Go back to her nah, nonsense without ingredients.

What's here to celebrate by the way? Lol..... someday a lady of your so called spec will dump you also by claiming you're not her own spec. You'll dump and be dumped until you get settled with one. That's the game, it's nothing to be congratulatory about. Wish you well in your future adventures. Lol.......

I know how it is in Canada, from experience if you don’t have plans to be with her , best you leave her now, from your post you are a young man without kids and now you are thrilled to see a lady very interested in you, I can tell you that it’s because she is a single mother, she will do anything just to hook u , once that’s done my brother it will be hard to unhook , Yoruba adage says if u don’t plan on eating something then there is no need to be smelling it

molybdenum0012:


Big fat lie.. Spec ko. Spec ni. Anybody wey go chest go cheat irrespective of whether he married his spec or not.. Cheating is wey beyond that. It is personal discipline bro, not about being with spec or not..

You won't understand, I know. Maybe few years to come

Which few years? im over 40 so anything i write as regards relationship is from experience.

I did not say he won't cheat but he MAY find it difficult cos he has his specs and im not talking about guys who are possessed with the spirit of philandering but regular disciplined guy. With my spec, i won't even think of cheating let alone do it especially if the lady now knows how to handle me in the bedroom then its over. I die there.

if she is getting older i will go for liposuction and boobs augmentation to still give her that sweet looks.

Guy this cheating thing nah mindset o. Just that it is what it is, guys cheat just for the fun of it.

Toks2008:


You did well bro.

As a guy it is either your spec or die single. I don't believe in all those shitty talks of behaviour over spec. You can get your spec with the type of behaviour you can at least tolerate.

I had that issue too where people were wondering why i was still single despite my good looks bla bla bla but i tried to tell them that i have not found my spec but i was just sounding like a broken record to them.

Any guy who is married to a lady that is not his spec especially physically, will either end up fantasising over his spec for the rest of his marital life or may end up having a side chic that matches his spec. But when you get your spec, it will be very difficult for you to even contemplate cheating on her.

Men are designed to be promiscuous that is why we want quantity and we are after variety. U can't fight ur biological makeup dude.

Beauty is vain and will always diminish as every year passes even ladies know this.

BiggyB242:
As for me, I will rather stick to a girl that loves me more. Hope your spec will want you as well. Talking about the spec you are referring to her physical appearance.

Most times a guy will leave a good woman and start chasing these hour-glass women with an entitlement mentality. After these ladies have frustrated them they will back screaming all women are bad.

The same goes for women; you want a cute, rich guy with swag that goes clubbing etc and you expect him not to cheat?

A wise man should not hesitate to marry an ugly looking girl if she is of a reputed family.

But even if a girl is extraordinarily beautiful, he should not marry her if she is from a ill-reputed family.

YouWillLaffLast:
Base on my intellectual capacity and my vast knowledge, tactically and tentatively, right from the beginning of times especially in the light of Ecclesiastes evolution I have come to a concrete definite and profound conclusion that I actuallyhave nothing to say

Eeyah!!!

Sorry ooo.

BiggyB242:
As for me, I will rather stick to a girl that loves me more. Hope your spec will want you as well. Talking about the spec you are referring to her physical appearance.

Most times a guy will leave a good woman and start chasing these hour-glass women with an entitlement mentality. After these ladies have frustrated them they will back screaming all women are bad.

The same goes for women; you want a cute, rich guy with swag that goes clubbing etc and you expect him not to cheat?

The problem is with how men have evolved..... men evolved to prioritize looks over behaviour....i wish that's not the way it is but that's the way it is..... it's sad....

DEMZEE:


Men are designed to be promiscuous that is why we want quantity and we are after variety. U can't fight ur biological makeup dude.

Beauty is vain and will always diminish as every year passes even ladies know this.

Your biological make up will lead you to death sooner than you expect.... think about the men who die on top women in hotel rooms...

DEMZEE:


Men are designed to be promiscuous that is why we want quantity and we are after variety. U can't fight ur biological makeup dude.

Beauty is vain and will always diminish as every year passes even ladies know this.

Even guys diminish so what is the big deal. Don't get me wrong...guys cheat for the fun of it but if i ever want to be with another lady i get a concubine...simple. I think it is stupid to cheat on a lady when you can simply get another lady as a permanent option.

Why should i indulge in adultery when i can simply marry another lady or even marry as many as i want and enjoy a sinless orgy if needs be? and talking about getting another lady, ii dont need to do any big wedding...i simply get any young lady with body to die for, pay her parents her bride price and get one small apartment for her ...that's all, no long thing. Go to states like Benue, rivers state, akwa ibom and several other states and see extremely hot young ladies praying for a man to just marry them and their parents will package her for you if you are ready to marry and train her...you don't need to worry your head with these so called sophisticated oversabi ladies that may ruin you with their crazy demands.

Toks2008:


You did well bro.

As a guy it is either your spec or die single. I don't believe in all those shitty talks of behaviour over spec. You can get your spec with the type of behaviour you can at least tolerate.

I had that issue too where people were wondering why i was still single despite my good looks bla bla bla but i tried to tell them that i have not found my spec but i was just sounding like a broken record to them.

Any guy who is married to a lady that is not his spec especially physically, will either end up fantasising over his spec for the rest of his marital life or may end up having a side chic that matches his spec. But when you get your spec, it will be very difficult for you to even contemplate cheating on her.

don't mind Dem. Bro choose ur hustle, go for your specs. Give it a shot with ur specs abeg.

Is like I'm trapped too oo.

There is this lady in my shop, although we didn't vibe when I first got there, all of a sudden this year we started sitting close to each other, gist, and cracks some jokes. I started developing an interest in her and she already developed the same interst.

Now, we already dating each other even far beyond ooo but i really wish to opt-out...

As per some reasons...

Ok

Aburada:
Damnnn niggarrrr
Isoright

This is the same thing I did to one single mother that year. I don't want anything to distract me from my daily hustle because there's no love in the street

I only derive joy from my weed not from any woman

Smoke up
Drink up
Bomb Chinese websites

WeChat/Alipay/courier/Consignment



You had to check my moniker if it's

slawormiir

you got me there bro ...lol

Op all this one your saying isn't my concern. How did you get to canada?. i want to live there too

sincerely most, if not all single mothers need relationship rehabilitation. if you're in a relationship with a single mother and she's not giving you headache her parents must have done their assignment or she her self have worked on herself.
on the other hand you as a guy involved in a relationship with a single mother after years of having canal knowledge of her and series of promises, you now all of sudden after u have finished enjoying her wee organ and milk factory and no longer derive satisfaction in her because you now have eyes on someone else God go judge you. if na Genevieve you go leave am.

Zendinho:
Bro.... because of this victory, I'll certainly spoil you and every happy nairaland with chilled bottle of beer......

Beer For all.......

Bad boy

HappyCanadian

I was among those who replied your first thread, asking if you have been chatting with her in Nigeria, maybe after she helped you to immigrate then you wanted to dump her.

I am glad to know you met her in Canada but next time don't start what you cant finish well. White women are not like African women, they can love finish. They are quick to fall in love, very caring people.

Dating a single mother comes with a heavy price because you must be a second place in their life after their kid, and most likely it will not end well

Next time: Just be extra careful if not you will eat bone that will hook you on your throat..

Stay bless

TheEnygma:

You have said it all, you literally spoke my mind.....OP Take note.

I had a similar experience, this babe I used to ask out a long time ago but she was using me to catch cruise, she later got pregnant for another guy who dumped her after she gave birth.... She recently started calling me and giving me all sorts of "green light" not knowing that I'm a sharp guy and I know all those tricks to hook me with extra baggage, I simply bone am.

Haha sharp guy, vagina people hate smart men like you and I, the next thing now is to start behaving as the victim since she can't get you, just wait

Toks2008:


Even guys diminish so what is the big deal. Don't get me wrong...guys cheat for the fun of it but if i ever want to be with another lady i get a concubine...simple. I think it is stupid to cheat on a lady when you can simply get another lady as a permanent option.

Why should i indulge in adultery when i can simply marry another lady or even marry as many as i want and enjoy a sinless orgy if needs be? and talking about getting another lady, ii dont need to do any big wedding...i simply get any young lady with body to die for, pay her parents her bride price and get one small apartment for her ...thats all, no long thing. Go to states like Benue, rivers state, akwa ibom and several other states and see young ladies praying for a man to just marry them and their parents will package her for you if you are ready to marry and train her...you don't need to worry your head with these so called sophisticated oversabi ladies that may ruin you with their crazy demands.

I'm all for polygamy Sir

HappyCanadian:
Hey Guys,

I created this thread to thank and update you guys how my strong closeness with the single mother ended after receiving advice here....
Previous thread: https://www.nairaland.com/6477303/how-leave-single-mother-without

Before I start I want to correct the negative impression a lot of you had thinking I was chatting with her in Nigeria> FYI me and her live in the same city in Canada but I met her through a popular dating site.

So after the brilliant advice from the previous thread which I remained grateful to everyone that contributed. I messaged her two days later on Instagram to come let's talk. She arrived at my apartment and called to tell me that she was trapped in the snow mud with her car and I had to come out and labor that night in a wicked cold weather to make sure I brought out her car which I did and she went gaga the more heaping all kinds of romantic praises on me . Later on, we started discussing and I told her respectfully that I needed time to think through our friendship as I wasn't ready for something serious/relationship which she is gunning for, since I noticed she became too obsessed and close with me that a day does not pass without her thinking about me or messaging. As I talked to her she remained quiet of course I knew she was disappointed and didn't look happy cause that was not what she expected. Then after, I jokingly told her a family friend saw her photo on my WhatsApp (false) and became interested in knowing her she was quiet and kept listening till I finished and then one hour later she said she was going.

When she got home she wrote me that she has seen I needed my space and time and that she would move on with her life but saying she doesn't like the idea of telling her about someone else when it was me she had feelings for.. which I apologized.

Since then she became quiet kinda saying I friend zoned her though I didn't, hardly writes me and does not think of visiting me or whatsoever. But I recently called her to "extend an olive branch" since she wasn't cool about my friend I told her, and she was rather interested in knowing why I called her to appear saying she thought I would define what we are or ask her for a relationship having known for months and all that which I maintained my stand . At the end, she mentioned everything I said boils down to her distancing herself from me so I will have my time and do my thing. Few minutes later she stood up to leave and I walked her down, she entered her car and left.

I felt for her then but I know she is fine now. The thing is that I do not likely see myself settling with her as I have my reasons, plans and spec in a babe.. yes I liked her and we vibe and crack sometimes but I got to be honest with her as was advised here.. again she is so sensitive probably her Canadian lifestyle.

Thankfully its over and we are free.. most importantly I have learnt some lessons but above all I wish her well.
When next I see one I will recall this incident and keep calm

#Respect to the Mods & Nairalanders

wat u know u won't eat , don't taste it. U did right jaare . Guys in their 40s upward will tell u d truth. I love d fact that ure intentional about your life . I wish someone I know did wat u just did he wouldn't have wasted his youthful life with a control freak, unsecured, single mother that's not even good-looking in d first place. Not his specs but he wanted to just play and go but instead he got played. He's done now but to us it took a long time of being lost to get found. You did well.

BigBashiru:


Your biological make up will lead you to death sooner than you expect.... think about the men who die on top women in hotel rooms...

I'm a polygamous man dude

Men and women are not equal and we love and show love differently. Men and women also view sex differently

dapadawee:
sincerely most, if not all single mothers need relationship rehabilitation. if you're in a relationship with a single mother and she's not giving you headache her parents must have done their assignment or she her self have worked on herself.
on the other hand you as a guy involved in a relationship with a single mother after years of having canal knowledge of her and series of promises, you now all of sudden after u have finished enjoying her wee organ and milk factory and no longer derive satisfaction in her because you now have eyes on someone else God go judge you. if na Genevieve you go leave am.

It's a game nah

Some win, some loose

Tadeknkeepcalm:

You forgot to tell us what your grandfather once told you

BigBashiru:


The problem is with how men have evolved..... men evolved to prioritize looks over behaviour....i wish that's not the way it is but that's the way it is..... it's sad....

Very sad bro, I mentioned earlier how a guy left a relationship because the girl's boob wasn't big enough according to him. A good well-mannered lecturer who really loved him but didn't want to give up the cookie yet. She wanted to see his commitment, is not like she was demanding because financially she was doing better.

sylve11:




A wise man should not hesitate to marry an ugly looking girl if she is of a reputed family.

But even if a girl is extraordinarily beautiful, he should not marry her if she is from a ill-reputed family.

You have said it all, beauty isn't among the first top three on my list when looking for a wife.

HappyCanadian:
Hey Guys,

I created this thread to thank and update you guys how my strong closeness with the single mother ended after receiving advice here....
Previous thread: https://www.nairaland.com/6477303/how-leave-single-mother-without

Before I start I want to correct the negative impression a lot of you had thinking I was chatting with her in Nigeria> FYI me and her live in the same city in Canada but I met her through a popular dating site.

So after the brilliant advice from the previous thread which I remained grateful to everyone that contributed. I messaged her two days later on Instagram to come let's talk. She arrived at my apartment and called to tell me that she was trapped in the snow mud with her car and I had to come out and labor that night in a wicked cold weather to make sure I brought out her car which I did and she went gaga the more heaping all kinds of romantic praises on me . Later on, we started discussing and I told her respectfully that I needed time to think through our friendship as I wasn't ready for something serious/relationship which she is gunning for, since I noticed she became too obsessed and close with me that a day does not pass without her thinking about me or messaging. As I talked to her she remained quiet of course I knew she was disappointed and didn't look happy cause that was not what she expected. Then after, I jokingly told her a family friend saw her photo on my WhatsApp (false) and became interested in knowing her she was quiet and kept listening till I finished and then one hour later she said she was going.

When she got home she wrote me that she has seen I needed my space and time and that she would move on with her life but saying she doesn't like the idea of telling her about someone else when it was me she had feelings for.. which I apologized.

Since then she became quiet kinda saying I friend zoned her though I didn't, hardly writes me and does not think of visiting me or whatsoever. But I recently called her to "extend an olive branch" since she wasn't cool about my friend I told her, and she was rather interested in knowing why I called her to appear saying she thought I would define what we are or ask her for a relationship having known for months and all that which I maintained my stand . At the end, she mentioned everything I said boils down to her distancing herself from me so I will have my time and do my thing. Few minutes later she stood up to leave and I walked her down, she entered her car and left.

I felt for her then but I know she is fine now. The thing is that I do not likely see myself settling with her as I have my reasons, plans and spec in a babe.. yes I liked her and we vibe and crack sometimes but I got to be honest with her as was advised here.. again she is so sensitive probably her Canadian lifestyle.

Thankfully its over and we are free.. most importantly I have learnt some lessons but above all I wish her well.
When next I see one I will recall this incident and keep calm

#Respect to the Mods & Nairalanders

Oya do give away. Open a new thread, first 20 to comment will receive N1k each.

BiggyB242:
As for me, I will rather stick to a girl that loves me more. Hope your spec will want you as well. Talking about the spec you are referring to her physical appearance.

Most times a guy will leave a good woman and start chasing these hour-glass women with an entitlement mentality. After these ladies have frustrated them they will back screaming all women are bad.

The same goes for women; you want a cute, rich guy with swag that goes clubbing etc and you expect him not to cheat?

no mind them, mtchewwww

Elixirsblog:
Really whats special about this. A woman is interested in you, you told her you don't like her that way she left you be, now you're bringing her to discuss on NL.
why you guys gotta be so dramatic about stuff.
she say she's moving on with her life. Move on with your life too. geeeeeezzzz

He needs to enlighten other brothers and he need to discuss with other to know if made the right decision.

You see she might never have been thst caring if she wasn't a single mother. That is the worst trap a single brother can fall into.

I am glad she is moving on to the next available. Like ladies say ( we move). Even most single ladies say that they move all through their prime( from one tom, to Harry, to ade etc) Now when the clock is ticking and the wall seems inevitable, then they want a serious relationship and want to settle down.

The reality is brothers discuss alot and learn from each other the way ladies discuss at salons. Brothers are eating the apple and they are getting woke from the delusion our fathers had. The stupid society construct on dating and relationship is been modified to suits individual needs.

Simple.

This your post is very senseless

MickzyDonald:
Happy Break up bro, i pray she finds her true love and someone that'll really care for her...

Congrats man

Breakup kwa but they where never together.

Aburada:
Damnnn niggarrrr
Isoright

This is the same thing I did to one single mother that year. I don't want anything to distract me from my daily hustle because there's no love in the street

I only derive joy from my weed not from any woman

Smoke up
Drink up
Bomb Chinese websites

WeChat/Alipay/courier/Consignment



You had to check the moniker if it's

slawormiir

U re a correct niggea