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Dark clouds

marbee:
If wives can take their mother in laws as their own mother and mother in laws do the same there will be no problems, instead of looking at each other as rivals.Everybody have their own roles to play and they are different persons nobody can interchange each others place, both of them are important.

you see now my dear, that's the thing...
I sometimes think that the female species (a large percentage ) have been hard wired to compete amongst themselves;

female friends vs female friends
mother vs wife

if only ...

beeevan:
A mother doesn't know her son better like you said, a wife does, a son can pretend before his mum so as not to offend her. Nevertheless, both mother and DIL should know that is no competition, wives should encourage their husbands to be there for their mums, its not easy giving up ones son. A good MIL should not exceed her boundaries, unfortunately/ fortunately your son is 1 with another, treat her with love and you did have both son and daughter in them.

well, a son that will pretend for as long as 20 years counting from adolescent age should as well assume that life of pretense, however, if the mother after all the years spent together with the son before he becomes someones' husband and still doesn't know her son, I wonder how the wife can.

If I understand your concept of "understanding" with respect to the context, then, I believe the problem lies with the son and not the mother. I bet the wife would face similar difficulty as the mother.

Good thoughts though!

moca:
Abeg enough of all these comparism threads!
R u all kids?
What about dads abi we dont have wonderful dads?
What about bad and mean mothers?

And while u r at it, u can marry ur mother or call ur wifey mother.

mummy or daddy issues, which one of them is yours?

And who said the sole purpose of the thread is comparison?
The focal points here is the husband, the ability to balance the scale between the two most important women in his life accordingly, if you have anything to say about wonderful dads or bad and mean mothers, well, by all means... share your thoughts!

simplyOJ:
Mothers and wives play great roles in the lives of their sons and husbands. The greater task lies with the man in trying to balance this relationship between his wife and mom. Both women for one reason or the other tries to get the attention of the man; it is the responsiblity of the man to establish the right foundation of relationship between his wife and mom.

One very key issue is mutual respect. The man should let mama know he is married now and his first loyalty goes to his wife and immediate family, while letting wifee know that this is mama and will always remain mama and no amount of contention and antagonism will make him renounce his mother. Yes, there may be instances where some mothers inlaw are bent on frustrating their daughters inlaw, that not withstanding, if you as a wife are on the same page with your husband, give her time, she will come around. Dont also forget, you're a daughter inlaw today, you will be a mother inlaw tomorow. If you want to eat maize tomorow, plant it today. Do unto others, what you would want be done unto you. Patience is the key, mamas are old and there is the tendencies to act childish at-times, over look it and show some love, you will be suprise how easy you will win them over.

I just kept wondering why sons inlaw and fathers inlaw are not having these fights too.

I totally agree and can relate to that, and about the bold, I wonder too myself , maybe it's em been men.
All this wives and mothers have the tendency to nag alot and to them, maybe everything is a competition; He's my son... He's my husband ish..

SuperMartins:
This is strictly for d mature-in-heart peeps..leme await their comments 1st..

lol, but meanwhile, you've booked a space uh?

A good number of people place blame on mother-in-laws for being too hostile to their son's wife, and others say that the wife is being excessively ungrateful to the older woman. Even when there appears to be no battle between the two ladies...small sparks of tension are born under the surface.

The mother raised the man to fruition, she loves him more than anyone in the world. The wife needs him more, he's the man of her life.

The mother wants the son to be there when she grows old and tired. The wife is only starting her journey and can't face the challenges of the world on her own.

The mother knows her son better than anyone else. The wife is the one who shares the man's daily situations.

The mother is experienced and can give a lot of advice to the son. The wife is the one who shares the man's principles and ideas and together they plan their life.

The mother will do anything for her son. The wife will do anything for her husband.

To me, there's nobody to blame. Mothers would like to see their sons every single day because of the great love they have for them. It depends on the situation. Some mothers are widows, they are lonely and need to be checked on every single day. Some wives are orphans, or their fathers live so far away, so her husband is the only man in her life and the only one to protect her.

The mother had her experience in marriage and raising kids...now it's the wife's turn. That's why a man should live and eat with his wife when they get married rather than his mother. But his mother remains the most deserving of his kindness.

My personal opinion is young people, men or women, need space to work out their lives so they'd be eager to return to their roots when they grow a bit, instead of being eager to break free from their parents forever, a lot of people get married only to break free of their parents control.

Please share your thoughts. If you're a mother, do you feel that your son is taken away from you by his wife or that she's unworthy of him? And to wives, Is your husband sometimes absent in important periods/ moments of your life because he stays too often with his family (mother) ?

For whatever reason I seem to have this sentimental attachments to cats, when it comes to making a choice between a cat and a dog, am always going to be bias.

Don't get me wrong, I love dogs too ( I mean, I have so much of em amongst them is the wolf breed; my favorite ) and a lot of folks out there think cats are always shy and scared. They always tend to be evasive, but when push came to shove, I found my Dog running for his dear life and my cat seemingly happens to be hunter .

Cat all the way menh...

windows 10, apparently as anticipated is a correction to the flaws found on the windows 8. for starters, having the old windows icon at the bottom left is a plus. it runs seemingly faster and a lot smoother compared to the windows 8.
Borrowing from Apple's OS X, Microsoft has finally introduced multiple desktops, this is something that PowerPC users have been craving for as it is easier to work on different projects simultaneously

Most importantly for the nerds out there, Microsoft has introduced the copy and paste functionality in windows 10's command prompt.
More also, the size of the command prompt window can now be extended by both the length and the breadth. ( I find it alot more flexible)

And its just wonderful how you can customize the file explorer and whats not.

They are still a few glitches on the windows 10 ( what do you expect, its just a technical preview release) but subsequent updates would take it to the promise land

This early morning...

endie44:


I get it. but i'm a natural introvert by nature..I've been trying really i have.. it not easy for someone like me to keep conversations going and interesting.

is that you are shy or you are timid, which one of them is the case?

chimhigher:
Pals,Ive bin Dating Ds Gurl 4 2 months now,I go 2 ha House n Fridays cos ha mom nd Dad do come bk Late on Friday...D problem is,she do gve signs buh m 2 shy,i jes act lyk a Good Guy buh deep down,i wanna bleep ha a33 out so ryt now she sees me as a gud guy nd dnt show any "ON HEAT" Sign again..pls guys i need a good technique 2 carry out ma plan..Ds Gud Boi Don Tire me abeg

so let's say you were able to somehow execute your plan, after that, what next?

am a samsung fan, but the xperia Z or Z1 is better, i mean, i'd always the love the premium feel that comes with that phone

Uchiha Madara: God bless me with an understanding wife, so that when I tell her that our honeymoon is in Benin (not Paris, SA, Itally...), she won't slap me.

Very funny post you have made, but what is most interesting is your id, Uchiha Madara, are you also planning on achieving project tsuki no me in nairaland

pymexy s.:
1. white queen(c7)-c1(check!);black bishop(d2)*white queen(c2)
2. white knight(d5)-c3(check!);black king(b1)-a1
3. white rook(g2)*pawn(a2)(checkmate!)

nice, i love females that plays chess shows how much brain power they posses

Fahrenheit

passionate88: O my God!. Na which kind of girls we get for this country called Nigeria?. She fit dey form secondary virgin for the suitor while she dey do royal rumble outside. True true Jesus wept

am curious what do you mean by secondary virgin? is that what you call it

WTF!!! The samsung galaxy note 3 should be number one

Chloekim: Congrats man. But the truth remains that Nigerian airspace is not safe

i will take my chances by road,

tm-tech:
This ARAB rich dudes sabi good thing ....dem no too dey save money or carry money go put for foreign accounts... Rather, they spend anyhow or invest .....

Atimes
Being dead broke is the root of all evil

Get Money My Nigga, Do good with your People...