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Family / Re: Advice Needed On Mother-in-law To Be. by oromitope26(f): 12:19pm On Oct 18, 2015 |
Thanks everybody; onegig, GHojes, mama tea roses, Bukatyne, aameyah and others. If I want the issue swept under the carpet I won't be here asking for suggestion on how to tackle it. From the little i know, its not as if she is investing into something but just attending to some family needs. Even at that its not suppose to be me she will ask, its shameful. I can't ask her what is draining her finances cos from the little I know she seems to be carrying the bulk load of the family as her husband is a missionary. The whole ish self tire me, thanks everybody. |
Family / Re: Advice Needed On Mother-in-law To Be. by oromitope26(f): 3:47pm On Oct 17, 2015 |
Guitarlife: Thanks a lot. |
Family / Re: Advice Needed On Mother-in-law To Be. by oromitope26(f): 3:46pm On Oct 17, 2015 |
Kimoni: Coldgate, lamdec, dahaz, oluwanoni, andergirl and others thanks a lot for your inputs, am very grateful. Madam kimoni. You stated my fears, he loves his mum and they are quiet close. I feel this may affect the relationship between us because he is a very responsible person and will not be happy that his mum will do such thing. He handles issues maturely but this is kind of different from other issues. Maybe I should just keep quiet for now hoping it won't happen again or continue to tell her no since we are not even married. Thanks ma'am. |
Family / Re: Advice Needed On Mother-in-law To Be. by oromitope26(f): 8:53pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
I have never given her money, its the one she borrowed from my mum she didn't return. Thanks everybody, really appreciate your inputs. Sihom. Thanks a lot but seems the only thing that caught your attention is my job status, I won't be so foolish to marry without a job or a solid financial security. Thanks for the time. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Advice Needed On Mother-in-law To Be. by oromitope26(f): 1:56pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
sihom: Thanks for your input. By the way am not idle neither am I depending on my parents even in my jobless situation. Are you saying this is not an issue and I should just pretend its not happening. Am actually much more concerned about my need for a good and stable job than this and I know neither me nor fiancé will have cause to turn to our parents for help as the Lord liveth. Thanks ma'am. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Advice Needed On Mother-in-law To Be. by oromitope26(f): 1:04pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
Thanks everybody. Sambarry. My parents are civil servants too but they don't and will never do this. Thanks for your input. Whocarex. You just spoke out my fears, so that at the end of it all it won't be like back stabbed her. She is not trying to use me to get money o, she wants me to borrow her and I'll never do such. She loves and treat me like her daughter but this habit is a big problem to me. Marvellousgod. Thanks dear, how do I sit him down and start telling him is my problem. Won't he pour the anger on his mum? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: Advice Needed On Mother-in-law To Be. by oromitope26(f): 12:01pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
thorpido: OK. I'll let him know but don't want to ask him over the phone, maybe when we see. Thanks. |
Family / Re: Advice Needed On Mother-in-law To Be. by oromitope26(f): 11:59am On Oct 16, 2015 |
zaynie: Thanks sis. Funny enough before asking me she will ask if am the only one where I am. Would have told him since but I don't just know how he will take it. Overdo ke? Nothing like that cos am not trying to buy her over. |
Family / Re: Advice Needed On Mother-in-law To Be. by oromitope26(f): 11:17am On Oct 16, 2015 |
Acidosis: Don't think there is any way of extracting money o, he sent money to her last week and also to his siblings. Not sure I can Starr asking him for money without telling him the whole ish. |
Family / Re: Advice Needed On Mother-in-law To Be. by oromitope26(f): 11:05am On Oct 16, 2015 |
Acidosis: Not osun o but one of those states sha. |
Family / Re: Advice Needed On Mother-in-law To Be. by oromitope26(f): 11:04am On Oct 16, 2015 |
teeboo: When he confronts her won't it look like I back stabbed her? Cos she is always saying I should tell him o. I just need wisdom. Thanks. |
Family / Re: Advice Needed On Mother-in-law To Be. by oromitope26(f): 11:03am On Oct 16, 2015 |
harbeordune: Thanks sis, Its so annoying cos I kept telling my mum not to borrow her to avoid unnecessary familiarity. I had to use 'ogboju' to stop my mum from calling them shameless people. |
Family / Re: Advice Needed On Mother-in-law To Be. by oromitope26(f): 11:00am On Oct 16, 2015 |
thorpido: Thanks bro. She is not a widow, she is teacher in a goverment school. she has 5 children just two are working now and fiance is the only son. I dont know because she is not even the asoebi and owanbe type at all. Telling him is the problem because I know this will break him down as he tries his best for his mum and siblings. Father-in-law to be is a missionary but all the same its not an excuse for this, I can't even tell my mum about this issue. Thanks. |
Family / Advice Needed On Mother-in-law To Be. by oromitope26(f): 10:23am On Oct 16, 2015 |
Good morning, I've been in this relationship and all has been exceptionally beautiful but for my mother-in-law to be. She has this habit of asking me to borrow her money even though she knows am not working yet and then tell me not to tell her son that its a deal between me and her. This issue is bothering me and I don't know how to stop it. She is a civil servant just like my parents and the two families kind of know each other but not close. Sometimes 2013 she called my mum to borrow her a certain amount, when my mum told me I immediately told her not to 'cos its a very bad and shameless attitude. Mum felt doing it will be a good thing, after all said she didn't return the money up till date and never called to talk about it. I really felt bad because my mum kept on telling me everyday that she is shameless. I wanted to tell my fiance but I know he will feel so bad. Last year she called me again that I need to borrow her a certain amount and her son should not know but I told her I don't have. This morning again she called me that she needs to travel urgently and needs money, she said she can't tell her son because he sent money not quiet long and I should not tell him, I just told her immediately that I don't have cos am not working and she said no problem I don't know if I should call my fiancee attention to this, it is a very bad habit and to me it should not be heard of self, but I know he will feel so bad and confront her. What should I do? She is so nice except for this money ish Please advice, sorry for the long post. Cc: Tearoses, kimoni, Bukatyne, Zaynie greatgod2012, Thorpido. Please advice a sister. |
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