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Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Ilekokonit: 11:59pm On Jun 03, 2021 |
babajeje123: That one small na. If you want to bring up your child in the UK the way you were brought up in Nigeria, you will be lucky to escape prison as you are not allowed to smack your child in the UK and school teachers actively check your child's body for scars if they suspect the child may have been flogged at home and the child need not tell the teacher, your neighbors could call the police or your child's classmates may tell the teacher after being confided in and the teacher may then call the police depending on their judgement on the smack. What would you do for instance if your own wife tells you in front of your 10 year old son who you were about to discipline that "If you touch that boy, I will call the police" ![]() 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Ilekokonit: 12:05am On Jun 04, 2021 |
samcrispy: Unfortunately I no longer have access to the email address linked to my Nairaland account. |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Lexusgs430: 12:21am On Jun 04, 2021 |
Ilekokonit: Does he have a child custody in place?...... ![]() |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Lexusgs430: 12:23am On Jun 04, 2021 |
Ilekokonit: That was my magic bullet..... 22 years and still waxing stronger daily...... I indeed got a diamond, in the midst and surrounded by a sea of mud........... ![]() 22 years of marriage and about 26+ years of experience........ ![]() 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Ilekokonit: 12:34am On Jun 04, 2021 |
TheGuyFromHR: Very good advice as Western kids have a selfish streak not because they hate you but because that's what obtains in the society you raised them in and the white upper class are not immune from problems with their kids. Makes me remember a British Member of Parliament -Chris Huhne [i](a millionaire in pounds) [/i]who was seperated from his wife and had to move out of the house for wife and kids but some years earlier, the MP in a bid to avoid a driving ban for speeding had told his now ex wife to say she was at the wheel of the car but when one of the text exchanges between the MP and his 18 year old son who was siding with his Mum [i](as he was concerned that his Mum would go to prison) [/i]was leaked to the press the MP and his wife both went to prison for perverting the course of justice. In one of the texts the MP sent to his 18 year old son, he wrote saying “I do hope your exams are going OK. Thinking of you. Love you. Dad.” His 18 year old son who was siding with his Mum replied: “ Don’t text me you fat piece of shit .” In another text exchange, his son responded to a text in which the MP said he was proud of him, saying: “Leave me alone. You have no place in my life and no right to be proud. Don’t contact me again. It’s irritating that you don’t seem to take the point. You are such an autistic piece of shit. Don’t contact me again. You make me feel sick.” In some other text messages, the 18 year old boy said the following to his father :- you are a pathetic loser and a joke. I don’t want to speak to you, you disgust me. You are the most ghastly man I have known. I hate you so Bleep off ![]() My point is that if this is happening to a member of the British Upper class and our kids will go to school or Uni with these same kids who have no regards for their parents, then it is foolhardy to think that our kids will listen to us forever in a society where parents especially fathers are treated as jokes even by society. https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2273507/Chris-Huhnes-foul-mouthed-texts-Youre-pathetic-loser-joke-Son-savages-Huhne-salvo-texts.html 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Ilekokonit: 12:37am On Jun 04, 2021 |
Lexusgs430: You are indeed a very LUCKY and possibly a very fulfilled man. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Ilekokonit: 12:44am On Jun 04, 2021 |
Lexusgs430: The kids are both over 18 now but back then, he wanted the kids to enjoy their childhood in peace devoid of dragging their mum through the courts. The kids are now adults and if they choose as adults not to look for their father (because their mum has brainwashed them and bad mouthed their dad for so long) then that is their choice as adults now as you can not force yourself on your children in any society talk less of a Western society where your own kids can accuse you of stalking them and take out a restraining order in court to stop you from coming near them. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Lexusgs430: 12:52am On Jun 04, 2021 |
Ilekokonit: Those court documents, would have been his arsenal..... ![]() Now his children are more inclined to believe, whatever their mum told/tells them......... Regardless, they are now adults!!!! He can now try to build a relationship with them....... If for anything at all, but to make a point....... |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Lexusgs430: 12:52am On Jun 04, 2021 |
Ilekokonit: Anything is possible, with a massive dose of luck...... ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Ilekokonit: 1:01am On Jun 04, 2021 |
LagosismyHome: You made a good point but what I was trying to put across was that an Msc in IT is more marketable than an Msc in HR in today's world. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Ilekokonit: 1:02am On Jun 04, 2021 |
Lexusgs430: Like you said, they are now adults. |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Ilekokonit: 1:05am On Jun 04, 2021 |
MichaelUde: You are a very wise man. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Lexusgs430: 1:05am On Jun 04, 2021 |
Ilekokonit: Very true....... We never know it all, but if luck and the stars tilts your way and always deals you a good hand...... You are indeed a lucky bunny....... ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by TheGuyFromHR: 1:08am On Jun 04, 2021 |
Iruosonobrugwhe: If it is a red list country (better check the UK government list online), then when you transit through there you are deemed to have come from a red list country and must do the whole hotel quarantine thing. 1 Like |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by famzynet: 1:09am On Jun 04, 2021 |
spacyzuma:It is legitimate. Use them. 1 Like |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by TheGuyFromHR: 1:18am On Jun 04, 2021 |
Ilekokonit: Truth be told, had I not been married before coming here, I wouldn't have bothered with signing up to that institution. Bringing a woman from Nigeria for me is out of the question. Nor do I have the energy to play the lottery with the almost 40% divorce rate here. I'd have either partnered or most likely found an economic reason to remain childless. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by KOVIC19COVID20: 2:44am On Jun 04, 2021 |
fatima04: Thanx a bunch @Fatima04 Email sent. Fingers crossed. Hoping for the best. |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Nobody: 3:13am On Jun 04, 2021 |
Lexusgs430: Ahh baba well done sir. We dey your back, we coming after you. One day i shall arrive here nd even farther... ammmeenn o lol |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by babajeje123(m): 4:48am On Jun 04, 2021 |
Ilekokonit:Well, I've heard about how a lot Nigerian women start misbehaving once they get to the UK however within the few weeks I've spent here, I've seen some Nigerian couple who are raising their kids with good morals. I think what parents can do is to be fully involved in their kids' growth, teach and exemplify the values the want their kids to exhibit. In addition, religion will come handy here. Teach them about your 'G(g)od' and answer all the questions they will pose with patience. Raising kids here won't be a walk in the park but I believe with prayers and early intervention, our kids would turn out well upholding the values we stand for as they enjoy all the benefits the UK has to offer. For those that call police on their husbands, except for physical assult, they are fools. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by babajeje123(m): 4:53am On Jun 04, 2021 |
TheGuyFromHR:Na wa o |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by hustla(m): 5:59am On Jun 04, 2021 |
fatima04: 2nd case I've seen though ![]() Be like Nigeria dey reset brain when sapa hold you |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by hustla(m): 6:00am On Jun 04, 2021 |
TheGuyFromHR: Won't prenup come in handy? |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by TheGuyFromHR: 6:51am On Jun 04, 2021 |
hustla: If you prepare and sign a prenup, thus recognising that there's nothing like so-called "love" in your matter, then why marry at all? You need a partnership. There's nothing mystical or spiritual about marriage, it's an arrangement like any other (and the Europeans have the right idea about it, it's quite common for them to draw up marriage contracts before marriage setting out things like how the marriage will be run, how the parties keep their own individual property, how contributions to the joint household will be made, etc.), but with partnership now formalised in many enlightened countries, allowing people the benefits of marriage they wish to avail of (inheritance, provision of mutual support, etc.) without getting entangled in the intricacies of marriage and with all children long ago legitimised however dem born them, I see no reason to complicate one's life. |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by TheGuyFromHR: 6:54am On Jun 04, 2021 |
babajeje123: Bros, it isn't easy. As they say it takes a village to raise a child, and a lot of people who come here as already married couples with children not only haven't support, but also start running the rat race upon arrival, working as many jobs as you can to keep a roof over the heads of the children in the first place, and sometimes that takes a toll on parenting and family time. There's really no formula apart from huge doses of prayer, if one is religious. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by hustla(m): 7:37am On Jun 04, 2021 |
TheGuyFromHR: Well, I've always said this since my 100Level There is no way I'll marry abroad and not make sure prenup is involved Life happens, love could turn sour and your partner can decide tomorrow they want to abandon ship.. Prenup will help in that case to avoid stories that touch |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Chanils(f): 7:38am On Jun 04, 2021 |
Good morning elders. I need your help. What is the best way to transfer money from Nigeria to UK please. |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by LagosismyHome(f): 7:50am On Jun 04, 2021 |
fatima04: We buy anycar will give you a nonsense money, you are better off selling it privately on auto trader. However you cant sell a car which still has finance except u clear it at least a day before |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Mamatukwas: 8:35am On Jun 04, 2021 |
This Child rearing matter, i believe what the Bible says in the matter- Train up a Child in the way He/She should go and when he grows he will not depart from it. Simple as. Some of us even in Nigeria, our head touched at some point, it’s remembering where we are coming from that kept us. If you are brought up to know and love God and the things of God when the going gets tough or you’re confused you will run to what you know. It’s not easy true. But I believe modeling what you want your kids to be/do helps + 100% covering them with prayer. Prayer works. God will grant us wisdom, Amen. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Iruosonobrugwhe: 8:41am On Jun 04, 2021 |
With the sad cases of folks who go to bring wives from village that turn something else, i begin to think, what About the Nigerian ladies in UK? at least those ones still have an element of home and will be better understanding and help with the kids. abi the men don show dem shege? Ilekokonit: |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Lexusgs430: 8:50am On Jun 04, 2021 |
hustla: Take note, even if a prenup is signed....... The courts would never award £0, to the other...... If terms are deemed unfair, the courts would ignore prenup arrangements........ ![]() |
Re: Living In The Uk/life As A UK Immigrant by Lexusgs430: 8:53am On Jun 04, 2021 |
Chanils: Look for someone that wants naira, and conduct trade by barter....... |
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