Ishilove:
I'm from the South-South but I don't know what this guy is talking about... Seriously...


https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=pfbid02BXwdFT5srXFoqnxbBnj1Tfk2VbtarGnquskdtJtewj6LeYRBz4T27vC7scanfctbl&id=100000865297273

Na village sure pass be that o... make I go carry my bag

missyojo:
This Op is very BRILLIANT, Omo see how he dey attack like AK 47
You passed through school, your school fees ain't a waste at all. Some of your Big Big grammar sef, I haven't heard it before

my sister how I for do na... to every gbas, there must be a commensurating gbos

faithfull18:
Interesting but OP, just curious to know what could have caused the divorce that couldn't be resolved, you are in your early 30s, I am guessing your ex is in her early 30s or 20s too, hmmn.

Life happens

Aurelius1:
You may think he's talking nonsense but he's saying the truth. It would be difficult getting a woman without kids to love your 3 kids as her own. Even women who had kid(s) in their earlier relationships often maltreat their step kids. My cousin is a living witness. The woman came into the marriage with 2 kids she had in an earlier relationship. My cousin had 4 kids before they met while she had 2. They have a daughter together. This woman made sure my cousin sent his own children away from the house while her own remained. To cut long story short, she finally divorced him after he lost his job and fell sick..................
.this is not meant to discourage you because who knows, you might just be lucky to meet a good woman. Good luck in your search.

The guy you're supporting is not on this same page with you. Go back and read his comment, and this time with much patience. The experience your cousin (sorry about his experience)had doesn't rule out the fact that, there are good spirited women out there(with/without kids).

He outrightly said a single father shouldn't date any lady without kids, like he is an authority!

So YOUR TRUTH is single parents shouldn't date someone that's no kid? Pls, explain?

But, I am yet to see where I stated I needed someone that's been or never been married before.

or have you seen where I said I needed a virgin?

People can really JUMP into conclusions sha...

are there no divorcees and single mothers that are working classes, financially stable, educated, know what it means to love and be loved? Are those features peculiar to single ladies alone?

Like primarily we shouldn't be dragging this issue cos I wasn't specific about it at all... and If it happens who can stop it?

Magnoliaa:


Lmao, men have always gotten that grace, by the way. Always. Classic one is the Malignant dude or whatever.

They can be hypocritical to any levels they wanted, and their fellow men will still find excuses for that.

I am sure the number of women that hailed Uche's husband pales in comparison to the men that dragged her.

Just a few people are dragging this OP, and that itself is even an exception where threads of these kind are concerned.

Magnoliaa:


I hope ( NOTE; "I hope" ) you are certainly not one of these guys here, but in other skins.

This is certainly not the first time I'll be seeing something like this here, after all...one just came, some months ago, ohhh, and he has a daughter too. I remember now. And he was looking for a woman or something like that, but he was supposedly ashamed, or so he said, because he has posted nonsense about women many times and trolled them.

If that's not the same with your case, then I wish you goodluck...

I really don't understand your question... do you mean trolls, male chauvinist, redpillers?

I'm an advocate and a believer of the Golden Rule!

Cheers to your wishes!

Ishilove:

I was thinking I'll see Achebe, Soyinka et al I'm your African list, but Tolstoy and Eliot are not bad. In hindsight, Hadley Chase has very good stories but his prose, not very strong. They are uncomplicated, except for a few that went deep like Malory and There's a Hippie on The Highway, which ironically was one of his early stories.

I'm not one for motivational books. Their prose is often too bland to hold my attention. I'm all about the style of the prose, which is why Stephen King is one of my all time favorites. I'm currently on Thinner and boy, am i on a journey!

I believe no single African reader wouldn't love the works of Achebe, Soyinka, Osundare, Thiong'o, et al, though we could be sentimental in placing one above the other. We love them all... hence, my deliberate omission of their names!

I see your interests shifted, and you are now more about the actual intricacies of society rather than their fictionalisation. Life does that to ya.

lol... exactly, I think it only natural to change our desires when life demands more or other from us. You really got me big time... I see, you can effortlessly pick a burnt grain amongst millions of brown grains(insight).

Sorry I'm derailing your thread o. Ma bi nu

Not at all, preferable to some zombies and I've got my missiles ready... Kill 'em all!

Piptocoin:


Now I see the comment of mine that has galvanized your irrational volcanic eruption. Since the meaning of my first post has been unable to penetrate your mind like water on the back of a duck it is needless to offer you clarity. Furthermore, your vituperation has lost its purpose on me. Unlike you, I am not chockfull of acrimonious bile waiting to slip at the slightest hint of antagonism. Nah, I won't smear you with dirt because I have none to give.

Coming from a cretin, whose core expertise is to proliferate sane quarters with crass ludicrousy and gross eccentricities!

I need to know the environment that bred a dunce and contemptible soul like you. Not for anything but for UNESCO to adopt it as a World Heritage Site for rearing slowpokes & dumbassess!


Highly pitiful is the fact that you also engage fake and parody accounts too... that shows how ignominious and contagious your foolishness is!

You deserve a medal!

Ishilove:

Guy...guy... This your English! If I was still single i for DM you just for the sake of the English alone. See as you just dey finger my brain

Who are your favourite writers (African and non-African)?

no mind me, pikin wey say hin mama no go sleep, him sef go kukuma hear am...


In no particular order, I USED to like the works of

1. George Eliot
2. leo Tolstoy
3. James Hardley Chase
4. Charles Dicken


But, now I do more of motivational/inspirational

1. Myles Munroe
2. James Dobson
3. Rick Warren
4. Bruce Wilkinson

and some great home (African)writers!

Presently reading Why Nations Fail By Daron Acemoglu and James A. Robinson

Dimples2022:


I’m not going to lie, I’m enjoying your roast but some people are taking it too far. You deserve what you want and can’t no miserable people take that from you. You could meet your someone but these bitter people don’t want that LOL!?

Very miserable people, it's obvious many of them are going through stuffs in real life. But, they won't just admit it. They derive orgasms from being trolls... and you know what? Trolls are pests. We have dominion over them!

They can't stop me... I will surely get my dream woman!

Hope your sabbath was great?

Dimples2022:
The man came looking for a wife but you people are offering what was never asked of you!!! Why are you guys (dickblockers) blocking his attempts

He never asked for advice but he asked for a wife ready to accept his faults and marry him! What’s with all these 2 cents everybody wants to drop

My sister I tire o

Piptocoin:


Why are you pugnacious over the innocuous sentiment of a faceless man in the street? You seem to relish the exercise of punching the air. I am not your enemy; you are. Peace.

Harmless, you say? Who were you referring to as someone trying to prey on unsuspecting folks online? I ignored your first(now reported) post, only to see the second repugnant vomit of yours again.

Since, you've thrown caution to the wind in all your posts on my thread.... I think it's all good you chew your gravel in peace!

SerikiFulani:
OP

A distant relative of mine,a divorcee with 5 kids got married to a single, virtuous, resourceful and super gorgeous nigerian woman.

Don't let anyone discourage you on here.

Thank you for this...


They are all fools, I am ready for their airheads

Piptocoin:


Reality tastes like Alomo Bitters. I am not in the way of the Op seeking his heart's desires, but when he has sailed too far from the shores of truth he risks being lost in his imagination. Whoever attempts to fill the vacuum of his desires must by no means have a heart of leather knowing that mothering three step kids will drain such lady empty of her emotional reservoir and make her feel like an "upgraded nanny" rather than a wife. TheGoodAmerican has a point in his suggestion but that is not a constant. The Op is asking far too much and I'm sure he has not thought this through. You have also expressed the less admirable but significant aspects of his search. That notwithstanding, I wish him luck in his endeavour.

I am struggling to believe you've chosen to rather be a prisoner of your vain and vague thoughts on others reality.... Let me help your perceived ignorance, and it's a favour from me to you, I rarely do!

Before, I untie the fetters of your ignorance, which obviously is the monster amongst your little idiosyncrasies... can you in plain terms highlight my expectations vis a vis the ones you are playing the role of a butt licker to, who in their lack of simple comprehension, has decided to run with it like a rottweiler!(apparently you're all under the same diagnosis).

You must be living in a stone age not to know that parenting has evolved from the prolonged slavery you've submerged your wife into(If you have one). Hence, your thoughts of me doing same to another man's daughter! Oh, what a pathetic soul you are!

I don't know the offense of your lineage, that has made God to curse them from having expectations. Simply put, you are doomed never to embrace change and hope for something good or better in life.

Obviously, I'm exempted from such garbage!


Lastly, I don't need your wishes, ok?

Klass99:


There's nothing wrong with your list, all your expectations are valid especially the last two (i.e. 4 & 5) May you find what you seek.

Amen...


I am still waiting on the almighty omniknowest to point out my insensibilities.... it appears he's still searching....

Thanks

pocohantas:
There is nothing to say OP can’t have or shouldn’t desire a single woman. From his opening post, he didn’t even specify, so why are you guys assuming and attacking him? Uche Ogbodo just remarried and I saw ladies hailing her husband as a real man. Let’s extend the same grace to men too.



I wish you the best OP. It takes a lot of strength to try again…and I pray you get to be loved the way you desire this time.

I have come to realize that this forum is predominantly a cluster of people that conclusively paint their thoughts into someone else's life.

I and my ex are good, as in very good(even better than some fake marriages that hasn't kissed the truth because of stigmatizations and social constructs, apparently in their quest to seek the goodwill of the society). Needless I say more?

Thanks for your goodwishes, i will always come here because of balanced minds like yours and several others who has adorned this thread with their goodwills!

Kelechi009:


Meaning you don't have sense with your expectations, you need to lower it to find true love & not a leech.

Can you pls spell out unequivocally any of my expectations that is senseless?

1. Working Class

2. Financially Stable

3. Educated

4. What it means to love

5. What it means to be loved

efficiencie:


What if she meets all the criteria above but she is also a divorcee like you?

that is not a problem... Peace of mind is the basic!

Know someone?

Kelechi009:


Yes I will jump at you but not because I love you, my aim would be to take every single penny you have and leave probably after few years just like what every celeb on IG is doing.

So better give yourself some sense.

Meaning?

Kelechi009:


You have 3 kids, why should a single lady marry you? Do you think it's fair bringing a lady to take care of 3 kids that aren't hers?

Any personal issue with that? Is it your singleness? Are you interested? If I were a celeb... wouldn't you jump at me?

If you're muslim, then that might make sense but you aren't. The lady will just maltreat your kids

Let's wait till then....
Teinku

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Windscribe:

99% of comments here are laced with negativity, bad energy and all, and you expect him not to get mad?

Is he Jesus Christ or what?
Even Jesus Is going to get mad at the destructive criticism on this thread.

Pls help me o, I will be giving dem as e dey hot!

Bunch of hypocrites, who don't even have the mind of their own.

#apesobey

Facebook pages and groups is a nice place to find a partner.

I thought this is an enlightened environment, never knew it's a facade.... Thank God for the few ones like you!

frozen70:


I think your concern and interest now is to focus on how to look after your children and their future

Since their mum is no longer living with you guys, you have to play double roles

Searching for a financial stable woman shows that you can't even take care of those children needs

You really painted yourself as a good looking man, if that's what you are, then you don't need to advertise yourself

Forget about being in a hurry to get another woman

Go and arrange your self properly because you may have a bigger issue when another woman comes in, to fit into the shoes of trying to be there mother

Like seriously, do I come off like a new divorcee to you? Do you know why I want a working class/financially stable lady?

I can see you've really been feeding us for a while now...(your supposed conclusion is so loud and deafening )

Are you mad about my description, understandably, you would be happy if I am ugly?

my wishes are based on my experiences and observations as I single father.

So, I think you should be in the best position to help me 'arrange myself properly'

please help(SOS)

bigjackass:
I can already see some of the reasons why your marriage didn't work out . Marriage is not for you guy. Nanny and casual flings is better

It's obvious you guys are much more concerned about people's perspective of your lives than being true to yourselves. So, in search of a wife, you expect me to allow every tom, dick and harry pour their gutter on me? Naaa, I won't do that! This is social media, I will let your unprofound view of me slide and I won't even talk you into discarding it. It's obvious marriage is not for you...

TheGoodAmerican:
It's my opinion, and I'm entitled to it. Clearly, you're a single mother. There's no need to be pained over my comment.


No wonder. Get help and go look after your kids instead of arguing with a stranger on the internet. Loser.

Never knew I was engaging a neanderthal! You called someone you've never crossed paths with, a 'loser'!

What a bile tongue you have... you should be eternally quarantined from this forum.

you don't fit this age!

I'm sorry...

spits!

Dimples2022:


Who gave you this authority??! LOL! NL!

My dear... the audacity and selfishness off me.

It's on a league of its own.
I can't honour the whatever with a 'he/she'

TheGoodAmerican:
This is a public forum, which I'm sure you're aware of. The same way you opened this thread is the same way people can reply to it. With the way you're attacking people, it's no wonder your wife left you. I can only pity the woman you want to dump your three kids on.

My wife left me you say? You would have me spew things, but i won't be that childish to( ain't saying I'm perfect). Now, that's a dart on your shitty and villainous heart to deal with.

Your choice of words show how much of a bunch, life has left you to deal with.

Are you done pitying yourself?

love and light!

JeffreyJunior:
So is it safe to also say that a single man without kids has no business dating or marrying a single mother with 3 kids?

We men have seen all manner of injustice in this life shaa.

This exactly is my grouse with him and his jackals.

God bless you!

Dogalmighty17:


This attitude may be one of the underlying causes of the divorce. You put a post on a public forum and yet you tell people to mind their business?

which attitude? I'm yet to read where I said people should mind their business. Are you inferring the guy i shut down(americawhatever)as 'a people'.

Read his comment slowly this time without sentiment and tell me what his last line infers?

Oluneutral:



Dear brother, we're not fighting, as a matter of fact, I was only pointing out what you're expected to have known. This is a public forum, When you open a thread here, it's no longer personal, it has become public consumption. Expect different suggestions, comments and questions. The way and manners you now respond to these good, bad and sometimes ugly comments here says a lot about who you really are. Besides, there's no rule that stipulates the threads any member can respond to. Somebody's business is everybody's business once it gets to the public domain here, same applies to other social media.


By the way, the suggestion given by thegoodamerican wasn't a bad one, it now behoves on you to accept or not.

I smell bullshit from far... hence, my replies.

This post is meant for ladies to respond to, not men with seemingly overbloated ego and megalomaniacs who chose to cocoon their personal struggles and shortcomings, then, come online as dinosaurs to prey on those who were bold enough to come out. You don't sit behind your keypad and type out how someone else should or should not live.

That, I can't and won't accept... you called what that 'americawhatever' said a 'suggestion'? Read it again. He spoke like he's the father and default mind of all ladies; even Father Abraham wouldn't be that absolute in authority over someone else's wishes.

Lastly, it is always worthwhile to read out loud one's comments to one's self and feel it before writing it out to someone else(no pun intended).

Then, and then, would social media be a safe, if not safer place for all!

Abi you get wife for me

Oluneutral:
By the way, what was the cause of the divorce that couldn't be resolved even after three beautiful and wonderful kids?

Like you care....

Oluneutral:



If you really wanted people to mind their businesses, you shouldn't have put this in a public domain, you know.

Read your signature and see the contrast in your comment. Must you NL folks really show how petty you are? These coming from men shows how warped and condescending most males on this forum are...

kilode, must you folks spit? Can't you just read, swallow and go in peace or pieces?