OK guys, I've got a tricky one. I really care about this girl so I'm not gunna dump her so close to her b-day so we have some time!

Officially we have been going out since Christmas but there was some connection before then. This girl is is completely selfless but this sometimes she hurts herself by putting others first. she has other emotional problems that I won't go into but I spend allot of my time counseling her and trying to get her to talk about them because she blankly refuses help. anyway, she has connections with all my friends, and i know her parents and she knows mine reasonably well and as I said I really care about her but I just don't really love her any more but she needs someone to open up to as she finds it hard, and I don't mind being that person but I don't want to remain in a self destructive relationship in which I feel no love. this is a very delicate situation and if anyone has seen this kinda thing before or experienced it much help appreciated. I have no problem telling her face-to-face but I need some words!