Hmmmm After going through 2015, 2016, 2017 and part of 2018 with APC at the helm of affairs, I have come to a reasoned conclusion that the party was never prepared for leadership at all. Even if Nigerians give Tinubu and Buhari's APC another 20 years to rule, we will never see any meaningful growth and sustainable development, rather we shall experience more lies, nepotism, tribalism, ethnic bigotry, herdsmen killings, terrorism, corruption, economic stagnation, poverty and severe hunger in the land. Having ruled for 3 years, I have come to realise that APC and PDP are exactly the same. They are hopeless parties with no good agenda for the Nigerian people. APC rescue mission come 2019 was borrowed from Rochas Okorocha rescue mission in Imo State. I strongly believe that come 2019, the rescue mission proposed by the APC will entail erecting worthless statues all over the country with billions of naira. Rescue mission kor, mission rescue ni.

I was listening to the Nigerian National anthem being rendered by young nursey school children in my school this Morning. These children's version of the anthem has not changed from what I used to hear many years ago. One would think that there is a musician somewhere bent on making them stick to this version no matter what. ,Nursery school teachers will bear me witness. I bet you sang this version too when you were growing up... Araise oh Compasion Naigerias call obey To sa awa fadaland With love and fresh and fail The laboron ati rosa, sha nefa be in fain To sa fisa awa maaaarch!!! One nation bondi freeedom Piss and unity!!

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There is no commandment in the Bible that says, “Thou shall not be late, ever,” so it’s not as simple as one Scripture reference to determine God’s view on tardiness. Everyone has been late to something at some point, often due to unforeseen or unavoidable circumstances. But, if someone is habitually late and unconcerned about being on time, especially if that person professes to be a Christian, then scriptural principles do apply. As with all things, God looks at the heart, “for the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart” ( 1 Samuel 16:7). For one thing, continual lateness does not express love for others. Forcing others to wait for us time after time is simply rude. Christians are to love one another and love our enemies as well, and “love is not rude” ( 1 Corinthians 13:5). When others perceive that we are unloving and unconcerned about them, our reputations as Christians suffer. “A good name is better than precious ointment” ( Ecclesiastes 7:1). A good name, a good reputation is important for a Christian. This means that we should be known as people of our word, trustworthy and dependable, and not be known as always late, slothful, or unconcerned about others. Our actions as Christians point back at Christ. Do they glorify Him? Do they bring Him honor? “And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men” ( Colossians 3:23). Furthermore, as Christians we never want to cause someone else to sin. Constantly being forced to wait for someone can be very aggravating, especially to those who make an effort to be on time. Minor irritation can easily become anger, which can easily become sin, and we are never to be the cause of someone else’s sin. “Jesus said to his disciples: ‘Things that cause people to sin are bound to come, but woe to that person through whom they come’” ( Luke 17:1). Waiting can not only be frustrating, but it causes unnecessary stress and wasted time for the person that has to wait. Christians are exhorted by Paul to “do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves” (Philippians 2:3). The perpetually late person does not consider others’ time as more important than his own. Most habitual late-comers are concerned only with themselves. Continually being late does not communicate a zeal or diligence in serving Christ by loving others as He loves us. It also does not communicate faithfulness or trustworthiness. For the person who is habitually late, there is hope. For many, it is simply a matter of overcoming bad habits built up over time. Sometimes it’s just a matter of changing those habits to be more aware of time, planning ahead, and leaving ample time for the unexpected. Recognizing the spiritual impact on others is the first step in understanding the importance of reversing the bad habit of tardiness. If we are motivated by love for others and a desire to maintain a good reputation for Christ’s sake, then prayer for wisdom and help is the next step. God has promised wisdom to all who ask for it ( James 1:5), and He is never far away from those who call upon His power for godly living.

Text>> Titus 2:11-12. Grace is provided primarly to bring salvation to man and to turn man to a new leave. Because of sin the frist man fell out of Gods grace due to his sin, man lost the plan and the glory of God, man, having falling out of Gods favour and plan due to sin, had lost all the rights, privileges and fellowship with God Almighty. Due to that man became an out cast on the face of the earth set for eternal doom as he could not save him self or afford to atone for his sins, Roman 3:23. This remained the fate of man until God Amighty provided away of escape for man which is the grace of God for man freedom. This grace enables man to reconnect and get back into relationship with God and into fellowship with God his maker. Grace brings us closer to God, grace recreated us and reformed us to Gods patter, grace transform us to be like our God. If not for grace man would have be forgetting. Grace is Gods gitfs for human salvation and freedom from sin and bondage, but many people do not understand it that grace brings salvation, Eph 20:5-8. No one can say he/she merited grace because we are bound for hell but Gods grace fine us out from the pit of hell. Grace is given by God to all men to be save. The grace of God has appeared to all men for salvation, Titus 2:11 says, For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men. But is only those who takes the advantage of the opportunity and yield willfully to God can enjoy and benefits fully from God grace. No one can beat his/her chect and say i have achieved grace, you can't achieve grace the way you achieve success, nor can anyone achieve grace by any form of religious activity or by any good works. It is freely given by God and not of works. You can't have the grace of God and still abiding in sin because grace we make you victorious of sin, because grace does not tolerate sin. Grace we so grace your life and make you a shining light in the dark, Gods grace is very real to save and to convert. The grace of God in a believer we give him/her confidence and hope for the future. My beloved, don't wast the grace of God or take it for granted in your life because it we make you to shine, the grace of God we single you out when men do not even recognize you or remember your person. Grace we beautify your life for extra- ordinary person, grace we skips the qualified to qualify the unqualified, don't look down on Gods grace because grace we mark your life for distinction regardless of your background. Grace we so transform the life of a sinner bound for hell and make him/her a saint and a citizen of heaven. Your alive is by His grace, you have your beam is by grace, your have what have is because of His grace. We are not wrothy of God grace but God bestward it on us all because of mercy, through this wonderful grace your sin is forgiven you and all unrighteousness of the past are be completely cancelled from God records. My Beloved, come to this grace and enjoy life the way God plan it for you. The grace of God is still saving souls today if you have not be saved. The grace of God is stil very much avaliable for your savlation, give God a test and see how grace is, if you have not give your life to Christ repent now and turn a new leave to the Lord. TURN TO GODS GRACE THAT WE MARK YOU FOR EXTRA-ORDINARY song: Marvelous grace of our loving Lord, Grace that exceeds our sin and our guilt, Yonder on calvary's mount outpoured There where the blood of the Lamb was spilt. Grace, grace, God's grace, Grace that will pardon and cleanse within; Grace, grace, God's grace, Grace that is greater than all our sin. My prayer is that we we not fall short of this wonderful grace of God. GOD BLESS YOU.

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Isn’t it hard to keep focused on God? I have tried so hard throughout my life to stay focused on Him. I so often say “this time I won’t fail”, but at one point or another, something always clips me from behind, and keeps me from exceeding!! Why?! Well, I think it has to do with what we allow into our lives that can distract us from God. Not all of these things are “bad” in their nature…in fact, a lot aren’t, but they become a problem when we allow them to distract us from looking at, and to God. You know those things I’m talking about; they can be anything from a job, car, or movie, to fantasy football, Xbox Live, a magazine, or even church. There are so many things in this world that fight for our time…and when we allow them to take too much…well…we lose our focus. The answer is not necessarily to cut these distractions out entirely (in some cases it is), but to realize that they can distract us…and we need to keep them in check. In the following paragraphs, I have listed 10 common things that can interfere with our walk with God. 1. Money Money. I’m sure you all could have guessed this one would be on this list. We all need it to live in this world, but we must not be owned by it if we are to be not of this world. Money itself is not an interference in our walk with God…the love of money is. I think the following passage sums this up quite nicely (its long, I know…but when I read it, I felt all of it applies to this topic): Matthew 6:19-34 19“Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. 20But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. 21 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. 22“The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are good, your whole body will be full of light. 23But if your eyes are bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light within you is darkness, how great is that darkness! 24“No one can serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and Money. 25“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? 26Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life[b] ? 28“And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? 31So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. So in a nut shell, if we trust God, He will take care of us. That doesn’t mean we should quit our jobs, or not earn money…we just need to realize that God is more important, and is far more capable of taking care of us than we are. Money might be the blood flow of the world, but it is not the blood flow of those who are in Jesus…faith is. 2. Media Another big one; the media. This is probably one of the biggest distractions for me personally right now….I mean, just the other night, I realized I haven’t spent that much time praying this week…but instead of going and praying, I said to myself I’ll do it later because the Lakers are playing and Lost comes on in an hour. It is so easy to get caught up in the media. And when I say media, I’m referring to the Internet, TV, movies, music, video games, newspapers, magazines…all of it (broad, I know…but hey, I’m only making a list of 10 things to here, so I can be a bit broad, right?). Like I said before, the media is so dangerous because it is so easy to get consumed in. Everywhere we turn, some sort of media is right in our face. And the worst part; it’s littered with filth. Almost every commercial on TV, and every advertisement on the Internet is trying to convince us that we are missing something, and they are the ones that can fill the need. Our young girls and women are bombard by the media with how they should look, feel, and act…movies, music, TV shows…they all are horrible influences on us because they can subliminally tell us how to live, whats right and wrong, etc. And video games…ah, video games….give me the right one on the right week, and I won’t spend a free second with God (sad….but true). I could literally go on and on about the media, and how distracting it is. The key to overcoming the media is to be wise in what we watch, read, play, etc, and in how much time we spend with it. We should always be willing to give it up, and quite honestly, some of the things we indulge in (in the media), we need to give up. If a something is pure filth, we shouldn’t be giving it any time to influence us, no matter how funny, sexy, or “cool”, it is. 3. Church/Religion Church, or religion. Believe it or not, these can be HUGE interference in our walk with God. Church does not do this intentionally, but we can easily let it hinder our relationship with God. Why? The main reason I see is that it can be so easy to pursue church, and beliefs about God, but forget to pursue God Himself. It is so easy to go to church to…well…go to church, when the real reason we should be going church is to refuel for our week by coming together with fellow believers to worship and meditate on God. Also, somewhere along the way, at so many churches, people have gotten the idea that we need to pretend to be perfect at church. That if we show our weaknesses and struggles, we’ll become outcasts…and since so many people parade around in this stained glass masquerade, if one person does reveal their weaknesses, they’re so easily looked down upon. This is opposite of what church is supposed to be. Church is really the body of believers. We are supposed to help each other, hold each other accountable, pray for each other, and love one another! To keep church from becoming a distraction from God, make sure you are pursuing God before pursuing “beliefs” about Him, or church/religion. We need to get past religion and into a relationship . It starts with you! Love your brothers and sisters, be open to people, and DO NOT CONDEMN others when they fail!! 4. Relationships Relationships. I’m sure you knew this one would be here. Every kind of relati0nship falls into this category; friends, parents, siblings, spouses, girl/boy friends, children, co-workers, bosses, etc. We can allow any of these relationships to distract us from God. It is our relationships that are our connection with the world, and it is our human nature to have them, but when we allow any one of these relationships threaten to become more important to us than God…well, they become a distraction. Remember, God calls us to love one another (1 John 3:11), so when we do, it is an act of obedience to God. But don’t forget about God in the process. We need to make sure we are giving God ample time everyday. I would have to say the relationship with the most danger of becoming a distraction from our walk with God would be that of a boy- friend, girl-friend, or spouse. These relationships in their nature, demand the most time, and that is why it is extremely important that they are centered around God. If they aren’t, you will see your walk with God spiraling downward. In a dating relationship, don’t compromise your morals. In a nut shell, relationships are extremely important, but our relationship with God is of the utmost importance. Remember that! 5. Routine Routine. This is a common thing I allow myself to get distracted by all the time. The most important thing is that spending time with God should be in your routine! Far too often do we just squeeze God in when we have down time (I am extremely guilty of this). Its so easy to get caught up in all the things we have to do, like work, eat, sleep, etc. I often find sleep getting in the way! I mean, if I didn’t spend that extra hour sleeping in, I would have a whole hour with nothing to do but seek God! So make sure spending time with God is a part of our routine. And also, make sure you are willing to abort your routine, and let God have complete control. 6. Our Work Work, work, work. What a distraction this can be! And I’m not just referring to a job, I mean everything from a job, to leading worship, a bible study, or anything! I personally have often allowed this site to become a distraction from God. I want it to bless people, I want it to look good, I want it…I…I..I…but all that I should really be worrying about is that I am doing it as God wants me to, if I do that, He’ll take care of the rest. I love this following scripture: 38As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. 39 She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. 40But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!” 41“Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, 42 but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” -Luke 10:38-42 It is so easy to get caught up on our duties, but the most important thing is that we do it entirely for the Lord. They are to glorify God, not ourselves. That being said, sometimes the duty we have is not as important as doing something else. We always need to be flexible! This falls in line with routines as well. We can have great motives behind our work, but sometimes we let the work become more important then “listening to Jesus”. Listen and be flexible! 7. Our Hobbies Hobbies. I love hobbies! I have a huge rang of them; from playing guitar, and singing, to video games, sports, andnumerous others. The dangerous thing about them is that they can consume a lot of our time. A great way to keep them in check is to do them with God in mind! Like worshiping God with music. Also, we can play video games or sports, etc. with people to develop relationships. Having hobbies is a great way to get yourself into the world to be an influence…so keep that in mind. 8. Desiring a blessing from God, more than God Himself. Desiring a blessing from God, more than desiring God Himself. I have to be honest, this is easy to fall into, at least for myself. It can be so easy to pray for a specific thing over and over again, but forget about spending time with God. This would be like a husband wanting that special “perk” he gets from wife, without wanting to give any time to other parts of their relationship. Remember, its “seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well” (Matthew 6:33), its not “first seek all these other things”. 9. Our Pastor Our Pastors! What!? Whats this doing on the list!?…Well, to your relief, I don’t mean your pastor exactly (at least I hope not). What I’m referring to is becoming dependent upon your pastor. This can be a really deadly interference in our walk with God. It is not our pastors responsibility to feed us all we need to be spiritually healthy…it is our responsibility. A lot of people fall into the habit of only giving God Sunday morning. This would be like only eating once a week! If we did this, we would be horribly malnourished! And sadly, this is the case for many spiritually. Our pastor is a, or should be, great leader, but he/she should only be that…nothing more. 10. Ourselves Ourselves. Us. The last one on the list of distractions, and possibly the most likely to distract us. We are, by nature, sinful, and if we live by our nature, we will not get close to God. That is why we need to die to ourselves, and live in Christ (Romans 6:11). But no matter what we do, there will be a constant battle within ourselves between spirit and flesh (Romans 7:15-21). That is why we need to constantly allow God to search our hearts, and purify it (Psalm 139:23-24). The first step to overcoming ourselves is being aware. So there we have it. A list of 10 common things that can distract us from God. It is a constant struggle to keep our eyes fixed on Jesus, and to not become distracted by the passing concerns and things of this world. But if we are aware of what can, and does, interfere with our walks with God, we can begin to take the necessary actions to prevent them. Remember, seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well” (Matthew 6:33).

As a married man am totally confused on which should come first. A house or a car...which should i buy first?

Before l begin, as Christians we love and appreciate moslems and every other human being. 1. It is a meat of sacrifice . As Christians we are not to participate in any other sacrifice.JESUS IS OUR FINAL SACRIFICE so it is unscriptural to eat sallah meat. HEB 9:26, . 2. Some fetish Moslems lay curse on the meat they want to share by saying something like 'let all my sickness/problems be transfered to anybody that eats this meat'Then they go ahead and share it to innocent people. 3. Moslems do not believe that Jesus is the son of God .They don't believe that Jesus is the saviour so we are not to partake in any religious practice of the Moslems by eating Salah meat. 1 JOHN 4:3. 4.Every meat of sacrifice that is unbiblical is unclean.So don't eat it ACTS 15:29. 5.They say they sacrifice ram to remember Abraham's obedience to God by trying to sacrifice lSMAEL contrary to Bible record that it was ISAAC God was about to sacrifice. GEN 22:1-13

Why is the newly wedded man called groom and the woman called bride? A friend of mine got tired of his wife just about six months after wedding. He complained bitterly to me about her and told me that he has concluded to break up with her; he went on to say that he was sure that he made a mistake. I did not respond immediately because I knew I must tell him that right thing, so I went home. And that is what birth this message. Many men have broken up with their wives because they end up not being the wife that they have dreamt of. But they have forgotten that on their wedding day was when the man was commissioned for the new task. Nobody calls the woman wife on her wedding day but bride, because it is the man that will groom his bride to become the wife. That is why the man is called ‘bridegroom or groom’ and the word grooming has to do with patiently nurturing, teaching, tending and helping someone to become what he or she should be. It is therefore believed that a man that takes a woman to the altar of marriage is matured enough to patiently groom his bride to become the wife. The man is not supposed to just expect the bride to automatically become the wife, she must be groomed. It is clear that many of us men have unnecessary expectations when we were getting married, we want some magic to happen to our wives, we want them to become what we have had in mind about who we want our wives to be; not considering the fact that the woman does not know what is on your mind except you teach her. Our expectations are often too unrealistic, because we don’t remember that change takes time and we can only expect something from someone that knows what we want. So before you think of breaking up, have you groomed her? Have you given her time to understand you? Hope you realize that a turtle will never become a hawk? God often brings people that are opposites of each other together in marriage so that they can help each other in their place of weaknesses. If your wife is weak where you are weak, then where will you get the strength that is needed? The problem with many of us is that we don’t accept people before attempting to change them. Of course, our wives are not from our backgrounds, so it will take time for them to adjust. Stop trying to change her, accept her, love her, teach her and be patient with her; that is what grooming is all about. She is going to be your wife but she is your bride now, so groom her. Stop complaining about her, she may be a turtle and you a hawk, she cannot fly so be patient with her. I don’t believe that your marriage can’t work, be patient and allow God to help you.

It's normal for girls to struggle during their teenage years to figure out the "right" way
to do things. You may have noticed some of your friends beginning to date and want to
join in on the fun. If you want to start dating
but aren't sure how to do so successfully,
1 Look for a date among your classmates.
Most teenagers are still in school, whether
they're in college, high school, or middle
school. Dating someone who goes to the
same school as you is often the most
convenient and safest option for a
teenage girl.
A classmate is more likely to have a similar schedule to yours. This will make planning and going on dates much easier. You likely share some social connections with a classmate and may
be able to ask a friend of a friend
about his or her reputation.[1]
If you see someone you like in one of your classes, you can let that person know you're interested in him or her
in subtle ways. You can smile at him or her in class or as you walk by in the hallway. If your classmate stops to talk
to you, bring the conversation around to what you enjoy doing for fun. Mention a movie you really want to see or a restaurant you want to try. Your classmate might take the hint and ask
you on a date. If your classmate
doesn't, try being more direct and ask him or her out on a date yourself. There's no reason a girl can't ask someone out.
2 Be selective. Don't just date the first person who asks you out or you think is cute. Try to find someone who you have
chemistry with and who seems
trustworthy. Don't feel pressured to find a significant other just because all your friends have their own.[2]
3 Date people your own age. This doesn't mean you have to turn someone down over an age gap of just a few months. However, it's best to always date someone
with a similar maturity level to your own. A difference of one to two years is fine, but a gap of three or more years may be
trouble.[3] Remember that some age gaps in teen relationships are illegal. Know the age of consent laws in your area.
Some older men and women may be ready for a more intimate relationship and could pressure you into doing things you aren't ready for. Younger girls who date older guys are at greater risk of unwanted pregnancy. [4]
4 Get to know a few people casually before you start anything serious. Dating is meant to start as casual fun and only potentially develop into a more serious
relationship later on. It's normal to date a few different people until you find someone you feel a romantic spark with. Don't force yourself into a relationship you're not feeling.[5]

There is this girl i met on Facebook, we started dating. When she came to my house she denied me sex, i said her face is pushing her because of first time, the second and third time same thing. Please intelligent people in the house i need your enlightenment because am new in the game.

Let's explore several passages and consider numerous biblical reasons for going to church.
THE BIBLE TELLS US TO MEET TOGETHER AS BELIEVERS AND TO ENCOURAGE ONE ANOTHER.
Hebrews 10:25
Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another—and all the more
as you see the Day approaching. (NIV)
The number one reason to encourage Christians to find a good church is because
the Bible instructs us to be in relationship with other believers. If we are part of Christ's body, we will recognize our need to fit into the body of believers. The church is the place where we come together to encourage one another as members of Christ's body. Together we fulfill an
important purpose on the Earth.
AS MEMBERS OF THE BODY OF CHRIST, WE BELONG TO EACH OTHER.
Romans 12:5
... so in Christ we who are many form one body, and each member belongs to all the others. (NIV)
It is for our own good that God want us in fellowship with other believers. We need each other to grow up in the faith, to learn
to serve, to love one another, to exercise our spiritual gifts, and to practice forgiveness. Although we are individuals, we still belong
to one another.
WHEN YOU GIVE UP ON ATTENDING
CHURCH, WHAT'S AT STAKE?
Well, to put it in a nutshell: the unity of the body, your own spiritual growth, protection,
and blessing are all at risk when you're disconnected from the body of Christ. As my pastor often says, there's no such thing as a
Lone Ranger Christian.
CHRIST'S BODY IS MADE OF MANY PARTS, YET IT IS STILL ONE UNIFIED ENTITY.
1 Corinthians 12:12
The body is a unit, though it is made up of
many parts; and though all its parts are many, they form one body. So it is with Christ. (NIV)
1 Corinthians 12:14-23
Now the body is not made up of one part but of many. If the foot should say, "Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the
body," it would not for that reason cease to be part of the body. And if the ear should say, "Because I am not an eye, I do not
belong to the body," it would not for that reason cease to be part of the body. If the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body
were an ear, where would the sense of smell be? But in fact God has arranged the parts in the body, every one of them, just as
he wanted them to be. If they were all one part, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, but one body.
The eye cannot say to the hand, "I don't need you!" And the head cannot say to the feet, "I don't need you!" On the contrary,
those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, and the parts that we think are less honorable we treat with
special honor. (NIV)
1 Corinthians 12:27
Now you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is a part of it. (NIV)
Unity in the body of Christ does not mean total conformity and uniformity. Although maintaining unity in the body is very important, it is also vital to value the unique qualities that make each of us an individual"part" of the body. Both aspects, unity and
individuality, deserve emphasis and appreciation. This makes for a healthy church body, when we remember that Christ
is our common denominator. He makes us one.
WE DEVELOP THE CHARACTER OF CHRIST THROUGH BEARING WITH ONE ANOTHER IN THE BODY OF CHRIST.
Ephesians 4:2
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient,
bearing with one another in love.
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My sister-in-law does not attend church nor have any fellowship apart from me but believes she is a christian because she prays, reads the bible and believes that Jesus is Lord. But friends say she is decieved and not a christian at all, I’m confused can you be a christian and not go to church? - anne Anne, I’m not surprised that you’re confused because it is true to say both that you don’t need to go to church to be a Christian and that if you don’t go to church, you’re not a Christian. Let me explain. If we were to narrow down what it means to be a Christian, the best place to look is at one of the people who Jesus said was a Christian. If you remember the thief on the cross next to Jesus ( Luke 23:39-43), Jesus promises this man that he will be with him in paradise. This man never got to go to church, and yet he is a Christian because he trusts in Jesus. So in that sense it is true to say that you don’t have to be a church goer to be a Christian. In fact as soon as you say you “have to do something” to be a Christian you are in danger of getting the gospel message wrong. However, the Bible has no concept of individual spirituality - that is Christianity is not something personal that has nothing to do with anyone else. That is a very modern way of thinking. We can see it in the above passage, the way the man expresses his trust in Jesus is that shifts his allegiances to Jesus’ kingdom. He sees that Jesus is the true king and joins his kingdom, he joins a group of people - those ruled by Jesus the king. If you are a Christian, then you are a member of God’s church. The church is now your family, and they are God’s gift to us in living Christian lives. We see this in Romans 8:28-30. Those who are saved are saved so that Jesus would be the big brother of many brothers. God is in the business of making a family (have a read of Romans . This can also be seen in the fact that most of the instructions for Christians are done in the plural, there are very few (if any) instructions to individuals. (The Greek of the NT distinguishes between singular and plural ‘you’ English doesn’t do that anymore). The Christian life was never meant to be lived solo, God has gifted each member of his church to serve one another, you can’t do that solo. It is near impossible to live a Christian life alone, it runs counter to everything God has done for us. However, some people can’t help but live alone. The thief on the cross could not join a church, he had no choice; but where we have a choice, we really should become a part of God’s church. It’s like someone who gets married, but never moves in with their husband. It is true that you can be married without living together, and there may be extreme circumstances that you can think of where someone may get married and not live together (if someone is on their death bed for example). But a real marriage involves relationship. Becoming a Christian means being a part of God’s family. So my advice for your sister-in-law is, if she can join a church near to her, she should do so. If there is nothing holding her back (and there might be legitimate reasons) she should go to church. It’s best for her and for the people who are missing out on her gifts that she may bring to that church. If there is some reason why she cannot get to or go to church then encourage her to meet regularly with other christians to read the bible and pray (after all this is what the essence of church is).

Dozing away during the sermon did not just
start today. Remember Eutychus, the young
man who sank into a deep sleep and fell off
the window to his death during Paul’s
sermon in Acts 20? Also, Peter, James and
John dozed off twice in the Mount of
Transfiguration when they were supposed
to watch and pray? Reminds us of how
many times our dedicated Ushers take their
time to wake us up only for us to fall back
into slumber again. Some snore away,
sometimes hit their heads on the seats, and
some do not know when their Bibles fall off
their lamps only for them to jump when it
hits the floor.
I hereby seek to understand why
sleeping during Church service has become
a norm. Some blame it on boring method of
preaching, some say it is because
congregation may be tired (this is not a
good excuse because people should not be
tired on Sunday morning) and others say
because the modus operandi is very routinal
and uninteresting.
1. Why would you say people sleep in Church?
2.Have you ever slept in Church before?
3.How can sleeping in church be
prevented?
Your opinion is welcomed.
People sleep in churches because the supernatural power of God is no longer in many churches. Most pastors are using gimmicks, fear, intimidation to keep people in church. Most times the Pastors sound like a broken record repeating itself. They have
no revelation because there’s no real prayer and worship. Their bellies have become their God. They have no genuine
compassion for the confused members. Most people leave the church more confused than they came. The life of Jesus is
completely supernatural…from vigin birth,
miracle ministry to resurrection from the clutches of cruel death. So when you encounter Him your life will be windy… supernaturally transformed and translated
to the kingdom of light!
2.I have slept before in Church.
3.Pastors should wake up from slumber and preach good news and stop too much dancing in the name of praise and worship before sermons… Sermons should be laced with the demonstration of the supernatural power of God..strength sapping dance
should be left toward the end of good preaching/service!!!…

13 THINGS YOU MUST KNOW BEFORE YOU MARRY AN IJEBU GIRL Ijebu ladies are wonderful but you will have to be patient to enjoy them because just like any other tribe they have their own good and bad sides 13 THINGS YOU MUST KNOW BEFORE YOU MARRY AN IJEBU GIRL 1. They Are Enlightened Ijebu girls are very enlightened and they are exposed. Don’t mess with them thinking they don’t know anything. 2. They like Ikokore Ikokore is the food of the Ijebu people and so you might be eating it morning, afternoon and night. The truth is you cannot do without eating ikokore in a week. So, if you want to enjoy your wife, you must like ikokore 3. You will attend plenty parties Ijebu ladies naturally love parties; it is something in their blood that cannot be flushed out. Whether they are related to the person or not, once there is a party, they just have to attend. Be ready to either attend the party with her or allow her to freely go for as many parties as she wants to attend 3. Garri Ijebu is a must take. Everybody loves garri Ijebu and garri Ijebu is talked about by almost everybody. Ijebu girls are also so delighted to have their garri either soaked or eaten as swallow “eba” 4.Be prepared to buy many aso-ebi You must be prepared to buy as many aso- ebi as possible because if there is one thing Ijebu lady cannot do without, it is aso-ebi. They must buy for every party 5. OJUDE-OBA is a must attend It is better you get used to it or love things she loves because OJUDE-OBA is one event Ijebu people cannot do without. It is a yearly carnival-like event which means you must prepare for it with her every year because it is like her home town’s celebration so she needs your support 6. They spend wisely This is one plus to Ijebu ladies, they know how to manage resources. They don’t spend extravagantly. They may not be considerate when it comes to buying aso-ebi, but for other things, be sure to have them help you save your money. 7. Ijebu ladies can be stingy You heard well, they can be stingy. Though here they will say they are just being prudent but there is a thin line between their prudence and stinginess. Have this in mind, the only place they spend is at parties. 8. They are business minded. Ijebu ladies are a good entrepreneur, they are so business minded. You can see this from the way they sell things ranging from their Kokoro to Coco and even sugarcane. 9. You are likely to enjoy pounded yam too. Though not as it will be with an Ijesha lady but Ijebu ladies too are likely to give you pounded yam because pounded yam is regarded as a food of the high and mighty 10. Prepare for an elaborate wedding If you want to marry Ijebu lady, be ready for a big society wedding. In their case, there is nothing like I don’t want to shout about my wedding. Even, shouting is their way of life. Everybody must hear and you must have this in mind, this is the only thing that makes them to really spend. 11. They love Eba Their love for this swallow is out of this world and it can be eaten at any time. 12. Even if they have travelled out of the country for years, you cannot take away their Ijebu intonation from them 13. They have highly extended family connection Be ready to accommodate extended families, not only their parents and siblings but the generation they don’t even know when they were born.

Let him die to serve as an examples to others......... No sinner will go unpunished.

You're playing with your destiny......... Go to ori oke erio see how people were crying to God...... That little pleasure can stop your way from getting there...... Hmmmm #DESTINY. Omo ologo

23 THINGS TO DO TO KEEP YOUR HUSBAND UNDER THE CONTROL OF YOUR LOVE 1. Call him by a pet name 2. Allow him exercise his authority as the head of the family. 3. DO not challenge him when he is hurt. 4. Be silent when he is angry. You can go back to him in his sober moment with apology n explain why you behave that way that annoyed him. 5. Be quick to say "I'm sorry dear" when ever you offend him, insist on his forgiveness,app reciate and kiss him when he does. 6. Speak good of him before his Friends and siblings. 7. Honor his mother 8. Insist that he buys gift for his parents and so be sure that he will do same for your parents 9. Surprise him with his favorite dish especially when he has no money at hand and never delay his food. 10. Do not allow the maid to serve him food when you are at home. Because u may lose him to her. 11. Give him a warm reception with an embrace when he returns, collect his luggage and help UnCloth him. 12. Smile when you look at him and give him occasional pecks when you are out socially. 13. Praise him before your children sometimes. 14. Wash his back while he is in the tub or shower. 15. Put love note in his lunch box or briefcase. 16. Phone and tell him that you miss him. 17. Dial his number and on hearing "hello" just tell him I love you. 18. If he is a public figure or a politician, gently wake him at the early hours of the morning and romance him to the point of demand. He will not be entice by any other woman that day. 19. Tell him how lucky you are to have him as your husband. 20. Give him a hug for no reason. 21. Appreciate God for the Adam of your life. 22. Always remember to pray for him. 23. Pray together and also pray together before going to bed in the evening... May God bless your marriages. Singles may you experience true love today and forever. May non-serious people that will waste your time be disconnected in your life In Jesus Name.

Sometimes when i give my life to Jesus Christ i still found myself in sin. Please put me through. What can i do to be saved??

Holiness within and without is required of you! Romans12:1-2 says: “I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. 2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” The Lord’s commandments are clear, We must be holy within our hearts as well as in the physical appearance. Unfortunately christians are not obedient to these commandments as they believe they can strive with God and win. They love the world and the appearance of it, such people will end up in eternal destruction in Hell Fire

Why is Governor aregbesola not present at senator isiaka adeleke's burial?

The man you get married to today has a great role to play in what you might tomorrow. Recently my mum was telling my dad something and I overheard what she was saying. She said, she and a group of women leaders in the church were discussing and one of them made a statement, "they are where they are today because of the husbands they married". I got a message there. Your pastor's wife, G.O's wife, G.S' wife is probably known today because of your pastor whom she got married to. Mark the word *probably* that's because a woman can still be whoever God has destined her to be even without the efforts of a man.The point am making is, the man you marry might be the channel through which God will take you to your destiny. The First Lady of the Federal Republic of Nigeria, Aisha Buhari is known today because of the man she married. Years back she was not known the way she is now. Your governor's wife is known today because of her husband who is the governor of your state. This is the same case with other great women in the society and the religious sector. The man you get married to today affects who you will be tomorrow. Mind you at the initial time he might not look like someone who will be great tomorrow. That's why you as a single lady is to pray and marry right. God knows why He wants you to get married to that man. He knows tomorrow from today. Therefore, ask Him to help you to obey His leading and marry the right man for you. *Notice* I'm not asking you to marry someone because you are envisaging yourself becoming a great woman in the religious sector or society, No. All am saying is don't miss God's plan for your life just because you are marrying somebody's supposed husband. Marry your own destined husband and not someone's own. Its your husband that brings you out. God bless you

1Cor.6:18. Fleefornication for every sin a man doeth is without the body but he thatcommitteth fornication sinneth against his own body. Number.25:1-2. And Israelabode in Shittim and the people began to commit whoredom with the daughter ofMoab. And they called the people unto the sacrifices of their gods and thepeople did eat and bowed down to their gods. When you go into immorality with awoman she can just be pulling you here and there into evil and idolatry.1Cor.10:8. Neither let us commit fornication as some of them committed and fellin one day three and twenty thousand. (23,000). Immorality has great andgrievous consequences both to the family and in the church. A lot of death,diseases and infestations and the free operation of familiar spirits in the churchcome as a result of the sin of immorality. God’s presence leaves the churchwhenever immorality comes into the church. Immorality puts off the fire ofrevival from the church and drives away the presence of the Holy Spirit out ofthe church. The devil and evil spirit takes over and as a result many peopledies and lot of other calamities are registered. GOD’S COMMAND AGAINST IMMORALITY: Exodus.20:14; Lev.18:20-24;Lev.20:10; Dt.5:18; Prov.6:25-29, 32-33; Mt.5:27-28; Rom.2:22; Eph.5:1-6;Rev.21:8. Both in the Old and New Testament God’s command against immoralityare very clear. God is against all forms of sexual immorality before marriage.Boy friend and girl friend immoral relationship is a great sin in the sight ofGod. It is very unfortunate that these things go on the many churches withoutanybody taking action or preaching against it. Some church even organize whatthey call youth programme where the boys and the girls are totally free to livein immorality and dancing and embracing and kissing one another. Sometimes yousee it among the choir, ushers etc these are evil and will be judged by God. GREAT CONSEQUENCES OF IMMORALITY: Numbers.25:9;James.4:4; Hebrews.13:4; Ps.9:17; 1Cor.6:9-10; Nahum.3:4; 1Kings.11:1-4, 6, 9;Rev.21:8, 27. The consequences ofimmorality are grave. They includes (1) Diseases. (2) Disgrace. (3) Death. (4)God’s judgment. (5) Divorce and breakdown of marriage union. (6) Delinquency.(7) Damnation in hellfire. ( Unwanted pregnancies. (9) Abortion and untimelydeath. (10) Drop out in school. (11) Destruction of reproductive organs. (12) Depression and suicides. GODLY COUNSELTO THE IMMORAL AND THE INNOCENT: Rev.2:16, 20-23; Acts.17:30-31;Eccl.12:13-14; Acts.15:29; 1Cor.10:7-12; 1Cor.6:18-20; 1Timothy.6:11-12;2Timothy.2:19-22. Job.31:1-3. Thecounsel is that the immoral should repent of their sins and come to the Lordfor salvation and for the innocent to flee fornication. (1) Repent of the sinof immorality. (2) Run away from the sin of immorality. (3) Hide the word ofGod into your heart and meditate on it than meditating on immorality. (4)Destroy all phonographic pictures and blue film or VCDS in your possession. (5)Break all immoral friendship with the opposite sex. (6) Be determined by thegrace of God to be faithful to God. (7) Pray and watch over your thoughts. (Live with the consciousness of God’s presence. (9) Resist the temptation to gointo immorality with anyone. (10) Flee from the presence of the immoralitypeople and never stay discussing with them. Pro.14:7.1Peter.1:15-16. BUT HEWHICH HATH CALLED YOU IS HOLY, SO BE YE HOLY IN ALL MANNER OF CONVERSATION.BECAUSE IT IS WRITTEN, BE YE HOLY FOR I AM HOLY.

The answer is simple – the Kingdom of God is NOT given to mankind on a platter of gold. Mankind has to seek the Kingdom to find the Kingdom. And this seeking requires time, effort, focus, diligence, discipline, persistence, and so on. The primary Scripture for this teaching is the words of Jesus in Matthew 6:33, “BUT SEEK YE FIRST THE KINGDOM OF GOD, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you”. In this passage, Jesus made the seeking of the Kingdom the central pursuit of the Christian life. Please note how He elevated this above even our pursuit of the basic necessities of life (what to eat, what to drink, what to wear). It is our commitment to seeking the Kingdom that triggers God promise to bless us with those basic necessities. The necessities that Gentiles seek. In Christ Jesus, God has freely offered humanity both the access and the grace to find the Kingdom. But it is MAN’S RESPONSIBILITY to explore and maximise the fully loaded potentials that are available to us through Jesus Christ. This concept aligns perfectly with the words of Proverbs 25:2, “It is the glory of God to conceal a thing: but the honour of kings is to search out a matter”. (In Revelation 1:6, we know that believers have been made kings unto God). So, as kings, God expects us to diligently seek out the Kingdom. But in our days, we are too busy to seek the Kingdom with the required diligence. We do not know that those who do not seek the Kingdom WITH ALL THEIR HEARTS will NEVER find the Kingdom. They will NEVER find the Kingdom because they do not know the value of the Kingdom. To give us an understanding of this truth, Jesus gave us two parables. The ‘Parable of the Hidden Treasure’, and the ‘Parable of the Pearl of Great Value’ in Matthew 13:44-46. “The kingdom of heaven is like treasure hidden in a field, which a man found and covered up. Then in his joy he goes and SELLS ALL that he has and buys that field. Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a merchant in search of fine pearls, who, on finding one pearl of great value, went and SOLD ALL that he had and bought it”. (ESV) In both parables, there was the element of seeking, the element of finding, and an APPROPRIATE RESPONSE. The response was the SELLING OF ALL to buy the treasure/field. Please note that when the man found the treasure, it was with JOY that he went to SELL ALL that he had to buy the field. He sold with joy because he knew the value of the field. In contrast, in our days, the reason we are not willing to sell our ALL is because we do NOT truly know and appreciate the value of the Kingdom. At times, we are like the foolish, young ruler that Jesus offered the Kingdom in Matthew 19:16-22. The man carefully considered Jesus’ offer, and opted to keep his wealth rather than SELL ALL and carry his cross, and follow Jesus to the Kingdom. Please note that this is the SAME MAN that has kept all the laws from his youth so that he can make heaven! But when he was confronted with the real price of his desire, the Bible records that he walked away in great sorrow – because he had great possessions. FOOLISHLY, he chose perishable, earthly possessions over and above the imperishable glory of eternal wealth that Jesus offered! What a huge, huge folly! But in reality, this is the picture of a lot of us as believers. We endeavour to observe the commandments in the Bible, and naively think we are already on our way to heaven. Not knowing that there is an active seeking of the Kingdom, and a price to pay – the price of the cross. It is only the earnest seeking of the Kingdom that will begin to reveal our appointed cross to us. But, sadly, most of us have left our pastors to seek the Kingdom on our behalf. Like the children of Israel in Deuteronomy 5:27, a lot of us seem to say to the pastors, “Just seek the Kingdom and when you find it, come and explain it to us, and we will follow you”. Alas! We do not know that quite a lot of the pastors do not have a clue about the Kingdom themselves! And so, what they are feeding us with has little or nothing to do with the Kingdom. A true case of the blind leading the blind (Luke 6:39). Our microwave generation wants everything FAST and in EASY BITE-SIZE. But the Kingdom of God can never be found with this sloppy, indolent philosophy. A philosophy that trivialises the Kingdom of God by underestimating its great value. The price you are willing to pay for ANYTHING is determined by the value you place on it. In a way, our generation has lost our sense of the immense value of the Kingdom. This is why many today are not paying the price to find the Kingdom. What does it mean to seek the Kingdom of God? This is a broad subject that cannot be treated in details in this article. But an overview of some of the key areas can be attempted. Broadly speaking at the personal level, seeking the Kingdom of God comprise our CONSISTENT effort to discern the will and mind of God for all situations in our lives, both great and small. And pursuing that will WITH ALL OUR HEARTS according to God’s commandments in the Bible – even when it is in conflict with our personal views and preferences. We can extend this one step further. To seek the Kingdom is to seek our role in the Kingdom – the specific reason why God created us, and to make that the central pursuit of our lives in all ways, and at all times. And doing so in a way that is acceptable to God – with reverence and godly fear (Hebrews 12:28). It is how we fulfil our assigned role in the Kingdom that will determine the place we will occupy (in terms of rewards) in the Kingdom when it fully manifests. Furthermore, to seek the Kingdom is to advance the interest, welfare, and expansion of the Kingdom in our environment. This will include REGULARLY PRAYING FOR THE COMING OF THE KINGDOM (that is, its full manifestation). And doing all that is in our power to hasten the arrival of the Kingdom as Apostle Peter urges in 2 Peter 3:11-12. It also involves deploying our spiritual and material resources into the advancement of the Kingdom – in praying, in giving, and in going out on our assigned mission field. The concept of seeking the Kingdom goes much further than this, and at its root is the quest to devote our hearts to (1) THOROUGHLY knowing the King of the Kingdom, (2) carrying our cross daily, and (3) steadfastly following Him home (Luke 9:23). Without knowing the King, we can never know the Kingdom. Without following the King, we can never get to the Kingdom. This is not a fleshly pursuit. Rather, the pursuit is a work of grace through the indwelling Spirit of God. However, we need to remember that the Holy Spirit works in us according to our level of thirst and desire for the King. And according to the price we are willing to pay. If we do not understand this truth, and apply it diligently, many believers will grieve the Spirit (Ephesians 4:30). And many will quench Him in their lives (1 Thessalonians 5:19). Apart from all other considerations, our busy lifestyle does not give us sufficient time to devote to effectively seeking the kingdom. Many will be alarmed at how the quest to seek our daily bread and acquire the necessities of life devour most of our waking hours. No wonder Jesus warned us that the ‘cares of this life’ will cause the day of His return to come upon some believers suddenly LIKE A TRAP (Luke 21:34). When a trap springs suddenly, there is no time for the victim to react and escape. On the Last Day, when some believers would want to use their busy work schedule as an excuse for not having time to seek the Kingdom, their attention will be drawn firmly to God’s provision in Matthew 6:33. What will be the response? What will be the excuse? And at that time, it may be too late for many. But today, we can still make amends. The Christianity that is common in our days is fake and vain. This is why the power and glory of the Kingdom is barely manifest in our midst. This is why the world does not see us radiating the glory and wisdom of Christ. We are carrying an empty can of religion – like the rich, young ruler. Like the church in Laodicea. Believers that genuinely want to see Jesus on the Last day, and dwell with Him in all eternity, will do well to begin to DISCONNECT from the false Christianity of today, and begin to seek Christ afresh. Till today, the grace of God is still freely available to all those that wish to make the pursuit of God the primary focus of their lives. THIS FREE GIFT IS COSTLY, but the grace of God is available to see the diligent seeker through. It can be done! Some human beings like us have done it before. A few that know the value of the Kingdom are still doing it today. So, there will be no excuse. ONE DAY, it may be too late to start seeking the Kingdom. But TODAY, the opportunity is still there. Please take it. And the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with us all as we re-dedicate our lives to seeking His Kingdom of glory and majesty. Amen.

Truly, all fingers are alike but not equal. I always wonder why it was so, then I sat and thought that if fingers were to be equal, then no possibility. Such that good handwriting, good artwork, feeding, carrying and lifting of load, gripping, producing of good musical instrument and other activities done by our hands may not be possible. Fingers are not equal, but still each has a role which is playing, that is fingers need each other so that they can be useful and that activities can be done. With these I could say that “equality may not bring possibility”. The description of the fingers show some important hints which are useful to the society, organizations, country, team and for individuals. People may be related by family or nationality, but each person nevertheless still different. Creativity, ability, choice, ideas, achievements, positions, and knowledge differs within human, so that we can help each other to achieve success just like the fingers, which are alike but not equal, still need each other so that they can be useful and that activities can be done. With the description of the fingers, any organization, country, society or community which tend to be successful or move forward. People or citizens must accept their own creativity, ability, knowledge and responsibility, and not looking at or copying others own but instead improving and making something good out of it, simply because they can’t be the same. Imagine in a company where all workers have same creativity, ability, knowledge and responsibility, such company will never be successful because all workers will always share same Ideas, thoughts and knowledge. But in a company where all workers have different creativity, ability, knowledge and responsibility will be successful because workers will have different method of doing things, different style, ideas ,thought and responsibility. That is why there is a saying which says “two heads are better than one. With the description of the fingers, for team to be successful, members of team should not despise each other because every position of each member in a team matters a lot just like the finger, which every position for each finger matter a lot. For team to reached their goals or to win, members need to work as one just like the finger. In sports, football particularly, people believe that in a football team, strikers are the best and they are the stars for every football match but forgotten that if other positions in the team such as the defender, goal keeper, mid-fielder and others never get their responsibility done or never work as a team, then the striker is rendered useless which can make the team lose eventually. For a football team to win medals or award, is shows that each prayer of the team as work as one and has done their responsibility well. The way if go may not be yours looking at the educational system. After some parents have looked other’s achievement and possession, they believe that the best Job for their children is to become a medical doctor which may not be the Child’s ability. Student nowadays are now forced by their parent in the matter of choosing course to study in higher institution because of what other’s are achieving or getting from that particular profession but not knowing that we can just be equal. Some students fail courses in higher institution because they do not have the ability, some never achieved in that particular profession because at the beginning they copied others. Imagine if 90% of students or educational practitioners are into medicine as a case study, but without other professional in Arts, agriculture, engineering, environmental technology and other fields doctor will not survive and will not because anything. There is no possibility that a doctor can live if there is no agriculture, medical practitioners will not have instrument or tool to work with without engineers. Lastly where will medical practitioners get hospital, and other buildings? It there is no environmental technology. No matter the position we are, everyone still needs each other just like the fingers, parents should stop forcing their children to study a particular course because achievement can be gotten from any profession. Organization, country, society, or community can be successful when people accept their own creativity, ability and responsibility. Teams can be successful when members work as one and not despising each other, individual of student can achieve or be successful when only they know their ability and going for it. No matter the position we are or find ourselves in the world, we are there for a purpose. Without you the world is not complete. The world is just like our hands which consist of alike but unequal fingers, people are born to be different.

A teenager boy opened the cabinet to get a glass, but when he opened it a glass fell to the ground and broke. His dad assumed the worse and thought he broke the glass by being careless, so he began to scream at him and telling him he was as idiot and that he was going to pay for new glass. While the young man stood there as he took the rage of his fathers words, he made angry and upset. However, his mom took a different approach. The first thing she asked was if he was alright. She then asked what happened. Once the boy had a chance to explain what happened, his mom said “accidents happen, but we still need to clean up this broken glass.” Since his mom took a wiser approach to the situation, not only did she make her son feel better, she made her husband’s rage subside and made him realize he had jumped to conclusions and handled this situation all wrong. The Book of Proverbs has much to say about wisely using the tongue. For example it says: Proverbs 15:2 The tongue of the wise uses knowledge rightly, But the mouth of fools pours forth foolishness. All of us are guilty of jumping to conclusion and foolishly saying things by how we feel at the moment. Peter was good at doing this. For example, at the transfiguration we read: Luke 9:32 But Peter and those with him were heavy with sleep; and when they were fully awake, they saw His glory and the two men who stood with Him. 33 Then it happened, as they were parting from Him, that Peter said to Jesus, "Master, it is good for us to be here; and let us make three tabernacles: one for You, one for Moses, and one for Elijah" -- not knowing what he said. Peter had tendency to speak whatever was on him mind, but sometimes he did not realize what he was saying. How many times have we caught ourselves or someone else speaking without thinking? Sometimes we just feel like we need say something, so we just blurt out whatever comes to our mind whether it makes sense or not. While it is nice to have something to say, we need exercise caution with how use our words because our words have the power to destroy and uplift (Prov. 18:21). Proverbs 18:21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue James tells us that using the same tongue we bless God and curse men and that our tongue can be like a spark that can burn down an entire forest (Jam. 3). James 3:5 Even so the tongue is a little member and boasts great things. See how great a forest a little fire kindles! And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity. The tongue is so set among our members that it defiles the whole body, and sets on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire by hell. James 3:9 With it we bless our God and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the similitude of God. 10 Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so. 11 Does a spring send forth fresh water and bitter from the same opening? 12 Can a fig tree, my brethren, bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Thus no spring yields both salt water and fresh. Though God has given us the ability to use our words wisely and foolishly, as James points out the two should not flow from the same source just as spring does not send forth fresh water and bitter water. God’s intention is for us to use our tongues wisely, but many times people do not. Like Peter, when we speak what is on our mind without thinking about it we are being foolish, but the wise does just the opposite (Prov. 15:28). Proverbs 15:28 The heart of the righteous studies how to answer, But the mouth of the wicked pours forth evil. As we read in verse 2, “The tongue of the wise uses knowledge rightly.” It easy to open your mouth wide and allow all your thoughts to poor out, but it takes self- discipline and wisdom to speak words that matter and make a positive impact. In order for us to develop the ability to use our tongue wisely, we must work on changing the source or our words, which is the heart (Mt. 7:20-23). Mark 7:20 And He said, "What comes out of a man, that defiles a man. 21 "For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, 22 "thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lewdness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness. 23 "All these evil things come from within and defile a man." The condition of our heart will reveal what kind of person we are (Prov. 27:19). Proverbs 27:19 As in water face reflects face, So a man's heart reveals the man. If we do not train our heart with the knowledge of God, then many of the words we speak will be full of folly. An untrained tongue will be like a wild horse that roams wherever he wants to and, if you try to catch it and break it, you will have a lot of work on your hands. The first place we must begin to use our tongue wisely is to train our heart with the Word of God (Prov. 16:23). Proverbs 16:23 The heart of the wise teaches his mouth, And adds learning to his lips. When we study God’s Word and make it part of daily life it will transform us and cause us to speak the oracles of God (1 Pet. 4:11). Isaiah understood this idea and he was thankful for it (Isa. 50:4). Isaiah 50:4 " The Lord GOD has given Me The tongue of the learned, That I should know how to speak A word in season to him who is weary. He awakens Me morning by morning, He awakens My ear To hear as the learned. The more fill our hearts with the wisdom of God, the more our words will seem sweet instead of bitter (Prov. 10:20; 16:24). Proverbs 10:20 The tongue of the righteous is choice silver; The heart of the wicked is worth little. Proverbs 16:24 Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, Sweetness to the soul and health to the bones. The reason our words will be pleasant is because we God’s teaches us how to speak with a humble spirit and not to use unnecessary words (Col. 4:6: Eph. 4:29). As Paul said: Colossians 4:6 Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one. Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers. Not only will our words be more pleasant, we will know how answer those who question us about our faith: 1 Peter 3:15 But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts, and always be ready to give a defense to everyone who asks you a reason for the hope that is in you, with meekness and fear; 16 having a good conscience, that when they defame you as evildoers, those who revile your good conduct in Christ may be ashamed. If we fail to train our heart with the Word of God then we will not be able to give a defense for our faith, and will not understand how to be meek. However, when we study the Scriptures, not only will we know how to answer others, we will also be pleasing to God (2 Tim 2:15). 2 Timothy 2:15 Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth. As we continue to fill our hearts with God’s wisdom, we must also learn to pay attention to what we say and how much we say. Sometimes we want to sound smarter than we are so we ramble on, but many times we end up making ourselves look ignorant. As Solomon said: Proverbs 17:28 Even a fool is counted wise when he holds his peace; When he shuts his lips, he is considered perceptive. We would be much better off to say the least we can instead of the most (Ecc. 5:2). Ecclesiastes 5:2 Do not be rash with your mouth, And let not your heart utter anything hastily before God. For God is in heaven, and you on earth; Therefore let your words be few. The more we ramble on, the more foolish we sound, which usually always gets us in trouble (Prov. 13:3; 21:23). Proverbs 13:3 He who guards his mouth preserves his life, But he who opens wide his lips shall have destruction. Proverbs 21:23 Whoever guards his mouth and tongue Keeps his soul from troubles. One the best things we can do to help us use our tongue wisely is to use it sparingly (Prov. 17:27; Proverbs 17:27 He who has knowledge spares his words Proverbs 10:19 In the multitude of words sin is not lacking, But he who restrains his lips is wise. While we work on limiting what we say, we can greatly improve the use of our tongue by learning to listen (Prov. 18:13). Proverbs 18:13 He who answers a matter before he hears it, It is folly and shame to him. One of the biggest breakdowns in effective communication is when we refuse to listen and we continue to interrupt. When we only take in part of what is being said it easy to jump to conclusions and begin a senseless argument that never should have been started. We live in a time, where many have little patience and they have lost the art of listening. To be a successful listener, we must first convince ourselves that listening is important and that we need to improve our listening skills. The more we practice it, the better listeners we will become. One of the main reasons we are poor listeners today is because we are easily distracted by many the facets of entertainment that surrounds us. If our favorite show is on or, if we are in middle of playing a video game, how well are going to be able to listen? How many times have we started an interesting conversation with someone and then their phone rings or they receive a text message? Usually, that distraction interrupts the flow of the conversation and it ends. There are many things that can district us in this world, but if we want to learn to become better listeners then we need to learn to ignore the distractions around us. For example, if we are watching TV or playing a video game, we need to turn them off or put on pause and give our full attention to whoever is speaking. If we receive a text or phone call while we are talking to someone we need to turn the ringer off and stay focused on what the person is saying. The phone call or text can wait. Whether you are listening to a sermon or having a friendly conversation keep your eyes and your ears focused on them. We all have our own preconceived ideas about different things, but when we are listening to someone that has different point of view than we do, we need to listen to everything they say and consider their point of view before we offer our point of view. If we immediately turn our ears off at the first hint of something being different and change our thoughts to attack mode then we will be not be prepared to speak wisely as we should because we are not hearing all the details of their thoughts. As James says: James 1:19 So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; The more time we take to listen carefully, the more calm we will be when we give our answer. When someone begin to speak about things we are passionate in negative way, it tends to make us mad. If have not constraint, we will say exactly what we are thinking, but we must refrain from doing that if we want to use our tongue wisely (Prov. 29:11). Proverbs 29:11 A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back. Even we someone begins to get under our skin, we can learn to defuse the situation by taking time to gather our thoughts (Prov. 15:1). Proverbs 15:1 A soft answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger. While there is nothing wrong with anger itself, if we are not careful it can cause to speak harmful things with a loud voice that will not help our cause. David gives us this advice: Psalm 4:4 Be angry, and do not sin. Meditate within your heart on your bed, and be still. When we become angry, we can use it to motivate us to change thing, but before we speak or take action, we need mediate on what we are going to do and say that will get our point across without us sinning. Sometimes it might take us just a few minutes to take control of emotions and be able to respond in an appropriate way. Other times it might take us several days. We must train ourselves to wait to give our response when we know we can do it with a soft answer that will make our point clear. APPLICATION: Using our tongues wisely is not an easy thing to do, but when we make the commitment to train our tongues by putting God’s Word into heart daily, by using our words sparingly, and by learning to listen carefully, we can use our tongues wisely. The more we improve the less heated arguments we will have with others, which will make more effective at reaching the lost (2 Tim. 2:23). As Paul told Timothy: 2 Timothy 2:23 But avoid foolish and ignorant disputes, knowing that they generate strife. 24 And a servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be gentle to all, able to teach, patient, 25 in humility correcting those who are in opposition, if God perhaps will grant them repentance, so that they may know the truth, 26 and that they may come to their senses and escape the snare of the devil, having been taken captive by him to do his will. Not only will using your tongue wisely make us more effective at leading the lost, it will improve your relationships with your friends and especially your family. The more everyone in our household learns to use their tongue wisely the more love, peace, and comfort there will be. Everyone would benefit from taking Solomon’s wisdom about using our tongue wisely, and I hope all us will.