Eventually..... sceptre and crown shall tumble down, but in the dust be equal made with poor crooked scythe and spade.

Too bad. May God console the people of Ondo State. Sceptre and crown shall tumble down, but in the dust be equal made with poor crooked scythe and spade.

That's from someone who withdrew 7.1bn from the state coffers in the name of contingency without appropriation by the state assembly and spent by Betty and Jide (his wife and son). This same Jide already bought a very major hotel in town at the cost of 2bn and proceeded to demolish it to ground level. That's apart from the illegal money he collects on monthly basis from providus bank as 10% of the state's IGR which he claims to be generating. He went ahead to collect 400m from zenith bank, the moment he discovered the government had some savings of 4bn domiciled at zenith bank since 2010. He went into the govt forest reserve and expelled the farmers doing their legitimate businesses and then started timber business therefrom. Where do we start from, if we are to open the yansh of these unrepentant thieves? Now they shared 1bn among some people who have worked for 35 years and retired into extreme poverty for upwards of 10 years and then, we no go hear word again. Aragbaye as Head of Service was also the PS Govt house and was the one coordinating the brazen malversation of public funds. As a retired Head of service and now an appointed Special Adviser on union matters, he is the de facto Head of service and still does the posting of Permanent Secretaries, doing all sorts of hatchet jobs for the governor but directly under the coordination of the governor's son. He constantly bullies all the civil servants and anyone that's not in the good books will be posted to "dry departments". That's how much docile Aketi has been and how he has turned governance to family affair. He should hand over to his deputy and practise what he had preached.

Abólórùn adìye.

Indeed, ornithological specimen of identical plumage conglomerate in close proximity.

Finally!

Oga says..... it's a tapestry of anachronistic stereotypes and housewife tales, woven together with contemporary lexicon and archaeological threads of pernicious commonplace analysis affianced with iniquitous speculative deductions.

Pastor Righteousness! You dey avoid to do ftc today because you know we don bust you say na you dey post rubbish come use another moniker comment under am. Anyway what time your comet go pass ibadan make I carry my mat sleep outside tonight?

Says a slave who had no economic impact and useless retard on the African soil like used condom. Most of you travel Trans-Atlantic to wash toilets and take care of imbeciles. Can't you see how many of your mates down here are making waves? You think all of us will fall for your $100 per hour contrivance? You only left because you were useless here and you were too undeveloped to create solutions to societal problems. So just know where to direct your frustrations.

Mrfksb1:
Shithole country


God bless Los Angeles

God bless America

I made the happiest decision of leaving that shithole in 2019

I never regret that decision till today. In LA I've got peace and happiness you can ever have as human here on earth

Africa is hell and it will forever be hell.

The childhood fantasy of one woman being expressed and realized. Hedonistic proclivities of wedding is a paroxysm of life ambition of most women while the burden of realities afterwards hold men by the jugular for the rest of their lives.

Well that's not correct. I've said I want some sincere advice and criticism where necessary. Where would that come from it some parts were added or removed to protect some interests?

UpInTheSky:
You account was created today, so who knows?

You did have enough time on your hands to write all that. It's possible you've doctored some parts or your entire story itself might just be another tale by the moonlight that are typically found in this section.

You likely believe i have so much time on my hands to come here and start writing things that didn't happen.

UpInTheSky:
Your story sounds fake. You mean you've not hugged nor kissed your wife since 2018 and you've been living in the same house? Not even on your birthdays, or on holidays (Christmas, New Year)?

So what happens to the child and her mother meanwhile?

valentineuwakwe:
Your stories are long but its well..its a risk u took and its working well 4u.
I cant say much about the court matter but is it criminal to do court wedding and still go ahead to pregnant a lady or marry her traditionally?
Now,have a talk with your wife about her not having sex with u n her childlessness.be frank n tell her u want children.since u now know its not your fault hold on to that n put pressure on her to either change her attitude or you quit the marriage!
Dont drag the matter too long,tell her to change simple.if not simply file for a divorce n start your life with the other girl carrying your child!

You likely didn't read the part where I said my wife has not allowed me to touch her at all in the last 4 years or more. That means we have not been making any attempt in that direction and at some point, we got used to it. I sure wouldn't have bothered finding an alternative if she was any forthcoming. Having a child isn't the issue, not wanting me is.

immortalcrown:
Nawa oh!

You are afraid of polygamy but you are committing adultery.

You want your wife to give you a child but you have committed more than 3 abortions with a girl.

Is polygamy more sinful than abortion? Let me not even dwell on this particular question because not everybody believes abortion means murder.

Either you marry the girl legitimately and face the consequence or keep her as your secret baby mama and face greater consequence in future. If satan wants to finish you when you keep secret, your wife will conceive and have a child after the girl has already had a child for you. It takes greater crime to cover up a crime.

Let me start by stating that genuine advice and constructive criticism are what I desire and that exactly led me into this form of expression in this public domain.
I clocked 41 years old earlier this year and I got married 11 years ago. The marriage with my wife has not been able to yield any fruit of the womb but that is not even the problem here. At least I observed a lot of people have had great testimonies from the IVF procedure recently as many of the recent threads on here made us believe.
At the beginning, it was not much of a big deal as we thought it was perhaps not a right time for us to conceive but we kept pushing. The disturbing issue, however at that time was that my wife had a very low sex drive from the beginning and that was the way I met her. We later started going for several tests and the results revealed that it wasn't my fault at all but of course, there were some medical issues she had to sort, so we did all that. By 2014, I noticed she started drawing back in bed and that raised a lot of concerns. So I spoke with one of her brothers who is about my age mate, but I noticed no changes like her brother did not raise the issue with her at all. By 2017, I went to Abeokuta to see her mum and told her about her daughter's new fashion of running away from intimacy between me and her. She promised to talk to her. Then I got tired of going for various medical tests as I wondered why we had to spend money and time on tests which won't be backed up by the proper thing eventually. Since then, I think we only made love once and that should be in 2018 or so. Since 2018, there's not been a single hug not to talk of kiss as we lost it completely!

So I met a much younger girl and we started dating. Initially, it was just for the fun of it and to relieve myself of the domestic stress. Later, we got so much into each other and she got pregnant for me! We both agreed to abort it as we knew the danger inherent in keeping it. But then, my wife continued to force me with the periodic medical tests (without the slightest form of intimacy) while the other lady continued to abort pregnancies she had for me. Only last year, the girl aborted 3 pregnancies for me and I felt so bad using her as lab rat. Now I'm 41, when most of my mates don't have infants as children but I'm still contending with a wife who has decided never again to go to bed with me. Confusingly, the other girl is pregnant for me and I'm strongly determined not to abort it this time. In fact, it's already 5 months old!
Now my problems are

*I'm legally married and I have no single problem with my wife asides the issues raised above.

*I think it's criminal because I had a court wedding and I might be prosecuted if she gets to know about this, more so that we are not divorced.

*The pregnant lady's mum has met me before and she doesn't want me because she knows I'm married, so we didn't tell her parents but all her siblings are fully aware and in full support, maybe because they know I've perfected plans to move her abroad to have the baby and let the baby have overseas citizenship. Currently, I've gotten her a well furnished flat since 2 years ago also got her a job paying her 200k monthly.

*My wife's family respect me so much and I think they'll all be disappointed if they get to know.

*I did not tell anybody at all. Not a single family member or friend of mine knows about it because I don't want to be discouraged or lose focus, then nobody can tell me how to create my own happiness.

*I have never had a single issue with the new lady before as she is even about 13 years younger than I am and she respects me a lot. I believe she can't drag issues with me in the future and even if she does, my child remains my child.

*I have never been a fan of polygamy as I understand its intricacies. I know my wife will most likely walk away if she gets to know about this and it will be her strangest imagination!

*I know I can't eat my cake and have it. So what am I to do?

Mods please help shift this to FP as it's an issue really bothering me and I want the participation of many people with diverse opinions.

Let me start by stating that genuine advice and constructive criticism are what I desire and that exactly led me into this form of expression in this public domain.
I clocked 41 years old earlier this year and I got married 11 years ago. The marriage with my wife has not been able to yield any fruit of the womb but that is not even the problem here. At least I observed a lot of people have had great testimonies from the IVF procedure recently as many of the recent threads on here made us believe.
At the beginning, it was not much of a big deal as we thought it was perhaps not a right time for us to conceive but we kept pushing. The disturbing issue, however at that time was that my wife had a very low sex drive from the beginning and that was the way I met her. We later started going for several tests and the results revealed that it wasn't my fault at all but of course, there were some medical issues she had to sort, so we did all that. By 2014, I noticed she started drawing back in bed and that raised a lot of concerns. So I spoke with one of her brothers who is about my age mate, but I noticed no changes like her brother did not raise the issue with her at all. By 2017, I went to Abeokuta to see her mum and told her about her daughter's new fashion of running away from intimacy between me and her. She promised to talk to her. Then I got tired of going for various medical tests as I wondered why we had to spend money and time on tests which won't be backed up by the proper thing eventually. Since then, I think we only made love once and that should be in 2018 or so. Since 2018, there's not been a single hug not to talk of kiss as we lost it completely!

So I met a much younger girl and we started dating. Initially, it was just for the fun of it and to relieve myself of the domestic stress. Later, we got so much into each other and she got pregnant for me! We both agreed to abort it as we knew the danger inherent in keeping it. But then, my wife continued to force me with the periodic medical tests (without the slightest form of intimacy) while the other lady continued to abort pregnancies she had for me. Only last year, the girl aborted 3 pregnancies for me and I felt so bad using her as lab rat. Now I'm 41, when most of my mates don't have infants as children but I'm still contending with a wife who has decided never again to go to bed with me. Confusingly, the other girl is pregnant for me and I'm strongly determined not to abort it this time. In fact, it's already 5 months old!
Now my problems are

*I'm legally married and I have no single problem with my wife asides the issues raised above.

*I think it's criminal because I had a court wedding and I might be prosecuted if she gets to know about this, more so that we are not divorced.

*The pregnant lady's mum has met me before and she doesn't want me because she knows I'm married, so we didn't tell her parents but all her siblings are fully aware and in full support, maybe because they know I've perfected plans to move her abroad to have the baby and let the baby have overseas citizenship. Currently, I've gotten her a well furnished flat since 2 years ago also got her a job paying her 200k monthly.

*My wife's family respect me so much and I think they'll all be disappointed if they get to know.

*I did not tell anybody at all. Not a single family member or friend of mine knows about it because I don't want to be discouraged or lose focus, then nobody can tell me how to create my own happiness.

*I have never had a single issue with the new lady before as she is even about 13 years younger than I am and she respects me a lot. I believe she can't drag issues with me in the future and even if she does, my child remains my child.

*I have never been a fan of polygamy as I understand its intricacies. I know my wife will most likely walk away if she gets to know about this and it will be her strangest imagination!

*I know I can't eat my cake and have it. So what am I to do?

Mods please help shift this to FP as it's an issue really bothering me and I want the participation of many people with diverse opinions.