davillian:


I dated a girl that controlled my present ,my past and my future lol
Anything she say I do

My belle oo

bluefilm:
Hmmm

Your wife must be very pretty, clean, young, healthy and athletic for you to still be dying to fück her like this... even after three kids.

You must be a lucky man.

As for me, I don't even know what I will still be doing with my wife in the bed after two kids.

I just can't.

She's young and attractive too, u'll hardly decipher she's given birth to 3 kids.
....My brother, if u marry a beautiful intelligent woman, even after 5 kids, d love deepens. e.g. Omotola, Mercy Johnson, Omoni Oboli etc. So jst kill dat believe dat ur wife becomes sh*t after 2 kids. That is ancient & local.

Love is beyond satisfaction in bed bro.

nokatakata:
You have 3 children man. what you talking about? Why beg your wife for sex. She is misbehaving because you are begging her. And you be honest with your story as well. Did she catch you cheating on her? if yes then she can starve you all she wants. that's punishment for cheating. you can't go outside and phuck some random bia.tiches and bring that same di.ck to phuck you wife and give her infection.

If she didn't catch you cheating and cannot give you any cogent reason for the starvation, then you'll have to let her know you cannot live with her in the same house if she won't have sex with you. She either gets phucked by you or get the phuck outta your house. You need to also watch her closely because she might be cheating on you.

Las las, you need to get one or two sweet girls on reserve bench wey you go dey use cure conji pending the time she comes back to her senses....make you nor go dey vomit sperm.

She never caught me cheating, I told her myself.

davillian:

We've seen woman cry and complain that their husband's doesn't touch them or eat their food.

Now this is what you will do
1)stop eating at home before but you can eat breakfast if you like but don't eat dinner .
Women are scared of this because they feel another woman is cooking for you and they can jazz you from there.
2) if you come home early start coming late and dont pic her calls after work.
3) store her name with a guys name
4) if you dont password your phone or she knows the password change it .
5) you can receive fake calls making her believe you talking to another woman.

6) dont near her when you doing all this things and if she tries to touch you decline too .
Even allow condom fall from your pocket self

But write all this down somwere with date on it o, snap and keep on your phone

U're a very badt guys!!

Brotherly,....as for me going close to her, I don lock up!!!

I just built a mindset now that am in a cult group & d condition they gave me is not to have sex with my wife for a year lest I die!

I know myself & she knows me too well, if I make up my mind for something, even my papa no fit mk me change my mind. Am as strict & wicked as that. I noticed from yesterday evening she had started getting closer which I believe her Aunt in Texas must have cautioned her strongly but me, I will never adhere to her advances at all. I have done it b4 & can do worse. Her next life she'll be cool. Anyways she's my wife & graciously d mother of my kids bt, I don lock up & I know she'll beg which I know will not work.

Single & Married Brothers in the House, No matter how you love ur wife or girl, never u allow them take charge of d relationship, whether there's money or not, God made u d head. I laugh at some comments here that states am d wife & she d husband, they knoweth me not.

And to the Sensible Ladies in d House, we all know how women strive to get husbands meanwhile some women have 3 to 4 men fighting for their hand in marriage at a go, its not about your beauty neither is it about ur intelligence. It is GRACE, & who's grace is it? Jehovah's of course. In a nutshell, if u don't cherish or value ur man, that means u do not value God's gift upon ur life.

My wife loves me to an extent that she's extremely jealous, sometimes I'd say to her "Why are u scared" jokingly, she'll reply "which scared" abegii. But I know she is. I jst feel they sometimes do all these to test d man's patience. Any which way sha, me I don lockup. Let her keep learning d HARDWAY.

And sincerely, I have been so relieved with the highly sensitive contributions from some intelligent members here, God Bless U more abundantly. I am far way better compared to the way I was 2 days back before I posted this here.

I believe strongly Suicidal rates looming about will reduce if only d victims can share that burning issue flaming them up.

I'll pick a few folks here before this my comment i'll gift something no matter how small. They won't understand d help they rendered to a burning heart. But not today, within Monday to Friday next week.

God Bless!!

2019news:
It is only fools that report their wives or husband on social media. If what u have written about your wife is true, what stops u from ironing ur differences with her instead of disturbing our peace and changing moniker like pants. Please, u are not a woman. Learn to keep quite and focus on how to make more money.

And it is only a "Down Syndrome Individual" that gets involved in issues that doesn't concerns him.

sircrabo:


I use a Q10, the picture quality isn't too sharp

What of Q5

Pls I need Q10 to buy.

I dont care if BBM, WhatsApp isn't active. Am just after the Camera picture quality & Internet.

Anyone, link me up

OP na wa for you oo...

U mean u've been in dat same house for how long again??

Hmm, person like me, I don take off tey tey find solution.

As as how na, wey me & Lala pet go come dey share same apartment.

jukeblam:
6-seater dining table for 110k.
Pickup location is Gbagada, Lagos.
Call 08078223802 to view.

Also have a few more household & baby items too; will post whenever I get the energy to snap clear pictures.

SOLD

Wow, this is fine & cheap too.

2 weeks old SAMSUNG J5pro, sooo clean
Still packed, not in use at the moment

Price: 40k
Location: Yenagoa, Bayelsa State.

Jorussia:
My brother the truth is this your matter is very delicate.Either your wife has a very low sex drive/libido or she is discreetly getting sexual satisfaction outside in a very intelligent manner.I urge you to do a thorough background check on your wife before ruling out any possibility of infidelity on her side.For a Lady to comfortably be with her husband without sex for 13months under the same roof with or without pregnancy is not ordinary.

Tnx bro but d worst I can do to myself is trying to find out if she's cheating on me. My brother, I prefer my state of mind by not wanting to know some certain things. I don't want to be among the people on the other side courtesy of Suicide. I like my life like this.

Dem say "Fly wey no dey hear word, na em dey follow dead body enter grave".

Planet3xi:



She loves you that's why shes doing al this sir Women sha. Once they know their men is calm and collected them don't overpower you be that. Many people can't be consistent with of d treatment without self destructing.

Women too like petting. A friend of mine posted this too on Facebook in a marriage Forum, na so so pet pet pet & prayers prayers, dem just dey talk say make I dey pet her. Is she a baby? For how long should I continue petting her, it is the same petting that I have been doing that is warranting this her attitude.

This is reality, it is a psychological issue not spiritual. I think am getting the best advises here on Nairaland than that Facebook of a thing. Its jst as if the people here are different in terms of Wisdom.

Gbpereluvmama:

sex is an emotional food. A married men that is sexually satisfied becomes emotionally stable, once he's emotionally stable, he's family enjoys him. U have cheated before and u know the effects on ur marriage, there's nothing worth the destruction of ur marriage. Don't even try to cheat, its not worth it. Its ur wife, there are some things only u know about her that no one knows and that's why u chose her among all the thousand women in this world. There's also sth with wives generally, if de know ur weakness, they use it against u. Ur a boss, u have a competitive market, invest ur time in research and other things for now, then also control ur thoughts, always be conscious of sexual thoughts and push them aside, with time u won't give a damn about sex. once she knows u don't beg her for sex any longer no matter how long, then she will stop using sex as a weapon to punish u. just an advice to a brother in the MMA( married men association). Remember divorce is not an option.

GOD Bless U real good bro.

Noted!!

Planet3xi:




When last did you buy madam gifts? Or do a family hangout?

1. As for surprise gifts,....very regular.

2. Outing is also regular, both with the kids.

My worry is, is it that I can't get angry or disagree sometimes agressively with her options? Because I have noticed whenever we have such arguments is when she uses it against me or is she been immature in marriage? but she ain't no kid, a married graduate with kids, not 1 nor 2 but 3. She ought to have learnt or somehow be experienced in a way in marital issues.

Anyways, am just keeping calm at d moment & have restricted myself from making any advances of sex towards her.
Let her use her head & judge herself. I believe with time, her reset button will be activated. I can't be begging my own wife for sex, for what?? That's improper!!

Jorussia:
I really feel what you are going through in your marriage.Personally,and as a Christian i think it's wrong and a sin to deny a partner sex in marriage without any tenable reason(medical or spiritual circumstances). Can you confirm with all sense of certainty that your wife didn't engage in sexual intercourse for 13months?

I don't know but, I didn't engage her sexually for 13 months, then she was with child (my second child's pregnancy).

Immediately I noticed she was pregnant, I didn't meet her again till 4 months after delivery. Medically, a man should engage in regular sex with his partner whenever she's with child. Though its optional but advisable.

bukatyne:


I am happy you have realized that adultery kills a marriage so we know that is a no.

From all your posts on this thread, I would say that you have a healthy libido and you are still sexual interested in your wife (I would guess she is still sexy/good looking).

Your wife knows this and has decided to make it a weapon.

I do not know what the problem is however, of she can laugh with you and relate normally till it is time for sex, then it is a non-issue except if she is psychotic or she has issues with your sexual performance.

You know why playing with her, doing more chores etc. Would not work in your case? Because you are rewarding bad behavior. She misbehaves and you keep dancing round to please her. It has registered that if I sexual starve my husband, he will bend over to please me.

If the issues she had with you was not giving her attention or not helping with chores etc, the above would have helped.

Don't just reward bad behavior in your spouse.

What is the solution?
1. Engage her once again, apologize for breaching the trust in your marriage and assure her that you have never cheated again. Whatever the issues are, look into them genuinely and adjust where needed.

If she does not change, then:

Learn how to control yourself sexually. It will be hard however, don't let her feel you cannot do without her.

Stop playing with her or giving her attention. If she ignores your sexual needs, ignore her need for attention and learn to be self sufficient. If she wouldn't cook, feed yourself. Whatever leverage she has on you, learn to provide or beat it.

By now, she would start trying to get your attention by throwing more tantrums... Let her be. If she offers you sex because she is turned on, don't oblige her.

If you do not care about your appearance prior to now, please do. Change your haircut, mode of dressing, get good cologne etc.

When she finally comes around genuinely (not because she needs sex or something else), respectfully lay down the ground rules. If she has issues with you, discussion is the way to go.

Now, if after first engagement, she says your sex life is the problem, get self help books on sex and seduction and up your game in the bedroom.

In all of this, do not cheat or behave in any manner that you will have a blame.

Couples should not treat sex as a treat or reward. It is a duty (I am even taking live out of the equation) you pledged to do.

Goodluck.

God bless U real good.

As for d mode of dressing & looks, I believe am at d top of my game, one of d things she brags to outsiders about. She always compliment my fashion sense & extra great taste for good colognes which she says I spend fortunes on.

As for sexual performances, by God's grace am blessed sexually which she can also attest to.

I am still trying to figure out why these acts, she's complaining I use to insult her. My brother, is cautioning someone insult? There are things I don't like, if I take drastic measures or refuses to adhere to her suggestions, she gets mad & later uses sex as a weapon against me. I cnt be pleading to a woman I legally married for sex, its un-manly. I have stopped all advances, let's see where this her pride will lead us to. Its jst that I dnt want to go out again cos of d kids.
But I'll try to resist her for as long as I can. Thank God i have something doing. I have my own firm.

Did he force her for marriage? Shebi na she dey rush d man

Preshy561:

Just take a look at you.
That woman should leave your cheating ass asap.
Wonder whoever that's giving you this likes to continue disgracing yourself online.
Shameless isn't it?

Being sincere is now a crime right? U are single & knows nothing about marriage OK. Face ur boyfriend, girlfriend matter. When u're wise enough,..The gods will notify you.

Acidosis:

Man, your situation is pathetic! Please pick the good tips here and work on your marriage.

A manipulative woman who uses silence, "ignore button" and sex as weapons is not someone any man on earth should pray or wish for. I can cope with no sex (with genuine reasons), but you see silence, not willing to talk about issues, reasons you don't want that sex? I can't man! I can read minds but not one of a manipulative witch.

Thanks bro, majority of the people commenting here are single & knows little or nothing about marriage. Its easy to detect them by their comments. Only a few singles here has given reasonable suggestions.

UjuJoan2:


Why are you so consumed with sex? What time do you have to work and make money? I hope your wife is not left with all the bills

U know nothing about marriage.

What bill is she footing? Did u know I have my own firm in which I pay staffs.

If I don't get sex often from my legally married wife, where do u expect me to get it from?
Did u also know, regular sex builds & keeps a healthy relationship?

My dear, read books, do research online, expand your knowledge about sex & relationships.

UjuJoan2:


Didn't he already cheat?

If he got the satisfaction he needed from the affair he won't be opening this thread, he'll be out there cheating again. The story is not complete.

I can list a number of reasons why a woman will withhold sex continuously from her husband, but someone will say I'm talking from experience.

This one pass me . . . Oga please divorce her and marry a woman that will be displaying bedmatics skills on a 'nightly' basis for you. I'm sure your wife wont mind the at all.

The truth is "Am the sex driven type" not on a daily basis though because I have realized sex keeps me healthy, I always feel ajar & so alive after sex & I love my family too. I don't want to face again even worse predicament concerning the last time I had extra marital affairs which made me not to even realize I have a family, because i became so attached to the lady. My wife got to know about the relationship and nearly committed suicide if not for prayers & wise counseling from elders. Meanwhile, I was like "what da heck"?? Is dis not same person that has been locking up on me?? How come she became so devastated by my act.

armyofone:
After 3kids na sex you dey worry about and want divorce are those kids in private schools or do you have a strong financial savings for each college education?
You know, man- you get misplaced priority and na fu....ck!

U're a single lady who knows nothing about marriage.

theButterfly:
Could you elaborate on what these "minor issues" are that keep occuring and hurting her to the extent of her denying you intimacy?

She still believes am cheating on her ever since d last destructive experience she had but before God and man, I am not cheating on her. Whenever she accuses me, I sometimes accept just to get her mad, d accusations don tire me. And she does not like it when I shout madly at her but brotherly, I am d man of d house, I gast show her dat am in charge nau.

missimelda01:
Op you should discuss with your wife, tell her how you truly feel about the way she treats you, if she really loves you she'll stop acting that way. Don't let someone push you into being irresponsible, the only person who needs to change here is your wife. People who cheat think they are wise, they have no single respect for their bodies.. they are like dogs.

Meanwhile I hope you've asked for forgiveness for cheating on her.

Yes I did but funny enough she was the one apologizing seriously for her attitude that made me cheat on her. She was extremely scared because I became so attached to the lady that I nearly divorced my wife. I stopped demanding for sex from her, I stayed off her sexually for 13months (a Yr one month) I know the disasters cheating can cause in a marriage, I have been there. I know what am talking about thats y am so scared of cheating as a married man, I dnt want to hurt my kids again.

kushercain:


Mister man, take charge of the situation. You be man na. Try communicate with her

If not contact Sagemk to provide the necessary paperwork so you become head of the Vaseline crew Married Men Branch.

Vaseline something no fit be like d one God position for us na

Planet3xi:



There's two side to every issue. No human being can be purely evil. Like they say sex is the barometer in every relationship marital BTW,if she's refusing your advances you're not investing the right emotions before sex or you're not doing things right. Do the right thing. Na only you know wetin she dey complain of. But don't begm never do that. Companionship is for the benefit of two parties.

God bless u bro

OkpaAkuEriEri:
Ur amu is not healthy.

No wife cn resist a good amu no mata d forkup

U think so?? Woman don vex for you before?

kushercain:



Hmmmm....

Pinky, are you thinking what I'm thinking?

Nah, not at all. If she's happy, na me dey run oo.

Planet3xi:



Forget sex for now, go and regain the power dynamics in this relationship. You've put her in the front seat hence she's riding you anyhow. Give irritating habits, strange habits come late. Don't ask for sex. Dress up walk out. In two weeks shell be back begging. Toss this toxic relationship aside nigger life is too short. Call her people tell them there can't be two men in the house and you have needs. If she can't meet your needs you wish to create space for some who will give it


Just man up already. If people hate peace then give them war. I'm a peaceful man but once a person rejects my peace offering straight I wear my war uniform. God punish devil

My thoughts exactly, by dawn am informing her relatives. It is jst annoying and irritating.

Planet3xi:



You're a girl. I know even during sex you'll be acting like your destiny depends on it not knowing you're giving her the power to Lord it over you. You better work on yourself. My Canadian chick do am for me six months she and her entire family no see my smile, d mama dey come beg, for just small matter set wet I just want shoe off not to talk of this one. Why are you feeding her or housing her. Abi are you okay Oga?

My brother, my own no good sef oo but like i said, I dropped all those habits inorder to be a bit focused in life. I just sent her Aunt that is in Texas a WhatsApp msg about the matter.
By tomorrow I'll know whats up.

I miss Bachelor life though.

kushercain:
Tell her you'll get it elsewhere and if she still doesn't improve, just look for one sidechick to deposit your load. Body no be firewood. Your wife uses sex as a weapon and the only way to defeat her mindset is to let her know the weapon is ineffective. It's better you stop trying to initiate it, stop begging her for sex, let her confuse small.


But wait first, does she have a very low sex drive? Because how can she stay away for 4 months.

Not really but can stay off sex for a very long time if she's hurt.

Planet3xi:
You sound too soft. Is she doing you a favor? You better look for what would weaken her and push that button. Look at how annoying your comments is. You're begging her cause your a Christian sheybi. Oga come back home 11 pm pour alcohol on your body. Start snapping pics of young girls on your phone. Behave irregular. Gibe her jab, you're in demand outside and watch her change as you stop this simping. Its annoying.


Dem no dey mine gold inside toto


Yan yan starve me of sex. If you were here I'll slap you to reset your brain.


Ubunja

Martinez39

I'd say I was a bit that way but decided to change my lifestyle since the last time I cheated on her that nearly cost me my marriage. My wife became scared & started apologizing cos she saw it that she was about loosing her man because of her carelessnes. I forgave her, since then. I jst decided to keep calm because of the kids, now she's resumed same attitude.