A mother of two who pleaded anonymity has taken to social media to ask members of the public whether it was wrong to ask her husband to do the dishes.
According to her, her husband lost his business to scam and she has been the one catering for the family with the little she earns from her restaurant business.
She said: “Truly, My husband was the one who opened the restaurant for me, I cook very well and I still do my cooking by myself as I only direct my staffs on what to do.My husband lost his business to scam and since then it’s been me carrying the responsibilities, most of my staffs left because I could not pay them and at some point, all of them left and I had to do everything by myself.

“My husband is doing nothing yet, he just sits at home and maybe go pick the kids from school and all, so yesterday I had lots of customers in the shop, I was doing everything by myself, so as soon as my husband walked in, I asked him to help me rush to wash a few plates while I serve, and he looked at me in some strange way, I repeated myself and he slapped me in public, and walked out.

“I ignored the embarrassment and even most of my customers left, when I got home I noticed that he moved his things, I called his phone and he said he is in his friends place till he gets a job he will come home, that I should take care of the kids.

“He cut the call I tried to call and the next he blocked me.

“What did I do wrong, who is supposed to be upset? I just need to clear my conscience.”

That's very bad telling your husband to wash plate

Pride is the devil

Jcole-

He does not have a job?

BonPatrick:
A mother of two who pleaded anonymity has taken to social media to ask members of the public whether it was wrong to ask her husband to do the dishes.
According to her, her husband lost his business to scam and she has been the one catering for the family with the little she earns from her restaurant business.
She said: “Truly, My husband was the one who opened the restaurant for me, I cook very well and I still do my cooking by myself as I only direct my staffs on what to do.My husband lost his business to scam and since then it’s been me carrying the responsibilities, most of my staffs left because I could not pay them and at some point, all of them left and I had to do everything by myself.

“My husband is doing nothing yet, he just sits at home and maybe go pick the kids from school and all, so yesterday I had lots of customers in the shop, I was doing everything by myself, so as soon as my husband walked in, I asked him to help me rush to wash a few plates while I serve, and he looked at me in some strange way, I repeated myself and he slapped me in public, and walked out.

“I ignored the embarrassment and even most of my customers left, when I got home I noticed that he moved his things, I called his phone and he said he is in his friends place till he gets a job he will come home, that I should take care of the kids.

“He cut the call I tried to call and the next he blocked me.

“What did I do wrong, who is supposed to be upset? I just need to clear my conscience.”

He's not romantic and caring.

That's why I hate people with pride and ego

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Keep quoting until you guys choke


Lollittaa my winter bear see them

So in summary, U tell ur husband to go wash plates so u can serve ur customers?

like him go sit down carry sponge wash plate in public for u for restaurant weh him open for u?
Is that really what I read or I missed some part?

The man in question is at a very vulnerable point in life. I think you pissed him off. The level of understanding between the both of you would have smoothened any rancour here. You hurt his pride

I would slaps you again..... you have customers and you say your husband to wash the plate what are you try to insinuating?? Gradually you turn him to ur staff atleast give respect a chance if you do respect him enough you won’t dare say that you embarrassed and disrespected him Public you deserve to Hot slap

So he does not have a job and you gave him the job of a plate washer in the restaurant he opened for you? You want to turn him to errand boy? Hmmmmm.

That's not the full story

Once a man losses his source of income women become rude , unappreciative and wicked

Even if you ask Buhari to wash plates with proper manners he would gladly do that but ungrateful Nigerian women are something else


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Ordinary slap?

U can still see well to type the man no slap you well

fuckingAyaya:
U can still see well to type the man no slap you well

Naa Uppercut with DDT e suppose give her

kennylesy122:
I would slaps you again..... you have customers and you say your husband to wash the plate what are you try to insinuating?? Gradually you turn him to ur staff atleast give respect a chance if you do respect him enough you won’t dare say that you embarrassed and disrespected him Public you deserve to Hot slap

Na Wa o. This kind comment dey cos headache.

Make una dey try use pidgin na. No be by force to speak English.

Cinema4d:
He does not have a job?

As innthe husband no get work o!
That alone is problem

madam you are a fool


when I was job hunting, every body was my enemy, I never smiled, everybody was a suspect.

put your self in his shoes.

societal expectations and other pressure, plus all the subtle body language insult you are giving him.

it means you are busy while he is lazy.

fuckingAyaya:
U can still see well to type the man no slap you well

The slap was a simple,harmless warning slap nah!

It was not those irregular slap out of vexation

You don't have a husband (not diminishing the man's efforts), no real man assaults a woman over such issues.

PSA: To the little boys and wannabe men mentioning me upandan, I am not responsible for your lack of social decorum and communication skills, that's for your parents and communities to sort out; once you lay your hands on a woman, the moral high ground with which you claim to stand on, stops existing.

Very disrespectful.

It is well

BruncleZuma:
You don't have a husband, no real man assaults a woman over such issues.

I payed 100k to rent a shop

I payed an extra 100 k to buy plastic chairs, table and accessories for interior

I bought gas stove, microwave, cutlery, and food stuff almost 100k

Gave the wife another 100k working capital

All in all I spent 500k on a business venture or $1200 USD on a business venture I earned zero Kobo from( 1.2k is minimum wage of hard labour in USA) and annual income in Nigeria

Yet I am told to wash plates for the customers and I should not get angry and slap the person degrading me because I want to be a real man

I won't slap her , I'll take over my business with receipt and proof of payments I made starting up the business, I'll start washing the damn plates and keeping my profits for my damn self, for 50k I'll get an excellent cook in Lagos and run a proper business, let her go and ask her father and elders in their village to wash plate after buying her plates and business so she can survive




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You should be happy because your husband is a real nigga

Hotshisha:


I payed 100k to rent a shop

I payed an extra 100 k to buy plastic chairs, table and accessories for interior

I bought gas stove, microwave, cutlery, and food stuff almost 100k

Gave the wife another 100k working capital

All in all I spent 500k on a business venture or $1200 USD on a business venture I earned zero Kobo from( 1.2k is minimum wage of hard labour in USA) and annual income in Nigeria

Yet I am told to wash plates for the customers and I should not get angry and slap the person degrading me because I want to be a real man

Baba that nah financial support; you've also got psychological and physical support, which you've not provided.

But seriously, assaulting your wife or any woman over something you can talk over nah beta male behaviour.

Imagine say 1200$ make man slap em wife; laughs in death and destruction.

I don't see anything wrong if the Man watches plate. It's lack of understanding, so if it was the Man that runs The business won't he dish out plates for his customers. Since it's a family business i don't see anything wrong with it.

It would have been better if you guys discussed about him helping out at the restaurant at home, intead of you taking him by surprise, in front of other people.
I once worked for a baker whose husband wasn't working, the kind of errands she used to send the man in front of everyone ehn, he will first look at people's eyes, in discomfort before shamefully carrying it out. The guy will become unnecessarily angry at his wife's workers at the slightest mistake, just to show that he's in charge.
Being broke around women, even your sisters, can be depressing.

Hardgun:
That's very bad telling your husband to wash plate

What's totally bad? Considering the pressure on her she mentioned. I think her asking for her husband's help was justified.

Elporo:


Nah thunder go fire you las las.

A man with no pride is no man.

Real men burnt down Troy.
Real men built the Egytian pyramids.
Real men took over Red Indian territory to birth America.

If they where busy doing dishes, I wonder if you would be able to read or write.

Did you even bother to read Homers Iliad; your basic Hollywood-driven knowledge of history is troubling. And the kinds of fatalistic attributes to real men shows me how unlikely it is that you've seen an actual "real man" before.

Hotshisha:
That's not the full story

Once a man losses his source of income women become rude , unappreciative and wicked

Even if you ask Buhari to wash plates with proper manners he would gladly do that but ungrateful Nigerian women are something else

You made a lot of sense.

CalmElder, your comment is thought-provoking.

The man is stupid!

I have seen husband and wife running a business together..and guess what ..it's booming.

Just in front of my yard.. a woman owns a retail shop..the husband stocked it up..the next thing I saw was the husband helping in the sales in the shop..the shop is growing

Another man helps his wife in the restaurant..she does the cooking and the man takes orders, serves the customers and helps out.where necessary...customers keep flowing san-san into the restaurant..

There's a program called restaurant impossible aired on food network.. I see a lot of husband and wife and children running their restaurants.

All I can say is that this man will die a wretched poor man..proud grasshopper with no shi-shi.. yeyee dey smell

Modified:
All of you quoting and abusing me..I cover myself with the blood of Jesus! All your abuses back to sender...

Is it bad if this man helps out? What happens to joining hands and see that nothing is lagging in the restaurant Only a proud man will feel insulted by what his wife said.. and proud people always ends up like grasshopper with no ten kobo..

SmartPolician:


You made a lot of sense.

CalmElder, your comment is thought-provoking.

Thanks SmartPolician

It's simply an understanding the husband lacks. Would she ever ask him to wash dishes at home? That was purely on a business/hustling ground. What if the wife can't manage the restaurant, then the husband would had lost so much and they would be starve.

The husband doesn't know the value of what he has.

Pls move this post to FP @admin