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Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Fiscus105(m): 2:31am On Jun 24, 2021 |
Blakjewelry: A clear sign of a lady who has gone far in relationship but not yet marry, in which she now meets better guy, for the Op case, she wants to justify herself on religion inclination. |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by 12345baba(m): 2:33am On Jun 24, 2021 |
Op am sorry but your stupid 1 Like |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by alexvic12: 2:37am On Jun 24, 2021 |
Even the best pastors can make mistakes. You can even marry your God-ordained spouse and still make mistake. That is why a constant interaction with God to direct EVERY PART of your life is necessary. Never judge your life by others' decisions. wirinet: |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by DAramis: 2:37am On Jun 24, 2021 |
CharisEleos: To the best of my knowledge, this seems to be false. Linda ikeji baptised his son despite the fact she is not married nor the child gotten inside wedlock. 2 Likes |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Nobody: 2:39am On Jun 24, 2021 |
Catholic, that's where my daughters would be trained. They have raised you and given you the training a girl child should have. Only problem we have today is the Catholic Church try to play their part while parents doesn't give the girl child the monitoring she should have, if not, we would have virgins in Nigeria today. Responding to your post, you didn't mention one red flag which was captured in your caption 1 Like |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Nobody: 2:41am On Jun 24, 2021 |
I like how you say you are saved but he is Catholic. So Catholics are devil worshipers to you or what? 1 Like |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Solatium(m): 2:42am On Jun 24, 2021 |
Dem don Brain wash this one,if you do radarada and this guy take waka, walahi you no go see him type for shiloh 2 Likes |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Nobody: 2:42am On Jun 24, 2021 |
I like how you say you are saved but he is Catholic. So Catholics are devil worshipers to you or what? You haven’t told us what is really bothering you about the guy because I don’t think this is it. |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by onyi2k(m): 2:43am On Jun 24, 2021 |
You are the problem. This is why I keep telling my catholic brothers to marry from Catholic or Anglican because of such nasty comments. So your baptism meant you didnt give your life to Christ fa? mugnmuffin: |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Saintkollyjoe: 2:43am On Jun 24, 2021 |
What I know is that a Catholic marriage cannot be broken except death. So choose wisely. |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by udemzyudex(m): 2:46am On Jun 24, 2021 |
PrinceMajestic: She said many red flags and I was even thinking she will list his bad habits only to read about her religious views. Imagine saying she gave her life to christ for converting from Catholic to Pentecostal She's too religious abeg, very funny post. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Raxxye(m): 2:48am On Jun 24, 2021 |
mugnmuffin:Those things you don't like about him will likely amplify after marriage. If they're not things you can put up with, don't bow to pressure. It's the thought of not wanting to disappoint family after having come this far that got me into the mess I am in right now. Now, I wish I never proceeded with the marriage! 1 Like |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by dumsiraagbo: 2:50am On Jun 24, 2021 |
Your salvation is the most important decision you have to make and protect all your life, followed by marriage. From your story, it is obvious you are not comfortable going on with the marriage. I advise you stop it for now and take some time to pray about it. The Holy Spirit will guide you on the way forward. Selah!!!! 1 Like |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Kimjongun: 2:51am On Jun 24, 2021 |
Africans are funny, after Catholics introduced Christianity to them, now they believe Catholics are not the real Christians and that they are 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by p2flexx(m): 2:51am On Jun 24, 2021 |
Subtly dissing the Catholic Church that they groom devil-may-care christians compared to the pentecostal...let heaven judge my dear....but why use relationship as a cover.....going forward ...say things with your full chest...instead of this hide and seek games just like in primary 2. In addendum,unequivocally speaking you dont have any relationship whatsoever. mugnmuffin: |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Nobody: 2:51am On Jun 24, 2021 |
Op you have a serious problem Who are you to judge his religious life? Him been a Christian is enough already No one is perfect |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Rocktation(f): 2:53am On Jun 24, 2021 |
You religious extremists are just the worst. Isn't it enough to acknowledge God as God and lead a life, worthy of emulation? Why must he be praying fire fire to tickle your fancy? It's almost as though they feed you hyssops in these your churches, that now make you uppity and think yourselves as deputies of Jesus. How can you even know from your earthy perspective, what is true from the perspective of heaven? Because your pastor tells you so? Or because you know someone who has died and gone beyond, but came back with evidence as regards to what is correct? You better start using your God-given sense and redirect your attention to acts of kindness and charity, justice and mercy. That way, you would both be serving your faith and increasing your flock, far more than beating others over the head with texts and ideas, only you hold so tightly. 4 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Fedrams: 2:54am On Jun 24, 2021 |
You are born again and seeking for advise on nairaland. Did you attend marriage counseling, did you involved you pastor? |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Autodidact101: 2:58am On Jun 24, 2021 |
I am 1000% sure this seed of doubt was sown in your heart by YOUR PASTOR. Religious extremism is going to be our doom in this country. TUFIA!!!! |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by aijazNija: 3:00am On Jun 24, 2021 |
My dear, Your religious disposition might be one of the reasons he decided to marry you after three years of dating. Because your devotion and his 'layback' Christian life is a perfect ingredient to raise kids in this ever changing circular world. With the way women are dealing with men these days, your devoted to Christian lifestyle and love for him will help keep your 'feminism' in checks as life gets better for your guys. Try to know if he is deeply in love with you. Also check carefully if he is the controlling type (that for me is big red flag) Prepare your mind, if he you eventually marries you, you're by default a Catholic. Trust me, you can still be a devoted Christian in Catholic Church. I wish you the very best. 2 Likes |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by igbowoman: 3:00am On Jun 24, 2021 |
mugnmuffin: Pentecostal churches have a way of filling people's heads with all kinds of nonsense. Did he tell you he has not given his life to Christ. Did you ask and he says no? Or you think pentecostalism is the gateway to heaven This is the way young girls miss their Mr Right. Oya go and ask your daddy in your church to find you one brother in your church. I wish this young man could come across this thread so he can dump you quick before he gets too entangled. Tell him you are not interested so he can find the right woman that will love him for him. |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by havigold(f): 3:00am On Jun 24, 2021 |
mugnmuffin: Your fears are real and it is better to solve it now before marriage. Firstly if your man is a DIE-HARD catholic by belief while you are also a DIE-HARD pentacostal christian I will suggest that you leave the relationship immediately because you might be in for an ENDURING MARRIAGE rather than a peaceful one because both religious doctrine differs in nature and that could be a CLASH OF TITIANS because marriage is not only based on the word LOVE but UNDERSTANDING and The God factor . Peradventure he is a Romantic Catholic just on the lips you could go ahead after all, there is no DENOMINATION in Heaven , those that we make it there are only people with a CLEAN HEART and THEIR GARMENTS UNSTAINED . If you feel you didn't pray well them go back and do so. Marriage of this modern century is not a MUST for All and Sundry because most people don't endure and settle out LITTLE Things that matters when admitted into the INSTITUTION called MARRIAGE. Please don't JUDGE him because you are not PERFECT in your CHRISTIAN JOURNEY.... |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by obainojazz(m): 3:00am On Jun 24, 2021 |
mugnmuffin:You not ready for marriage be that 2 Likes |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Ever8090: 3:00am On Jun 24, 2021 |
Which kind mumu talk be this one...so Catholic don't know Christ, honestly be prepared for more troubles if you eventually get married with such mindset.. 1 Like |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Rocktation(f): 3:01am On Jun 24, 2021 |
CharisEleos: This is why people leave the church. It's because they don't understand her doctrines. How could you have be born and raised as catholic and yet utter such falsehood? 4 Likes |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Heanry(m): 3:02am On Jun 24, 2021 |
So after 3 years you simply realized he is not the one because he refused to join to your pentecostal church. Something is telling me that it's actually the young man that is trying to make the mistake of his life by wanting to marry your type. 2 Likes |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Ten06(m): 3:03am On Jun 24, 2021 |
Being indecisive in marriage is very dangerous. If you are not convinced you better call off the marriage now if not you will so much regret in future. Marriage have not started you are already discouraged, how are my sure you will not die young if you put your head in that hole? |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by dLaw4Love: 3:04am On Jun 24, 2021 |
I just want to believe that there is more to this question. The statement about him being a Catholic and you now a pentecostal was necessary but not well laid out. Relationship cases, you should be concerned about his discipline and conviction. These are all attached to the fruit of the spirit. If his conviction and discipline are far from where you are right now, its a big deal. There were some things you allowed before but now, you don't because of your conviction. If he sticked to your former lifestyle, thats where the big deal is. The case is 'He that findeth a wife...' not 'a tongue speaking wife...' Be careful not to approach this with the religious issue look at the man. Communication will go along way... I wish you success. |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by benicta(f): 3:04am On Jun 24, 2021 |
This story must be a joke. |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Miky91: 3:05am On Jun 24, 2021 |
You are not ready for marriage. |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Cutehector(m): 3:17am On Jun 24, 2021 |
Blakjewelry:trust me na.. Na me even leave one girl wey dey see catholic as if na demon we dey worship. She is mad. 1 Like |
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