seanwilliam:
shut up your dirty mouth. That you’re married to my brother doesn’t give you the temerity to treat him anyhow and throw caution out of window. we’re related by blood and I’m closer to him than you are. ‘no matter the bonds you share with him, you’re still an outsider. If something bad happens to him you can deny him and go your way but someone like me won’t do that !. If that’s how you treat your own husband all in the name of love , fine! But it won’t work with me.
This is Africa. No come Dey form americana for someone like me, I go over embarrass u.

I will put mouth instantly and if my brother is not ok with that then I will shut up by mouth and will never visit them again!.

Mind you, I don’t visit anyone except I’m invited and I rarely honor invitation self. Not all in laws are jobless like yours!


As regards to widow, I have no business poke-nosing in that regards. She’ll be the one to handle her husband’s stuff in order to take care of their children and I will do what I’m supposed to do to support them. Also par-adventure they never had kids together until his demise, then we will have to follow his wills and order.




He’s your husband but he’s my brother first .

Augustwife:
I had to open a new moniker so I can rant in peace. My head is full, so it's going to be a long post .

I got married to the love of my life 2017 (we started dating 2009) and we have two wonderful children.
He loves me (I know for sure), doesn't cheat too and my in-laws are the most wonderful people on earth ( my mil especially).

We have a joint business but the bad part :he is addicted to alcohol.

He wasn't like this before we got married, he used to drink occasionally so I can't really tell how we got here.

It's so bad that he can't go a day without it. Once he can't lay his hands on alcohol he will begin to shiver like a malaria patient.

This addiction has gotten us into debts that I had to pay with my savings on several occasions.

I'm talking of debts of 120k, 167k, 136k e.t.c. He's takes several loans from loan sharks , drinks like no tomorrow.

He has wrecked ourbbusiness and only with the help of God was I able to rebuild It by taking loans and paying back.

We even decided he gets a job so he can be more responsible but after working for a year he had nothing to show for it.

Twice his parents had to take him to a therapist but it was all in vain as he would go back to drinking.

My head is scattered,I can't think straight, it's making me hate him. I tried leaving a few weeks ago , I went back to my mother's house but trust my mama, she begged me to go back and my mother in-law too.

I don't even know what to do, my mental life is zero, I have withdrawn from everyone, I'm practically in poverty due to this addiction
He is a wonderful man BUT this addiction is a very big problem. We have prayed, fasted, gone to doctors but it's still there.

I don't know what to do .

moreplay:
Good morning, Congratulations and best of luck on your interview. Please I now have the same problem as you did with the EA, please can you tell me how you got a new date. I I'm supposed to resume for fall 2022 but my current date it Apr 2023, the Emergency Appointment option is not available anymore.

Ebi1:
Hi everyone. So my family and I just got our visas! I’m f1. Husband is F2 and child F2. I had a child in the U. S back in 2019. The lady who interviewed us was scary. Lol. African American. We wer praying for the white lady to interview us cus she was nice to others especially students… but yea we got the African American lady. She thrilled us! Lol first question- why University of Saint Thomas? I told her that’s where I got my master of liberal Arts degree from back in 2014 and the school does more than teaching, it focuses on morals and ethics and it’s a tight knit community cause it’s a small school that makes it easy to interact with lecturers … She then asked when last I visited the US… I said 2019. She said how long did I stay? I said 5 months. She said why did I stay for that long? I said cus I gave birth. She asked if I told the consulate officer that I was going to give birth? I said yes I was taken through secondary interrogation where I showed them my doctor’s invitation letter and receipt of hospital bill… I then had to back track and explained how I went for my sister’s graduation and during the visit I had to do a doctor’s routine checkup. Then the doctor told me he could help me through the pregnancy with ease as I had gestational diabetes that he wanted to control through diet…. So long story short, she said my visa was revoked when my husband applied for his visa while I was in the U. S then. I told her I wasn’t aware that it was revoked because I didn’t commit any offense. That The consular officer then thought I wasn’t going to come back and that I have no reason to overstay. Then she said ok. Do you know that it’s now illegal for foreigners to give birth in the U.S that hope I don’t plan on having kids during my program. My husband and I said no o that we have two for now and we are ok until after the program…. Then she asked Who will be sponsoring your program? I said my dad. Then she asked what he did. I told her… she then faced my husband and asked what he does… my husband said he has a restaurant… then I whispered to him to add Cotonou that our restaurant is in Cotonou… then he added it. Lol. She asked who will be running it when we travel… he said he has staffs that run the business. She said staff as in? He said he has staff and a brother that will be running it on his behalf. Then she typed and faced me again. What do I plan to do with the program… I said to add to my current business which is for African youths and that I plan to use my doctor of education program to create a training institute for young adults… plus she asked if I had any relatives in the US. I said yes two sisters. She asked if my two sisters are citizens. I said no they are non immigrants. She said what are they doing there. I said one is on H1B and the other is a student. oh I forgot to mention that she noticed I didn’t write my full name when asked for other names used… I thought I was meant to write any other name I’ve been called so I used my short name and maiden name instead of using my full name… anyways she was like she was going to correct it manually from her end…. So yea she gave us the Visa… we packed soooo many documents and she didn’t even care to look down at any… I even tried to show her some , she didn’t even look; she was just looking at the system…

fairheart:


Well, you can cancel and move your appointment location (where you wish to be interviewed) to the second embassy.
Alternatively, people are booking dates on daily basis. At least, someone I know booked yesterday for Abuja.

Do not pay a new visa fee yet as that would be too much. You can still get a standard date without the need to use the emergency option.
One technique I do share in with my students is, to check try times a day. Early morning, afternoon, and midnight. Do these every day between the two embassies. Also, there's still time and I am sure you will get a date. So, relax and don't pay a new fee yet.

All the best

Moshkom:
Quick one guys,

As your ‘May date’ is fast approaching, don’t forget to keep preparing towards the date/day.

You are the applicant, you should know the kind of preparation that works for you, general mock, self videos mock, transcript p/reviews, YouTubing etc.

Thank you for all you do in this forum.

Please I need your advice.
I'm in a dilemma.

So my husband and I booked US Visa appointments.
Note: My husband is F1 with 3 dependents (me and our two kids).
We have full funding.

However we made a mistake of applying for emergency visa outside of our '60days to start date' window and we were denied.
We took this decision because a friend of ours did same and he was approved.

Now our regular appointment is for Feb. 2023.
And the emergency appointment option is no longer displaying in our dashboard.
What should we do ...

Can we cancel the appointment and pay a fresh visa fee...will it guarantee that the emergency window will come back?

Or any other solution we can choose.

Thank you in advance for your kind response

Preparation is key. You don’t just wait and be expecting miracle. Embassy ‘atmosphere’ is entirely different that if you don’t go prepared, your hands might fall and “e go shock you”. �

Aside preparation, make sure everything you’re coming with is set and corresponded. Your locations both on visa portal and ds160 be same, your application numbers on both should be same etc.

As the applicant; you should know that the VO ‘usually’ judge these ways:

GENUINE - Are you here with a good school or so? I mean, there are some schools that are ‘red flags’ to the VOs. Mostly, Colleges or so. Applying to the ‘wrong’ schools clearly shows that you’re trying to Japa because they the VO knows that there are more than 4k right schools in The US. So, no excuse from you.

LIABILITY - Are you going there to be a liability to their country. That’s where FUNDING stuff comes in, and reason why most FULLY FUNDED guys get it easily. If you don’t have that, not a crime; just make sure you package your source of sponsorship well and clear for the VO to understand that you won’t be a liability.

HOME TIE: They want to KNOW not just hear, that you’ve something that would bring you back to your country. That’s where WORK and FAMILY (mostly married guys) comes in. Like, you can’t say you’re not currently working and/or not married and expect the VO you might likely come back (putting other factors in place, don’t get me wrong). �

F1: Be ready for more convincing ‘talks’ within few mins, extra supporting docs might not be asked. You CONVINCE the VO not ‘replying’ him/her.

F2: Extra supporting docs would be asked, come along with that and with small convincing talks. �

Oh! Grace factor? Ok. But also prepare for it to happen or work towards your Grace yourself.

For those coming to from different part to Abuja. Air and Roads are safe, don’t let anyone discourage or put fear on you. �

Air: Green Africa and Overland seems to be cheapest airlines atm. 27k and above I guess.

Road: sincerely ABC, GIG and co are the most convenient. 12k or so.

Accommodation: there are cheap hotels close to the embassy, of 5-10k range.

Most, Uber fee within Abuja are of 1k range, so from your hotel to the embassy won’t be more than 1k at most. Unless, it’s an airport trip which are mostly 3k or so.

If you seems lost, kindly reach out to me, I can easily recommend hotels and Uber guys within the City. �

Lastly, kindly know that in this path, IT IS ZERO EMOTIONS. You leave your emotions and expectations at your Fav location not in this path. It’s 50/50 just for you to know. If the other ‘50’ happens, take it and move on, you’re not a failure or anything. You come again later. Be like, Burna Boy who reFired to Grammy from African Giant album to TAT, and won it in his 2nd attempt by not giving up. �

BE PRAYERFUL and HOPEFUL.

“God No Go Shame Us”

Good Luck!

- MOSHKOM

Osof:
You can request for emergency date 3 times using the same mrv

Captaintitan:
most of us going for fall 2022 are yet to get a closer date , just keep checking the available dates or better still join a WhatsApp group to monitor the available dates together , in a situation where closer available dates don’t show up ;select any available date and use the emergency appointment option

Tinafusty:

Wait for your original appointment or keep checking for available date everyday,or u can pay another Visa fee and try again

Gdine:
Good morning ya all. If you will like to have your interview at Abuja Embassy this fall 2022, and you are in search of date, do well by reaching out to me so you will be added to the Abuja search for date Group, Thank you.

fairheart:


3 people in my group shared your post with me. You are not a nice person bro, and it is people like you that turn soft people to cold one. When you contacted me, I remember giving you quality time to discuss your case. I didn't even tell you to pay me until you ask me if I can help you. I clearly told you I was busy as I have personal works I needed to attend to and you need me to come on board to better prepare you for the next interview, you'd pay. I remember sighting 3 examples of Nigerians that were refused in Turkey and was told to come to Nigeria for their visas and they got it upon applying in Nigeria. They are on this thread. When I advised, I picked from experience of other applicants. I never said you cannot get your visa with your wife. I said you may need to drop her and apply first then she can join later. There's nothing in my chat with you that was negative or that said you cannot get your visa with your wife. So, why are you posting these about me? I remember telling you you can try and see how it goes. I have never told anyone they can't get their visas. I have been refused several times too, so what are you saying? You're an adult and should do things truthfully. You simply wanted to join the league of bitter Nairalanders.

I charged you 50K because that is how I test the type of people that come to my DM. A lot of people come to my DM for assistance, and I have had to assist majority without kobo. When I feel like placing a price tag on my time, those who genuinely value my time open up; those who have paid.

Not giving up worked for you; Congratulations.

chocome:
Good evening ma'ams here is the last roll call for June mamas, although most of us are yet |to announce there birth, I pray for a successful delivery for them and all the MAMAS here, we will Love to hear from all of you even though our month has gone by.

I was supposed to post my BS today but I was so busy during the day and postantal clinic took a lot of my time hoping to post it tomorrow

Special thanks to everyone here special who made this journey a memorable one for us.

Roll call for the last day of June


1.chocome ___EDD June 15__team pink__ Delivered June 10 @6:20 pm√. present

2. Anisef ___EDD June 10__team pink

3. MissFree ___EDD June 18__ team blue__Delivered June 1st @11pm √___ B S Submitted

4. Orangb ___EDD June 7__ team blue

5. Goldie50 ___EDD June 7__ team pink__Delivered June 1st √__B S submitted

6. Bibbzz ___EDD June 29

7. best1708 ___EDD June 8 __team XY__Delivered June 16√__B S submitted

8. Sexymum1 ___EDD June24__ team pink__Delivered June 18√

9. Wetsmoke ___EDD June1__team pink __Delivered June 5 √ __ B S Submitted

10. EbyFloxy ____EDD June 10__team blue__Delivered June 7 √

11. AbbynHummy___EDD June 11, team pink __Delivered June 19

12. AbleGodDidIt ____ EDD June 30, team XY

13. Alennsar ____EDD June 1__ team Blue Delivered June 19__B S submitted

14. Rosh83_____EDD June

15. Jogurl_____ EDD June 28__ team XX __Delivered June 25√ baby girl

16. Tessyj4______ EDD June 12 __team?

17. Tyhgfrdeswscbhf ____ EDD June 21 __team xx Delivered June 7√

18. PecAbby_____EDD June 29 __team surprise

Where is PecAbby, Tessyj4, Rosh83, Anisef, Orangb, Bibbzz, and AbleGodDidIt, we would really love to hear from you all.

This is me June cappo un behalf of my fellow June mamas handing over the baton to July cappo Ayauche with Love

Awesomemama:


Its not easy at all. Do your best and leave the rest
House work nor dey finish
You'll be fine mama

MummyD2020:


This is not even two under two. Its two under 18months. Lol My dear sister, it will end in praise. Just try you r best and dont stress too much. Do the ones you can and leave the rest. Rest well. The Lord is your strength. I made up my mind that if i dont see a helper, i will stop here biko. I have a 4 year old and a 7 months old. You shall deliver like the Hebrew women. Amen

chocome:
Good morning ma'ams am here again,I pray for save delivery to all of us in this group. Amen

Rollcall for the second week of June.

1. chocome ___June 15. team surprise

2. Anisef ___June 10. team pink

3. MissFree ___June 18 team blue delivered June 1st 11pm √

4. Orangb ___June 7 team blue

5. Goldie50 ___June 7 team pink delivered June 1st √
6. Bibbzz ___June 29

7. best1708 ___June 8 team XY

8. Sexymum1 ___June24 team XX

9. Wetsmoke ___June1 team pink delivered June 7 √

10. EbyFloxy ____June 10 team blue

11. AbbynHummy___ June 11 team surprise

12. AbleGodDidIt ____ June 30 sex unknown

13. Alennsar ____ June 1 team unknown

14. Rosh83_____ June

15. Jogurl_____ June 28 team XX

16. Tessyj4______ June 12 team?

17. Tyhgfrdeswscbhf ____ June 21 team xx delivered June 7√

Congratulations to all the Nursing mothers for you have been promoted, Pls try and give us your BS so that we can learn from it and celebrate with you.
�

Honeysweetest:
your baby is teething,is not as a result of any food change,drugs might be good,did not use for my baby,the thing is tiring,u keep changing diaper,but don't worry,it will stop.

Omakraid:

Could it be that he wants to or has started teething? Cos I know some babies pass stool when their teething process is about to start. Keep him hydrated always and you can take him to the clinic to prevent being too worried

zaynie:




Is your baby much better now?
I'm sorry, I was off NL for some days.

angeltolly:


Does the poo sink completely into the diaper? Please you can stop the SMA for now till poo normalise but breastfeed him more. I know of raw pap therapy but i don't if a 6 months old can use it.

Limahgirl:
Can I do the same for my two months old baby? What of bitter leaf? @ PecAbby, did you try this? Did it work?
Cc
LadySarah
PecAbby

LadySarah:


Rub aloe Vera juice on the mittens. Very bitter things.
My son sucks his hands and I must tell you its something I hate so much but dh refused me to stop him claiming hell stop on his own but he didn't.He'd never suck unless at midnight when really hungry. I suffered engorgement several times.
Recently I went gangster on him when his teeth start curving inwards.now they fell off at 4plus. Imagine!

Try biko!

Nameflow:
The young man seems to be having fun.. Lol. I personally believe that you should try substituting his thumb with your nipple. In other words, when you see him sucking his thumb allow him breastfeed. Also consider timed feeding even though as much as he would take. Possibly every 3 hours...

Regarding caput what I believe he has is Cephahematoma, it will get absorbed and dissolve gradually most definitely before he's one since it is already becoming hard.

zaynie:



This mention got lost jn my sea of mentions and only hit pushed up again with others quoting it


1. Get him Mittens to wear. You don't want a sucking baby, they don't like eating, AT ALL! It also ruins their dentition, so curb it while you can.

2. When he's sucking, does he get enough milk? Sometimes when the sucking is hard on them, it discourages them. Some babies are lazy suckers.
I'll advise you to pump the milk out and feed him with bottles. He should suck like 4 times a day then support with bottles.

3. He's 4m means he'll soon start complimentary feeding, he might just be looking for a change of meals. Lol.

4. Keep calm, children's feeding pattern are mostly related to growth spurts. At this age, their body metabolism determines how hungry they get so when his metabolism is in full drive, he'll eat a lot and you'll see the effect in a growth spurt. After reaching the peak of his spurt, he slows down metabolism and his feeding pattern will slow down too.


Try the bottle and see if you can rule out the sucking issue first.
If he rejects bottle, try spoon.
If he ejects both, get a formula for him and see if he'll accept it.
I know it's your dream to ebf but if the person you want to ebf for says no, maami, you have to change tactics for his sake.

I have no idea about caput, sorry.
Good luck.

rvpbae:
PecAbby


Around this time, it is quite normal for some babies. They are now aware of their environment, every sound and movement interests them.

When you want to feed, take him to a quiet room with dim lights. Alternatively, you can express and spoon feed or bottle feed. Also at this point, you might notice he sucks more at night, kinda making up for the scanty feeding during the day.

About the pain, maybe he is superman

tyhgfrdeswscbhf:
Mama's abeg my baby of 3 months plus has not pooped for like 2 days now and is really disturbing him. Biko any remedy