eyinjuege:
Responsibilities are not only financial.
Both should contribute financially, both should contribute in housekeeping of the home I.e cleaning the home, cooking/feeding members of the family, both should equally look after the children e.g this week you're responsible for bathing, dressing kids, dropping and picking up from school, homework etc while the other partner does same the following week.
There are many more responsibilities in a family that should be shared tbh.

Biglittlelois:
@daylay7 I hope you're satisfied with the three comments above.....

HornyTave:
My question to you as a man to man in 21st century is ' Why you wan marry, wen be prison ', when you can have a baby mama and still flex life till you're 50 and marry a gal who's younger than your Chil?

Alexaonfleek:
Na for mouth this kain thing dey sweet

eyinjuege:
Responsibilities are not only financial.
Both should contribute financially, both should contribute in housekeeping of the home I.e cleaning the home, cooking/feeding members of the family, both should equally look after the children e.g this week you're responsible for bathing, dressing kids, dropping and picking up from school, homework etc while the other partner does same the following week.
There are many more responsibilities in a family that should be shared tbh.

HornyTave:
My question to you as a man to man in 21st century is ' Why you wan marry, wen be prison ', when you can have a baby mama and still flex life till you're 50 and marry a gal who's younger than your Child?

cococandy:
why do want to have secx with someone who’s younger than your child?

HornyTave:


Answering this would make me as stupid as you. so I'll pass

HornyTave:


[s][/s]Because you're lazy and need someone to inflate your deflated self esteem[s][/s]

LeoThaGreat:
In mathematics, there's something called "Collect like terms together."
I believe men who thinks financial responsibility should be shared should marry a lady who shares their belief.
Also, men who thinks a lady should be financially dependent on a man should marry ladies with similar mindset.
There's no manual for marriage. As long as husband and wife and on the same page, outsiders can go to hell.
There are couples that split the bill and are happy. There are families the man provides everything and are also happy.
Don't go ahead to marry someone who you're not sure of what they think about financial responsibilities and other responsibilities at home.
Shalom

bdchange:
It is easier to say lets copy the European culture in terms of sharing responsibilities in marriage. But are u also ready to give power to women in marriage and other benefits accrued to them in those European countries you want to copy. If I list them now, then you will see an african man saying it is not our culture to do such. Please just stick to what work for you and your spouse.

eyinjuege:
Responsibilities are not only financial.
Both should contribute financially, both should contribute in housekeeping of the home I.e cleaning the home, cooking/feeding members of the family, both should equally look after the children e.g this week you're responsible for bathing, dressing kids, dropping and picking up from school, homework etc while the other partner does same the following week.
There are many more responsibilities in a family that should be shared tbh.

Biglittlelois:
@daylay7 I hope you're satisfied with the three comments above.....

turasumon:



I totally agree with you. Men want women to share in their responsibilities but they don't share the women's responsibilities. if we share the financial responsibilities of the home 50- 50, then we should also share domestic responsibilities. Both of us will be cooking turn by turn, bathing the kids and other domestic responsibilities. You can not expect me to to do part of ur own without you sharing mine.

PS: I believe that women should work and earn money.

but their contributions to the home should be voluntary.....same for the man, he should help with chores and not forced to

crackhaus:
Dear OP, don't kid yourself...
There's no where in the world that a woman would agree to share all financial responsibilities 50/50, I dare say this.

I could make an exception for families where the husband and wife have decided not to birth kids. A woman in this union may just (emphasis on may) agree to do 50/50, but then it'd still be rare.

Women are simply not built to want to split financial responsibilities straight down the middle – doesn't matter how modern or exposed she is.
You could very well meet exceptions to the above generalization, but they will all be non-african women.

If it's a naija woman you're looking for to split bills/share financial responsibilities 50/50 with you, then sorry oo.
Our wonderful sisters believe that opening their legs for you entitles them to your money (lots of it), not to mention when they now have children for you... ohh trust me, it's a mountain of gold sef they expect from their men for pushing out babies.

Any woman (like some above) who tells you to share in the housekeeping, child raising, and chores, so that they can share the financial responsibility with you 50/50, is lying to you oo. NA TRAP!
You will just end up doing plenty housework, and still see yourself spending the most money. LOL! No such thing as 50/50 when it comes to money in a naija woman's handbook... Better make peace with this fact and learn how to be following dem with brain.

crackhaus:
Dear OP, don't kid yourself...
There's no where in the world that a woman would agree to share all financial responsibilities 50/50, I dare say this.

I could make an exception for families where the husband and wife have decided not to birth kids. A woman in this union may just (emphasis on may) agree to do 50/50, but then it'd still be rare.

Women are simply not built to want to split financial responsibilities straight down the middle – doesn't matter how modern or exposed she is.
You could very well meet exceptions to the above generalization, but they will all be non-african women.

If it's a naija woman you're looking for to split bills/share financial responsibilities 50/50 with you, then sorry oo.
Our wonderful sisters believe that opening their legs for you entitles them to your money (lots of it), not to mention when they now have children for you... ohh trust me, it's a mountain of gold sef they expect from their men for pushing out babies.

Any woman (like some above) who tells you to share in the housekeeping, child raising, and chores, so that they can share the financial responsibility with you 50/50, is lying to you oo. NA TRAP!
You will just end up doing plenty housework, and still see yourself spending the most money. LOL! No such thing as 50/50 when it comes to money in a naija woman's handbook... Better make peace with this fact and learn how to be following dem with brain.

daylay7:

That's not fair. What if both share the responsibility including the financing of the home?

NoToPile:


Loool @ bolded

But then there are men who spend most ( if not all) the money and still do house work.

This OP only wants to share bills, he doesn't want to share chores,it does make sense if he wants his financial burden relieved he should also relieve his lady's domestic burden that should balance out the European system he is quoting.