BossJamal:
So how do we advice u when you’re not telling us d states where u both are residing. Abeg we have issues at hand save our reading

Ghabz:
She's in Ekiti & am in Osun.

IjapaTiroko:
Economics is more important than love in most relationships.
She's earning already and won't be a financial burden on you.
I'm also guessing your POS business isn't doing bad.

My suggestion is for you to open a business branch in the state she's living, then open other branches as the business grows. Of course, since she will close by 4pm (I guess), the attendants running the POS shops will be reporting to her as "Oga Madam"

You should only pay her visits this period.

Then when you've got enough money to rent & furnish a little apartment for the both of you, you can move to her state.

But if the POS business isn't doing well in her location, stay where you are.

The goal is for you to try not to be at her mercy in terms of accommodation or finance because she is a woman....I won't say more than this

Ghabz:
Dear Nairalander,
Am a young guy planning on settling down this year. My fiance just got government job in her state (January 2021) while am still in my state hustling with my POS job.
Though distance to each other is just less than an hour & am in search of accommodation in my state. She is of the opinion that traveling during pregnancy will be difficult... She suggested resigning so that we can be together.
Pls i need your honest advice. Thanks

Ghabz:
She's in Ekiti & am in Osun.

pansophist:
Let her join you in your state, afterall, it was Eve that joined Adam in the garden of Eden, not the other way round. A woman can be spared of financial responsibilities of her household, but never a man. In anything you do, never give up your financial capability to go and depend on your wife. It always end badly and even if it does not, you'll feel emasculated.

How can a woman give you sex, become pregnant for you and also feed you? Please don't transform that sweet angel of yours to a monster, it's in every woman, and it will come out if you stop being a man in your relationship. Only move to her if you can carry your financial responsibilities, if not, don't move. Women respects a man that takes care of them, or at least not leeching on them, not the opposite. Take care.

Ghabz:
Dear Nairalander,
Am a young guy planning on settling down this year. My fiance just got government job in her state (January 2021) while am still in my state hustling with my POS job.
Though distance to each other is just less than an hour & am in search of accommodation in my state. She is of the opinion that traveling during pregnancy will be difficult... She suggested resigning so that we can be together.
Pls i need your honest advice. Thanks

Ghabz:
Dear Nairalander,
Am a young guy planning on settling down this year. My fiance just got government job in her state (January 2021) while am still in my state hustling with my POS job.
Though distance to each other is just less than an hour & am in search of accommodation in my state. She is of the opinion that traveling during pregnancy will be difficult... She suggested resigning so that we can be together.
Pls i need your honest advice. Thanks

BossJamal pos t=102075589:

Bros move ur ass to Ekiti pls...drop our men ego and join ur wife to start up a good family fully prepared financially. Forget about what pple will say, dem go talk ,dem go tire and they go finally adjust.

The day money no enter for ur pos biz..wifey fit use her money go market cook small okra soup wey go last una two days. Abi u no lyk am like that?
She’s in govt u are in biz..equation balanced. As she’s also in govt...she can also be saving to help set her side biz with that you guys will be comfortable because there’s nothing as sweet as having multiple streams of income...d day Ekiti govt go owe dem for months she is not worried because she’s in her shop selling, d day pos no pay...u are covered. Se ti gbo?


Mind u I never see where POS biz no dey move except na one typical village wey ur wife dey. Move to Ekiti..u yourself rent a modest house and start life anew. Keep ego aside...Nigeria is somehow now