Hmmm.... man went home year and a half ago to start dating and marry his high school sweetheart.... I was figuring they be twenty something! The guy is right... can't make silly mistake twice... cancel the wedding. What will happen when he brings her abroad... she gets bored... and steps over to visit a neighbour like me??

Fiscus105:

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Let say the story isnt fake.

I think even if the girl got pregnant for her ex, op should endeavour to forgive, at least that would be a sign of maturity

If u say so, all I know is many men cheat as well, let's stop all this pretense

HRHQueenPhil:


If u say so, all I know is many men cheat as well, let's stop all this pretense

We are talking about woman infidelity now, when it's time for men, we talk about it too

I think it's not good enough to start shifting goal post at middle of match.

Lady going back to her ex to relax because she is boring is total bulshit

Why can't she settle down with ex and leave innocent guy.

She wants to eat her cake and have it same time.(want to eat uk based money and rock ex same time, who does that ?)

HRHQueenPhil:


U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

Forgive what? Did she ask for forgiveness? The guy is to blame but you omitted the girl's part in this.

A lady, preparing for marriage went to hang out with her ex in his house? There is a reason he's an ex

HRHQueenPhil:
forgiveness is a rare virtue and d secret to many lasting relationship, men do worse so it's not becos they are not caught that makes them righteous

You might be right but one thing I think you should note is that not all men do worse, and since you don't know the person ,that kind of conclusion shouldn't count. Engagement is an important step in marriage but sadly a lot of people don't understand the commitment that comes along with it. At this point boundaries are meant to be set in order to avoid anything that could break the engagement.

Fiscus105:



We are talking about woman infidelity now, when it's time for men, we talk about it too

I think it's not good enough to start shifting goal post at middle of match.

Lady going back to her ex to relax because she is boring is total bulshit

Why can't she settle down with ex and leave innocent guy.

She wants to eat her cake and have it same time.(want to oyinbo base money and rock ex same time, who does that ?)

As far as she said she did not sleep with him, I don't see why u can't trust her..den don't bother entering into relationship becos trust is essential..u can chastise her for going there not breaking d marriage

easyflowz99:

You might be right but one thing I think you should note is that not all men do worse, and since you don't know the person ,that kind of conclusion shouldn't count. Engagement is an important step in marriage but sadly a lot of people don't understand the commitment that comes along with it. At this point boundaries are meant to be set in order to avoid anything that could break the engagement.

Best comment on this issue

HRHQueenPhil:



As far as she said she did not sleep with him, I don't see why u can't trust her..den don't bother entering into relationship becos trust is essential..u can chastise her for going there not breaking d marriage

Okafor law is real and alive, u urself know that.

Did u expect her to confess she slept with her ex?

According to my chart with few of my exes, I think 95% of my exes both married and single, if I want to bang I will re-bang easily, the remaining 5% who are giving me attitude online and it was due to how we parted, if we oppottuned to see physically , in Sha alahu I shall re-bang.

peedeeasobie:




Forgive what? Did she ask for forgiveness? The guy is to blame but you omitted the girl's part in this.

A lady, preparing for marriage went to hang out with her ex in his house? There is a reason he's an ex

Some still see their ex as purely friends so let's stop working with this reprobate mind. As far as u did not see Dem fvcking, give her the benefit of doubt

HRHQueenPhil:


Some still see their ex as purely friends so let's stop working with this reprobate mind. As far as u did not see Dem fvcking, give her the benefit of doubt

Wow, so we should wait till we see them in a compromised state before we conclude?

And you will be okay if your husband or fiancée spends time in his Ex's place?

HRHQueenPhil:


U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

Aswear you dey craze

Belafonte:
I don't understand why Nigerian men in the diaspora think it's a good thing to come marry wives from Nigeria. It is always a foolish thing.

Nigerian women are extremely sexually active, and I can just imagine the body count of a 33 year old Nigerian woman. This kind of woman cannot stay unsexed for more than a few weeks at most.

Stop fooling yourselves. If she's not a virgin don't bother coming to pick a Nigerian wife. If you cannot marry a woman in your immediate environment, you don't deserve to have a wife.

Hopefully, other men learn from this unfortunate episode



You're either trolling or naive. The mature thong for him to do is actually cancel marriage plans and move on. The woman has no business visiting men behind closed doors, least of all her ex boyfriend.

Na mumu dey worry them, instead of them to find Nigerian woman or African woman they go come say they wan marry ( Set Awon Oponu ).

peedeeasobie:




Wow, so we should wait till we see them in a compromised state before we conclude?

And you will be okay if your husband or fiancée spends time in his Ex's place?

. Why not? As far as he is truthful and we agree that it shld never happen again

andronite:
HI guys,

My friend who is a US citizen, single, no kids, no wife, and has been working in the US for close to 10 years. Things have gone well and he was planning to settle down this August. So he came to Nigeria about one and half years ago to do introduction and engage his high school sweetheart. Note, this is also when they officially / seriously started dating . All has been well, and the both of them, their families were preparing for the wedding in August. However, last week he just discovered that his fiancee recently went to visit her ex boyfriend. When he confronted her, she said she went because she was bored, and she refused afterwards to change her phone number (he wanted to stop them communicating), saying she didn't sleep with her ex, and she only went for a hangout in his house.

My friend has cancelled the wedding as we speak, and everybody is begging him to re-consider. Between, the lady's age is within the range of 33 to 36. And my guy is between 37 to 40. He is confused as we speak, because he is taking a hard line on the issue, he doesn't want to start his marriage life on a wrong foundation. At the same time, he is feeling hurt because of her unseriousness.

What should he do?

He did the right thing, for total peace of mind, he should cancel the wedding. Did he expect her to tell him she fucçked her ex?

andronite:
HI guys,

My friend who is a US citizen, single, no kids, no wife, and has been working in the US for close to 10 years. Things have gone well and he was planning to settle down this August. So he came to Nigeria about one and half years ago to do introduction and engage his high school sweetheart. Note, this is also when they officially / seriously started dating . All has been well, and the both of them, their families were preparing for the wedding in August. However, last week he just discovered that his fiancee recently went to visit her ex boyfriend. When he confronted her, she said she went because she was bored, and she refused afterwards to change her phone number (he wanted to stop them communicating), saying she didn't sleep with her ex, and she only went for a hangout in his house.

My friend has cancelled the wedding as we speak, and everybody is begging him to re-consider. Between, the lady's age is within the range of 33 to 36. And my guy is between 37 to 40. He is confused as we speak, because he is taking a hard line on the issue, he doesn't want to start his marriage life on a wrong foundation. At the same time, he is feeling hurt because of her unseriousness.

What should he do?

look for girls in other countries I bet you won't regret it Nigeria girls don't worth it

HRHQueenPhil:

forgiveness is a rare virtue and d secret to many lasting relationship, men do worse so it's not becos they are not caught that makes them righteous.. it's so disgusting .can we stop pretending

Abstinence is also a virtue. If I have respect for my partner and for myself, I wont give in to the urge to remain cheap.
My kind of person will not want to be dealing with issues of infidelity.

Hmmm, please let the relationship go and discard the lady. I have been in ur shoes before they were asking me to forgive hell No i refused. We were already in premarital counselling both families are aware, my ex went and she was sleeping with another guy. I confronted her she said they are just friend lies. She caused quarrel and in her mind she dumped me not knowing i dumped her long ago, finally she got pregnant for her friend and today they are together, i have moved on.
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HRHQueenPhil:
. Why not? As far as he is truthful and we agree that it shld never happen again

Agree that what will not happen again?
Since, nothing is wrong with it, why should it not happen again?

Let's assume this story is not fake, it is possible that Okafor's law is in play in her fiancé life.

It is a very pragmatic law.

HRHQueenPhil:


U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

It's always bvtches that talk shit when it goes down. Talmbout forgiveness, women cheat with their emotions.

DaudaTheSexyGuy:
Any of my ex that comes to visit me in my house will be banged, no exceptions

She was well banged and probably impregnated

They should both have a therapy/counseling session

He already did the right thing by calling off the engagement. Let the beggars to gettat

Abeg first thing first, comot the USA parole. Make we judge this matter with plane eyes without prejudice.... This is a clear case of an adult man being confused.... If he leaves, he will take time to find a companion as his getting old.. De girl fi no marry again as de mumu go clear her eyes... The girl go collect better d. I. c. k as Okafor's law is always in play... Even if she changes her no, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter etc will help... I don't know the advice to give as we get our own relationship problems... Na who bring him own we de judge.... Little advice don't give up everything, a little break and every thing will work out the way it's soposed to... By the way we know say na you... No be any friends..... Abeg share connections wey person fit Waka comot this country abeg

Omo de babe go blow better tell ur friend or better still tell urself that which of una get the matter should run 4 4 40if blowing contuinosly continue continuing continued

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andronite:
HI guys,

My friend who is a US citizen, single, no kids, no wife, and has been working in the US for close to 10 years. Things have gone well and he was planning to settle down this August. So he came to Nigeria about one and half years ago to do introduction and engage his high school sweetheart. Note, this is also when they officially / seriously started dating . All has been well, and the both of them, their families were preparing for the wedding in August. However, last week he just discovered that his fiancee recently went to visit her ex boyfriend. When he confronted her, she said she went because she was bored, and she refused afterwards to change her phone number (he wanted to stop them communicating), saying she didn't sleep with her ex, and she only went for a hangout in his house.

My friend has cancelled the wedding as we speak, and everybody is begging him to re-consider. Between, the lady's age is within the range of 33 to 36. And my guy is between 37 to 40. He is confused as we speak, because he is taking a hard line on the issue, he doesn't want to start his marriage life on a wrong foundation. At the same time, he is feeling hurt because of her unseriousness.

What should he do?

Your friend can't trust his fiancee so there is no point in continuing. He will always see something to be suspicious of.

Chai.. women

andronite:
HI guys,

My friend who is a US citizen, single, no kids, no wife, and has been working in the US for close to 10 years. Things have gone well and he was planning to settle down this August. So he came to Nigeria about one and half years ago to do introduction and engage his high school sweetheart. Note, this is also when they officially / seriously started dating . All has been well, and the both of them, their families were preparing for the wedding in August. However, last week he just discovered that his fiancee recently went to visit her ex boyfriend. When he confronted her, she said she went because she was bored, and she refused afterwards to change her phone number (he wanted to stop them communicating), saying she didn't sleep with her ex, and she only went for a hangout in his house.

My friend has cancelled the wedding as we speak, and everybody is begging him to re-consider. Between, the lady's age is within the range of 33 to 36. And my guy is between 37 to 40. He is confused as we speak, because he is taking a hard line on the issue, he doesn't want to start his marriage life on a wrong foundation. At the same time, he is feeling hurt because of her unseriousness.

What should he do?

Mother earth will bless that your friend for canceling that wedding.
He is a real niggar from the West Coast, pls help that your friend to forget that bitch of a lady. He should not marry her out of sympathy or bcs of her age or what they have shared before.
If at that her age she is still not serious with her relationship is it when they get married that she will be?
Mind u, this kind of a bitch can connive with her boy friend to kill or frame that your friend up. I'm talking from experience as an elder

What is she looking for up and down? So he's the only person that can relieve her of her boredom? Is she remorseful? Forgive her if she is