prettysassygirl:

I like the fact that you broke up with him because he has no vision. Mehn u can't even begin to imagine the trauma you would go through in marriage with a lazy ,arrogant and vision less man. The other reason is a totally different ball game. Girl you need to reset your brain, you being in a relationship doesn't mean u must earn money from your partner. Entitlement mentality is something we Nigerian girls should get rid of. You are not his responsibility.
If he wants to give you money on your birthday,its totally fine, but it has to be his decision and not a demand from you. Did you buy anything for him on his birthday? When did love turn to meal ticket and poverty alleviation program? Please change your mindset and be an independent lady.

I will never regret asking my boyfriend for money . For a year I hvnt really asked him for anything, n he didn’t use he’s senses! So I shouldn’t ask , to clear all doubt. I hv heard you .

Donwoosky:
I taya for some girls abeg... When I started reading your lines I thought it's my girlfriend that wrote that because we had almost same issue today just read mine.

Lockdown affected by job bitterly I spent almost all the cash on my savings account within few weeks apart from my fixed, when we left home she really supported me infact she spent times 3. On our coming back we work separate places. This morning around 10 she called to remind me of her birthday which I know is next week she asked what will I give her I openly told her that I don't have money now and I have her in mind but if money comes before then I must get her a gift but if it doesn't I can't kill myself. This afternoon God just did it and I cashed out... up till now I haven't called her to tell her I got some money or something I kept it for myself because I know what's on my mind... Note July is my birthday. I'm the kind that will never do teaching jobs because my both parents are teachers and I have my reasons for that. So babe your guy is not lazy he might have some side hustle that gets him cool cash more than the teaching job. And he might have a surprise for you don't just run into the conclusion of breaking up your relationship because of ordinary birthday surprise unless you're fed up and have other cogent reason's.

the birthday issue isn’t the main reason . Just that the birthday issue is so annoying and still fresh

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pocohantas:


You don’t tell him what you EXPECT on your birthday. You don’t do that. It reeks of entitlement and everything a sane human shouldn’t do.

u are not dating him , I am. u speak base on ur own relationship and life in general , But I bet u can’t deal with my boyfriend for even 6months . But yes o find faults . I shouldn’t tell my boyfriend what I want for my birthday! Someone who hasn't given be nothing for a year, and still didn’t use his mind ?? Nah I don’t agree with ur perspective.

lefulefu:
u said he has no focus and ambition.why not break up with him and date a guy who is focused and ambitious..or is his d!ck that good?

Enwhen:



Babe you must first of all know what you want , does he have it ?, He is working towards it ?, Have u ask him ?, How have u help him to achieve it ?, Is his friends a better motivator for him ?... It is clear u both don't understand yourselves... And if u go ahead like this u would have problem after marriage , on who will take care of this and that ... If u have answers the questions above , u should know what is more important than birthday , that people come and drink and eat your money and u start struggling again , thesame mistake he made , u also want to make same .


Imagine , he don't have a job he is celebrating birthday and people are taking bottles in his bills, people who may have money than him, is that is last birthday ?, If u people don't celebrate birthday will they arest u ?.. there is time for everything... Is it the time to start celebrating birthday with money ?, Who are you trying to impress ? As what investment it is to u?.... Let it not be money that is enough to even start up somethinh that u people are spending for birthday and yet he don't have job...



If he don't have sense , u have to talk sense into him ....and if the both of u don't have sense, is a big problem .

there is one of his friends I don’t like , treats him anyhow. I told him to give the guy chance , he said that’s his best friend. He hardly listens to me

pocohantas:
You told him what you will EXPECT on your birthday? The effrontery.

Positive chick indeed. So, because a baby boy didn’t give you money for birthday, he suddenly has no vision?

You that have vision, your problem in life is to celebrate birthday ba? Mtcheeew.

I don’t even want to celebrate. I just wanted him to send me some money , no matter how little . Jeez

There is so many reasons I said he had no vision , u don’t need to know everything

Bobby4345:
Our graduates of today.
Please are you really teaching our kids?.


He's = he is, and not his.
Dim = lack of light
Dime = A US coin equivalent to 10 cents.

YOU'RE A GRADUATE

yes I am , I write better than I type, I don’t really think much , sometimes I write trash , while thinking bout two things at a time,,U won’t even believe what I even studied. It’s an error. If u don’t understand it , fine

Rickylambert:
Your caption is misleading,u indirectly want him to get busy and take care of you.Or should hv not hv thrown a bash on his bday because urs was approaching.

I expected him to hv me at heart . I want him to get busy n take care of me as a man should. I am not broke neither am I from a poor home.

victorazyvictor:




Women!
Is he your father or husband?
Why so dependent on him.

He fit blow tomorrow o!

Na so Mayoku girlfriend left him after 2 weeks the guy blow.

I am not dependent on him biko

lincs25:
Fake girls everywhere this days professing fake love that is built mainly on your money. I bought a piece of land 50x100 the money i was to settle comunity was about 70k. Now this parasite discover that i was having money and told her what the money was meant for and i actually go and settle the comunity. it turns to fight that i have money i don't want to spend on her and this is somebody that in a month if i did not spend money on her i will spend 30k. Guys wise up for this kind of girls, they are ready to eat your future away. In the bible God told man i will give you a helper not a parasite or dependant

the case of ur gf and me are two different situations . For a year now , that guy hasn’t given me anything up to 5k as a total sum. And I don’t even want to start counting Favors.

Beatswim:
aunty when you are 37 we will be waiting to help u pray for a better man.. Madam money over love... The guy too is tired of your endless Demands.. Please leave him to have some savings

I don’t even demand and he knows it . Financially I am okay, I work and I still got family by my side . So I lack nothing and demand nothing . I really want him to actually save , if he didn’t spend so much on he’s birthday, and told me hes saving for something. Trust me I won’t be bothered

Originalsly:
Hmmmm..... the future of the relationship rested on cash for birthday. Wow!

yes and othervises

Stevyne:

No mind the Lazy bitch

lazy? Like he feeds me or what ? What’s ur definition of a lazy person? I expected backlash from men like urself. Insults won’t change anything

Saintinoo:

Hunty you said he doesn't have vision nor aim and you want him to spend his scares resources(money) on your birthday.

I think you met you match, sorry but you both had no vision, did you advice him to look for good job? Try business? Learn a skill?

You are a graduate, what have you done for yourself?

u didn’t read my post

xendra:
I hate it when a girl thinks about wasting money for birthday, when you don't even really have the money.

far from it. The birthday was just an avenue to make my request. Not like I wanted to do a party . Every other day I feel like I hv no reason to ask .

Humanoid01:

Then you should have advised him to use the money for something meaningful. That's a good way to show that you care. Does this mean that when he gets a job and gets his first salary, the first thing you'll do is ask him for money?

he didnt tell me when he got the money , I just knew he had money , I know him , he didn’t want me to start calculating he’s spending or tell him what to do or not do . And he never denied he didn’t either . But still he didn’t discuss with me .

don’t expect me to start asking questions and start arguments . I don’t do that. Now the money is finished n he’s telling me long story . Doesn’t want to listen to anybody.

Paxie55:

He has no ambition or focus? What were you thinking to have stayed in such relationship?

Better move on with your life and look for some one with vision, and lastly, never date a stingy man; whether broke or not.

abi ? Thanks

Humanoid01:

But according to you, he doesn't have a good source of income, so how do you expect him to give, or even have to give? If he had a job and you know he earns well, and he decides not to give, I think that's a different case.

he doesn’t hv a steady source of income but this period he had some money and and spent all the money buying drinks and living like a big boy.

Humanoid01:

But it seems like the former is the main problem. In other words, you want him to get a job so he can take care of you, which means that you're indirectly pushing him for your own gratification.

Though he seems to be proud and has misplaced priorities, you also need to look at yourself and see what you're doing wrong. Stop demanding things from him like you're his sole responsibility.

nope , he does not do jack for me , not a single thing . This is the first time since almost a year I am asking him for money. He has chosen not to give , n I hv chosen to break up and focus on myself continue paying my bills without him .

StrongandMighty:

Since you're working take care of yourself, He's neither your father nor your husband.

okay.

Humanoid01:

What exactly is the problem? Is it that he doesn't take care of you or that he's not serious about getting a job?

both .

Spaceclenzy1:
Instead of Help him build himself ur here derailing a guy u said to be faithful on.. Bcoz he didn't send u money on ur birthday and u said to be working yet u didn't send him on his own birthday.... U must be an Ungratfull Human being

I should help him grow while he doesn’t take care of me , no matter how little. Am sorry I can’t do that .

Ladylite:

Wow, you have really suffered.
But are you sure you don't have low self esteem?

For you to cope and continue with a burden of a man, with a man who is proud enough not to hustle.

Babe, you should really study more books on relationship so you know that you are not in one, you are in a disaster waiting to happen.

Don't waste your time. Walk away, he may blow later or become rich... It does not matter. Go and watch the movie ACRIMONY... Then you will receive sense.

You are in a relationship with Covid19 in human form. Pls have self respect enough to leave and stay single till you meet a man that complements you.

thanks a lot , sometimes I was just hopeful, he is waiting for a big job. He isn’t even too serious about job searching ,it’s so passive to him , I don’t care if he’s a teacher , or a sales boy or a filling station attendant , just get busy. He said he can’t do it.

Spaceclenzy1:
Instead of Help him build himself ur here derailing a guy u said to be faithful on.. Bcoz he didn't send u money on ur birthday and u said to be working yet u didn't send him on his own birthday.... U must be an Ungratfull Human being

ungrateful that what ?

I broke up with my boyfriend today,

I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had, I served in a village. While we were serving he doesn’t give me much, I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place. He had a roommate and I didn’t. Before he gives me any money we always had issues, not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to. I don’t even ask for much.

After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year, got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up, his just passed, I told him that I would be expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday, that if money comes he will send but right now he has no money, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me, he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away and he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us.

Am tired, he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on his friends and it's annoying. I think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it. I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him. He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??