kingkoboko:
“Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common with unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated failures. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.”

- Calvin Coolidge

“To choose the right moment in which to act is the great art of men…” Napolean Bonaparte

I have been watching the fast pace with which the so-called country of Nigeria has been tumbling towards tragedy. I have been watching the tragedy it has become for its peoples. I have been watching the disgrace it has become for those who carry its green passports. I have reached the conclusion that salvaging Nigeria is a mission impossible. I have reached the conclusion that breaking up Nigeria is the only viable option. There is no other way out.

I am aware that there are many who mouth UNITY every day when in fact they do not believe in it. I am aware there are people who keep chanting that TRIBALISM is our bane when indeed it is our real strength. I am aware that most of us like to be politically correct and say, Nigeria must unite when in fact we all know that breaking it up is the best thing for the peoples of this geographical expression.

I look through the various component ethnic groups in Nigeria and I am not able to identify a single one that expresses satisfaction. The Edo is not satisfied. The Mumuye is not satisfied. The Ibiobio is not satisfied. The Efik is not satisfied. The Anang is not satisfied. The Ijaw is not satisfied. The Igbo is not satisfied. The Nupe is not satisfied. The Agatu is not satisfied. The Magale is not satisfied. The Yoruba is not satisfied. The Kataf is not satisfied. The Kanuri is not satisfied. The Ogoni is not satisfied. The Karekare is not satisfied. The Tiv is not satisfied. The Khana is not satisfied. The Lamang is not satisfied. Even the Hausa-Fulani is not satisfied.

It is my view that the silent majority are angling to extricate themselves from the contraption called Nigeria. It is obvious that every ethnic group wants deliverance from the bondage called Nigeria. It is evident that no one believes in the quagmire called Nigeria. None of us has any emotional connection to the country called Nigeria. It is not ours. It is not our making. It does not belong to us. No one wants it.

Nigeria is not a nation. It is a country of nations. These component nations desire to be independent nation-states. A country or a nation (for the purpose of this context) is more than the physical buildings. It is more than a beautiful Capital Territory. It is more than the existence of powerful armed forces. It is more than a government that controls.

A nation, to exist has to be ingrained in the psyche of its citizens. There has to be that emotional connection. It has to run as blood in the veins and marrow in the bones of those who subscribe to it. A nation is that consummated indescribable feelings that command the unalloyed love, permeated with buoyant affection and infused with unsolicited loyalty of those who subscribe to it. A nation is that which is patently invisible but translucently obvious and recurrent in the gliding waves of the sea of sub-consciousness, of its people.

This is not the case with Nigeria. We all have nothing in common. Our aspirations are different. Our hopes are different. Our dreams are different. Our primordial attachment is very strong. No one likes to be dominated. No one likes to be in bondage. No one likes to be enslaved. No one likes it when others take advantage of him or his/her people. We are all ethnic jingoists. Yet we are unwilling to accept it. We are all in denial. We all pretend to be Nigeria lovers, when indeed we all hate Nigeria. Our ethnic group is where we derive our identity. It is where we derive our worldview. It is where we derive and form our character. It is what describes us as human beings. It is the kernel of our authenticity. It is what makes us unique. It is what makes us special.

As I wrote elsewhere, a Yoruba man anywhere in the world would do his best to raise his children in Yoruba ways. An Ijaw man would do the same. An Igbo man would do the same. An Efik man would do the same. A Kanuri man would do the same. A Mumuye man would do the same. An Edo man would do the same. Every man would do the same. None of us would raise his child as a Nigerian. This is because Nigeria does not exist in our consciousness. It is not in our psyche. There is no emotional connection. There is no cultural connection. There is no identity connection. There is no sense of belonging of any sort.

It is noteworthy that those mouthing ONE NIGERIA are those benefiting from the tragedy represented by Nigeria. Those who are advocating that Nigeria remains one are doing so not because they love Nigeria, but because they love their pockets. They are the ones who get the big contracts and refuse to execute them. They are the ones who appeal to the primordial sentiments when they lose out in the struggle for the loot. They are the ones who mouth national unity when they get inflated contracts. They are the ones who have no regard for their own people back in their communities. They are the ones who care less for the sufferings of the poor. They are the ones who live ostentatiously and flaunt their wealth to make poor people envious.

They are the ones who are quick to point to their friends in other ethnic groups as if, were Nigeria to break up that friendship would cease. I have Ghanaian friends. I have Togolese friends. I have Senegalese friends. I have Liberian friends. I have American friends. I have British friends. This does not mean that we have to be in the same country to remain friends.

There are those who tout inter-marriage, as a reason Nigeria should remain one. This is balderdash. I know many Igbo who are married to Americans. I know many Yoruba who are married to Germans or British. I know many Ghanaians who are married to peoples from the geographical location called Nigeria. This does not mean that they necessarily have to come from the same country to remain married.

It is my view that there would be better relationships among the peoples of the different nations of Nigeria if each were to control its destiny. It is my view that there would likely be more friendships across the new borders. There would likely be more marriages across the new borders. There would be less hostility across the new borders. There would be more geniality across the new borders. All we need is just go for it and break up Nigeria.

Nigeria is not a viable entity. It is a tragedy. It is a misnomer. It should cease existence. We all have to go our different ways. This is more so because this is what we all want severally. We all do not want Nigeria. We are all dissatisfied with Nigeria. Nigeria has betrayed us. Our hopes are dashed. Our dreams are unrealizable within the Nigerian structure.

Those who work hard are in penury. Those whose lands are producing the resources are in poverty. Nigeria deprives those who value education. Nigeria impedes those who value cattle rearing. Nigeria constricts those who want to be international businessmen. Nigeria is rebuffing those who want to make Arabic education a priority. Nigeria is holding back those who want to jump into the age of technology. Nigeria is denying those who want Sharia law. Nigeria is depriving those who want a secular state.

Nigeria is impeding those who want merit. Nigeria is humiliating those who value integrity. Nigeria is disgracing those who want self-respect and dignity. Nigeria incubates crime and criminals. Nigeria is lawless. Nigeria encourages uncouthness. Nigeria encourages abuse of elders. It disparages the youth. It undermines our age long traditions.

I am not a religious person. I hate churches. I loathe mosques. But something nudges me about the existence of the Supreme Being. Though, I am not sure about this, I am willing to entertain myself with the thoughts of such. To this extent, I am declaring that I have the proof that Nigeria exists against the WILL of ELEDUMARE.

I do not know about the Jewish Yahweh. I do not know about the Christian God. I do not know about the Islamic Allah. But I know that the Eledumare of Yoruba people is not deaf. He does not wait 47 years without responding to supplications as the Christian God and Islamic Allah have obviously done. The Yoruba Eledumare is swift and effective. But the problem is that the Yoruba have abandoned their Eledumare for the Christian God and the Islamic Allah. Now they are in quandary. They are in disarray. They are in dilemma. They are in predicament. I believe this problem is replicated among most of the ethnic nations in the geographical location referred to as Nigeria.

We have abandoned our roots. We have abandoned our fore fathers. We have abandoned our ways. We have abandoned our identities. We go around in borrowed robes. We are following the wrong faiths. This is why the prayers would never avail Nigeria. This is why Nigeria would NEVER make it. It is why Nigeria would break up whether we like it or not.

Why, for example, should the Ogonis remain in Nigeria when they are bigger than 22 countries represented in the United Nations in terms of population? Why? After all there is a country (Monaco) represented in the United Nations which size is just 1 square mile! Then talk about the Edo nation. Talk about the Efik nation. Talk about the Igbo nation. Talk about the Tiv nation. Talk about the Nupe nation. Talk about the Yoruba nation. Talk about the Hausa/Fulani nation among many other nations chained together in bondage and subjugation in the Nigerian miasma. Why do we all choose to believe the lies that Nigeria cannot break into as many countries as the peoples of the presented geographical location called Nigeria want?

The Hausa/Fulani should consciously seek their freedom from this miserable Nigeria. They could go it all alone. If Burkina –Faso and Niger Republic could survive, the Hausa/Fulani could survive too. The Katafs need to be free from Nigeria. The Igbo have to be free from Nigeria. The Ijaw have to emancipate from Nigeria. The Yoruba have to extricate from Nigeria. The Edo have to disentangle from Nigeria. The Efik must seek freedom from the Nigerian burden. The Tivs should throw off the yoke of Nigeria. We all must work together to consign Nigeria to the dustbin of history. It is Nigeria’s destiny. It must break up.

If Nigeria breaks up, it would increase the competition among all of us. Those who want to move fast to develop would do so. Those who want to slow down would do so. Those who want Sharia would move to adopt it. Those who want to be an extension of the Vatican City could do so. Those who want to educate their citizens could do so. Those who want to rear cattle would do so. Those who love Osama Bin Laden could follow him. Those who want a Taliban dominated nation would have the freedom to do so.

The Yoruba nation is saddled with the governments it loathes. The Yoruba nation is prevented from following its vision. The Yoruba nation is impeded from the pursuit of its dreams. The Yoruba nation is made to abandon its true character under duress. The Yoruba nation is made to denounce its true self under the threat of economic and political annihilation. The Yoruba nation has had its fabric torn to tatters. The Yoruba nation has fallen to the in-house enemy in Olusegun Obasanjo and his clique. All these have been possible because the Yoruba nation is chained to the tragedy called Nigeria.

This is true of every other nation within the Nigerian contraption. Nigeria must break up. It is the only way out. It is the only means to realize our dreams, severally. It is the only way to realize our hopes, severally. It is the way we can stop the renegades from representing us. I am sure that Andy Ubah does not represent the real Igbo people. I know that Chief Lamidi Adedibu may be “strong” in Ibadan. But Ibadan is not the entire Yorubaland. I know that Muhamadu Buhari does not speak for the entire Hausa/Fulani people.

I am aware that Olusegun Obasanjo is not a Yoruba man. I am aware there are so many traitors from the Niger Delta who feast on the misery of their people. I am aware there are many politicians who revel in the tragedy that the lives of their people represent. It is time to stop them by breaking up Nigeria.

If it were within a Hausa Fulani nation, Sani Abacha could not have emerged Head of State. If it were within the Igbo nation Andy Ubah would not be relevant. If it were within the Yoruba nation, Olusegun Obasanjo would be a persona non grata. Nigeria is incubating them and their ilk. Nigeria is rearing them and their ilk. Nigeria is protecting them and their ilk. Nigeria is feeding them and their ilk. This is one of the most important reasons why Nigeria must break up.

We all want to have our nation-states where we can hold people accountable. We need to do away with the protective evil umbrella that Nigeria spreads over the evil doers in our respective nations. We ought to stop pretending that we want Nigeria. Nigeria must break up. We all need to work towards this. It is the best option available.

I know breaking up Nigeria is a titanic task. I know most people are afraid to express this truism. I know most people are scared to contemplate this reality. But I am convinced that this is the DESTINY of Nigeria. I know that those who are benefiting from the Nigerian misery would resist. But we have to take a cue from Calvin Coolidge to be persistent and determined.

I call on the nations of Nigeria to begin their liberation from Lord Lugard’s contraption. The DESTINY of Nigeria is the freedom of all nations subjugated under its misnomer. Nigeria can never give us peace. It must break into pieces. It is Nigeria’s DESTINY.

REMI OYEYEMI

Lol. This your writeup is replete with absolutes. Only Siths deal in absolutes. So do Jedi who think they're not Siths. What do you see yourself as, Jedi or Sith?

Lol.

How can you be contacted?

Eaugusta:

I clearly understand your point, but also know that guys treat sincere ladies same way, I have seen.

Yeah true. It's an endless cycle of heartbreak. Girls do it to guys, the guys get heartbroken, wisen up, and do it to innocent girls, who also wisen up and do it to innocent guys, and on and on it goes.

I just think the best approach is to fend for your self interest. Meaning that everyone should be on the lookout for people who want to use them. Human beings, by their nature, would use a fellow human being when given the chance. And the users are not really to blame... the used exposed his or herself to being used

This endless cycle makes one wish for the good old days of arranged marriages

mzangy:

Funny enough all these guys eager to read e books to become alpha male still end up with some pretentious bitches as house wives.

It seems you're opposed to reading So, how do you suggest someone gets the knowledge about how to deal with issues like this

xpressng:
Women can be confusing.
Sometimes as a man, you can waste your time pining for girls who don’t really like you all that much, while missing out on girls who adore you. It’s awful to have to confront the idea that the girl of your dreams may not actually be that into you. But if a lady gives you several of the following signs, there’s a huge probability that she’s wasting your time…




1. She replies with “I’ll let you know” or “I’ll think about it” when you make a request.
A girl that likes you doesn’t have to ‘let you know’ or think about everything. A girl that likes you will always be excited when you ask her things or make requests. We all know that when a girl says “I’ll let you know,” what you asked for always ends up not happening. So if these statements come up a lot, make an exit.




2. She always gives excuses when you want to meet her.
As a general rule: If a woman is into you, she’ll make time to hang out with you, no matter how busy she is. Even the busiest of women will put aside a day or a few hours a week to see you. If she’s always too busy for you, you should be skeptical.




3. She never texts you first.
When you’re texting and calling first and she never takes the initiative to be the first to text or call you, it’s a clear sign something is off and you may be wasting my time. If you’re making 75% effort and she’s only making 25%, it’s unfair to you and you’re being played like a fiddle. Walk away.




4. Or her replies to your texts are very brief.
If you’ve received your 10th “K” or “yup” text in a row from her, I am sorry to break it to you, but there’s nothing going on between you. Same applies if she’s always responding with emojis only. If you are not even receiving enthusiastic responses to your texts. it’s a pretty clear sign that it’s time for you to move on.




5. She never wants to come to your place yet you’ve known each other for a while.
Meeting in public is kinda fine if it’s the first date – most women prefer to meet in a public place at first just to make sure you’re not creepy or dangerous. But if she continuously insists on hanging out in public places, it’s a bad sign. She doesn’t want to get intimate with you.




6. She only texts or calls when she needs a favor.
Sometimes girls “use” guys for favors and then magically disappear when they don’t need anymore “help”. You may see it as being a cool and nice guy by helping her out, but you also have to be smart enough to recognize when “helping her” is becoming too much a pattern, you’re getting nothing in return, and she says things like, “Aww you’re so sweet and such a great friend!”




7. She avoids being alone with you.
Maybe she does make time to hang out with you but it’s always in a group setting. Even if it’s in a house, she only meets you when there are friends and other people around. It’s always in a spot where she won’t be one-on-one with you. This means she’s trying to avoid giving you the opportunity to make a move and/or she doesn’t want to lead you on.



8. She keeps complaining about other men to you.
Does she use you as a therapist? Does she go on and on about how other men are assholes and dogs? How she can’t stand the way this guy or that guy treats her. Has she even told you how she “wishes more guys were like you?” Don’t be too hopeful. She’s actually friend zoning you you. She wishes more guys were like you, because she’d never actually date you.Why is she wishing for a guy like you, when she has you right there? It’s a platitude. She’s not that into you. When she just wants to vent about her feelings for an hour and doesn’t want to do anything sexy afterwards, dump her.


source: https://omgvoice.com/relationships/time-wasting-girls

Wow Are you the one running that blog? It's so nice.

Welcomme:
Bro pls can you send that book to me.. Adewalep4@gmail.com

I don't have it. Check Google. Or... you can buy it, if you have cash and don't want to go through the stress of looking for book up and down

wristbangle:
The OP's write-up pinched ladies so bad that they find it difficult to comment. The few that made shabby comments are exhibiting nauseating attitude. This is to tell you that ladies most especially the Nigeria counterparts enjoy sucking several pockets and other financial attentions.

I like where the OP mentioned the ones that would neither say YES or NO. These ones are the most dangerous financial carnivores or parasites as you can call it. Their level of pretence is worse than chameleon and can stylishly make your account go red hence black list you completely from their life.

Let's say No to hungry, broke, frustrated and serial gold diggers. Also, let's say no to over demanding and emotional draining ladies. Working hard and get settle with a lady that share same ideology with us is the best thing one should seek for.

Someone advise a guy to read Neil Strauss - The Game. I would recommend all guys to read this which will help them to becoming an alpha male.




Bro, u have to let go of somethings. U have already ended the fake relationship. Except if what you want to take back is your physical items which are extremely important & useful to you.

Yes... my money I think I'll enjoy the tormenting part though... She can't hurt me and get away with it. It's actually more than 15,000 naira.

xpressng:


painful ah swear. but learn never to make the same mistakes you made again.
I have learnt my lessons and I had to learn it the hard way. but now I'm a pro.
download this PDF and read meet other ladies.

search on google for

Neil Strauss - the game.pdf



download and become a pro send less, spend less, and have them drooling.
regards xpress

I experienced the same thing with my ex. I was doing all the loving and she was doing all the rubbish. And like you have said, she was always asking me for money. I didn't realize that she was using me because I felt she was a nice person. If not for my friends that told me otherwise, I probably would still have been in the relationship till now. It didn't last long though, about 2 months.

The thing is... she kinda owes me some money... I'll either make sure I collect every last penny or I torment her life with it. I actually hope she can't pay, so that I'll torment her with it

I've heard about Neil Strauss' book. I'm even on his email list. Is it as good as you say it is