well... I will advice you to join the crowd - and I mean play football with your peers,or any sport you like. attend a party or a social gathering more often. if you have sisters ask thier female friends out (matured ones, please).
Dress confidently when you go out - let your appearance be your top priority... and get close to a socially active friend, they will help a lot.

more so, be courageous.. there is nothing to it - I mean asking a girl her number, some might be willing to give it to you, all you have to do is ask!

. You can wrongly accuse me and i will went away crying

Start taking tramadol

Don't join cult, where is ur location self?

'No more Mr nice guy', the book helped me personally but I must warn you, reading can give you some important information but no amount of reading will give you the change you want. You must back it up with practical. "ACTION"

Facts111:

Sometime.

Whenever there is an important match that everyone is looking forward to, don't watch it at home. Force yourself to a viewing center to watch the match. I say 'force' because you will be feeling scared and reluctant by the virtue of your shy nature, so you have to force yourself to go. When you are in the midst of shouting guys, make yourself shout with them, exchange comments and observations with them, and eventually you will learn to flow with them. That is the first step.

I will advise you join the crowd - and I mean play football with your peers or any sport you like.
attend a party or a social gathering more often. if you have sisters ask thier female friends out ( I mean matured ones)

Dress confidently when you go out.. let your appearance be your top priority.

more so,be courageous.. and try being friends with a socially active person, they will help a lot.

and there is nothing to it.. I mean asking a girl her number.. some might be willing to give it to you, all you have to do is ask!

Hahaha...I was reading as a guest and i couldn't help it but to login. First you have to cancel the idea of joining any cult group as that would further complicate your life...Go out more with "the" right friends and be friendly yourself, read things(books, online or offline) that would enlighten you so you would always have something to say. Please don't put too much pressure on yourself and know that everything happens at the right time.

Facts111:
Good day everyone..

I'll be 24 next month. The problem now is that am too shy. I don't have confidence. I don't have any girlfriend (am too shy to speak to a lady). You can wrongly accuse me and i will went away crying.

I am the first born of a family of six. A man once accused me of sleeping with his wife (the woman in question senior my mama) and i was like "me ? Me ? Me ? " and I went inside crying.

The only friend i have is my phone. The thing is affecting me seriously. I can't eat in public. I can't insult. I can't even look at your face to talk anything.... I talk alot inside... Am an online keyboard wariorr..

One boy was telling me yesterday to join 'cult' to improve. Though am thinking of it. People take me for a fool. Nairaland is my best website.

Please doctors in the house, is there any drug or medication that i can take to make me overcome shyness ?...

I was in your shoes some few years ago. I have now progressed and striving to achieve. I advise you :
i. Read the book "Quiet" by Susan Cain. The book will help you to discover your powers as introvert, and where to improve
ii. If you're a masturbator, please quit it because it will isolate you from people further. Follow this thread:
https://www.nairaland.com/5223408/masturbation-quitting-challenge-thread
iii. If you are financially buoyant, join a good Toastmasters club around you. This will help you improve your communication skills and network with people
iv. Get yourself engaged in a worthwhile job where you can interact with others
v. Exercise frequently. It will improve your self confidence

Just my few kobos. Cheers

Did you have a girlfriend?

Cerebellum:


Sometimes countering a suggestion might be a suggestion

And "welcome various options even if they are not tardem with yours" Really?!!...so if someone advice you to kill and no one say nothing otherwise, your foolish self will go ahead??

To slap your mumu face dey hungry me

In fact I pity whoever who find himself or herself around u, you are completely clown. Clueless to the bone marrow

Facts111:
Good day everyone..

I'll be 24 next month. The problem now is that am too shy. I don't have confidence. I don't have any girlfriend (am too shy to speak to a lady). You can wrongly accuse me and i will went away crying.

I am the first born of a family of six. A man once accused me of sleeping with his wife (the woman in question senior my mama) and i was like "me ? Me ? Me ? " and I went inside crying.

The only friend i have is my phone. The thing is affecting me seriously. I can't eat in public. I can't insult. I can't even look at your face to talk anything.... I talk alot inside... Am an online keyboard wariorr..

One boy was telling me yesterday to join 'cult' to improve. Though am thinking of it. People take me for a fool. Nairaland is my best website.

Please doctors in the house, is there any drug or medication that i can take to make me overcome shyness ?...

No face to face conversation, no names.

I'll tell you how I got rid of what you are experiencing now, no fee, I'll guide you and give you the exact Resources that helped me and the steps I took.

Don't do drugs, go to doctors or physiotherapists, they wouldn't give you what will help you, they will only keep you coming back.


Reach me on watsapp.

09029128610

Or just dm your watsapp.

You have social anxiety, the time you use to become a keyboard warrior, dedicate a bit to learn more about it and read about ways to overcome it, only you can help you

Bro go and read the 50th law, thank me later. If you are still shy after reading this book, then something is wrong.


It's the only practical book that makes you fearless.

sweetshisha:




You are an introvert , no big deal.

In other to help yourself you must set a goal daily to speak with a lady or two daily, try simple lines like " excuse me, do you stay around here, I like your looks, can I have your number, can we be friends" highest she'll say No, or walk off.. but slowly you'll start getting over the sense of embarassment and start replacing it with jokes like " She no even fine sef" , "girl wey I won manage"


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Let him start with not so beautiful ones. Beside the lines you gave him is way too long for a beginner.
Beginners lines thus... hello sister how are you now?
I like this your dress, it's really nice on u, can we be friends? She will be like hmm why? Or is it because of my cloth den u be like no I just like you

NO

Facts111:
Good day everyone..

I'll be 24 next month. The problem now is that am too shy. I don't have confidence. I don't have any girlfriend (am too shy to speak to a lady). You can wrongly accuse me and i will went away crying.

I am the first born of a family of six. A man once accused me of sleeping with his wife (the woman in question senior my mama) and i was like "me ? Me ? Me ? " and I went inside crying.

The only friend i have is my phone. The thing is affecting me seriously. I can't eat in public. I can't insult. I can't even look at your face to talk anything.... I talk alot inside... Am an online keyboard wariorr..

One boy was telling me yesterday to join 'cult' to improve. Though am thinking of it. People take me for a fool. Nairaland is my best website.

Please doctors in the house, is there any drug or medication that i can take to make me overcome shyness ?...

PM me. I have a guide to send you.

sweetshisha:




You are an introvert , no big deal.

In other to help yourself you must set a goal daily to speak with a lady or two daily, try simple lines like " excuse me, do you stay around here, I like your looks, can I have your number, can we be friends" highest she'll say No, or walk off.. but slowly you'll start getting over the sense of poembarassment and start replacing it with jokes like " She no even fine sef" , "girl wey I won manage"


.

Can I buy your time please, how much is 2 hours I need to talk with U plz

All4fun:






Can I buy your time please, how much is 2 hours I need to talk with U plz

We can chat on a dead thread you can mention me

sweetshisha:


We can chat on a dead thread you can mention me

Drop your number let me chat U up

I was just like you when growing up I find difficult discussing with people i don't know especially opposite sex, shy to dance in church and any occasion.
I can still recall about my first girlfriend i wasn't the one that went for her because of fear that she might rejected me, imagine waiting for African woman to propose love to you I'm very sure it's almost impossible for you to get your heart desire, due to societal and cultural conditioning African women expect a man to go after them.

Don't listen to evil advise here in nairaland suggesting you should take alcohol, drugs and join cult group because it will not do you any good,

-You should first of all change your mindset (how you see your self)

-Go out and meet new people, if you are a little financial ok travel for fun.

-Learn to have direct eye contact when you are talking to someone especially opposite sex.

-Build good relationship with ladies around you and get your mind out from sex.

-You must attend occasion, social gathering is so important to you.

- Most important you must hustle because money is strong weapon of influence and confident
& have a nice day

Your inner self is taking over you,

Question: What do you do with your phone?
Pornography can cause this kind problems and can lead to depression.

Just try to be social and cult is never an option, think now or regret later.

Facts111:
Good day everyone..

I'll be 24 next month. The problem now is that am too shy. I don't have confidence. I don't have any girlfriend (am too shy to speak to a lady). You can wrongly accuse me and i will went away crying.

I am the first born of a family of six. A man once accused me of sleeping with his wife (the woman in question senior my mama) and i was like "me ? Me ? Me ? " and I went inside crying.

The only friend i have is my phone. The thing is affecting me seriously. I can't eat in public. I can't insult. I can't even look at your face to talk anything.... I talk alot inside... Am an online keyboard wariorr..

One boy was telling me yesterday to join 'cult' to improve. Though am thinking of it. People take me for a fool. Nairaland is my best website.

Please doctors in the house, is there any drug or medication that i can take to make me overcome shyness ?...

Wouldn't advise you to join cult, take drugs or alcohol so you don't get hooked. Bible say don't be drunk with wine but be filled with the holy spirit. People always confused people filled with the holy spirit with drunks cos of how they behaved and how bold they became.
Id advise you're not too hard on yourself. Give yourself time.

I've noticed Salvation, the holy spirit baptism and self discovery / development helped me break out of shyness. The holy spirit main function is to help you live the life God expects of you. Me that was too shy to speak out when I boarded a bus and want to alight can now stop someone on the road I've never met in my entire life and start a convo on any subject.
Prayed with someone too about this and the person sent an sms weeks later that she feels brand new. She said almost same day she faced her dad politely and talked to him about things bothering her and how it made her feel... He's an authoritative person and shockingly he listened and obliged her.
There's such a thing as the spirit of fear...
Fear of man, fear of the unknown etc and many are living under its grip...
Joshua, Timothy and Peter (in betraying Jesus) in the bible also had issues with fear and timidity but later the narrative changed.
Read 2 tim. 1: 1-7, Joshua 1: 1-end and the verses around it.
God bless you.

I'm like you but s.k and aratumi weed don dey straight my head. Lets be friends. Whatapp 08082404039. We have so much to talk about and similar expirience and ideas to exchange. Looking forward to having KAKILA( my kind) as a friend. I'm frank but I like to call myself the fuhrer, you'll know why, hit me up.

Facts111:
Good day everyone..

I'll be 24 next month. The problem now is that am too shy. I don't have confidence. I don't have any girlfriend (am too shy to speak to a lady). You can wrongly accuse me and i will went away crying.

I am the first born of a family of six. A man once accused me of sleeping with his wife (the woman in question senior my mama) and i was like "me ? Me ? Me ? " and I went inside crying.

The only friend i have is my phone. The thing is affecting me seriously. I can't eat in public. I can't insult. I can't even look at your face to talk anything.... I talk alot inside... Am an online keyboard wariorr..

One boy was telling me yesterday to join 'cult' to improve. Though am thinking of it. People take me for a fool. Nairaland is my best website.

Please doctors in the house, is there any drug or medication that i can take to make me overcome shyness ?...

Channel your energy towards achieving great things in life. Focus on school or a skill & be very good at it, people will talk to you without asking. Not everyone is made for public speaking or chit-chat with girls here & there

All4fun:





Drop your number let me chat U up

kkal08197@gmail.com perhaps email?!

Facts111:

People told me that alot. But i just don't know which way to starting improving it.

Start by chatting up random strangers online. Since you're always with your phone. This idea has worked for so many people

Divija:
Go and take Igbo and thank me Leta

U try

Downey:
un futbolista como Messi nunca volverá a nacer.

disfruta mientras puedas

What's is this ?

There're too much cooked up stories on nairaland. I have stumbled on 2 already today. The other one was saying he mistakenly impregnated someone and he's a young boy in 300l when he has another thread where he boasted of being HIV negative after 16 years of raw sex.

Now this one says he'll be 24 years old soon, while in the thread below dated June 13,he was 22.
Do Ya'll think only teenagers use nairaland. If this is a traffic generation gimmick, you guys will end up driving people outta nairaland same way people abandoned Linda ikeji blog.
Nonsense.

Facts111:

Am interested pls

Nums if you don't mind sir