Psoul:


And if he still leaves it, it will grow months by the week, then years by the month and geometrically like that until it becomes decades by the year, century by the decade and even millennium by the century and so on.

So the best option is not to leave it.

You too get sense.
Just choose one; Olosho for one night or bottles.
You really deserve a gift

RightToReject:
You are obviously a disingenuous pseudo-libertarian because you cannot tell me that you did not notice during the dating or courting period that she has a best friend but feign comfortable with it because of your low self-esteem/unscrupulousness, which you obviously glossed with the garb of a libertarian.

Ah han!!! What happeeeennnn!!!

Nacoss25:
Good morning everyone. I am a young man newly married to a 22 yr old lady. our marriage is just 2 months old.

Before I met my wife in 2019, she has this male best friend who they have been best friends even before I met her though my wife is a social and jovial person always cheerful, she easily makes friends wherever she finds herself that's her nature and kind of personality.

Right now her friendship with that her male friend is what am becoming uncomfortable with right now because of the so much attention she is lavishing on him. I have complained to her that I am not comfortable with her closeness with the guy but she is seeing it that am trying to cut her off from her friends.

One interesting part of the whole thing is, since we got married the guy has been trying to distance himself from her a bit knowing too well that she is now married but my wife is even the one doing all she could to keep the friendship going the way it has been going. 2 days ago I and my wife were together she called the guy complaining bitterly how he has been distancing himself from her.

My people what do you think I should do to cut down that connection or will the friendship grow week by the day on it's own? My wife is refusing to understand that in marriage there are things u will have to let go.

Tel ur wife to choose btw her male bestie or her marriage.... simple question

because sum women re too stubborn to listen to der husband, give ur husband wat he want n let d marriage b in peace, except if der is sumtin btw she n dat bestie......der is no oda n better bestie dan ur partner, oda bestie cn go bt ur life time partner is ur better bestie...... caution ur wife n ask her to choose btw d male bestie or u... simple

Sundrus:
If u truly want make that friendship wane out naturally, become friend with that her bestie.

Too much wisdom.

macrodata:
This isn't what he signed up for. This matter should've been handled before he even proposed to her.

You have a point but the mistake has been done. He just has to use wisdom to salvage the situation else at the end of the day, he may suffer more than her.

Psychologically and otherwise.

She is just 22 young and naive....just be careful on how you handle the matter

neighbourhud:


Talk for yourself bro.

You interact with them on a neutral level without any string attached...but can you say that of other guys. You still have your decency but you can't say that of others.


No be everybody get church mind like you o

It still doesn't change anything.
Who is small is small, no matter what.

Best comment so far.

CheerfulGiver:
So you knew she had a male bestie. And you did nothing to stop the friendship before you married her, now that you've married her what were you expecting? That she'll stop overnight?

She has taken advantage of your nonchalant attitude and there's nothing you can do about it.

Curious345:
only a virgin is eligible to become my wife

Be decieving yourself.

AmazonTopaz:

They are best ignored, You can use the report button on them they are not worth the attention you are giving them.

I didn't even read the clown's comment completely I just ignored and moved on because he wasn't referring to me.

my dear no worry I get their time...allow me to address them

Augla1:

You too get sense.
Just choose one; Olosho for one night or bottles.
You really deserve a gift

Hahahahahaahaha.
Unfortunately, I don do Olosho and I no dey take green bottles,
If it must be bottles, get me a bottle of Cheval Blanc 1947 or Chateau Lafite 1869.

Osesedney:
Bros things like this are not easy to handle my friend got married 2018 and it took me alot to literally push her away bck to her husband.
We have never had sex before or after she got married, so it is not always about sex
Just that she has always share her plans and ideas with me and strongly believe in my opinion.

After she got married i deliberately cut off dat aspect, knowing that the best person a wife can plan with is her husband.

I made a lot off effort though because i didnt want to deprive a man his place in his own home..

If i share any information or opinion about anything now, i must seek oga's approval.

Now she has adjusted to the new reality of her status.

Whether your wife is a friendly person naturally or not, there need to be boundaries...to everything
There are hyenas everywhere....

Kudos to you, Sir!!
You re a Good fellow!!

Dats wat the OP Wife's bestie is trying to do but she's still hooked n hasn't understood yet...
The OP needs communication with his wife. N try love her more!!..

Oga this is something you should have tackled during courtship not now.
Some ladies sef, no man is supposed to have her attention more than you

zeuss:
Have a lady call you always......and let her complain also.

Bro this is the best advice here don't joke with it. If she refuses to back off from d bestie after telling her u are not comfortable it, then get ur own female bestie talk to her on a long call always in front of Ur wife. U will come back n thank me

AmazonTopaz:
You married a 22 year old that may not be mature for marriage and is supposed to be free living her best life.

You said she is a jovial person so that is how she is and besides she knew that guy as a friend before meeting you so you gotta accommodate that.The only problem is that she isn't mature enough to know that there should be boundaries and she shouldn't over do it.It is a good thing that she is open to you about it.

She is still young and don't cage her because of marriage or that she should let go of someone she has known for years because she married you.

Just tell her to minimise it and draw boundaries.

@op take this advice.. Nice one

Psoul:


Hahahahahaahaha.
Unfortunately, I don do Olosho and I no dey take green bottles,
If it must be bottles, get me a bottle of Cheval Blanc 1947 or Chateau Lafite 1869.

Abeg, musa out security guy get one rusty gun wey him no dey use, him fit borrow for just one day, since na wetin dey hungry you be that

Lovelyn451:
my dear no worry I get their time...allow me to address them

If you say so,me don tire for these boys na ignore mode I put those lowlifes

Rossycee:

@op take this advice.. Nice one

Thank you

You married an immature girl.

blahc007:


My Son....you see why Most of you don't succeed in any thing?
You don't handle everything with a strong hand....the girl is too young to understand life inside Marriage, that's why most times wifing older ladies reduces stress in marriage,cos they tend to understand more...

The Marriage has happened already, your patience and diplomacy in handling issues of life is required here...
wisdom is profitable to direct.

My Son ?? I am definitely older than the first born of your mother..
You are really bereft of knowledge or common sense, success or no success in marriage has nothing to do with other life endeavors.. I can go on to list succeeful people in other spheres of life that never succeeded in marriage both male and female..
You said older women are better?? This is definitely the mentality of a sissy, weakling and one without confidence to go for the best but rather choose to settle for less, over used women..
Go and tell Ned Nwoko (Richman) or the average poor Musa from the north that are marrying fresh nubile women and keeping them in check this..
Summary, when you got zero balls, women would look down on you, treat you with scorn and disdain, doesn't matter if she/they are your wive(s)..

Augla1:

Abeg, musa out security guy get one rusty gun wey him no dey use, him fit borrow for just one day, since na wetin dey hungry you be that

Lol.....I don't need a gun to get those drinks.
I can afford it. You can come over if u feel like having a sip

Lovelyn451:
my dear no worry I get their time...allow me to address them

Amazontopaz alternate, we dey wait for you

zeuss:
Have a lady call you always......and let her complain also.

My brother God go bless you. I don't just understand what some other people are saying. If she chooses not to stop, please get a fine girl to call you all the time and if possible, use her pix as dp pix once in Evey month, if she ask tell her the girl like to celebrate her birthday day every month and you can't help but celebrate with her. What nonsense, married woman with male bestie?

ABANGWABOI:



My Son ?? I am definitely older than the first born of your mother..
You are really bereft of knowledge or common sense, success or no success in marriage has nothing to do with other life endeavors.. I can go on to list succeeful people in other spheres of life that never succeeded in marriage both male and female..
You said older women are better?? This is definitely the mentality of a sissy, weakling and one without confidence to go for the best but rather choose to settle for less, over used women..
Go and tell Ned Nwoko (Richman) or the average poor Musa from the north that are marrying fresh nubile women and keeping them in check this..
Summary, when you got zero balls, women would look down on you, treat you with scorn and disdain, doesn't matter if she/they are your wive(s)..

All this small small children insulting there elders on a faceless forum...
May you not insult your helpers in life IJN...

My son...I have dated both young and old...
Have you tried dating older ladies or your confidence no reach that level...oya try it and report to Papa...anom here eche gi...

Point of correction....I never equated success in Marriage with success in Life endeavours....But you can still have both...100% possible...Na only sense you need to achieve that...and that sense now..u no come get am

sogud:




Tel ur wife to choose btw her male bestie or her marriage.... simple question

because sum women re too stubborn to listen to der husband, give ur husband wat he want n let d marriage b in peace, except if der is sumtin btw she n dat bestie......der is no oda n better bestie dan ur partner, oda bestie cn go bt ur life time partner is ur better bestie...... caution ur wife n ask her to choose btw d male bestie or u... simple

If you see as I just dey look you as you dey talk your "choose between husband or bestie" demand. Common husband Is he the only husband in the world? Abi he's the first husband ever? What is special about his own "husbandry"?

On a serious note, some people don't understand the gravity of their actions till you mirror them, or even get better than them in the act. If I'm in op's shoes, maka Chukwu, I no go complain even one thing. I'll even be acting as if I'm enjoying their conversations. But trust an educated Aba boy. I will definitely have my own bestie, who I will be inviting occasionally to the house. By then I've stop eating the silly girl's food, so that she will not poison me. Sex sessions...until further notice. Even if she initiates, I won't do it still. If she starts her own, no problem. I will go a notch higher. What I shaa know is that my madness must be higher than hers, whatever the case may be. . The worst that can happen is that the home will scatter, and I'm already comfortable with the idea. I no kukuma fancy marriage like that.

The point is this: TERRORISE THE TERRORIST without lifting a finger on her or saying a word. You will see the same "22 year old" girl everyone is regarding here as immature for marriage develop "Aristotelian" wisdom by herself. If person dey craze, I suppose craze pass am. No time for akuko uwa

Sundrus:
If u truly want make that friendship wane out naturally, become friend with that her bestie.

na 3some u dey suggest so o

Anything male bestie is a no no for me. Though I don't think there's anything going on between ur wife and her friend... Just take your mind of it.. And if there was really something going on between them you'll find out one day if your smart to handle it..

My ex has this male bestie I disliked with passion, I eventually caught him trying to kiss my girl then, though she was avoiding the kiss he kept on pushing.. When I told her I saw the both of them she said he does that often but she never lets him but I didn't believe shit cos i know one day she go give in.. .Naso the feelings die o.. But I made sure I banged the living day light outta this girl before I called it quit.. Four months ago I heard this same guy was always beating her like a kid since she moved in with him after our breakup..

AmazonTopaz:
You married a 22 year old that may not be mature for marriage and is supposed to be free living her best life.

You said she is a jovial person so that is how she is and besides she knew that guy as a friend before meeting you so you gotta accommodate that.The only problem is that she isn't mature enough to know that there should be boundaries and she shouldn't over do it.It is a good thing that she is open to you about it.

She is still young and don't cage her because of marriage or that she should let go of someone she has known for years because she married you.

Just tell her to minimise it and draw boundaries.

Do you think the guy did have enough female friends he left for the sake of his marriage?
So the fact the the girl knew the so called evil bestie before the husband met her has given the guy the right to be a trait to the innocent man's marriage? Sometimes I wonder If most of you female folk reason at all.

obembet:


But man can keep a female friends?

Married woman?
See,stop this feminists approach to issues.
It makes no sense.
The male is not like the female.

MrSly:


Do you think the guy did have enough female friends he left for the sake of his marriage?
So the fact the the girl knew the so called evil bestie before the husband met her has given the guy the right to be a trait to the innocent man's marriage? Sometimes I wonder If most of you female folk reason at all.

Did the man in anyway say her bestie is evil?He even said the bestie is trying to distance himself from her so that there would be boundaries.So yes the girl knew the bestie before the OP came into the picture so he should respect their friendship and not try to tell her or force her into doing what she isn't ready to do.

What forced him into marrying a 22 year old in the first place?
The OP didn't leave any female friends he is just mature to draw boundaries which his wife isn't yet mature to do based on her personality too.

And yes I reason perfectly

blahc007:



All this small small children insulting there elders on a faceless forum...
May you not insult your helpers in life IJN...

My son...I have dated both young and old...
Have you tried dating older ladies or your confidence no reach that level...oya try it and report to Papa...anom here eche gi...

Point of correction....I never equated success in Marriage with success in Life endeavours....But you can still have both...100% possible...Na only sense you need to achieve that...and that sense now..u no come get am

You are just a sissy boy ..
I have dated both young and old.. bedded even your mother's mates..
And everyone that has been in this game for decades knows that the younger the better..
Your lack of common Sense is so glaring..

AmazonTopaz:

Did the man in anyway say her bestie is evil?He even said the bestie is trying to distance himself from her so that there would be boundaries.So yes the girl knew the bestie before the OP came into the picture so he should respect their friendship and not try to tell her or force her into doing what she isn't ready to do.

What forced him into marrying a 22 year old in the first place?
The OP didn't leave any female friends he is just mature to draw boundaries which his wife isn't yet mature to do based on her personality too.

And yes I reason perfectly

A 22 years old is a full fledge adult.. stop spitting trash..

ABANGWABOI:



A 22 years old is a full fledge adult.. stop spitting trash..

That is my opinion whether an adult or not a 22 year old has no business getting married.

Don't come under my mention to talk trash mind your business and get lost