Tony142:




You are right, most of the men attacking her for not wanting a struggling man are broke, the funny part is that this broke men will not want another broke men to marry their sister, but yet they are insulting the OPs because she want a rich man, just like the way their sisters want a rich man too



Poverty have a way of making poor people have a poor mindset


That her mother that is advising her not to marry a rich man enh, just dash her 20million naira and she will start calling you my in-law

Kingosytex:
What prevents the Op from making her own money instead of waiting for a rich man? So a rich man should stoop so low and marry her? Una hypocrisy dey legendary.

Cc Choccolate

Lilpen3758:
Sister no listen to your mother because things has changed.......you think say poverty sweet?? you think say if i be woman dey way i broke now i for no start ashawo work??
you think say to dey poor for nigeria deh easy??

Tony142:




You are right, most of the men attacking her for not wanting a struggling man are broke, the funny part is that this broke men will not want another broke men to marry their sister, but yet they are insulting the OPs because she want a rich man, just like the way their sisters want a rich man too



Poverty have a way of making poor people have a poor mindset


That her mother that is advising her not to marry a rich man enh, just dash her 20million naira and she will start calling you my in-law

RPG2020:


Keep trying if you never fail you ain't even start

Bifwoli:


There's lots of wisdom in what the mother says though.Afterall those "ready made" things will never allow you to earn that fulfilling sense of accomplishment.

Lilpen3758:
let me guess something about you
You come from a rich family right??
don't lie??

omolola100:
My mother advice me never to look for a rich man who is well do whenever i'm set to get married.
she said i should marry a man that we will both start our life from the foundation, according to my mum, she said it is better to suffer with man to acquire wealth, than to go for a ready made soup.

Looking at the way things are going now, do you think a woman will now stoop so low and marry a poor man that is trying to make ends meet? Although, money is not love, but why would a parent wish her daughter to marry a poor man, i am begining to see my mum as a bad mother who does'nt wish me well.
Is it advisable i follow my mothers advice? I should stay in SURULERE instead of OLORUNSOGO.

Tony142:




Being rich is not by having alot of money but by having a lot of asset worth millions and billions of naira


What is an asset?....it is anything that put money in your pocket, for example if u build a house and you become a landlord, and u decided to rent the house to tenant, at the end of each year your tenant will be paying house rent to you, so u can see you have used your asset(house) to put money in your pocket(the money from house rent) , so for this reason we can say that a house is an asset


If u have a company and the company makes u millions of naira every month, that company is an asset

Asset and investment are similar


Guess what? In terms of money there are people in Nigeria who have more money than dangote, but yet dangote is still the richest man in Africa. Why?...because he have a lot of investment worth billions of dollar


If I have 50million naira and you have an investment worth 50million naira, you are richer than me, why?...it is because wealth is not counted by how much u have but how much your investment is worth


If u have billions of dollar your name will not still be on Forbes list, why?...because forbes will use the amount of investment and asset you have to rank you and not the amount of money u have


Here is the reason why wealth is measured by asset and not by cash


Money can disappear anytime but asset can not disappear , for example if your have a lot of houses even if your father died his children can inherit to houses and rent then out to make money, but if it is cash, u can spend it anyhow, b4 u will know the money have finished but if it is an investment it will always be there for your children to inherit



Note: jobs can not make you rich except if u are a footballer


To be consider rich you most have atleast a car, a house and alot of investment or assets that makes you millions of naira every month , if your assets makes you millions every month then you are rich, but if your assets makes you billions every month then you are wealthy, millionaires are rich, while billionaires
are wealthy

omolola100:
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do you think a woman will now stoop so low and marry a poor man that is trying to make ends meet?

Tony142:




You are right, most of the men attacking her for not wanting a struggling man are broke, the funny part is that this broke men will not want another broke men to marry their sister, but yet they are insulting the OPs because she want a rich man, just like the way their sisters want a rich man too



Poverty have a way of making poor people have a poor mindset


That her mother that is advising her not to marry a rich man enh, just dash her 20million naira and she will start calling you my in-law

Bifwoli:


Well ,i'll say maybe ,then maybe not.We were just an ok family but not poor.

But you know what matters most -its that i went out and accomplished all the stuff i have now on my own without relying on family jewels.I can buy a brand new car if i want on 1 month's income,i paid for my 3bed house fully the week i moved in and i make in a month what most people can't make in a year.

I say these things not to brag/show off but to emphasize there's real joy in accomplishing things on your own yet these are things i would 've never ever thought even possible some years back.Honestly truly there's pleasure in toiling on your own.Just stay focussed ,work extra hard and be disciplined .

Bifwoli:


Well ,i'll say maybe ,then maybe not.We were just an ok family but not poor.

But you know what matters most -its that i went out and accomplished all the stuff i have now on my own without relying on family jewels.I can buy a brand new car if i want on 1 month's income,i paid for my 3bed house fully the week i moved in and i make in a month what most people can't make in a year.

I say these things not to brag/show off but to emphasize there's real joy in accomplishing things on your own yet these are things i would 've never ever thought even possible some years back.Honestly truly there's pleasure in toiling on your own.Just stay focussed ,work extra hard and be disciplined .

omolola100:
My mother advice me never to look for a rich man who is well do whenever i'm set to get married.
she said i should marry a man that we will both start our life from the foundation, according to my mum, she said it is better to suffer with man to acquire wealth, than to go for a ready made soup.

Looking at the way things are going now, do you think a woman will now stoop so low and marry a poor man that is trying to make ends meet? Although, money is not love, but why would a parent wish her daughter to marry a poor man, i am begining to see my mum as a bad mother who does'nt wish me well.
Is it advisable i follow my mothers advice? I should stay in SURULERE instead of OLORUNSOGO.

NeeKlaus:

So you feel you are stooping low to marry a struggling man but you don't think a rich man is stooping low to marry you, yes?

A broke woman marrying a very wealthy man = "She's securing the bag. Yassss Queen!"
A comfortable woman marrying a struggling guy = "She's stooping soooo low. Ewww!"

The standards are double these days.

Pharaoh4rin:


Heeeeyyyyyy!!! Where's Pamela? Come and hear talk!
When I told some dudes this sort of (ur) claim, they misinterpreted it with vehemence and contempt. Calling me names....

But come bross, when will Nigerian ladies wake up to this reality? Do you know how they brag about their disdain to contribute finances to a relationship? O my guiness!

mayberry1:


You came on so hard on my gender...
Mistake most parents make is focusing on the male child to be independent and self reliant while lowering the bar for the female child. I believe as an individual(s/he), your goal should be how to be independent in life. I for one cringe whenever I hear ladies wishing hard to marry a rich man like money is gender based(there's nothing as sweet as working hard for your money).
People forget the law of reciprocity when it comes to good deeds, lots of women want to enjoy being showered with gifts and all the good things of life thereby forgetting to reciprocate quarter of what they get, I believe that stems from the environment they were raised, lots of folks are self-centred and only care about themselves. It all boils down to orientation and upbringing . Nobody deserves a tight-fisted, self-centred egocentric partner.

emmaodet:


Bro i know they don't like it. The bitter truth is that you can't claim you love someone and not give gift, it is a lie, you must.
Exchange of gift in a relationship symbolises commitment and love.
You can't love and say you don't give but only at the receiving end. That is parasitism and not love.

omolola100:
My mother advice me never to look for a rich man who is well do whenever i'm set to get married.
she said i should marry a man that we will both start our life from the foundation, according to my mum, she said it is better to suffer with man to acquire wealth, than to go for a ready made soup.

Looking at the way things are going now, do you think a woman will now stoop so low and marry a poor man that is trying to make ends meet? Although, money is not love, but why would a parent wish her daughter to marry a poor man, i am begining to see my mum as a bad mother who does'nt wish me well.
Is it advisable i follow my mothers advice? I should stay in SURULERE instead of OLORUNSOGO.

Amotolongbo:
If you are already high, you don’t need a man then.

If the men have this mentality of yours, they won’t marry ladies lower than their status.

Your mother made the right statement but you didn’t get the message. She said don’t marry a rich man, she didn’t say marry a poor man. You have run foul of false dilemma, making just only an option to counter your mum’s advice ie any man not rich is poor.

There are men with no material now cos they are currently investing their mental resources to create wealth in the future. Men with potentials, these are kinda men your mum is telling you to marry.
Adding your potential value to compliment these kind of resourceful men to create wealth will earn you a maximum eternal matrimonial respect

luminouz:


And leave a broke guy like me shey?

erinatso:
Aunty with due respest pls permit me to tel u that u r mad. If nt dat u ar my senior i for tel u say u no get sense
u get mind tel us say ur mum no like u

chris51:
What you should look out for in a man is, that he has potential. I don't think your mother said, look for a poor man and marry. She didn't want you to fall into the trap of money bags who have no regard for wives and in-laws