Family / Re: Once Husband And Wife Sleep In Different Beds, The Marriage Is Almost Over ..... by Onitola2: 6:47am On Oct 14, 2022 |
Ilekokonit: Once husband and wife sleep in different beds or in different rooms, the marriage is almost over and may not last for very long
Husband and wife have no business sleeping in different beds or in different rooms.
The excuse some women give is that they are nursing a baby who must breast feed through the night and thats a fair point but at some point, the baby will stop feeding on breast milk and at that point, the baby can go and sleep in his or her cot and not in the parents marital bed and after some time he or she or they if twins have to go and sleep in their own room and let Mum and Dad have the needed private time so that they can bond if their young marriage is to survive long after their children have left home (which they will someday).
But the mistake a lot of women make is to over prioritize their time with their baby / toddler to the detriment of their marriage. Why go into a marriage when at the first sign of a baby, the wife imports the baby permanently into her marital bed under the guise of breastfeeding and in some cases even when the child is more than 3 years old, he or she is still sleeping beside the mum at night and often times the man has been stylishly shunted to sleeping in another room and even if chairman wan nack during the day, the 3 year old child is furiously banging on the door for the parents to open the door because the child has been made to always feel he or she has to be beside the Mum.
But wives who want their marriage to last will know where to draw the line and give unto Caesar what is Caesar's in a TIMELY manner.
A word is enough for the wise woman who wants her marriage to last way past when the kids will have left home to start their own families. the home is at peace so far the bed bed is shaken very well often. |
Sports / Re: Cristiano Ronaldo Becomes The First Player In History To Score 700 Club Goals by Onitola2: 5:38pm On Oct 10, 2022 |
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Politics / Re: How Tinubu And Atiku's Activities & Parties Differ by Onitola2: 7:42am On Oct 01, 2022 |
ochejoseph: PDP brought in technocrats who managed our economy for 16 years, got us out of debt and made us the fastest growing economy in Africa.
APC brought people without certificates who destroyed our economy in less than 7 years, made us the hunger capital of the world and sold us to China with debt hanging over unborn generations! we're in apc mess because of pdp, had they been good, we wouldn't be here,mind u, pdp never cleared out debt, imf waved it, which pdp got us back in d debt before they left office.... Name any problem we're facing now that's now around during pdp time, don't play holy jor. |
Romance / Re: Anambra Seals Hotel Over Viral Pool Sex Video by Onitola2: 1:31pm On Sep 11, 2022 |
yankeecoder: The law actually doesn't restrict organizing any form of association of such as long as it is not done in public places and doesn't involve a minor. Do you know that we have strip clubs and prostitutes in this country and Government is fully aware of this ? That is because it isn't against the law at the moment so, renting a hotel for such parties can't be illegal as well. I know these things sounds immoral to you but we are running a democracy and freedom of association and speech is backed by the law. Whoever sealed that hotel can be sued because he has no right to do it in the first place, no law was broken. And bet me, that hotel will be reopened soon. check section 24 of cybercrime act, 170 of criminal code. It's illegal to post pornography on internet in nigeria. And if u think there's nothing that concerns law with morality, why is it not allowed in a public place then? |
Romance / Re: Anambra Seals Hotel Over Viral Pool Sex Video by Onitola2: 5:43pm On Sep 10, 2022 |
yankeecoder: That's where you get it wrong. How are you certain the hotel posted the video ? Was it posted by the hotel's official handle ? No ! This is a video that is still yet to be seen by many people, check this thread you'll see a lot of people requesting for the video. We are talking about government sealing someone's means of livelihood, you aren't making any point by turning the topic into a family issue by mentioning my sister. sorry for mentioning ur sister, d hotel management cannot deny awareness of d act b4 it was posted online, which means they supported it (procurement in law ), they should have known better that there'll be 1 idiot that'll brag about this nonsense and post it online, read sections 223 of criminal code. Why do u think it's not good to be having sex in a public place ? |
Romance / Re: Anambra Seals Hotel Over Viral Pool Sex Video by Onitola2: 6:46am On Sep 10, 2022 |
yankeecoder: There is nothing like morality in the law the way you define it, this happened in a closed building not on the street or in the market, this is like Government intefering in people's personal affairs. So, what if they organized the party in their house so, Government has rights to seal people's houses too for having sex ? it became a public issue when they posted it online. There's no way morality will be ignored in law enactments, as it's human that make them, unless if u don't know d meaning of morals. What will u say if ur sister deliberately posted her sex clip on internet? |
Romance / Re: Anambra Seals Hotel Over Viral Pool Sex Video by Onitola2: 1:34pm On Sep 09, 2022 |
yankeecoder: Is the act of shutting down the hotel even legal ? Everyone who got invited to the party knew what they went for, it happened in a closed building and no minor was captured on the camera there. Our Government are always hasty to react just to form fake morality that most of us don't even have it's legal to shut the place down if the govt sees the act is against public policy, moreover , do u see it morally okay to organize sex party? |
Foreign Affairs / Re: Nothing Will Be Left Of Israel If It Acts Against Iran – President Raisi by Onitola2: 9:55am On Aug 31, 2022 |
FalseProphet1: Abeg goan sit down. America bombed your general that year, the world expected you to retaliate rather you resorted to using your mouth rather than the so called nuclear weapons you claim to have.
I see Israel attacking Iran's nuclear power plant, I see Iran doing nothing.
This I have seen. so u were not aware that they retaliated by bombing a US base but both countries quickly settled the mater amicably. If isreal attack them , they'll react for sure . |
Foreign Affairs / Re: Timeline: Six Months Of Russia’s War In Ukraine (Photos) by Onitola2: 5:27pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
Jokerman:
Then he didn't do his homework well no war can never be sure of how a war will end , u can only predict. Kudos to Ukraine for their heroic resistance, though won't be possible without the support ( loan actually coz they'll pay back later ). But can't other big countries settle this war amicably, enough bloodshed. Ukraine would have lost too much life even if Russia will desist. |
Sports / Re: Transfer - Marseille Break Silence On Signing Ronaldo From Man United by Onitola2: 10:00am On Aug 26, 2022 |
Odewaleadesoye:
Source: DAILY POST even if you're interested, cr7 won't come, u want make Messi and psg beat am 15-0 ? D 1 Brentford do am don do. He wants a big team like bayern,psg,man city and co that'll guarantee him success, a team that can carry him. 1 Like |
Foreign Affairs / Re: Timeline: Six Months Of Russia’s War In Ukraine (Photos) by Onitola2: 6:23am On Aug 25, 2022 |
Jokerman: 6 months??
But they said Russia will take Ukraine in 2 Weeks...
What's happing Grandma Russia? can't u see d backing of USA and UK ? It's as if it's between Russia and USA which Putin never envisaged |
Education / Re: ASUU-FG Meeting Ends In Deadlock, Strike To Continue by Onitola2: 6:56am On Aug 17, 2022 |
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Crime / Re: Nigerian Arrested With 172 Grams Of Heroin In India by Onitola2: 6:47am On Aug 17, 2022 |
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Politics / Re: PDP Crisis Worsens As Wike Sues Atiku Over 2023 Presidential Ticket by Onitola2: 6:18am On Aug 12, 2022 |
Is wike fighting because atiku is bad choice for nigeria? No. Because okowa is not competent? No....just fighting for himself...that's what they do in politics, even peter obi had to leave for himself,not for we nigerians... tinubu also chose shetimma so he can deliver votes for him , they're all birds of the same feathers, if you're to vote in 2023, just vote for a person u believe in, not because of any party. ( Well... unless you're a member of the party sha �) Kwanza: The Rivers governor has exhibited strained ties with both the party and its 2023 standard-bearer over the outcome of the May 28 national convention and presidential primary.
https://gazettengr.com/just-in-pdp-crisis-worsens-as-wike-sues-atiku-over-2023-presidential-ticket/
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Politics / Re: Muslim-Muslim Ticket: Christians Protest Against Shettima In Front Of Aso Rock by Onitola2: 7:19am On Jul 16, 2022 |
Fira09: A mammoth crowd of Christians from the 19 northern states, on Friday, stormed the Aso Villa State House, Abuja to protest the selection of Senator Kashim Shettima by the Presidential candidate of the All Progressives Congress, Asiwaju Bola Tinubu, as his running mate. Tinubu once said "ija o tii bere, e tin yin ibon, okere melo Le fe pa? It's actually only tinubu that can beat atiku and save us from these fulani people, even fayose that's a pdp member said they shouldn't have gone for atiku but a southerner, but realistically, tinubu can only win by votes, with north having 19 states, it's logical to take someone that'll deliver well in north. Even in a wrong fight, always pick the right weapon.
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Politics / Re: Daura Residents File Out To Greet President Buhari As He Treks To His Home by Onitola2: 3:31pm On Jul 10, 2022 |
Totilopussylick: Nigeria politicians makes themselves an enemy of her citizens that voted them to becomes whom they are.
Can he walk alone till he gets home without
Those fearlessly looking security men surrounding him .
Come to Germany, a politician walks about without a single security man watching after them.
he can't, people will rush over him , even players are surrounded by security. How many presidents have u seen walking around without security? |
Politics / Re: Sharia Court Sentences Three Men To Death By Stoning For Raping Boys In Bauchi by Onitola2: 1:49pm On Jul 02, 2022 |
FERNANDEZISBACK: Is Nigeria an Islamic country?those Dumbo Christians supporting this act cos homosexuals are involved are the same Dumbos who will wail when they hit at their Religion persons for blasphemy..what law does Nigeria practice? Islamic law or what is written in the Constitution..? ![undecided](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/undecided.png)
Most Africans/Nigerians are closed minded muppets that can't comprehend that people can do what they want..where they want and with who they want...
If your choice as a man is to sleep with a man then who the hell has the right to challenge that? The same for a woman..the same for gender fluid..the same for agender..the same for any living being... In this day..it should be ok to love who you want..because let's face it..if some people can love inanimate objects why can't you love the same gender?
Everyone should be considered normal...Gay should not be a label..straight should not be a labe.....transgendered should not be a label...
Love is limitless..boundless..hopefulness..happiness.. Why anyone should deny another living breathing human this right is beyond me... Why do people forbid this? Jealousy...religion..Self-centered... Why can't we celebrate the fact we have love and accept each other..What another man does should be of no concern to them...
One day...I hope.. ![undecided](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/undecided.png) u know nothing about nigerian law..... Each state has their laws that'll be applied in judgement in the state where an offence is committed( although it can be appealed at higher court) it's majorly criminal and penal code because the constitution is about guidelines and not punishment. Some even apply customary law while most northern states use Sharia law. Then u should know that we humans need rules and regulations ( be it from god or within ourselves) or else there'll be chaos, can u marry ur mother or sister in the name of freedom of choice? Or sleep with animals because u own ur body? What baffles me most is people knowing an offence and it's punishment,then proceed with it and blame d system for d type of punishment pronounced. U could have avoided it initially. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Celebrities / Re: Police Order Portable To Report Himself Over Jungle Justice (Video) by Onitola2: 11:32am On Jun 21, 2022 |
phransix2: Akoi Grace, Akoi Mercy, Akoi Biza Biza Blessing follow you, you are blessed now AKOI PRISON |
Politics / Re: We Will Mobilize Our Members Against Muslim-Muslim Ticket – PFN by Onitola2: 10:13am On Jun 17, 2022 |
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Family / Re: I Love My Wife & My Kid, But I Want To Leave The Marriage. Help! by Onitola2: 7:16am On Feb 26, 2022 |
Needadvice200: Sorry I had to create new account to remain anonymous.
Please men of the house I seriously need advice. Straight to the point, we've been married for 6 years now and I love her so so much, our compatibilities is 100%. We have a beautiful baby girl and we are still currently living together at the moment. Since we married things has been extremely bad for us unlike before we married. Though I myself was down with sickness for years that almost took my life but God revived me and she stays with me. My business doesn't require my presence (networking) because currently am still getting money but not much. let's say 20k average which of course not much for the family.
Now here is my problem, from 3 or 4 different CONFIRMED sources we were told that my lack of money it's from her that she belongs to a spiritual evil cult (Elegbe omo) that her own is spiritual rags group (egbe akitan, or alakisa) that whoever sleeps with them, their things will going down for them, finance wise and all. I hope I described it well tho and that even she herself is not aware but they do tell her severally. and she has been praying yet things keep getting worse for us.
in fact sometimes ago a pastor saw a vision for her that whoever sees her physically putting on a good cloth that she's beautiful but spiritually it is rags on her body. That she will Pray and fast for 3 days (deliverance) which she did yet things keeps getting worse for me in fact right now I am begging to feed.
When I realized this I stopped having sex with her for months and my business really really improved. Throughout last year I can count how many times we had sex not up to 4 times and I did not cheat on her because I love her so much but for how long? It's not easy to be on the same bed with your wife and not want to have it but anytime we have it we must suffer for it for months. The loan sharks on my neck are up to 7. Am just collecting loan to pay another to avoid their embarrassment. One is even threatening my life now (LCredit) as I could not pay the overdue loan.
My head is full with many thoughts. I love her and my baby which is just 2yrs. i want to succeed, I want my family. how long can we be staying without sex? am so so worried. Though I was told it's not her fault but what can I do because it has been affecting us for years now until now.
I don't know if anyone had a similar experience to please share. I need help because I am seriously considering leaving her but I will take full responsibilities of my baby.
I will be in comment section if case of any questions.
Thank y'all such thing is real , I've seen similar issues and solution ( with my wife also) ,although they're Muslims , I don't know how such is tackled in Christianity, if u don't mind doing it Islamic way, I can teach u how to confirm it urself and offer u solution. |
Crime / Re: Uromi Bank Robbery: Soldiers Hide As Robbers Cart Away Money (Photos, Video) by Onitola2: 10:05am On Feb 25, 2022 |
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Religion / Re: Why Do Christians Worship On Sundays? by Onitola2: 3:02pm On Nov 28, 2021 |
nairavsdollars: Why do Muslims worship on Fridays![](/faces/huh.png) Muslims worship 5 times daily, not only on Friday ..... As Jews worship 3 times daily |
Religion / Re: Why Do Christians Worship On Sundays? by Onitola2: 3:01pm On Nov 28, 2021 |
nairavsdollars: Why do Muslims worship on Fridays![](/faces/huh.png) Muslims worship 5 times daily 1 Like |
Politics / Re: Femi Adesina Lists Buhari's Achievements In 6 Years by Onitola2: 7:36am On May 29, 2021 |
uptimumOne23: The best President Nigerians as ever had
Only children of hate will not agree with this best? I'll agree if security is certain, there's no point in all these achievements if we're not safe? Can u travel anywhere in the country freely 1 Like 1 Share |
Politics / Re: When Last Did You Check The Nigerian Coat Of Arms? by Onitola2: 2:48pm On May 01, 2021 |
richmond500: So I was just surfing the internet, browsing through the pages of google and I saw the Nigerian Coat Of Arm, it caught my attention and I begin to wonder how it has lost almost all of its identity.
Quick Check
So forget government, my question is, what are u doing to maintain the motto of the COA? cos I know we will come here and start insulting government first who cares |
Art, Graphics & Video / Re: Germany To Start Returning Benin Bronzes From 2022 by Onitola2: 9:54am On May 01, 2021 |
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Romance / Re: Man Arrested For Dating 35 Women At The Same Time In Japan (Photos) by Onitola2: 7:05am On Apr 24, 2021 |
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Sports / Re: The Armband Cristiano Threw To The Ground Raises Money For Serbian Child by Onitola2: 7:04pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
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Sports / Re: Referee Danny Makkelie Apologies For Ronaldo's Disallowed Goal Vs Serbia by Onitola2: 11:59am On Mar 30, 2021 |
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Events / Re: Why Do Some Guys Shed Tears On Their Wedding Day? by Onitola2: 11:20pm On Mar 08, 2021 |
SonOfAfonja:
Care to tell us what exactly the joy is?
marrying my love of over 14 years, support from the family and friends,...... It's pure happiness Sha |
Events / Re: Why Do Some Guys Shed Tears On Their Wedding Day? by Onitola2: 11:01pm On Mar 06, 2021 |
FreeSpirited: The scene of a guy shedding tears on his wedding day usually baffles me. I don't understand that feeling and why it happens? . Is he shedding tears feeling he's going to miss his bachelorhood? Sometimes people say it's like tears of joy, but still I don't understand that joy cos most of the time he had been dating the babe, cohabiting, sexing her, and the babe doing wifely duties while dating. So what really triggers that well of water? I feel women are the ones naturally given license to cry on their wedding day for obvious reasons we don't need to talk about.. . As a guy, If you were moved by emotions and brought to tears on your wedding, pls share with us what triggered it. Perhaps, we could understand from your angle. I cried on my wedding day oo, D joy was too much, I couldn't hold d tears. 4 Likes |
Politics / Re: Traders Happy As Movement Of Food Trucks Begins From North To South by Onitola2: 6:51am On Mar 04, 2021 |
Hollusilva28: Hello we feel nothing at all. market is still open, though it may be expensive. Those people in the east are still buying things in the market . My dearest, we southerners need to come together and learn on how not to be over depending on other region. Are you saying, we don't have farmers in the south, if not by now, we supposed to have been shouting or begging northerner to unban. guy, I sell foodstuff, so I think I know better than u on this issue, most of our foods are from North, the reliance is too much, foods will be very expensive (way more than how it is now) if it's not sorted quickly. |