For me... I tend to give up easily. I heard men love the chase, it gives them thrill and all but I see anything interesting in chasing a girl who doesn't pick your calls or tries to make you look stupid before the public, doesn't give you attention... I might as well not like you anymore if you have to make me go through all those... If you are not feeling me, you should have the decency to tell me in time and help me save my energy...

At the moment tho, I have a girl I intend to ask out. I met her here on Nairaland, she's nice, well spoken, attractive and all, and as soon as she begins to stress me (if she ever would) I will have to let go...

Like someone said, if you see someone you like, you won't let them go easily, if she really likes me, she won't put me through all those...

By the way, I hope she doesn't see this comment tho

hybridblood07:
Girls are move with what they hear! I'm happy for you man. God bless us all

Including lies!

Xenry:
When I realized that money is what wears the face of true love nowadays, I started chasing money instead.

Exactly my assertions. I keep telling my friends to stop chasing babes but instead chase financial freedom and watch how they'll chase you.

PrimadonnaO:


If she can be sincere, ask her to tell you why she doesn't like you.

Emphasis on if she will be SINCERE.

Sometimes the reason we're unable to like people are because of assumptions, which when corrected may make a world of difference.

For instance, a girl who likes a man with a good fashion sense may be turned off , if because of one or two meetings she's concluded that the man has a poor taste in dressing. However what she might not know is that maybe his house was recently burgled and all his clothes got carted away... he's yet to restock. Or on the two occasions they met, he didn't come from his house.

Or because from one or two things she misconstrued in conversations, she thinks he's super boring, or intolerant, or stingy, etc

Do you get my drift?

And then there's this thing about spec. When most ladies have a fixed spec, they automatically switch off when they meet a guy who isn't that exact spec. So it doesn't let them open up to discovering other sides of the guy that they may eventually come to appreciate or even prefer if only they'll be open-minded and let things flow.

And then, most women like to be wooed. See most often, it's the man who first likes the girl and approaches her right? If they've never had any real personal interaction in the past, it means you're just a regular John to her, until you begin to show her that you want her. If she's cooperative, she lets you do your thing and woo her. It would help too if you knew her love language, and that's it, she may come to like you, too.

Summarily, have you asked her why she doesn't like you?
How often do you stay in touch?
Beyond calling and texting, have you guys spent a reasonable amount of time in each other's company?
Do you know her love language?
How long have you guys known each other?

All this one na cruise.

A girl will know if she wants to be with you within a week.

Lemmy123:
For me... I tend to give up easily. I heard men love the chase, it gives them thrill and all but I see anything interesting in chasing a girl who doesn't pick your calls or tries to make you look stupid before the public, doesn't give you attention... I might as well not like you anymore if you have to make me go through all those... If you are not feeling me, you should have the decency to tell me in time and help me save my energy...

At the moment tho, I have a girl I intend to ask out. I met her here on Nairaland, she's nice, well spoken, attractive and all, and as soon as she begins to stress me (if she ever would) I will have to let go...

Like someone said, if you see someone you like, you won't let them go easily, if she really likes me, she won't put me through all those...

By the way, I hope she doesn't see this comment tho

Your head dey work well.

If girl no gree for you within one to 2 weeks of meeting her, walk away.

This relationship thing is not difficult if you're smart.

steeltrust:
I chased my childhood love for 11years
And now we re together even after she having two kids and we re planning to get married. Want for introduction last month.

When you love some one them no go tell you

Remember they say love is blind

bros I don't understand you o!

anyway you said that love is bliss

phazotron:


Your head dey work well.

If girl no gree for you within one to 2 weeks of meeting her, walk away.

This relationship thing is not difficult if you're smart.

It was back in the days when I was younger, if I asked a girl out and she rejects me, I'd begin to think something was wrong with me, and I'll be wallowing in self pity for a long time.. But now if you don't vibe with me, I move easily... Thumbs up bro

phazotron:

All this one na cruise.
A girl will know if she wants to be with you within a week.

haaa!
one week is too far!
do you know what happens under 24 hours?

baralatie:
haaa!
one week is too far!
do you know what happens under 24 hours?

I'm sure you mean to say 24 seconds!

mrdharkchild:
Omo!! E nor easy again o.
Na hiding of my fine face I de do now o.
E nor easy at all.
But Sha, God pass them.
Thank God for weed.

I'm sure to date a white girl Sha. Nigerian girls are too worldly n worthless. U can't even spark an intelligent conversation these days with them.

Thank God for weed brother

phazotron:


From experience, girls always know who they want to be with from the moment they see the guy and start to interact with him within the first week of meeting him.

You're aware that For you to even be able to strike a friendship with a female she still has to like you. You know that right?

So how do you then apply your logic to the ones who won't even give you a chance to be their friends?

Once a girl doesn't send you from the get go, or within one week of meeting and knowing her, forget her. She doesn't have eyes for you.

I know how many females don ask me for relationship.... people I have never related with as much as to deem it a friendship.

I've had girls tell me I'm boring

And I've had girls who think I'm the funniest and most handsome guy on the planet.

Guys, No dey allow dat friendship thing deceive you

See, person Wey go like you go like you

Person Wey no go like you no go like you if you like, be her friend for 30 years

Person Wey go like you go like you if you like know her for a week

You're not taking into consideration that people and situations are different.

The people I dated, I liked them from the very first day of meeting, and knew that I could easily come to love them.

But we didn't start dating from the first day. If they had asked on the first day, I probably wouldn't have had enough certainty to say yes.

Also, there are people I've liked at sight, and on getting to know them didn't like them as much anymore. Imagine we had started dating on that fickle first attraction. We'd have broken up in a week.

Plus we all move at different paces. Some people develop affection slowly.

Okay, let's say it is true that a girl either likes you from day 1 or never gets to like you, what does anyone stand to lose in developing friendship first? For a month at least. What do you stand to lose in knowing a bit more about each other, your values, your similarities, your quirks. Are those positives or negatives?
Do you realise, too, that if you two are unable to sustain that friendship for at least a month, then you have no business getting into a relationship?

Magnoliaa:


I don't give a red or green light, sha. I give the whole colors of a rainbow.

Who ask you?

I sent my resignation letter when I had that usain bolt was her trainer.

PrimadonnaO:


You're not taking into consideration that people and situations are different.

The people I dated, I liked them from the very first day of meeting, and knew that I could easily come to love them.

But we didn't start dating from the first day. If they had asked on the first day, I probably wouldn't have had enough certainty to say yes.

Also, there are people I've liked at sight, and on getting to know them didn't like them as much anymore. Imagine we had started dating on that fickle first attraction. We'd have broken up in a week.

Plus we all move at different paces. Some people develop affection slowly.

Okay, let's say it is true that a girl either likes you from day 1 or never gets to like you, what does anyone stand to lose in developing friendship first? For a month at least. What do you stand to lose in knowing a bit more about each other, your values, your similarities, your quirks. Are those positives or negatives?
Do you realise, too, that if you two are unable to sustain that friendship for at least a month, then you have no business getting into a relationship?

Women break rules for alphas and make rules for betas.

U can't negotiate genuine desire

Women and men can't b platonic friends
If he's not fucking her then he's her girlfriend

PrimadonnaO:


You're not taking into consideration that people and situations are different.

The people I dated, I liked them from the very first day of meeting, and knew that I could easily come to love them.

But we didn't start dating from the first day. If they had asked on the first day, I probably wouldn't have had enough certainty to say yes.

Also, there are people I've liked at sight, and on getting to know them didn't like them as much anymore. Imagine we had started dating on that fickle first attraction. We'd have broken up in a week.

Plus we all move at different paces. Some people develop affection slowly.

Okay, let's say it is true that a girl either likes you from day 1 or never gets to like you, what does anyone stand to lose in developing friendship first? For a month at least. What do you stand to lose in knowing a bit more about each other, your values, your similarities, your quirks. Are those positives or negatives?
Do you realise, too, that if you two are unable to sustain that friendship for at least a month, then you have no business getting into a relationship?

ehn brother!

this friendly trendy to friend girl before we get to eating sausages and ice cream is taking too much of megaspace o!
that is why some people are experiencing slow processing speed o!

just bring your card slot into the the home and press enter.if there is something you will see please take your cash.
if not you will see user switch error!

ahn ahh!

Tbvxl:
I give up easily bruvs!
The last time I had myself stressed over a lady was my ex. After she broke up with me because I caught her cheating,but still I wanted her back like mad. In a nutshell I pleaded with her from Feb till April,and everything got worse this month. But if it were to be other ladies,I'd give up easily. I hate to be taken outta my comfort zone

TF did I just read??

Clinghton:
I sent my resignation letter when I had that usain bolt was her trainer.

Have mercy on me Lord Jesus!

"Seek ye first the kingdom of God and every other things will be available for you"

If you know you know

A week

PataAlhajaKeji:


Unreciprocated love ain't just it.

Train yourself to withdraw love not returned.

Babe wey no love you back no worth more love from you.

Think of all the unloved orphans in orphanages around the world. They need love but ain't getting it. Think deeply about them, with time your unreciprocated love for that bitch fades.

Thank you big bro

Snow02:
TF did I just read??

Yeah you read it

I don't know how to chase ladies. If I get the sense that the feeling is not very mutual, that's the end of the matter.. Even if I really like her, I will eventually get over her; I don't do one-sided affection.

Recently, I decided to stop "approaching" ladies. Why? I feel the right person will gravitate towards me somehow. I think I can only make an exception if the "light" is EXTREMELY verdant.

When I was much younger (secondary school, Uni, and a little afterwards), I was quite shy so I never used to approach or try to woo ladies; however, somehow, my crushes usually gravitate towards me after some time. I usually did not follow through though.
Later on, I decided to start approaching girls cos it seemed like that was the normal thing to do (probably because many guys do that or are expected to). However, I have come to realise that it creates an imbalance that does not work for me. Therefore, I think it is better to revert to my previous style and let the lady try to position herself or let circumstances do that. I get the best interaction when I don't initiate, and I also don't have to stress myself trying to get someone to like me. Takes too much energy.

Enjoying the new vibe a lot more. So much better than eyeing fine girl afer fine girl because...... fine girl no dey finish o. It is well..

I don't chase coz I know it's not worth it

Snow02:
TF did I just read??

E shock you too

Greatfullheart:
mehn when i go bd likf you? Am down, i cant even walk up to a girl an say my feelings. Am tired of me.

Are you broke?

Lemmy123:

It was back in the days when I was younger, if I asked a girl out and she rejects me, I'd begin to think something was wrong with me, and I'll be wallowing in self pity for a long time.. But now if you don't vibe with me, I move easily... Thumbs up bro

What guys don't know is that a girl always knows who she wants to be with even within a few days. No be rocket science.

One to two weeks max is enough for her to know if she wants you or not.

All that friendship talk na cruise. Person Wey dey play hard to get for you dey chase another guy.

I learnt in one group when one girl dey tell me say I boring (of which I wasn't) dey chase another guy Wey dey the same group.

baralatie:

ehn brother!

this friendly trendy to friend girl before we get to eating sausages and ice cream is taking too much of megaspace o!
that is why some people are experiencing slow processing speed o!

just bring your card slot into the the home and press enter.if there is something you will see please take your cash.
if not you will see user switch error!

ahn ahh!

Leave primadonna jare

Na woman na.....Wetin you expect am to talk?

PrimadonnaO:


You're not taking into consideration that people and situations are different.

The people I dated, I liked them from the very first day of meeting, and knew that I could easily come to love them.

But we didn't start dating from the first day. If they had asked on the first day, I probably wouldn't have had enough certainty to say yes.

Also, there are people I've liked at sight, and on getting to know them didn't like them as much anymore. Imagine we had started dating on that fickle first attraction. We'd have broken up in a week.

Plus we all move at different paces. Some people develop affection slowly.

Okay, let's say it is true that a girl either likes you from day 1 or never gets to like you, what does anyone stand to lose in developing friendship first? For a month at least. What do you stand to lose in knowing a bit more about each other, your values, your similarities, your quirks. Are those positives or negatives?
Do you realise, too, that if you two are unable to sustain that friendship for at least a month, then you have no business getting into a relationship?

You yourself have admitted it

End of story. Friendship na cruise.

One to two weeks of she knowing you is enough.

Yes bro! God will save us

Lemmy123:

Including lies!

When I realise that I forcing you to love me, which is the second time. After that, na self respect ooo

PrimadonnaO:


Very true. Some people hit it off from the very first time they meet.

And even when you're trying to first be friends, don't become a brotherly friend because she'll brother-zone you in her head, and it may nigh impossible for her to see you differently when you eventually ask her out or tell her you like her.

So be friends, but in a way that she's fully conscious that you're a man and she's a woman, if you know what I mean, lol.

I'll always support the friendship-first route, though. It lets everyone be their very regular self, that way when it graduates into a relationship, it becomes a largely smooth sail.

Lol, nice one

The part of making it conscious and obvious shes a woman and and am a man, tickled me,.. Lol, funny enough you captured exactly, my emotions towards her.. The way her femininity draws my masculinity.. Omo i have a clean mind, but hmm she draws out somethings i didn't know existed

bignero:


Lol, nice one

The part of making it conscious and obvious shes a woman and and am a man, tickled me,.. Lol, funny enough you captured exactly, my emotions towards her.. The way her femininity draws my masculinity.. Omo i have a clean mind, but hmm she draws out somethings i didn't know existed

Lol