igwebest23:


The issue now is that she have enough money in her account to pay for d rent. I have seen her account balance. Why is asking me d money. I have told her am not a Yahoo guy. Am a salary earner. She was busy telling me that is d husband that supposed to pay for d wife shop rent that other people are doing it for their wife. I equally told her wife too I helping their husband. Like my sister bought Jeep for her hubby and d contributed money to build house

igwebest23:
This is too much for me. I have had enough. I got married to my wife last year October 2020. I did both traditional wedding and white wedding, spent a million plus. I work with ministry of health.

My wife has been insisting that I disclose my salary to her from day 1 but I never, I just told her that am earning 100+. Before I met my wife, she already learn Fashion designing. Then while was rushing around, preparing for wedding, she was pestering me to open shop for her. I specifically told her that d money I have now is Solly for wedding and traditional rite, which cost me fortune.

Then after much pressure, her people contributed money and paid for d shop (Remember I have paid her bride price then). I have swallowed red pill. How can I open shop for a girl I have not finished marrying. Then when she opened d shop, I equally supporting her with other things like buying protector and chairs. Every day she is going to shop, I drop pocket of 1k. Some times she asks me money to buy tailor materials which I give.

Now within a space of 7 months my wife now has 14 apprentices. She collected like 30k from them. Then all the money she made in her shop, she put all in her account, she doesn't contribute anything at home. Infact decided not to apply for ATM card. Some time, I may go to. ATM to get money and d tell me no network, if I come to my wife to ask her for ordinary 1k, she will say she doesn't have it. I never asked her to help in our home finances before, and I don't really care about her money.

But now found out through her Facebook chat that she sent her male school friends 7k. She hid it from me, she said d guy needed d money to treat her father in d hospital. I was shock. Cos my wife always complained she does not have money. Now she is complaining that I don't support her in her shop. That she can do whatever she wants with her money.

This morning, she was raising her voice to the hearing our flat neighbors, that am a useless husband, I feel insulted. Am embarrased. That I don't support her. She said her shop rent has expired that I should give her d money but she have enough money in her account to pay it. While is asking me. Am d one that pays for house rent, I buy food stuff, I give her transport every day.

I have had enough. I will call her mum to come over and carry her daughter. I can never beat her. The last night I shouted at her she fainted not to talk of beating.

okine4real:
I swear I dey always wonder if guys of now a days dey close eyes before them marry. What kind of stupid talk you talking? Your wife dey do this, she dey do that, you know dey see before you marry? You guys think marriage is about pussy and dick? For marriage you go see dick and pussy, you go tire, reality would set in. What kind of women do you guys marry? Your wife is suppose to be chasing you andnt the other way round. So far your hustle tight, your wife suppose dey chase you. Guy husbands know dey outside, so for a fact that you dey even give her food, give give her roof, you suppose dey flex, if you never reach house by 8pm, she suppose dey use call dey chase you to confirm say you done dey come house know be say you dey hangout with one babe.

I swear my wife dey thief my money small small, although na 1k, 500 naira etc, sometimes the money go done reach like 10k, I swear na my children and myself she dey spend am on at the day. She know dey even use am for herself. Your wife suppose dey cherish you. Na only you suppose dey her head, guys open your eyes when you won marry, marriage is not a mirage ohh, na reality. You got bills to pay, if your wife is not working, its a different ball game, but she dey make money and she know fit assist for house, guy na another person wife you marry ohh. Last week my wife go buy sandals for my children, she spend like 15k plus, she call me for work say she done go buy scandals ohh but she go tell my children say na me buy am, when I come back from work, na from door three of my children dey thank me, after I finish with my children I come go find my wife trouble, I tell am say make she know think say na she buy those scandals ohh, say make she remember say na all my money when she thief ohh, we just laugh... As a man, your wife suppose dey adore you. As someone said on nairaland the other day, ONLY YOU SUPPOSE BE YOUR WIFE FRIEND. Guys when una won marry open your eyes. Marriage is not child's play, you can go to work, stress your head, plan how make money everyday only for your wife to dey mess you up, haba now... If you be female self, you can't even come close to meself because my wife na LION. She love me more than she loves herself. We have almost a perfect marriage. Even if I keep 10M for house, for like 1 Month, highest money when go miss inside know go pass 10k, and I guarantee you,inside that 10k, I done chop 5k inside one way for the other.

mmadu4:



when a harlot is talking we know . im sorry for the man in your life.

chatinent:


It all started after he refused to open the shop, and now is expecting proceeds from the shop.

You need to understand women. I have seen a real-life experience like this.

Bro, cool down and don't take sides till you hear from the wife.

She believes she is his responsibility.

BabaIbo:


Good one, I also had similar experience.

Most times, when we lost our partners due to struggle/hustle, it always act as motivation to a bigger and better level if we remain focus.

Kaymicheal852:




I'm tired of hearing about relationship complaint every day ,and I question if I'll ever go into marriage someday,as we all know woman are opportunistic by nature ,mostly selfish being ,at least youre providing the basic needs in the house and she should seat you down and ask calmly If she needs anything instead of insulting you in front of a neighbour ,Chai



I always says if she needs some kind of funding (or she is expensive) then she is not worth it ,if its that easy she should pull out the cash herself and provide for herself without any man's help



Few months into wedding and all this issues ,what if you start having kids ,but sorry bro you're in it already,I don't see any reason a man should dump his wife if not for cheating (according to the Bible) But I think this kind of woman might cheat on you of you go broke or lose your job someday (God forbid ) that's my own opinion though




Don't dump her ,at least only is she cheats ,she is now your cross , embrace and carry it , just be prepared for any possible negative outcome so I won't caught you by surprise and make sure you don't have too many kids ( at least just 1 in the next 7-10 years) so you can save much enough money to achieve some of your life dreams and not only spending of provision for your marriage (new family) alone


GOD WILL BE WITH YOU




Marriage ,ehhhhhhh,I almost got in last year ,only God save me

bigpicture001:
Financial compatibility is now a big issue in marriage much bigger than even cheating....

My ex dumped me cuz of that..i was in very dire need in my huzle..which is very glaring, after all friends have failed to bail me out.she did..nd angrily quitted the relationship cuz according to her its a man dat would giv a lady not the other way round.....

Lol.u funny die
The biz later picked up vry good and earns me 6digits now..

Too many unsupportive girls everywhere..according to them supoort is only in prayers.....

gentlestdude:

OP please don't listen to this dumb fool

Havesomesense:


Every month my girlfriend gives me her salary and she's happy giving me.

I provide her need and I buy her gifts occasionally.

My advice: Learn to control your wife with, love, fear, anger, guilt, etc
You need to make rules & regulation. don't accept nonsense.

If she does good reward her, if she does bad punish her. Do this and you will know peace.

berrystunn:


And you are concluding from one side of the story...

Mugu...

BabaIbo:


OG, pity him abeg.

I wonder how he tutors those that register on his dating whatsoever app with this kind of reasoning or mentality.

Kaymicheal852:




I'm tired of hearing about relationship complaint every day ,and I question if I'll ever go into marriage someday,as we all know woman are opportunistic by nature ,mostly selfish being ,at least youre providing the basic needs in the house and she should seat you down and ask calmly If she needs anything instead of insulting you in front of a neighbour ,Chai



I always says if she needs some kind of funding (or she is expensive) then she is not worth it ,if its that easy she should pull out the cash herself and provide for herself without any man's help



Few months into wedding and all this issues ,what if you start having kids ,but sorry bro you're in it already,I don't see any reason a man should dump his wife if not for cheating (according to the Bible) But I think this kind of woman might cheat on you of you go broke or lose your job someday (God forbid ) that's my own opinion though




Don't dump her ,at least only is she cheats ,she is now your cross , embrace and carry it , just be prepared for any possible negative outcome so I won't caught you by surprise and make sure you don't have too many kids ( at least just 1 in the next 7-10 years) so you can save much enough money to achieve some of your life dreams and not only spending of provision for your marriage (new family) alone


GOD WILL BE WITH YOU




Marriage ,ehhhhhhh,I almost got in last year ,only God save me

igwebest23:
This is too much for me. I have had enough. I got married to my wife last year October 2020. I did both traditional wedding and white wedding, spent a million plus.

igwebest23:
This is too much for me. I have had enough. I got married to my wife last year October 2020. I did both traditional wedding and white wedding, spent a million plus. I work with ministry of health.

My wife has been insisting that I disclose my salary to her from day 1 but I never, I just told her that am earning 100+. Before I met my wife, she already learn Fashion designing. Then while was rushing around, preparing for wedding, she was pestering me to open shop for her. I specifically told her that d money I have now is Solly for wedding and traditional rite, which cost me fortune.

Then after much pressure, her people contributed money and paid for d shop (Remember I have paid her bride price then). I have swallowed red pill. How can I open shop for a girl I have not finished marrying. Then when she opened d shop, I equally supporting her with other things like buying protector and chairs. Every day she is going to shop, I drop pocket of 1k. Some times she asks me money to buy tailor materials which I give.

Now within a space of 7 months my wife now has 14 apprentices. She collected like 30k from them. Then all the money she made in her shop, she put all in her account, she doesn't contribute anything at home. Infact decided not to apply for ATM card. Some time, I may go to. ATM to get money and d tell me no network, if I come to my wife to ask her for ordinary 1k, she will say she doesn't have it. I never asked her to help in our home finances before, and I don't really care about her money.

But now found out through her Facebook chat that she sent her male school friends 7k. She hid it from me, she said d guy needed d money to treat her father in d hospital. I was shock. Cos my wife always complained she does not have money. Now she is complaining that I don't support her in her shop. That she can do whatever she wants with her money.

This morning, she was raising her voice to the hearing our flat neighbors, that am a useless husband, I feel insulted. Am embarrased. That I don't support her. She said her shop rent has expired that I should give her d money but she have enough money in her account to pay it. While is asking me. Am d one that pays for house rent, I buy food stuff, I give her transport every day.

I have had enough. I will call her mum to come over and carry her daughter. I can never beat her. The last night I shouted at her she fainted not to talk of beating.

seanwilliam:
I might be wrong for concluding from one side of the story, but this is an obvious fact that is obtainable in an average Nigeria marriage settings at least 90% of time z we all believe a man should bear 100% responsibility of family . is it easy ??

In this Buhari’s regime. Minimum wages is 30k yet you sit your sorry asś down there and expect someone to take your full responsibility while u bring nothing tangible to table.. nonsense!!

CharisEleos:
Lol... I don't know why this story is making me laugh out so loud.
Wait... You shouted at her and she fainted hahahahaaaa.... Are you odeyssey or a lion? Lol..

Well, first and foremost, you need to vomit that red pill you swallowed because that is the number one cause of your problems.

Then, if you have the money, renew the rent for her. You're her husband for crying out loud. Or why would you go and bring a lady out of her parents house and be maltreating her with your redpill baldadash?

Remember that pills have side effects. So this might just be one of them which could have a very bad outcome in your marriage if you don't spill it out now.

Oyen Redpill.

patani:


The only solution you need is discloure...Let your wife know aw much you earn and show her the proof...Someone you go necked for, you are hidding your salary...O boy ure on a long thing...Let her know ur true picture and show her aw u spend ur money monthly...trust me, it works for me....Why having secret for someone u call ur rib bone...Women will alway assume u av money wen u dont dislcose ur earning to them....

igwebest23:


My brother I know my wife is my responsibility. But d issue now is that she is making money. She has like 250k saving In her account. Her shop rent is just 90k. And she wants me to pay it. D money she is making, is it ordinary paper. The issue is that ladies of this generation is different from our mum. I live in well furnished two bedroom apartment, paid by me. People are passing my wife shop seeing d level of customer going in and out, d think she is contributing to d family. Is better I marry a girl that is not doing anything that will be submissive to me. I noticed d little money she is making is entering her head.

Collinsville5:
There's no need beating, the woman is a selfish person, and really, you should have known. You just have to call both family elders to come into the matter.

Havesomesense:


Every month my girlfriend gives me her salary and she's happy giving me.

I provide her need and I buy her gifts occasionally.

My advice: Learn to control your wife with, love, fear, anger, guilt, etc
You need to make rules & regulation. don't accept nonsense.

If she does good reward her, if she does bad punish her. Do this and you will know peace.