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She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Lovethaa: 7:49pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Have been friends with a babe at my workplace and from her frequent visit to my office plus the way she calls me to check on me . you could easily tell that she likes me . One thing led to another and we ended up kissing , after the kiss I told her to tell me about her past relationships plus her sexual life . She opened up to me that she was introduced to sex at 8years old by one neighbor uncle , she told me how the uncle take her to his room and ask her to play with his Prick and sometimes would make her suck it ,she claim she couldn't tell her mom because she will beat her mercilessly She said she officially started having sex at 10 ,she disclosed that she had done 4 abortions so far although the abortions were for the same guy . mind you she is just 24 years old She claimed she's telling me all this because she loves me and wants to be honest with me . But hearing all that I was weak.. this babe is from a wealthy family , she travels to yankee like someone going to a neighboring state plus she is an MSC Holder , unknown to her I have decided that I would marry her because she's educated and wealthy family is like a bonus but now she actually disgust me and I wish she didn't tell me all that .. Ladies are doing shit behind forget all that pretty gentle face.. if I was to judge with the face I could have bet with my life that this babe was a virgin or atleast not that experienced in sex ... and pls ladies if you have such dirty past ,I think u should keep it to yourself... I'm just lost for words , wish I could unhear everything 217 Likes 18 Shares |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Nobody: 7:52pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
You Are You Perfect? Your judgemental type makes people insecure and unable to trust people they love with their true story 737 Likes 47 Shares |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Kebbiprince: 7:53pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Lovethaa:That's why I laugh when people insult older ladies, most ladies in their 30s are far purer than the so called Ladies in early 20s who have been damaged beyond repair 322 Likes 20 Shares |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by etrange: 7:53pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Ok... next time, don't ask. 96 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Goalnaldo(m): 7:54pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Eyaaa. I think for her to tell you this, that means she really love you. Don't let her past disturb her current relationship with you. 251 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Lovethaa: 7:54pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Nobody: 7:57pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Lovethaa: The simple answer should have been Yes I'm perfect or No I'm not perfect 471 Likes 20 Shares |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by gfon(m): 7:58pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Swears man,really liked my best female friend to the point of considering marriage(didn't let her know though).Omo i weak wen i knew she had an abortion,can't marry her again,though we still fvck once in a while sha. 34 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by DaddyRochie1642: 7:58pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
After she has told you all these things and she notices that you're withdrawing yourself from her, she will feel "used" and "judged" and don't be surprised when you'll start hearing "Lies" about yourself in your own workplace,.... I just told you reality. 336 Likes 19 Shares |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by donbachi(m): 8:05pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Dis is why alot of girls,will rather die with their secrets than spew them out...una dey use am against dem. 434 Likes 21 Shares |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Yusufisraelj(m): 8:08pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
@Lovethaa You are being unwise, foolish and childish. I know a lady who was raped at age 8 till she was 24, have had multiple partners over 11. She met a virgin guy who decided to date her, bkos life is not about people's past but what they decide to do with their future presently. I'm not advocating careless living but my brother if a lady opens up to you and you are disgusted by her past, then walk. it shows you are not emotionally matured to handle certain levels of TRUTH. Mark my words any relationship built on lies will never last, Falsehood was never designed to stand the test of time, only TRUTH does 692 Likes 52 Shares |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Magnoliaa(f): 8:11pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
I don't believe this story, but I like that kinda babe. And I wish she'd kick your gold-digging ass to the curb if it was true. Yeah, right. We should keep our sexual histories to ourselves and then you get mad about the deception?? So if she lied she was a virgin, that's better? And what's to stop a woman from doing anything she wants? Pretty face? Like, I don't understand what the deal is, like it's new. "You don't know the shitty things women do behind..." Pelee. Discoverer of the century. If you can't deal with any lady's history, vamoose and move on. C'est fini. 261 Likes 17 Shares |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Lovethaa: 8:11pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Yusufisraelj: Just because your friend managed to marry a simp of a guy doesn't mean I'll do the same Have you thought about the spiritual effects of having multiple sex partners , or the physical effects like her not being able to give birth .. I'm still young and handsome..so don't expect me to settle for an over used vehicle when I can get a brand new one.... @Yusufisraelj I thought u were wise but this your comment made me realize you're fake and the type that would say bullshit just to get public approval Bloomfrancs2: 65 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Goldbw122(m): 8:14pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
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Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Magnoliaa(f): 8:15pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Yusufisraelj: You gett. No wahala now if you can't handle the truth about me or will judge me for whatever I do. I'm not saying you can't make your judgments and decisions oh. But stay away and stop being 'attracted' me. You don't deserve to even be close to me or know any other thing about me, because, why? What do you like? 19 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Ishilove: 8:15pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Lovethaa:Don't be unfortunate. You asked her to open up and she did, now you are coming here to yarn dust. It shows you are not emotionally mature enough to handle a relationship and I hope she kicks your goldigging ass to the dustbin 235 Likes 19 Shares |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Lovethaa: 8:16pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Magnoliaa: Lol. ... I'm no gold digging ... I'm from a wealthy family and apart from my own personal money I have inheritances ad a firstborn ... but I have decided not to marry from a broke family ........ yes I can't deal with such silly history... that is why u should be careful with every silly thing you do 89 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Goldbw122(m): 8:16pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Lovethaa:First of all the lady love u, that is why she is tell u all this.. tell your own honest story to her so that you will know how it will go .. ok all relationship are not perfect the one wey e say e perfect just know say one deep dark secret dey inside.. simple 10 Likes |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by NVSBL: 8:17pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
OP just tell her you can't handle her past, but thank her for opening up to you. Saying ladies shouldn't open up is wrong. Imagine if she didn't and you ended up marrying her just to find out gradually or late into marriage when maybe abortion complications or trauma or some shit rises up? Ladies, pls open up. It'll save you from mistakes. OPs reason for wanting to marry her self is a selfish one, tbh. Just that child abuse act could have been the reason she's been promiscuous and overly sexual. No one talks about mental health in this country. Before you know it someone will mention deliverance or some quick fix bs. Who knows if you OP wouldn't have been planning to sleep with this same girl before marriage. Since she's from a rich home, tell her you can't handle her past, but advice her to go for therapy to personally handle it. You're probably a mistake she's also making from deep trauma. No one is perfect or the holiest. 152 Likes 10 Shares |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Romanoff(f): 8:17pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
This is why many women lie to y'all. They don't want the judgement and rejection. 55 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by seangy4konji: 8:19pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
You are still a kid.. 62 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Hassanjj(m): 8:21pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Lovethaa: What if she said all she said just to see your reactions?? What is the gaurantee that a virgin you plan to marry will conceive? Think twice before taking that decision. Note: I'm not an advocate of abortions, but nobody holy pass. 75 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Magnoliaa(f): 8:23pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Lovethaa: Get the fuçk out of here. I don't give a damn about your background. Las' las', you're simply immature and delusional , looking for relevance online, trolling and forming hard guy with standards. You're very small, swrs, and you're not worth my time at all even. 130 Likes 10 Shares |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Acidosis(m): 8:24pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
What no one has said here is that not everyone who tells the truth are actually truthful about the truth they claim to share. Don't be fooled. Just believe whatever you have heard and make your decision based on the level of info you have. The fact that she told you she had done 4 abortions doesn't mean she's truthful. She may have done about 10. No be everybody dey tell absolute truth. Most of the truths we claim we share are actually half-truth. 194 Likes 18 Shares |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Zenithpeak(m): 8:24pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
What you are doing now is even terrible than her ugly past.... You tricked her to to tell you her dirty secret and instantly you are using it against her. That shows your motive.... You got close to her because of her rich background and her beautiful academic career. You are willing to benefit immensely from her good past but never want the bad side of her past.... Life isn't structured like that. "This life with its ups and downs". You may end up with a lady who has had 4 children in their village before coming to Lagos and will still give you another man's son as your first child.... 111 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Lovethaa: 8:25pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Zenithpeak: My brother that would not be my portion.... wish you what you wish me 14 Likes |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by benqo01(m): 8:27pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
you have every right to be disturbed,but to say the truth that lady just told you what 80% of the ladies won't tell you. She is being honest by telling you.My advice to you is to handle things with care and not make her feel bad for telling you. 38 Likes 1 Share |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Magnoliaa(f): 8:28pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Hassanjj: This, too. 1 Like |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by PrimadonnaO(f): 8:29pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Lovethaa: Chai. Lessons to all the ladies out there o. Ndi wokeism! Ndi sex-on-the-first-date, Ndi sexually-liberated. They will use it against you! Oga is not criticising himself for making out with the lady... instead he's criticising the lady. What a life! As for the things she told you, I hope it doesn't make her feel worthless. I understand her kind of person. When she likes a person, she doesn't want secrets. She wants to bare it all and be seen for who she really is. I applaud her and I hope she doesn't change because that's what it means to be authentic. If this gist had come out in marriage, the man would have felt defrauded. OP, you have to handle this with tact and utmost sensibility. Since you said you don't want to marry her, no wahala... your intentions weren't even pure. You were considering her because she's from a wealthy background. What I'll advise you do is that you sustain the tempo of your interactions for a while so that when you begin to disconnect, she won't trace it to the revelations she made. And biko, don't sleep with her whether or not she initiates it. **************************** That being said, please my dears, try not to make too many mistakes in life so you don't have secrets that you'll be advised to take to the grave. Isn't that too burdensome? Try not to do things that you can't boldly come out to admit you did. One abortion may be a mistake, but two, three four. Haba nau! Why? These men you're having sex with and aborting babies for are walking away unscathed. Can't you see it? Don't cover it up with wokeness or whatever. You're doing yourself such an injustice. A man who may have made other girls in the past to abort his babies will still come out tomorrow and dump another girl who tells him she's had an abortion. 206 Likes 27 Shares |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Acidosis(m): 8:29pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
benqo01: How does 4 abortions make her honest? 20 Likes 1 Share |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Lovethaa: 8:29pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
benqo01: Thank you for understanding... I like her honesty but the secrets was just too much to handle ... but I'll handle it like a man... although I'm not sure we might get married 12 Likes |
Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by Yusufisraelj(m): 8:30pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Lovethaa: My guy not necessarily, you see certain mindset or influences affected her sense of judgment then that made her take those choices. Now your goal should be to see where those weaknesses are and try to partner with her to offset them. Don't mistakenly think bkos she was free with you, she would be free with others, she was attracted to you obviously and loved you sincerely that's why you could touch and kiss. Believe me those kinds of ladies with such past are never cheap, but when they love, hmmm they do it to fault, I just hope you have the heart to carry the truth about her. Let me tell you something. A lady will have three things: 1. She's going to have a past - be willing to accept it (she's not perfect she would make mistakes) 2. She's going to have weaknesses - be willing to partner with her to offset it. 3. She's going to have strengths - be willing to partner with her to amplify it. And the goal here is to be very open minded and have realistic expectations knowing fully well people would make mistakes, but as far as they are willing to make a change for the better with you and be honest, my brother give it a chance. 35 Likes 1 Share |
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