I have heard so many gory tales about Mbaise men and hence this question.

It's often said that:" If you see a snake and an Mbaise man, leave the snake and kill the Mbaise man." Could this be attributed to their cunningness or hot tempered nature.

Anyway as if it isn't bad enough, the man is jobless and looking up to my cousin for financial assistance as regards marrying her.

When I analyzed the situation, it left sand in my mouth and so I decided to table the matters before the elders of our land.

What are your views?

Whether male or female, don't you ever marry a jobless person.

...unless you want to understand the real meaning behind the “so help me God” in end of the national pledge.

deltateam:
I have heard so many gory tales about Mbaise men and hence this question.

It's often said that:" If you see a snake and an Mbaise man, leave the snake and kill the Mbaise man." Could this be attributed to their cunningness or hot tempered nature.

Anyway as if it isn't bad enough, the man is jobless and looking up to my cousin for financial assistance as regards marrying her.

When I analyzed the situation, it left sand in my mouth and so I decided to table the matters before the elders of our land.

What are your views?

If she is desperate for marriage she will fall into the wrong hand

It reminds me of rgmh song one uncle used to sing when I was a little girl.

Okpara ekwensu Wu onyen mbaise.

I don't know much about mbaise people but what's your cousin thinking trying to marry a man without job? No nau.

...and a man can marry a woman without a job

It's not a tribe thing ,its about the person involved.
Let her do her due diligence and proceed according to her findings about the person.

Its not an Mbaise thing even though i'm not from there.Theres a diary with an M moniker.It will be ur cousins story very soon .The man will blame her for his failures,get jealous and try to pull her down.I wwish he'd start up something first before this marriage.

He'll also easily read meaning to her words and cite disrespect because of ' her money',when she asks questions.

ppl can be very humble and loving when money isnt there.Its a bad time to deduce who someone is.

LadySarah:
Its not an Mbaise thing even though i'm not from there.Theres a diary with an M moniker.It will be ur cousins story very soon .The man will blame her for his failures,get jealous and try to pull her down.I wwish he'd start up something first before this marriage.

He'll also easily read meaning to her words and cite disrespect because of ' her money',when she asks questions.

ppl can be very humble and loving when money isnt there.Its a bad time to deduce who someone is.

Aunty, you just lead me to read an interesting gist in the diary section. Mamatw is trying o. The husband no well at all....dont call me amebo. Na you give free referral .

sisisioge:


Aunty, you just lead me to read an interesting gist in the diary section. Mamatw is trying o. The husband no well at all....dont call me amebo. Na you give free referral .

Its what alot of women are goi g through in marriage but ppl wont understand.Fact is the woman will be blamed at all times by both sexes.

btw,i didnt see ur own suggestion.

LadySarah:


Its what alot of women are goi g through in marriage but ppl wont understand.Fact is the woman will be blamed at all times by both sexes.

btw,i didnt see ur own suggestion.

You are right fa.

About my suggestion, I wondered what kind of drugs the bride to be is on to even think she wants to foot the bill of their wedding plus the marriage to come. But everyone already echoed my thought. Let the guy take the feed feedforward. For some men, their major achievement is being born a Male...nothing more! It is well.

Lord, Av Messi.

Truvel:
Lord, Av Messi.

Abeg u we still need Messi for field oo

ThiagoKid:
...and a man can marry a woman without a job

Yes cos she's not d bread winner.

dairykidd:
Abeg u we still need Messi for field oo

Lol.