My cousin in Abuja,who is a guest on Nairaland & I talked about earlier in the week is in need of a girlfriend.

We both discussed & ve arrived at a conclusion that d only way to have a relative peace of mind & joy in a relationship with a 9ja babe now due to the harsh economic situation & poverty is to at least take care of d babe by spending some money.

We analysed the situation,especially for a jobless girlfriend who might ve to make her hair,get toiletries & other basic needs.

So,he said he is ready to have a girlfriend whom he has a budget of spending #100k on monthly in caring for her & he is ready to be giving d girlfriend #25k weekly to make up d monthly #100k.

Nevertheless,no extra expenses besides d #100k budget.

However,he says he wants a very beautiful girlfriend who must be loyal to him which is d reason he is setting aside d #100k for her monthly upkeep.

He is 32 & has a job.

Interested babes can send a DM to be accessed on WhatsApp.

donbachi:
which wan be I know understand...d fling na free?

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iKay2020:
nawa how and why on earth should a man give 100k to a runs girl? That foolishness and madness

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Which is advisable, less expensive & free of emotional trauma?

1)To fall in love & ve permanent girlfriend who obviously will make regular demands.

OR

2)Having flings at least three times in a month & pay for services rendered?

I was arguing with a friend that it is more expensive having flings b'cos no babe will collect less than #10k & if u don't ve to go to ur house,u will need to rent a hotel room,buy food & drinks.

Besides,d chances of STD & not having to enjoy d sex as u must use condoms & no emotions attached,but strictly official.

Even kissing such a runs girl is a high risk.

However,his own argument is that falling in love with a permanent girlfriend put a guy at risk of heartbreak & exploitation from d girlfriend as he says d girl will likely have an auxiliary boyfriend & will make demands for a guy to spend more than having flings.

Which is best option?

Offpoint:
That's very heartless and inconsiderate of your friend. How can someone spent over 22k on you on your birthday and when it's your time to reciprocate you repaid her by blocking her?

What happened to explaining to her politely that you can't afford her demands?
What if she was mainly testing him?

He should have at least get her something worth the 22k she had spent on him.


Guys if you want to breakup with you partners, have dignity of politely letting your partners know than ghosting them. it's childish.

On behalf of classic, sensible and mature men like me... we condemn the attitude of your friend in totality.

The mature men societies will not tolerate such an attitude from anyone who had the private to carry penis inbetween his legs.

Apologies to the lady in question, we apologize for the misconduct of our junior members.

Offpoint:

Someone made an investment and deserve a return.

A reasonable person should know, if a woman invest on you she expects a return in 10 folds.

A lady who can afford 22k in the current led administration of Muhadmedu bura-ri is not a gold digger.

What an investment..

Offpoint:

Someone made an investment and deserve a return.

A reasonable person should know, if a woman invest on you she expects a return in 10 folds.

A lady who can afford 22k in the current led administration of Muhadmedu bura-ri is not a gold digger.

What an investment...

Offpoint:
That's very heartless and inconsiderate of your friend. How can someone spent over 22k on you on your birthday and when it's your time to reciprocate you repaid her by blocking her?

What happened to explaining to her politely that you can afford her demands?
What if she was mainly testing him?

He should have at least get her something worth the 22k she had spent on her.

Guys if you want to break have the.....

My cousin never made demands for d gifts she bought & never expected d babe to buy her anything & he on his own had plans of reciprocating which d babe shld ve waited for to see rather than making specific outrageous demands.
U don't demand for gifts but u re given wholeheartedly.

What d babe did was gold digging & d usual taxing & magarism.

I was a victim,so was he in d past but Nairaland has made me wise that I had been educating him too & encouraged him to be a nairalander but for his busy schedule.

Otherwise he might ve loaned d money to please d babe.

No more nonsense.

For me,if u re a sincere babe,I will willingly take care of u & spend on u within my capacity but at this my level b'4 any gold digging Nig babe can use me as a mugu,she must be from another planet.

I really suffered in their hands in d name of love.

Thank God for Nairaland,it's experienced,revered & highly respected advisers.

I was with my cousin last nite & we were discussing about his new girlfriend whom he had briefed me about in November,2019.

He fell in love with this girl he met in October,2019,as d babe seemed to be nice & she did something so special for him on his birthday,which was on d 18th of November, 2019 that swept him off his feet.

D babe bought two T-shirts for him,a perfume & a wrist which he valued to be about #22k altogether.

I remember how excited he was d day he called me to tell me about it & convinced that he had finally met a sincere,loving & caring Nig babe unlike d leeches he had dated in d past.

He was so so happy b'cos he has a stable banking job that earns him #270k monthly,a car,a Lexus Rx 330 he bought on loan & he is also good looking.

He also lives alone in a two bedroom flat.

He was shocked that d babe didn't take advantage of his status to undermine d relationship by demanding as with other babes in d past.

But,on d 25th of December,we had a chat & he said he had a gist for me but didn't tell me until we met last nite.

He said he wished he knew that d gifts d babe bought for him on his birthday was a ploy to execute him financially.

He said d babes birthday was on d 2nd of January & on d 20th of Dec 2019,d babe told him to begin to get set for her birthday & made d following demands;

1)Photoshoot-#40k

2)Clothes for photoshoot-#60k

3)Birthday party-#150k.

He said he was shocked & since on d 26th of Dec he refused to take d babe"s call,he blocked her on WhatsApp & blacklisted her number.

He said she was worse than all d other babes he had met in d past.

I just kept laughing at d strategy & trap d babe used on him & commended him for taking d best decision of erasing her in his life.

Some babes can be so heartless that they think of just what they will enjoy 2day & 4get about d future.

And this is how they loose husbands b'cos my cousin who is 32 already is set to settle down.

It's just unfortunate.

I just hope that most of our girls will retrace their steps on materialism,flamboyance & slaying b'cos they are even corrupting d few good ones that guys shld take in as wives.

It's well with us oo

frenchtoast:
Your title is sensationalized but you've made some valid points.

These opportunistic babes don't put a gun to your heads, in fact many of you specifically seek these so-called slay queens out knowing full well what they expect from you yet come here to cry when you can't maintain them and are unable to keep up with the very same shallow things you enticed them with

Focus on yourself, personal and career development, goals etc and stop chasing after the 'slay queens' you know you can't afford. Abi no more 'normal' babes dey for Naija again?

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Adasun:
frm ur second paragraph,hw many of such scenario are we seeing

Abi o my brother.How many 9ja babe is ready to build a life with u.?
They all want a ready made man,that is why we ve more criminals all in a bid to please women.
Every average Nigerian babe is materialistic that it seems we don't even ve any good one at all.

donaldtruman:
I am writing this piece to encourage guys who are yet to come to the realisation that the major reasons militating against their progress in life is their devotion to women business.

I observed that for a while that I ve not had a relationship,I ve made a lot of progress in d areas of saving money & even gone far in the construction of my house b'cos I know how much I was spending to maintain my pretty ex girlfriend just to keep her & ensured she was not swayed by other men,which eventually happened.

I just keep wondering that if I ve saved this much after being relieved from a toxic relationship with just one girlfriend,what could be about d lives of guys who ve numerous girlfriends & bash around, spending on hotel bills,service payment,phones,clothes & other needs for these girls.

I doubt if they will ever progress in life b'cos these monies being spent in bits accumulates into millions which could ve transformed d lives of these guys.

Sometimes,when we complain about d irresponsibility of our leaders & governments,we somehow fail to acknowledge d fact that we re d architects of our financial woes & progress.

There is nothing wrong in having a girlfriend but unfortunately d Nig environment had made relationships almost transactional that a relationship is an investment without returns & u keep spending b'cos u don't want to loose d investment & even go as far as borrowing or committing a crime to please a woman or our sexual urge,except one is lucky to ve d responsible ones who are devoted to d relationship rather than view it as a means of survival.

I thought I could not survive without a girlfriend but I ve been able 2 & ve recorded a huge progress in my life which I could not ve achieved if I still had my ex girlfriend in my life.

The point is that guys who are yet to marry shld take advantage of their singleness to hustle in stabilizing their life.

No matter how small one is earning,if we re prudent with it,it will make a huge impact in our lives rather than spending it on pleasing or sleeping around with women.

Not just that but one will be critical in thinking & become creative in achieving set goals which is impossible when one is overwhelmed with girlfriends matter.

It is not a curse but we guys can never progress if we continue like this.

If in d process of hustling,we re fortunate to ve a responsible & an understanding girlfriend,good for us but If we don't, let"s keep on fighting for our future until we re ready to take our time to look for a wife & settle down.

We can't blame d opportunistic babes b'cos they don't put a gun to our head to give them money but it is us the guys that stupidly out of lust spend on them as they demand outrageously,thereby draining our future.

Guys,pls let's think about this.

I am so delighted about d changes in my life which has prompted me to share this.

U can try living a life without a high maintenance girlfriend(s),with a non golding digging girlfriend & free of promiscuity to experience my joy.

The fact is that women seem to be the major setback for us guys & even married men who are incapable of caring for their wives & children,not just bad leaders & government but we don't notice it.

Infact,d money we guys spend on women biz can be equalled to d budget of several states put together & it is our future & prosperity we re wasting.

Let's exhibit some self control and experience a great turnaround in our lives.

My brother, u re right..Women biz is really a challenge to d progress of guys.
We need to set priorities & pray for a good & dedicated wife.

Pls,I need an Abuja based pretty female chat mate.
My WhatsApp number is-08168078050

Walewestt:
Dude !!! I've got same problem as well but this is what I'll try in 2020, All this girls(the obvious hoes) they always know their friends that are hoes or not( the beautiful ones that believe in love, clam and won't cheat), so my best guess would be finding the best way to make the hoes find you a non-hoe, but it's all very risky but it's one way sha, other advice would come later, just make sure she has no ties with her ex, just bounce...and bro it's 2020(or almost) all girls are expensive, except you like ondo babes...

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Ifakiland:
Number one rule for a guy, never invest too much on a girl dat you find it difficult to end things with her. The reason most guys wail and cry about a girls misbehaviour is cos they've invested too much to let go. For instance if you take a girl out and buy her only a bottle of coke and meat pie, if she doesn't call you again it won't be as painful as having bought her Chinese dinner and den no call. Follow this rule and with time you will find a girl dat loves you for you and not what yoy can provide her.

On point Brother.U will even be trying to spend more to keep her...chai...
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Hmm,my brother,I am with you o on this pretty babes matter.D ones that I ve dated are always under pressure from guys.
Their phone is busier than MTN"s customer care line.They are always swaped with guys & it can be very annoying.
Dating a pretty girl is a big challenge o,especially for d narcissistic ones.
U won't even know when they are lying saying d truth % when they are cheating.
If u ve d courage to bash them at random,then u can b'cos heartbreak is killing but u might end up spending more.

FrLukas:
I don't know what other advice you are looking for unless you are a troll opening a female-bashing thread just for the fun if it.

She has told you her mind.

If it isn't compatible with yours jump and pass.

You don't need to open a thread on Nairaland for something as commonsensical as that.

Look for a female that shares your values. Can't be that hard now, right?

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Heroclitus:
Nature should have made it three genders from the beginning, the male, the female and the other one.


Constant and consistent pairing between males and the other gender would probably help change this daft orientation within some females


Now,we'll have to live with this

MrBrownJay1:
such woman should be feared and left alone. they are are simply ungrateful undercover oloshos who will always go for the highest bidder. even if you give her all she desires, some dude who have a bit more than you (to offer her) will easily woo her away from you.

such babe have NO standards, money will turn them into what they really are.... OLOSHOS!

***spit on floor***

Hmm

There is girl I like & having been trying to get close to her in d last two weeks.She is a graduate who finished serving last year & don't ve a job yet.

Though,am yet to tell her my intention for her as am still observing her for a serious relationship,but it is also likely that she has an inkling of my interest in her.

So,while we were 2gether with my female cousin thru whom I met her at a recreational centre,we had d opportunity to be sitted without my cousin cousin.

As we were discussing,she made two points that is making me have a rethink due to my past toxic experiences.

First,she said if she will ve to date a guy,that will lead to marriage,it must be a guy who is willing & capable to take care of her.That d guy must not be stingy & that it must not be a guy who will seem to have d money but not willing to spend it on her as she wants,but must know that there is money & see that d money is being spent.

Second,she said it is when d man spends on his woman to her satisfaction,that is when d man can be guaranteed of d woman's loyalty.That it is when a woman lacks her needs,that d woman will be disloyal to her man.

Then I I told that most of our 9ja babes are just greedy & never satisfied with whatever their man spends on them,that sometimes they even demand for what d man can't afford like expensive iphones,clothes,human hair & all that.

Then she replied me,saying that b'4 she goes into a relationship with any guy which every other woman shld also do is to discuss her standard,class & needs with d man & if she realizes that d man can't take care of her adequately,she won't accept him.

My response to her response was silence,while I was thinking why she shld reason that way.

While all of us want comfort,shld a man"s pocket size & ability to provide a woman's insatiable wants be d aim of having a serious relationship or love & companionship?

Does it mean that if d man goes broke & unable to provide,that is a license for d woman to cheat for her needs?

Though d babe talks nicely & she is pretty as well but am confused if I shld go ahead or back out?

I need ur advice pls.

08186010552

My name is Tola,33.I need a decent girlfriend in Abuja for a serious relationship.

I am willing to care for her adequately,as long as she is not excessively demanding.

My WhatsApp line is:08168078050.

My name is Tola,33.I need a decent girlfriend in Abuja for a serious relationship.

I am willing to care for her adequately,as long as she is not excessively demanding.

My WhatsApp line is:08168078050.

bro4u:
D

Hmmm.....

maximusprime2000:
esp. those broke girls dat slays on whatsapp, fb, etc. hunger has blinded them from seeing true love. wen u show them small love they turn you to maga. oloshos are better than dem. spit on their grave. im just geting over one lately who will only reply my chat weneva she want to demand smt forming lover girl. the country is messed up really.

Newguyhere:
Welcome to the red pill community brother.

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Toseenlove:
First of all, I felicitate with u on this well deserved Victory. But what baffles me most Is "Nairaland Is Just A Little Portion" Of the stupid and gullible people"MEN/BOYS" we have out there. I'm sure u guys understand what I mean. Only If u are aware of how many gullible, uninformed, stupid Men/Boys are still In Shackles of these Serpents, Leeches, Pretenders, Hungry, Deceptive, Beings ehn. I know some Men/Guys whom at the mere sight of a Lady/Pussy and they will lose balance and easily get carried away and can even go to the extent of emptying their bank accounts or do anything to Impress these Leeches. Even we still have them In abundance here on nairaland. Those who would codedly PM them on lowkey. Mind u Leeches, I'm not a Misogynist. But I hate all those bad habit I mentioned up there which many Nigerian Ladies falls Into. These days the highest I can go when It comes to these leeches Is admire them from afar and It ends there. There are so many adventure In life to explore and enjoy than adding a complex problem to your career all In the name having Girlfriend/Wife.

Abi o

Mekenz:
virtually all girls in nija rite now has that entitlement mentality, hence if you must date them, you have to step up your games, (street wise) if you want to do anything that will be beneficial to them,do it just because you want to do it,without expectations. nobody should cajole you in doing something that you feel it's beyond you. if she teases you, tease her time's2, if she call you broke, tell her she is very funny and laugh out loud. if she tax you monetary, redirect the tax to her,tell her that something good is coming up,that you needs her prayers to sail through, always tax her to be praying for you. she won't even want to ask for anything again. you needs some scopes and orientations to vibe well with the ladies of today, without that, you will always cry foul.

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Mekenz:
virtually all girls in nija rite now has that entitlement mentality, hence if you must date them, you have to step up your games, (street wise) if you want to do anything that will be beneficial to them,do it just because you want to do it,without expectations. nobody should cajole you in doing something that you feel it's beyond you. if she teases you, tease her time's2, if she call you broke, tell her she is very funny and laugh out loud. if she tax you monetary, redirect the tax to her,tell her that something good is coming up,that you needs her prayers to sail through, always tax her to be praying for you. she won't even want to ask for anything again. you needs some scopes and orientations to vibe well with the ladies of today, without that, you will always cry foul.

Adamumd:
I thought i was the only one that has received sense, infact a lady called me stingy recently because I was unable to dispense cash a week ago when she demanded for money.
What baffled me was the fact i so much respected this lady and saw her as a good responsible lady only to find out she's just one of the many gold digger looking for who to dupe.
There's really nothing like a productive relationship in our time, most relationships re just waste of time.
Most if not all of this ladies re hustlers sleeping around codedly with guys all in the name of relationship.
I'm babeless as i am now and am enjoying it, my money, energy and everything is directed to productive things, when am ready to settle down, ll look for one fine virgin girl and marry.
Worse part is if we all decide to lock up, this girls ll be the one to suffer it more esp when they clock 25 above and it's only those sugar daddies patronazing them now that ll keep draining them till they begin to look like sugar mummies themselves.

08186010552