Today I learnt something. That to be great you have to be stingy.


Mogba Ahun Nimi
Eni ba temi je

lecturer50:
What surprises me is that immediately I got the job, my mom started having health challenges.

I have observed it several times in different people.

When they are able to make a breakthrough in life (like getting a good job, graduation, financial breakthroughs),

something bad (like sickness or death) would affect their relatives, either the mom,dad,son, daughter or any close relative.

Please who else has noticed this, and why must it be so?

no answer that ur Uncle about na watin he call himself....to be an African is a curse!

lecturer50:
What surprises me is that immediately I got the job, my mom started having health challenges.

I have observed it several times in different people.

When they are able to make a breakthrough in life (like getting a good job, graduation, financial breakthroughs),

something bad (like sickness or death) would affect their relatives, either the mom,dad,son, daughter or any close relative.

Please who else has noticed this, and why must it be so?

I have noticed it too. It wven happenwd to me. My mom died 3 months after i bought my first car in 2012.

Oga if you can afford it. Let ur mum come n stay with you for a while.

chatinent:
Bros, you are not from Bethlehem!


If I were you, I'll set up a provision store for mom to minimise the monthly expectations.

I can easily relate to what you mean.


Advise everyone of your relatives to go and WORK! Make them know you have your own life to live.


To be great, you have to be stingy.

Because if you fall now, those people will still abuse you that there's nothing you did from your Federal job for so and so years. They'll forget you helped them!

"To be great you have to be stingy" ?? Poorest thinking I have ever come across.

lecturer50:


True.

I called my mom and told her what my uncle said, she said I should not take him seriously.

Thanks

hope you record the call,? Godforbid, just Incas bad thing happen and your uncle want to frame you. the call may served as your evidence.

Move your.mother to be close to u in the city, there she can get all The care she needs

lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

Don't Stress yourself at all. Prepare your mind now and go to the village and bring your mum back to your base and take care of her while you still hold your job infact bring a younger person that will be taking care of her while you aint at home. do this for few month and you will see your mum bouncing back in short period of time then jeje send her back home.
This will be in the record that you didn't neglect her and the village ''witches'' will let you rest .


This are the things we do for love and remember it is just for a time and period, it wont last for ever so that your conscience will be clear in the future.

Its a cultural thing, dont let them call you names.

MY2CENT

lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

Whatever you do, don't resign your appointment. Your uncle is evil and doesn't wish you well. Be prayerful too, meanwhile don't you have siblings?

vincentjk:
Op your mother is suffering from a spiritual illness and your uncle is behind it, your mum is even suspecting him already but she's sick and don't have an option.

Go get your mum, take her to a strong pastor or to a native doctor for cleansing. Be careful because that uncle of yours is jealous and just wants to waste you both.

Enemy at the gates.

So you visit native doctor. May God have mercy on you

Bbbwings:

Why are you not doing it now?
Don't wait till you become rich

What makes you think I'm not doing it now? Stingy generation gang!

princetunex:


That's why you can't spell maximum

Lols...its obvious you have nothing to say. Wtf is princetunex?

Don’t listen to all this hypocrite idiot.. family has ruined many great men/women.. why will your family ask you to quit job and take care of your mom? Are u a doctor? What’s their own duty your sibling in village can’t do that but want you to quit the job that’s making you feed the whole family.. that’s a kind of witchcraft behavior..your only family is your parent.. if you really want to solve all this prob move your mom to your state get a good hospital and handle her health case well and block every other useless people in the family from reaching u that’s all.

kaboninc:


I WILL GIVE...Well let's wait until you have.

You do not know what it feels like...

Don't let English language derail you bud. You can have many things double in this life, but your mother isn't one of them. Fucckers like you are the type that likes taking selfie with their mothers every mothers day to show off, but behind the camera you treat her like shit

lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

I am sorry to say this but I will be very blunt...you don't need any advice....Now,ask yourself why you would want us to believe the part where you said an uncle called you to RESIGN to take care of your MOM and yet you said your relatives LEECH on you. where are you supposed to get MONEY for more leeching and taking care of your MOM?
I really don't k ow why this got to the front page....
Anyway,na my fault sed. I go open this thing thinking it is a legit write up.....mtchewww....

I can feel ur pain brother, I totally understand what u r passing through, which we could talk more aside nairaland,as for ur uncle hmmmm.....I reserve my comments, cos its only who does not wish u and ur mother well will ask u to resign then come and stay in the village, are u going to use palm tree to take care of her?

Take ur mama to stay with u or rent am apartment for her close to u, if u can ...
Let ur gf /wife take care of her, else get a househelp ...come back daily to her in d house or a place close to u where u can always stop bye to check her while u go out or come in almost daily.

maximunimpact:


Lols...its obvious you have nothing to say. Wtf is princetunex?

Lol. true nothing to say

lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

Switch off your phone dude.
Resign ke....
Oga your mother has lived her life, yours is just starting.
If you don't take this route, get married and have kids.
When next they call you, give the phone to your child to answer them.
Them go advice their selves

Ebuka78:


A river that forgets it source will surely runs dry. You have to help your mum, God gave you that job to support your family.


If it were your girlfriend, you would help her without thinking twice.

You can divide your salary into half, and give your sister to start a Saloon business/ become a hair stylist.

The next salary, you divide it and assist your brothers or brother to open a trade.

In 3 months time, there wouldn't be pressure on you to help the family. It is not good for one person to be rich in a family, let the rich one help others to get rich.

You should send 50% of your last month salary to sustain your mum.


You don't know what she passed through before birthing you. She would never tell you.

Switch of your cell phone and regret it for life.

Send her half of your salary for her health and remain blessed for life.

Nairalanders, I don't need your likes and shares. Just read and pass.

I guess this must come from a lady . This is a very poor submission .

lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

You don't need an advice,you came to fan your ego. Wetin you go do don already dey sure ok. You dey open topic for extended family wahala..

lecturer50:
What surprises me is that immediately I got the job, my mom started having health challenges.

I have observed it several times in different people.

When they are able to make a breakthrough in life (like getting a good job, graduation, financial breakthroughs),

something bad (like sickness or death) would affect their relatives, either the mom,dad,son, daughter or any close relative.

Please who else has noticed this, and why must it be so?

My dear some things are deeply rooted in d spiritual realm. Haven't u wondered why pple say life itself is spiritual. Some things are best explained with spiritual language.
Some pple whom u hold in high esteem have sold their souls to d devil 4 ur sake..and so if anything which is contrary to what they signed up to happens to u..they become a prey 4 it.(pls read my words with spiritual understanding).

Reason why pple jokingly ask..'if everyone's mum/pop is d best then whose mums/pops are busy flying and sucking pples blood?'

Another angle comes this way...for a person in a family to succeed someone must take d fall. Reason why u see most pple when they get to d peak of success the next thing u hear is that someone from d family is down...all this could boil down to ancestral doings. Some of our ancestors ehnn,,if we are to go back to their time on earth...we would notice a lot of things/evils they signed their unborn generations to. That's why when we christians pray..we pray against ancestral curses/oaths/misbeahviours.

I still recall one real gist my friend gave me about why the men in her fathers side kept dying once they clock a certain age..findings were done and it was revealed ancestors buried a slave girl alive..and the spirit of d girl hasn't rested. So they had to do something to appease...

Pls hope u picked one or two things from my post sha.

Happy Easter. Jesus has rosen

fortune1968:
I guess this must come from a lady . This is a very poor submission .

who says this is a poor submission??

budaatum:
Take what I have to say with salt because I'm going to be harsh.

You see those people asking you to return home to take care of your mother? Those are what is commonly refered to as village people. They heard about your progress, most likely from your mother who blabbed it around town and shouted "praise God" in church, and now they want to ruin you and her and very likely with her help though she might not be aware of it, by making you feel guilty so you do the wrong thing.

The nasty truth is, your mother will die, and you will be made to spend lots of money burying her after spending lots of money failing to keep her alive. And when you now sit down and calculate the money, and the fact that you no more have a job because you left the one you had to care for your mother, you'd likely resent your mother and the village people, and mostly yourself for allowing yourself to be manipulated so easily.

So, here are solutions. Invite your mother to visit you as a ploy to get her away from those village people using her to manipulate you. Make her stay with you and get a nurse to care for her. Hope she lives long though or you will be accused of killing her. Or tell them all to fuq off and switch off your phone and live your life in peace if you can ignore your mother's wailing as she dies.

Either ways, you will be here to live the consequences of your choices long after she dies so..... And salt.

The only one with wisdom i have read so far on this thread. Bring your mother to your hood. Every other onone should help them self.. is federal govt work, a poverty elimination project? Of NGO that u will set everyone up in business? You self are u balanced in the new state you working? More money more problems!

Bring your mother to your new state, and stop being milking machine to them all!

lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

see eh, if na me be you eh, I go buy better pump action, proceed to the village and shot life out of that my Uncle!

imagine!, what's his contribution to your family or just the life of her sister(your mum)?

same thing happened 6yrs ago when I traveled out of the country, my uncle called two weeks later complaining on how I abandoned my mom and traveled abroad; stressing out how I should have stayed back and manage my little business in Nigeria.
my response was very simple: "bia Nwokem, take care of your sister and never call my line again"

masks:
I am sorry to say this but I will be very blunt...you don't need any advice....Now,ask yourself why you would want us to believe the part where you said an uncle called you to RESIGN to take care of your MOM and yet you said your relatives LEECH on you. where are you supposed to get MONEY for more leeching and taking care of your MOM?
I really don't k ow why this got to the front page....
Anyway,na my fault sed. I go open this thing thinking it is a legit write up.....mtchewww....

Cmon dude, what's hard there to believe.
He prolly isn't providing their financial demand and they are saying he should come to the village and take care of his mother instead.
They may not have bluntly said he should resign but they mean he will have to do all the work himself if he doesn't provide the money they need

Well your mother shouldn't be left alone with strangers in the first place.

lecturer50:


True.

I called my mom and told her what my uncle said, she said I should not take him seriously.

Thanks

Is it possible for u to move ur mom to ur location? Ur uncle get evil plan... In fact tell that uncle say dem don drop u from work, say u need money for logistics for u to relocate home.. make he help u... Hear his response...

If he ask about ur accrued pay, tell am say u got involved in a business deal n was duped... Say make he send u money...

lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

Welcome to one of the biggest industries in Africa called cooperate impoverishment aka crab technology. People are angry that you are doing well as a result they will plague you and everything that pertains to you just to ensure you stay poor like them.

One of the ways to avoid them is to remain understated, you should never have told them you got a federal job, never travel home in your new car, don't allow relatives visit your home, don't tell them about the promotion. remain as you are in their eyes and become great outside their eyes.

If possible get your mum out of the village to the city to get better medical attention, and try and limit the info she pass to these folks.

Una no ask op how much the salary be ?
Or the name of the sickness na to dey form advice they yarn opata wey una no Sabi,....
Op don't come to nairaland to ask for advice, these people ain't normal