You never ready marry.. Why do Christians discriminate like this? To them the church they worship is the best and others are not... Abi Catholics don't worship God or what? Which church introduced Christianity in the world if not Catholics? Nawa

Like this, U wan enter express because say e no sabi speak in tongues... Chaiiiii.. Your eye go soon clear when Bro. Matthew go punch your teeth comot...
Answer this Questions Sincerely,
* has he ever beaten you
* Does he lead a Wayward life
* Does he have features of a Good Father
* Does he respect sanctity of Marriage
* Does he have problem with you being a Pentecostal Girl, which I doubt cos most Catholics aren't bothered about other denominations..
Do you know there's a Pentecostal version of Catholics called CHARISMATIC... those people are FIRE, I've met many of them when I was still in Uni... Why not join them and persuade him to join you alsoo.....
Your Eye go clear when Bro. Matthew go JA E LOLE ARA.

You are not being honest here. Deep inside you, you know there is more to this.

Let's do some analysis here:
1. You have been with him for 3 years, yet that's not enough for you to know if he's the one or not.

2. All of a sudden, you gave your life to Jesus. You didn't take him with you when you were giving your life to Jesus. You said you made a mistake by not praying about it at first. Are you referring to the time you have not given your life to Jesus or are you referring to now that you have given your life to Jesus? The time frame is not adding up because if you said you should have prayed about it at the beginning, was it the time you are still non-Christian because that means you shouldn't have prayed anyways or you don't know what prayer is at that time.

3. You are saying that catholics are not real Christians because you are now a non member. That's so childish.

4. Is your bf a chief priest? What made you think he is not the one just because he's a catholic. You think you are better than the guy. Such a shallow mind.

You are just looking for an excuse to try the new guy That's all over your Dm. This new guy is making you LOL. You lover his fancy, you just like that he's vibrant. His is bringing something new into your life. You think your bf is just not meeting up. We all love new stuff, but every thing gets old my dear.

Women sha. Good luck the new guy. Hopefully you won't change your mind on him too.

mugnmuffin:
Dear Nairalanders,
I have an issue that has been on my mind for weeks now. My fiancé and I have been dating for over three years. I love him and he loves me too. We are physically attracted to each other. We’re both catholic but since I graduated, during my service year I gave my life to Christ, got saved and left the Catholic Church. So I’ve been a Pentecostal Christian since then. He on the other hand is still catholic. I subtly try to nudge him to consider getting saved, i.e acknowledging Christ as lord and savior and becoming born again but he is content with his laidback Christian life.

Earlier this year, he asked to meet my parents and I let him. My parents like him especially because my younger sis is married and they have been waiting for me too. They’re glad I’ve someone. However, after the introduction,I regret it. I’m now certain that he’s not the one. I think about my spiritual life and how lukewarm he is about the things of God, I think about kids and how we’ll raise the, with such differing views about God and I’m discouraged. I feel like I’m settling because he checks all the boxes on the checklist of physical attributes. Another mistake I made is, I didn’t pray about this decision and that worries me because anything that involves him,I just act with pausing to ask God, but I always ask God about other aspects of my life. So it’s like my associating with him is a minus for my spiritual life and that’s a huge cause for concern.

At this point, I want to tell my parents I am not convinced it’s him but I’m afraid of the disappointment this will cause. *sigh* I’ll appreciate your thoughts, comments, criticisms...

I gave my life to Christ, got saved and left the Catholic Church.

So you were actually a sinner by being a Catholic.

FYI, this assumption alone could make you a fanatic.

mugnmuffin:
Dear Nairalanders,
I have an issue that has been on my mind for weeks now. My fiancé and I have been dating for over three years. I love him and he loves me too. We are physically attracted to each other. We’re both catholic but since I graduated, during my service year I gave my life to Christ, got saved and left the Catholic Church. So I’ve been a Pentecostal Christian since then. He on the other hand is still catholic. I subtly try to nudge him to consider getting saved, i.e acknowledging Christ as lord and savior and becoming born again but he is content with his laidback Christian life.

Earlier this year, he asked to meet my parents and I let him. My parents like him especially because my younger sis is married and they have been waiting for me too. They’re glad I’ve someone. However, after the introduction,I regret it. I’m now certain that he’s not the one. I think about my spiritual life and how lukewarm he is about the things of God, I think about kids and how we’ll raise the, with such differing views about God and I’m discouraged. I feel like I’m settling because he checks all the boxes on the checklist of physical attributes. Another mistake I made is, I didn’t pray about this decision and that worries me because anything that involves him,I just act with pausing to ask God, but I always ask God about other aspects of my life. So it’s like my associating with him is a minus for my spiritual life and that’s a huge cause for concern.

At this point, I want to tell my parents I am not convinced it’s him but I’m afraid of the disappointment this will cause. *sigh* I’ll appreciate your thoughts, comments, criticisms...

So his offense is being catholic? Why don’t you just say it instead of writing this long nonsense?

mugnmuffin:
Dear Nairalanders,
I have an issue that has been on my mind for weeks now. My fiancé and I have been dating for over three years. I love him and he loves me too. We are physically attracted to each other. We’re both catholic but since I graduated, during my service year I gave my life to Christ, got saved and left the Catholic Church. So I’ve been a Pentecostal Christian since then. He on the other hand is still catholic. I subtly try to nudge him to consider getting saved, i.e acknowledging Christ as lord and savior and becoming born again but he is content with his laidback Christian life.

Earlier this year, he asked to meet my parents and I let him. My parents like him especially because my younger sis is married and they have been waiting for me too. They’re glad I’ve someone. However, after the introduction,I regret it. I’m now certain that he’s not the one. I think about my spiritual life and how lukewarm he is about the things of God, I think about kids and how we’ll raise the, with such differing views about God and I’m discouraged. I feel like I’m settling because he checks all the boxes on the checklist of physical attributes. Another mistake I made is, I didn’t pray about this decision and that worries me because anything that involves him,I just act with pausing to ask God, but I always ask God about other aspects of my life. So it’s like my associating with him is a minus for my spiritual life and that’s a huge cause for concern.

At this point, I want to tell my parents I am not convinced it’s him but I’m afraid of the disappointment this will cause. *sigh* I’ll appreciate your thoughts, comments, criticisms...

I would have made same comments like others if I haven’t been studying my Bible and working on knowing God more.


I share same view with you, though I’ll never condemn anyone based on his or her beliefs or religion. If you are not at peace with this decision, pray to God and ask Him for a sign. He will definitely show you many signs.

Also what ever leaves you confused and doesn’t gives you peace, it’s enough to be concerned about and God is not an Author of Confusion.

mugnmuffin:
Dear Nairalanders,
I have an issue that has been on my mind for weeks now. My fiancé and I have been dating for over three years. I love him and he loves me too. We are physically attracted to each other. [s] We’re both catholic but since I graduated, during my service year I gave my life to Christ, got saved and left the Catholic Church. So I’ve been a Pentecostal Christian since then[/s] . He on the other hand is still catholic. I subtly try to nudge him to consider getting saved, i.e acknowledging Christ as lord and savior and becoming born again but he is content with his laidback Christian life.

Earlier this year, he asked to meet my parents and I let him. My parents like him especially because my younger sis is married and they have been waiting for me too. They’re glad I’ve someone. However, after the introduction,I regret it. I’m now certain that he’s not the one. I think about my spiritual life and how lukewarm he is about the things of God, I think about kids and how we’ll raise the, with such differing views about God and I’m discouraged. I feel like I’m settling because he checks all the boxes on the checklist of physical attributes. Another mistake I made is, I didn’t pray about this decision and that worries me because anything that involves him,I just act with pausing to ask God, but I always ask God about other aspects of my life. So it’s like my associating with him is a minus for my spiritual life and that’s a huge cause for concern.

At this point, I want to tell my parents I am not convinced it’s him but I’m afraid of the disappointment this will cause. *sigh* I’ll appreciate your thoughts, comments, criticisms...

The above cancelled part shows how stupid you are. You look like one insensitive nicompoop by trying to sow a seed of enmity in Christianity. If you changed church thats no one's business and changing church to pentecostalism does not mean you're saved afterall the pentecostals came from the Catholics.
I have no advice for you because the insensitivity you showed here could be the same insensitivity you use to treat your man, so the problem seems to be from you and not anyone else. So fvck off

jaeyking:
After the first paragraph I just realized that you are NOT SERIOUS
so when you were a Catholic you were not saved, you got saved in a pentecostal church
Hmmm madam till you meet lion before u go know wetin dey xup

That's to tell you she is the one with the problem, lol

This Aunty is never ready... U will soon hear am

Eduboy1990:
Get what she is saying born again child of God is different from normal Christian or church goers so try to understand

Only God knows who's pure in heart. Humans are worthless to know that

It's entirely your choice OP. I understand your predicament. Introduction is not marriage and doesn't necessarily have to finally lead to marriage either. Your sounding like he's less a Christian because he's a Catholic is what I find nauseating, after being in a relationship for 3 years!

Well, simply talk it over with him and your parents. He will be heartbroken though. Bottomline is that from now henceforth, you must be genuinely lead by the Holy Spirit on your choice of a man for a husband, so that you don't fall into the wrong hands of Bro. Matthew, that will turn you to a punching bag as described by someone up there.

I wish you the best.

Take a step back nd start all over again.
Pray about it first nd ensure u are convinced that God is telling u he's d right person, don't rush into it.
Just take ur time cuz it's life journey.

mugnmuffin:
Dear Nairalanders,
I have an issue that has been on my mind for weeks now. My fiancé and I have been dating for over three years. I love him and he loves me too. We are physically attracted to each other. We’re both catholic but since I graduated, during my service year I gave my life to Christ, got saved and left the Catholic Church. So I’ve been a Pentecostal Christian since then. He on the other hand is still catholic. I subtly try to nudge him to consider getting saved, i.e acknowledging Christ as lord and savior and becoming born again but he is content with his laidback Christian life.

Earlier this year, he asked to meet my parents and I let him. My parents like him especially because my younger sis is married and they have been waiting for me too. They’re glad I’ve someone. However, after the introduction,I regret it. I’m now certain that he’s not the one. I think about my spiritual life and how lukewarm he is about the things of God, I think about kids and how we’ll raise the, with such differing views about God and I’m discouraged. I feel like I’m settling because he checks all the boxes on the checklist of physical attributes. Another mistake I made is, I didn’t pray about this decision and that worries me because anything that involves him,I just act with pausing to ask God, but I always ask God about other aspects of my life. So it’s like my associating with him is a minus for my spiritual life and that’s a huge cause for concern.

At this point, I want to tell my parents I am not convinced it’s him but I’m afraid of the disappointment this will cause. *sigh* I’ll appreciate your thoughts, comments, criticisms...

You're trying to create problem where there is not..I had to read your post over and over again, and all I can deduced is that you're thinking for God..kill this mentality of he is not for me,I didn't pray about it blablabla..The marriages that are breaking up everyday does it mean prayers where not offered before they got married? The only red flag now according to you is that he sees God differently from you..Who knows if God approves his and not urs?Face your life and stop thinking for God.

After reading your right up I begin to question the intergrity of your cerebral domain.

Pls do not marry him . Keep thinking otherwise.


Very soon now you will end up in Shiloh . Or last last one bad guy go service ur kpekus for you and later dump you.

Aunty mugnmuffin

What I want to tell you is that you'll make a terrible mistake in life if you base your marital decision on the religious orientation you have been socialized and brought up in, especially in Nigeria.

I don't know if the guy is right for you because you have said nothing about his temperament towards you, his moral standing, his outlook towards life, his level of discipline and honesty, etc... and then your level of physical attraction and sexual compatibility...

Those are the factors that holds a marriage together and those are the factors that I'll advise any lady to consider more in choosing a partner.

As long as the person believes in God and obeys the two greatest commandments, love your neighbor as yourself and believe in no other god except God then his other "church" activities counts less.

You listen too much to pastors who preach and write one thing but commit tons of sin in their closets... Religion is the biggest scam in Nigeria after politics.

That kind of guy will not allow his children to be brought up like sheep that majority of Nigerian youths have become... lazy and relying on God for miracles and solutions to their problems when God created them whole with all the organs and attributes to dominate their environment and solve their problems.

If I dated someone like you, I'll make it clear that I'll respect your religious views and lifestyle but I wouldn't want you to force it on me or my children.

The problem is you have not had a deep and full discussion with the guy on your religious concerns, it's eating you deep and you're allowing what your dishonest and corrupt god of men say to override your judgement.

Perhaps, you have seen another brother in church you fancy and you'd like to add more sheep to the multitude of youths in Nigeria.

Go on, have that deep and open honest discussion with the guy and move on if you want.

Both of you won't die if you don't marry each other.

Cheers

Just tell us that you are now in love with another man... SMH... Women

To be honest with you,the holy spirit has been ministering to you but you just decides not to yeild His call.. you are saved and you need to ask God for direction on whom to marry first beforr entering into any relationship at all..pls end that relationship and go back to God on your knees and seek direction from a real prophet of God for a clear direction..

Go and marry chosen member so you two go dey wear apron like mad people. Save ko saviour ni. Those of them that will come with a very heavy bible can even be the worse. They will hide under I'm a born again to perpetuate evil.

Both you and your husband to be are ignoramuses. Nonsense.

Can two walk together except they be in agreement.

Amos 3:3
Can two walk together, except they be agreed?

Spirituality is very important, dont go and yoke yourself unequally.

As for me any woman that is unequal spiritually is an absolute NO!

This is one of the dangers of Christianity. The lady is a Christian and the guy is a Christian but because they attend different denominations there's a problem.

mugnmuffin:
Dear Nairalanders,
I have an issue that has been on my mind for weeks now. My fiancé and I have been dating for over three years. I love him and he loves me too. We are physically attracted to each other. We’re both catholic but since I graduated, during my service year I gave my life to Christ, got saved and left the Catholic Church. So I’ve been a Pentecostal Christian since then. He on the other hand is still catholic. I subtly try to nudge him to consider getting saved, i.e acknowledging Christ as lord and savior and becoming born again but he is content with his laidback Christian life.

Earlier this year, he asked to meet my parents and I let him. My parents like him especially because my younger sis is married and they have been waiting for me too. They’re glad I’ve someone. However, after the introduction,I regret it. I’m now certain that he’s not the one. I think about my spiritual life and how lukewarm he is about the things of God, I think about kids and how we’ll raise the, with such differing views about God and I’m discouraged. I feel like I’m settling because he checks all the boxes on the checklist of physical attributes. Another mistake I made is, I didn’t pray about this decision and that worries me because anything that involves him,I just act with pausing to ask God, but I always ask God about other aspects of my life. So it’s like my associating with him is a minus for my spiritual life and that’s a huge cause for concern.

At this point, I want to tell my parents I am not convinced it’s him but I’m afraid of the disappointment this will cause. *sigh* I’ll appreciate your thoughts, comments, criticisms...

Take it or leave it. U are the one with the problem. The guy should distance himself from u. Holier than thou fanatic.

Another christian Broda from her new church don dey chkye her.

I think OP Don go join jehova witness. Because me I still dey find the red flags oo

mugnmuffin:
Dear Nairalanders,
I have an issue that has been on my mind for weeks now. My fiancé and I have been dating for over three years. I love him and he loves me too. We are physically attracted to each other. We’re both catholic but since I graduated, during my service year I gave my life to Christ, got saved and left the Catholic Church. So I’ve been a Pentecostal Christian since then. He on the other hand is still catholic. I subtly try to nudge him to consider getting saved, i.e acknowledging Christ as lord and savior and becoming born again but he is content with his laidback Christian life.

Earlier this year, he asked to meet my parents and I let him. My parents like him especially because my younger sis is married and they have been waiting for me too. They’re glad I’ve someone. However, after the introduction,I regret it. I’m now certain that he’s not the one. I think about my spiritual life and how lukewarm he is about the things of God, I think about kids and how we’ll raise the, with such differing views about God and I’m discouraged. I feel like I’m settling because he checks all the boxes on the checklist of physical attributes. Another mistake I made is, I didn’t pray about this decision and that worries me because anything that involves him,I just act with pausing to ask God, but I always ask God about other aspects of my life. So it’s like my associating with him is a minus for my spiritual life and that’s a huge cause for concern.

At this point, I want to tell my parents I am not convinced it’s him but I’m afraid of the disappointment this will cause. *sigh* I’ll appreciate your thoughts, comments, criticisms...

Madam, you are the problem. Over sabi dey worry you. If he was the one doing this shit what would you say? Everyone cannot be like you, reason like you, or be religious like you. Learn to live with others.

You said you started seeing too many red flags but mentioned just the laid back spirituality. For someone that ticks all the other boxes, do you intend embarking on a spiritual war in the future?

livingchrist:
Can two walk together except they be in agreement.

Amos 3:3
Can two walk together, except they be agreed?

Spirituality is very important, dont go and yoke yourself unequally.

As for me any woman that is unequal spiritually is an absolute NO!

Trash everywhere you look. being religious does not mean you will be a good wife / husband or your marriage Would be happy. I have been married for 9 years now. I don't go to Church but my wife is a holy ghost worrior in Church. Initially she wanted to cajole me, I told her not to create problems where there was non and that she should be praying for me not trying to force me. Since then we have never had any quarrels. See, the thing is you cannot change a leopard's Spots. You learn to live with it. If we start pointing fingers at our imperfections, then we cannot live together. be happy with the positives. The OP is not perfect, She has so many flaws. If her man starts pointing them out, I bet She go run. Tolerate others.

mugnmuffin:
Dear Nairalanders,
I have an issue that has been on my mind for weeks now. My fiancé and I have been dating for over three years. I love him and he loves me too. We are physically attracted to each other. We’re both catholic but since I graduated, during my service year I gave my life to Christ, got saved and left the Catholic Church. So I’ve been a Pentecostal Christian since then. He on the other hand is still catholic. I subtly try to nudge him to consider getting saved, i.e acknowledging Christ as lord and savior and becoming born again but he is content with his laidback Christian life.

Earlier this year, he asked to meet my parents and I let him. My parents like him especially because my younger sis is married and they have been waiting for me too. They’re glad I’ve someone. However, after the introduction,I regret it. I’m now certain that he’s not the one. I think about my spiritual life and how lukewarm he is about the things of God, I think about kids and how we’ll raise the, with such differing views about God and I’m discouraged. I feel like I’m settling because he checks all the boxes on the checklist of physical attributes. Another mistake I made is, I didn’t pray about this decision and that worries me because anything that involves him,I just act with pausing to ask God, but I always ask God about other aspects of my life. So it’s like my associating with him is a minus for my spiritual life and that’s a huge cause for concern.

At this point, I want to tell my parents I am not convinced it’s him but I’m afraid of the disappointment this will cause. *sigh* I’ll appreciate your thoughts, comments, criticisms...

You're not serious.
I repeat...you're not serious.
You can let him go and go look for someone else, let's see how that works out spiritually for you.
Ndi spiritual life!
Rubbish!

Your fiancee sounds like he is a good man,I hope you break his heart and elope with that pentecostal rascal that has been feeding you with lies.
I used rate all these church girls but later got to learn y'all the real devil.
If Jesus judged you the way you have judged him finish,he would slam your heart at the floor the day you were giving your heart to him ....get out and go and make, probably the biggest mistake of your life

I have some questions for you

mugnmuffin:
Dear Nairalanders, ...
..... , i.e acknowledging Christ as lord and savior and becoming born again but he is content with his laidback Christian life.

1. Were you taught not to acknowledge Christ as Lord and saviour in the Catholic Church? Did your fiance receive the same teaching from the Catholic Church?

I think about my spiritual life and how lukewarm he is about the things of God, I think about kids and how we’ll raise the, with such differing views about God and I’m discouraged...... So it’s like my associating with him is a minus for my spiritual life and that’s a huge cause for concern.

2. Can you go into details of what you understand by spiritual life?

3. Can you go into details of what you understand by things of God?

4. In what ways do your views about God and his differ?

Catholics no be christian again?

abeg who get that south african coach meme wey he dey clap hands.