground but of what happened. A man has an ego but 5secs of emotions throw us off balance. Forgive and also you have to apologize for that step u choose. Always put your family first not mind who is doing it first or sponsoring, if you guys leave outside Nigeria your behavior will adjust because you now believe the system cannot work like you're saying it now. Except he's not bring anything to the table and you keep having babies for him. Where is the huge/feelings coming from?