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optional1:better change your password. Just confirmed it's a hacker. |
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optional1:did you fill it? |
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Em sorry I had to post this here... Seun isn't this an attempt at phishing by hackers? Keeps popping up on operamini when I want to comment. Started this night (I think) and I just switched browser to post this. Looks very suspicious so I didn't use it. What's happening to Nairaland? 1 Like |
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DarkRebel101:hmmm... That's quite a conclusion to reach, that part about singles not bearing much responsibilities. Some singles carry staggering responsibilities. Before marriage, one still has a family, nuclear and extended. Some become part-time or even full time breadwinners, due to circumstances. For some the challenge it's balancing demanding jobs with providing care for aged parents or terminally ill relatives. I agree that marriage is in a league of its own, but it's not as if every single person has all the time in the world to choke his partner with attention. If we aren't seeing very often in the first place, why try to add even more distance? The part about marriages being more serious and secure makes sense. The more committed a relationship is, the less the need to disappear into thin air to spice it up again. |
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DarkRebel101:I think it's very much the same for singles in relationships. Work doesn't start at marriage; add that to the physical absence most of the time. On the whole I get your point though. Moderation is key, even in showering our partners with attention. Just wondered how practical it would be in marriage. |
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Mindfulness:many... Not everyone. I only objected to the one-size-fit all approach the opening post took. The suffocation is caused by personality differences. What is too much space for one isn't enough space for the other. |
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Mindfulness:then there is no need bringing up the distance issue in premarital relationships. With the exception of live-in lovers, people dating see each other less often than married couples living together. |
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Well-said op. A little distance CAN be a spice in thereabout any human relationship. However, I agree with the lady that said that it depends on individual. Nearly every "rule" on relationships falls flat on its face if difference in personality is disregarded. You'd need to understand yourself, and work towards understanding your partner. Some like to have their me-time regularly, and cannot bear the thought of being stuck with someone 24/7. For these, they need lots of space from time to time. Some others get their energy from being around others as often as possible. In a romantic or marital relationship, these latter ones would feel abandoned when there isn't constant presence or feedback. For these, the few hours spent away from each other each day is enough. Yeah, I'd like to call that distance 'space'. I think it's more fitting in the long run, as your write-up focuses on premarital relationships. What happens when they are married and now live together? Would married mates have to take weekly trips separate from each other to keep the fire burning? In the end, whether or not distance makes the heart fonder depends on what you do when you are together. If it's the same boring monotony, even distance can't help that relationship. They would simply drift apart. 1 Like |
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DonOms:ha! You remembered? Your brain sharp o. Talk about elephant memory ![]() Just seeing this mention. Been offline for sometime. I rarely write anymore, make I no lie. So much to do, so little time. |
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Depends on how you do it. Correction doesn't always mean open rebuke, as some people assume. You can whisper a correction, or quietly show her a better way to do something without any one else noticing. Depending on how close you are, you can even communicate with facial expressions. If you are outside, that makes it in public. Whatever you do though, never embarrass your partner publicly. It would eat away at her self-esteem if it doesn't ruin your relationship first. Some people use it as a form of control over their partner. Make her feel worthless and she'd be grateful to you for remaining with her. It's mean. 7 Likes |
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No. Makes no sense. Nature drew a line, let's not pretend that line doesn't exist. Just teach them that their gender isn't an automatic ticket to anything. 2 Likes |
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ModestGal:hehehe... This lady harsh o. ![]() 2 Likes |
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aaronson:It's unusual jare. Stop acting like you don't live in this same crazy world. If it's not a dream, it could easily be a setup, with gangsters hiding in the shadows. 2 Likes |
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youngfocus:What you described sounds like social anxiety disorder not introversion. I hope you know that there are shy extroverts. They badly want to be with people, and want to socialize, but are afraid they would mess it up or be rejected. The result is total dissatisfaction with their lives. Introversion is not a lack of confidence. Shyness is. Many times they overlap but aren't the same thing. I'm introverted, but a better public speaker than most extroverts I know. 4 Likes |
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torqque7:I dunno how often ladies feel conflicting emotions, but I know they are generally more sensitive than guys. So emotion affect them differently. Yeah, it's awkward to imagine it's love that would last a lifetime, and still be skeptical about meeting up. It might be insecurity, but even if it is, it's about the smartest part of the story. Never mind what her heart is telling her about love and a lifetime, her brain knows the guy is a stranger. 1 Like |
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Ginaz, this is the thread. Try to read through as many pages as you can. |
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Smh... Most of these persons commenting do not even understand what introversion means. ![]() Ginaz you aren't TOO introverted, you are too reserved. I could explain the difference if you want. You can't change your introversion, but how reserved you are depends on you. You don't think anyone could understand you because you don't give them a chance to. Never mind the suggestions to go to parties or clubs. If you force it, you'd get drained faster than you can make a new friend there. Introvert or extrovert, we all have a social need, just that introversion makes one alot more selective. There's a thread for introverts somewhere. You'd be surprised how many persons are like you in many ways. I'd mention you there. 2 Likes |
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torqque7:lol. I bet you'd be confused too if you felt so many conflicting emotions at the same time. Don't shake your head, guide the ones who need guidance and are not ashamed to admit it. 1 Like 1 Share |
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Hadez:what makes you think you love him? |
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Love? Really? You want to spend the rest of your life with someone you've never met? Lol ![]() 10 Likes 1 Share |
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ramdris:which ones? |
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Nice list. Humans are still worse though. Waaaaaay worse. |
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Towncrier007:ok. Why is the left side of her face heavier than the right though? 1 Like |
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Op, I dunno what Arab spring is either. No one knows everything. The only thing I know about this issue is that no friend of mine can call my babe 'mumu' to my face, without starting world war 3. If you insult my choice, you insult the brain that made it. 4 Likes 1 Share |
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Why jail the other man? Did he force the lecturer's wife? He should gather the broken pieces of his shattered ego and let go. She's gone, she's gone. He should do a paternity test though. It's very possible the son he thinks is his is even the product of an away match. You only just got to find out because she let you. Women are by far the better cheats, they get caught less often. See her giving reasons. When a woman is the guilty party, there is always a valid reason for adultery. Either the man cheated before or he doesn't take care of her. |
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phemocheee:lolz. You have a keen mind. |
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Slaveman343:As in eh... After chasing like their lives depend on it, they'd come to NL to bash their rejection away. Yeah, he is, but I was hoping he'd play the game to the end as the female he's pretending to be. |
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MiraMatics:and they taught you there that there's a tag on the forehead of every 'real guy' and that they all want the same thing? 1 Like |
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MiraMatics:if you are female, what makes you think you are in a position to define what guys want? 2 Likes |
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