Hey Guys,

I created this thread to thank and update you guys how my strong closeness with the single mother ended after receiving advice here....
Previous thread: https://www.nairaland.com/6477303/how-leave-single-mother-without

Before I start I want to correct the negative impression a lot of you had thinking I was chatting with her in Nigeria> FYI me and her live in the same city in Canada but I met her through a popular dating site.

So after the brilliant advice from the previous thread which I remained grateful to everyone that contributed. I messaged her two days later on Instagram to come let's talk. She arrived at my apartment and called to tell me that she was trapped in the snow mud with her car and I had to come out and labor that night in a wicked cold weather to make sure I brought out her car which I did and she went gaga the more heaping all kinds of romantic praises on me . Later on, we started discussing and I told her respectfully that I needed time to think through our friendship as I wasn't ready for something serious/relationship which she is gunning for, since I noticed she became too obsessed and close with me that a day does not pass without her thinking about me or messaging. As I talked to her she remained quiet of course I knew she was disappointed and didn't look happy cause that was not what she expected. Then after, I jokingly told her a family friend saw her photo on my WhatsApp (false) and became interested in knowing her she was quiet and kept listening till I finished and then one hour later she said she was going.

When she got home she wrote me that she has seen I needed my space and time and that she would move on with her life but saying she doesn't like the idea of telling her about someone else when it was me she had feelings for.. which I apologized.

Since then she became quiet kinda saying I friend zoned her though I didn't, hardly writes me and does not think of visiting me or whatsoever. But I recently called her to "extend an olive branch" since she wasn't cool about my friend I told her, and she was rather interested in knowing why I called her to appear saying she thought I would define what we are or ask her for a relationship having known for months and all that which I maintained my stand . At the end, she mentioned everything I said boils down to her distancing herself from me so I will have my time and do my thing. Few minutes later she stood up to leave and I walked her down, she entered her car and left.

I felt for her then but I know she is fine now. The thing is that I do not likely see myself settling with her as I have my reasons, plans and spec in a babe.. yes I liked her and we vibe and crack sometimes but I got to be honest with her as was advised here.. again she is so sensitive probably her Canadian lifestyle.

Thankfully its over and we are free.. most importantly I have learnt some lessons but above all I wish her well.
When next I see one I will recall this incident and keep calm

#Respect to the Mods & Nairalanders

Damnnn niggarrrr
Isoright

2 cold bottles of beer for you for not being a pussy ass niggarr

This is the same thing I did to one single mother that year. I don't want anything to distract me from my daily hustle because there's no love in the street

I only derive joy from my weed not from any woman

Smoke up
Drink up
Bomb Chinese websites

WeChat/Alipay/courier/Consignment



You had to check the moniker if it's

slawormiir

Lol you should be happy you left her. With her tone, you for hear am from her if you had agreed to date her, she seems a wolf in a sheep clothing . She is all caring and loving because she knows her value is dwindling faster daily. Stay sharp and stay safe brother.

Drenimarcus:
Lol you should be happy you left her. With her tone, you for hear am from her if you had agreed to date her, she seems a wolf in a sheep clothing . She is all caring and loving because she knows her value is dwindling faster daily. Stay sharp and stay safe brother.

Yes oo! check the proof in the attached, and thank u bro

Congratulations, this is why i encourage women to be hardworking. She doesn't depend on you for food or upkeep, moving on will be much easier. Whoever you choose will still bring you her fair share of challenge too...as a man, you have to be ready in your mind for the tough times ahead. I sell Laptop powerbank,50k for 100,000mah guaranteed to power you pc for more than 10 hours. 75k for 180,000mah guaranteed to power pc for more than 18hours. All are built with brand new liFePo4 battery.

Finally the bird is set free from the cage

Cooldiipo:
Congratulations, this is why i encourage women to be hardworking. She doesn't depend on you for food or upkeep, moving on will be much easier. [s]Whoever you choose will still bring you her fair share of challenge too[/s]...as a man, you have to be ready in your mind for the tough times ahead. I sell Laptop powerbank,50k for 100,000mah guaranteed to power you pc for more than 10 hours. 75k for 180,000mah guaranteed to power pc for more than 18hours. All are built with brand new liFePo4 battery.

Well, I do not pray for such challenge.. thank u

Theboy21:

why u dey laugh?

HappyCanadian:

why u dey laugh?

I am Happy for you now next time put your personal interest before emotions

Bro.... because of this victory, I'll certainly spoil you and every happy nairaland with chilled bottle of beer......

Beer For all.......

Theboy21:
I am Happy for you now next time put your personal interest before emotions

Ok bro.. well understood

Zendinho:
Bro.... because of this victory, I'll certainly spoil you and every happy nairaland with chilled bottle of beer......

Beer For all.......

No be small victory.. thank u oo!

Chop clean mouth.

cenaman:
Chop clean mouth.

Really whats special about this. A woman is interested in you, you told her you don't like her that way she left you be, now you're bringing her to discuss on NL.
why you guys gotta be so dramatic about stuff.
she say she's moving on with her life. Move on with your life too. geeeeeezzzz

Happy Break up bro, i pray she finds her true love and someone that'll really care for her...

Congrats man

As for me, I will rather stick to a girl that loves me more. Hope your spec will want you as well. Talking about the spec I'm very sure you are referring to physical appearance.

Most times guys will leave a good woman and start chasing these hour-glass-shaped women with an entitlement mentality. After these ladies have frustrated them they will back screaming women are bad.

The same goes for women; you want a cute, rich guy with swag that goes clubbing, etc and you expect him not to cheat?

Wake up and face reality.

See an Alpha Male.

Thats what I call Courage

Make sure you update Nairaland and its 2million plus members of your next victim. Living abroad doesn't equate to having sense. Always resist the urge to shalaye. Amateurs!

H

incogni2o:
See an Alpha Male.
Thats what I call Courage

Courage kwa

HappyCanadian:
Hey Guys,

I created this thread to thank and update you guys how my strong closeness with the single mother ended after receiving advice here....
Previous thread: https://www.nairaland.com/6477303/how-leave-single-mother-without/6

Before I start I want to correct the negative impression a lot of you had thinking I was chatting with her in Nigeria> FYI me and her live in the same city in Canada but I met her through a popular dating site.

So after the brilliant advice from the previous thread which I remained grateful to everyone that contributed. I messaged her two days later on Instagram to come let's talk. She arrived at my apartment and called to tell me that she was trapped in the snow mud with her car and I had to come out and labor that night in a wicked cold weather to make sure I brought out her car which I did and she went gaga the more heaping all kinds of romantic praises on me . Later on, we started discussing and I told her respectfully that I needed time to think through our friendship as I wasn't ready for something serious/relationship which she is gunning for, since I noticed she became too obsessed and close with me that a day does not pass without her thinking about me or messaging. As I talked to her she remained quiet of course I knew she was disappointed and didn't look happy cause that was not what she expected. Then after, I jokingly told her a family friend saw her photo on my WhatsApp (false) and became interested in knowing her she was quiet and kept listening till I finished and then one hour later she said she was going.

When she got home she wrote me that she has seen I needed my space and time and that she would move on with her life but saying she doesn't like the idea of telling her about someone else when it was me she had feelings for.. which I apologized.

Since then she became quiet kinda saying I friend zoned her though I didn't, hardly writes me and does not think of visiting me or whatsoever. But I recently called her to "extend an olive branch" since she wasn't cool about my friend I told her, and she was rather interested in knowing why I called her to appear saying she thought I would define what we are or ask her for a relationship having known for months and all that which I maintained my stand . At the end, she mentioned everything I said boils down to her distancing herself from me so I will have my time and do my thing. Few minutes later she stood up to leave and I walked her down, she entered her car and left.

I felt for her then but I know she is fine now. The thing is that I do not likely see myself settling with her as I have my reasons, plans and spec in a babe.. yes I liked her and we vibe and crack sometimes but I got to be honest with her as was advised here.. again she is so sensitive probably her Canadian lifestyle.

Thankfully its over and we are free.. most importantly I have learnt some lessons but above all I wish her well.
When next I see one I will recall this incident and keep calm

#Respect to the Mods & Nairalanders

Cc Lalasticlala, Mynd44, Dominique, Ishilove, Seun, Obinoscopy, Oa4mj una weldone oo!

No pity party. You ve done the right thing. If it's the other way round, she ll move on without all these salaye you are doing.

HappyCanadian:

Well, I do not pray for such challenge.. thank u

Don't pray 4 it, just be prepared 4 it. How prepared you are will determine how well you handle it if it shows up.

Drenimarcus:
Lol you should be happy you left her. With her tone, you for hear am from her if you had agreed to date her, she seems a wolf in a sheep clothing . She is all caring and loving because she knows her value is dwindling faster daily. Stay sharp and stay safe brother.

You have said it all, you literally spoke my mind.....OP Take note.

I had a similar experience, this babe I used to ask out a long time ago but she was using me to catch cruise, she later got pregnant for another guy who dumped her after she gave birth.... She recently started calling me and giving me all sorts of "green light" not knowing that I'm a sharp guy and I know all those tricks to hook me with extra baggage, I simply bone am.

Michelle55:
Congratulations bro.. Enjoy your new found freedom!
Ps: never lead anyone on unless you want them for life.

Sure, thanks

BiggyB242:
As for me, I will rather stick to a girl that loves me more. Hope your spec will want you as well. I know talking about the spec you are referring to physical appearance.

Most times a guy will leave a good woman and start chasing this hourglass with an entitlement mentality. After these ladies have frustrated them they come back and start insulting women.

My brother u won't understand.. though u are right in a way

femi4:
No pity party. You ve done the right thing. If it's the other way round, she ll move on without all these salaye you are doing.

Yea, everyone go dey alright las las

Is she a black?

Poster, from ur tone, I think the lady is not as pretty and hot as you'd like. But it's good as u let her know on time, pls let her be and dnt try to compensate her by calling her as much.
Dnt give her mixed signals, let her be. Good luck.

Sparkle777:
Poster, from ur tone, I think the lady is not as pretty and hot as you'd like. But it's good as u let her know on time, pls let her be and dnt try to compensate her by calling her as much.
Dnt give her mixed signals, let her be. Good luck.

You kinda get the gist and as u have said.. I have left her no mixed signals.. thanks

HappyCanadian:

Well, I do not pray for such challenge.. thank u

I am married and my wife is a good woman but there are always challenges in every marriage