Men are regarded as Alfa males.
The woman is at fault and the man is equally at fault, he should have just turns back and walk away.
FAULT 1
the wife shouldn't have welcome the husband with actions of quick asking him to help wash ditches, if the man is carering he would absolutely help her, seeing the stress the woman is going true without her asking him to.
FAULT 2
the woman should have discussed this politely with the man AT HOME!!! before now. And make him see reasons why she needed his help.
It should just be a mutual agreement I bet the man will not see it as insult.
A man who was working before and lost his job thereafter will not be self secured again. He will definitely see himself as inferior.
FAULT 3
the man should not have slapped the woman in public.
Women should learn to respect their husbands should you be earning above him or not.

LET ME USE MYSELF AS AN EXAMPLE
I got married late last year my wife works with a private firm while I run a business of my own.
My wife leave home as early as 6am and return at 5 or 6pm daily.
Most times I go home and prepare food because I know the nature of her job, I do the ditches
At a point she now saw it as my duty which I immediately retraced my track.
One weekend I was at home with her, she was mopping the room and she said to me to go and wash the plates like **come go watch the plates now abi you no see say kitching dey smell? **
I quickly cut her shot like asking her when do we sign agreement to divide house shores?, by the grace of God she was the one who wash the ditches and did every other house shores. Since then I reduced my helping hand.
Making her to understand that I did not marry her to become her house boy, I always do the shores out of love and to help her since I have chances to do it,months passed she felt the heat and later apologized.i still do help her but not as committed as I use to.

MORAL
women should stop taking advantage on men most especially when a man lend helping hand all the time,do not see it as his responsibility.
If you want your husband to always lend you a helping hand discussing it together that will go a long way.
PLEASE TO THOSE INSULTING THE MAN JUST STOP IT,THE WOMAN MUST HAVE EXHIBITED SOME ACTION THAT WARRANTS THE SLAP. IT IS WRONG ANYWAY TO RISE HAND ON YOUR WOMAN.

ADVICE TO THE SAID WOMAN
make a way to see and apologize to your husband plead with him to comeback home, he must have been bottling some of your action reason for him to leave the house for you.
Just find a way to plead with him and let him return home, he will definitely start helping you in the restaurant.
Restaurant business is a very good and hidden money making business, I bet he will not look for job again when joins you.

That is very wrong. How can you ask your husband to wash plate for you in public.

You should have discussed things with him prior then after your staffs left, so he can be supportive.

You shouldn't have said it in the customers presence for his "pride". Maybe take him to the backyard and plead with him, he might decide to wash it where customers can't see him.

He is not in a right state of mind due to unemployment. You might have also started getting rude to him and that was the height of it in people presence.

those of u condemning this woman has brain problem

Perverted women everywhere

Margy:
The man is stupid!

I have seen husband and wife running a business together..and guess what ..it's booming.

Just in front of my yard.. a woman owns a retail shop..the husband stocked it up..the next thing I saw was the husband helping in the sales in the shop..the shop is growing

Another man helps his wife in the restaurant..she does the cooking and the man takes orders, serves the customers and helps out.where necessary...customers keep flowing san-san into the restaurant..

There's a program called restaurant impossible aired on food network.. I see a lot of husband and wife and children running their restaurants.

All I can say is that this man will die a wretched poor man..proud grasshopper with no shi-shi.. yeyee dey smell

Those men didnt just walk into their wife restaurants and were asked to wash the plates.

This man no matter his predicament right now, doesn’t deserve this woman.
Feeding from my money and you are raising your shoulders high to the extent of slapping me, “in public”. Na this kin tin wey woman dey use kill their husbands out of anger.

cococandy:

Nothing disrespectful in washing dishes.
Y’all are weird AF

Yeah yeah, go wash dishes for free at the nearest McDonald's

Why you ladies dish out what you can't take hiding under feminism BS is strange

What’s degrading about washing dishes?

Hotshisha:


I payed 100k to rent a shop

I payed an extra 100 k to buy plastic chairs, table and accessories for interior

I bought gas stove, microwave, cutlery, and food stuff almost 100k

Gave the wife another 100k working capital

All in all I spent 500k on a business venture or $1200 USD on a business venture I earned zero Kobo from( 1.2k is minimum wage of hard labour in USA) and annual income in Nigeria

Yet I am told to wash plates for the customers and I should not get angry and slap the person degrading me because I want to be a real man

I won't slap her , I'll take over my business with receipt and proof of payments I made starting up the business, I'll start washing the damn plates and keeping my profits for my damn self, for 50k I'll get an excellent cook in Lagos and run a proper business, let her go and ask her father and elders in their village to wash plate after buying her plates and business so she can survive




.

That is very wrong. How can you ask your husband to wash plate for you in public, in front of your customers. Too bad

MOVIC6:
God bless you. The first page comments shows how broken homes will look in the nex 10years, most of these fools typing shits are my mates, I don’t doubt it cos I know the shits the do.
I’m jus worried for this ignorant generation.

Omo, I weak despite the clowning I don't tolerate nor do I condone such behaviour; whoever claim to be my friend/relative wen spew such shít nah permanent disowning. I just dread the future with these kind fellows.

Margy:
The man is stupid!

I have seen husband and wife running a business together..and guess what ..it's booming.

Just in front of my yard.. a woman owns a retail shop..the husband stocked it up..the next thing I saw was the husband helping in the sales in the shop..the shop is growing

Another man helps his wife in the restaurant..she does the cooking and the man takes orders, serves the customers and helps out.where necessary...customers keep flowing san-san into the restaurant..

There's a program called restaurant impossible aired on food network.. I see a lot of husband and wife and children running their restaurants.

All I can say is that this man will die a wretched poor man..proud grasshopper with no shi-shi.. yeyee dey smell

Men help their wives according to the way the woman act, if she's respectful a man will do anything for her but if she's not respectful her husband won't help

Hardgun:
That's very bad telling your husband to wash plate

Na so them take dey rope Naija men for overseas. I don't pity them. All these Marine women, that got their husband's business crashed immediately or after marrying them. There next move is to become breadwinner and cage the husband as their slave. Imagine asking the guy man to wash plates. Abomination!

Coldie:
The reason I beleive the woman didn't talk to him rudely and the man just assaulted her out of pride is a woman that's rude that's providing for the house, if u slap her like that she go change am for u 2 seconds, if customers talk anything she will tell them mind ur business

The man has been providing for the house since and the business she's using to provide that thins was the man's investment. She's working for her husband and it's her responsibilities to provide for the home from that business so stop talking nonsense. Men will provide for women for decades, no wahala. Let woman provide for just 1year, heave will fall. Useless women everywhere.

Galaxydon1:
I don't see anything wrong if the Man watches plate. It's lack of understanding, so if it was the Man that runs The business won't he dish out plates for his customers. Since it's a family business i don't see anything wrong with it.

Look at this idiot! This is a man's ego wounded here. It will start from simple washing of plate. Very soon, he will be washing her panties....That guy na real man mehn! The slap is just the appetizer!

cococandy:
What’s degrading about washing dishes?

Will you wash plates for your teenage kids?! Even after working your but off getting them a cosy life

I work hard to give my wife a business and she turns around to ask me to wash dishes for her customers

The more I think of this the angrier I get

BruncleZuma:
You don't have a husband, no real man assaults a woman over such issues.

I might not slap but but the two later actions are given

BonPatrick:
A mother of two who pleaded anonymity has taken to social media

“I ignored the embarrassment and even most of my customers left, when I got home I noticed that he moved his things, I called his phone and he said he is in his friends place till he gets a job he will come home, that I should take care of the kids.

“He cut the call I tried to call and the next he blocked me.

“What did I do wrong, who is supposed to be upset? I just need to clear my conscience.”

When will Nigerian men grow up.

Hotshisha:


Yeah yeah, go wash dishes for free at the nearest McDonald's

Why you ladies dish out what you can't take hiding under feminism BS is strange

But guess what? It’s not for free. It supports the family income.

If I had no source of income and my partner is running a food business to support us and can’t pay workers to wash dishes due to our income is now reduced, I would be stupid to say I can’t wash dishes to help the business survive. Like I said y’all are weird AF. I don’t know where your reasoning comes from.

There’s no role or job too demeaning for anyone on this earth. Stupid pride that’s defies logic is what makes some of you try to complicate uncomplicated situations.

Dishing what I can’t take?
I can wash dishes, wipe poop, clean up vomit, do anything to support my family. But y’all are too good for that. Such a stupid point of view to support

HAHAHHHA. A jobless man is a angry man.

next time let him serve the customers, while you wash the plates

At first I wanted to rush to write "irresponsible man"... But on seeing the part of he left the house for you to take over as the head of the house and linked it with the part of him establishing you in your business.
A man would prefer to wash the same dishes in his friends house than in the presence of his kids under your instruction.
Women should learn modesty, the same thing can be said more decently, u have stylishly been rude to him bfr and that instruction just confirmed his thoughts.
You don't need advise, you choose btw stability, trust and loyalty in your home and your stupid ego.

Hotshisha:


I payed 100k to rent a shop

I payed an extra 100 k to buy plastic chairs, table and accessories for interior

I bought gas stove, microwave, cutlery, and food stuff almost 100k

Gave the wife another 100k working capital

All in all I spent 500k on a business venture or $1200 USD on a business venture I earned zero Kobo from( 1.2k is minimum wage of hard labour in USA) and annual income in Nigeria

Yet I am told to wash plates for the customers and I should not get angry and slap the person degrading me because I want to be a real man

I won't slap her , I'll take over my business with receipt and proof of payments I made starting up the business, I'll start washing the damn plates and keeping my profits for my damn self, for 50k I'll get an excellent cook in Lagos and run a proper business, let her go and ask her father and elders in their village to wash plate after buying her plates and business so she can survive




.

Be calming down naaa
Okay, no vex

IT ALL DEPENDS ON THE MANNER YOU DISPLAYED IN ASKING HIM TO WATCH THE PLATE.. I GUESS U DID THAT IN AN AUTHORITATIVE WAY.... CONSIDERING HE HAD NO JOB... WOMEN!!!..... BUH TOO BAD IF U ACTUALLY DID THAT TO UR HUSBAND WHO SET UP THAT BUSINESS FOR YOU IN A PUBLIC PLACE....

fake story by a male attention seeker BonPatrick

He has not slap you, he should have kill you for telling him to wash plate, stupid woman.

DaCharis2016:
What's totally bad? Considering the pressure on her she mentioned. I think her asking for her husband's help was justified.

Really? bloody feminist! Im sure you can come here and type rubbish but behind the scene dey bend down dey lick your mans lollypop and still get slapped for no licking it properly. You can go and ask your own man to wash your dishes now...idiot!

Coldie:

U don't know if she was rude or not but u have already branded her rude that she used wrong approach?

Tell him in public to wash the plates is rude. Shouting it a second time because the husband ignored her is the height of rudeness. That is the wrongest approach in dealing with a husband.

Do u think if she was rude, a woman providing for the family like that would allow the husband slap her like that in public and just keep quiet and act like nothing happened.

Una never jam troublesome women before o.

How many provide is she providing for the family. From the story, she barely feeds the family. I am sure the man still provides the basics like house rent, electric bill and school fees. She could not even hire one staff (that does not cost more than 15,000 per month.

What do you expect her to do? Retaliate by slapping him back? She for land for hospitality if she try am. The slap na love slap, else she no go get month to talk again.

I hate what that woman went tru it pains me so much

What do women pass through? Abeg tell me. We men carry the whole weight of the family on our backs. If just for a few months a man is unable to meet all the family needs, women starts misbehaving.

BruncleZuma:


Did you even bother to read Homers Iliad; your basic Hollywood driven knowledge of history is troubling. And the kinds of fatalistic attributes to real men shows me how unlikely you've seen a real man before.

Bros, English will not save you...

He didn't do well by slapping you at all. But na you cause am. You know the kind of husband you married, and you know how to approach him to do whatever you want. Why tell him to wash plate for public when you haven't told him at home before to wash plate? Me I dey wash plate for house too, but my wife use brain take make me know say work don dey fall press am, so I opted to wash the dishes. Communication is key.. How you told him matters. Coming to Nairaland alone to air your dirty laundry don even worsen the case. You should never have..

The problem isn't asking him to wash plates. You said it in public! Na there Bleep up start. If you had called him aside and tell him, he would understand. After all he doesn't have a job that's why he's there in the first place. Believe it or not that man is going through depression

cococandy:

Nothing disrespectful in washing dishes.
Y’all are weird AF

Always virtue signalling and posturing like you can accommodate half the bullcrap you support here.

The man worked, earned, saved and opened the restaurant for the wife which means he was never lazy like many of you( including the Op) is trying to paint him. He also does school runs willingly BUT see the Op making it look like it's nothing, I thought women are always asking their men to participate in the active upbringing of their children? So now that we see a man doing school runs it's inconsequential? He gave the wife a sign that he wasn't comfortable being told to wash dishes in public, a wise woman would have let it be at that moment but NO, she had to run it in!

The man lost the moral argument because he slapped his wife in public, which in itself is a greater sin.

Telling him to wash plate in the public, something he has never done in your restaurant before is a miscommunication of your need of his assistance. He is your husband not your not your worker. And for all your workers to have left you, it says something about your people management skills and u proved it with your hubby. I think u should have called him somewhere only d two of you can hear each other and tell him to help out especially with d influx of customers that day.