1Sharon:

PM me. I have a guide to send you.

Ok

AbujaAgent:
Nothing will boost your confidence like having plenty money in your account, so forget everything and concentrate on your work. Try and make money. Employ people who are loyal to you and make more money. Your confidence will grow from there

U re 100% correct, I was once like op not till the day I made my first 50m all the shiness vanished. Although my own is not that extreme but I can relate with what u said.

Bro just try to be relaxed and don't pressure yourself

drizzle0007:

Take alcohol

With this advice and his current attitude, He's more likely to become an alcoholic before he becomes more confident.

Facts111 try to go out more. Maybe you can take up early morning jogging, you'll probably meet other joggers and make friends with them and the adrenaline and dopamine rush will help make you more confident enough to strike up a conversation with them. The guy I quoted has a lot of good advice in his post..just ignore the alcohol bit

Facts111 I'm like that but am getting better, I think you have social anxiety disorder. It is a mental sickness that prevents a person from having any social life (I have it too). If you know any psychiatric hospital in your area or locality, go there, speak to them and speak to a therapist, you be fine, but na your money oo. (Browse more about SAD)

@op those telling you to stop masturbation are on point...it affects ones mental state it can even lead to depreciating memory and uncontrollable fear...that is the root cause of your problem.

Elock1:
Oga trust me I understand you.. I was so shy too.

Couldn't talk to girls, can't just say shxt bck then.
But trust me I'm 70% free from all that rubbish shyness.

Yeah I don't have a gf at the moment, but it's now a matter of choice.. Girls way dy flock around me plenty, on like b4 but right now I no come even dy interested again.

I'm going out of it you too can.
If interested I can just give you my little tips.
You really need a friend to start with.

I am interested too bruh




I love the seas

Guyman111:

Let him start with not so beautiful ones. Beside the lines you gave him is way too long for a beginner.
Beginners lines thus... hello sister how are you now?
I like this your dress, it's really nice on u, can we be friends? She will be like hmm why? Or is it because of my cloth den u be like no I just like you

Who cares about what she says ?

She should be privileged that my guy is using her to learn on how to talk to a woman, not all women have that opportunity you know

MistaBabz:
Being an introvert makes you discover yourself, the great minds on earth were introverts. You can only discover your inner self when you are alone but flee from masturbation that's very deadly

But sexual urge is at it's peak.He doesn't know how to talk to ladies,let alone satisfy his urges with them.

How will he satisfy his urges?


I love the seas

Please join any choir group in your church.
Stay away from cultism
Can i have your number please

Make money and you will see that you are not shy, your brokeness no wan allow you express yourself... talking from experience

ikorodureporta:


Go join Nigerian army

The training go reset your head

Wrong!

I Know many introvert soldiers.The only thing is,they know how to switch to bully civilians(all the shoutings,beatings, showing no mercy).Laslas, all na acting!They go back to their introvert self when gragra is not required.

A naval rating once slapped a bike man in traffic.He felt guilty afterwards that he had to ask God for forgiveness.





I love the seas

Facts111:
Good day everyone..

I'll be 24 next month. The problem now is that am too shy. I don't have confidence. I don't have any girlfriend (am too shy to speak to a lady). You can wrongly accuse me and i will went away crying.

I am the first born of a family of six. A man once accused me of sleeping with his wife (the woman in question senior my mama) and i was like "me ? Me ? Me ? " and I went inside crying.

The only friend i have is my phone. The thing is affecting me seriously. I can't eat in public. I can't insult. I can't even look at your face to talk anything.... I talk alot inside... Am an online keyboard wariorr..

One boy was telling me yesterday to join 'cult' to improve. Though am thinking of it. People take me for a fool. Nairaland is my best website.

Please doctors in the house, is there any drug or medication that i can take to make me overcome shyness ?...

Don't join cult oo, it will be a really bad decision, just work on your self find a friend that will motivate you to improve your self some one that have your problem at hearth...

waploger:




you are almost like me when i was 23(can you hold a boner) but now i can talk,hug and be around any level of person and gender. Whatsapp me lets yarn more....

Can you explain the bolded please?





I love the seas

Facts111:
Good day everyone..

I'll be 24 next month. The problem now is that am too shy. I don't have confidence. I don't have any girlfriend (am too shy to speak to a lady). You can wrongly accuse me and i will went away crying.

I am the first born of a family of six. A man once accused me of sleeping with his wife (the woman in question senior my mama) and i was like "me ? Me ? Me ? " and I went inside crying.

The only friend i have is my phone. The thing is affecting me seriously. I can't eat in public. I can't insult. I can't even look at your face to talk anything.... I talk alot inside... Am an online keyboard wariorr..

One boy was telling me yesterday to join 'cult' to improve. Though am thinking of it. People take me for a fool. Nairaland is my best website.

Please doctors in the house, is there any drug or medication that i can take to make me overcome shyness ?...

I've been there. To some extent I still struggle with it but far from how it was when I was younger. What makes you shy is you thinking about people's opinion on you. If you can get over that you'll be fine. I got more confident from self medicating. Normally in a better country you would've gotten meds for anxiety from your psychologist,but this is Nigeria You'll have to work around it by yourself. I wouldn't recommend weed (p.s It really helped with mine) cos marijuana affects people differently. Try using social media to make more friends with similar interests with you. Always remind yourself you're are just human like the next person and try not to be intimidated by anyone's presence.

Albertone:



Can you explain the bolded please?




I love the seas

an erection.

Albertone:



I am interested too bruh




I love the seas

Baba no be say I be guru oh... Na just as I take help my own miserable life I just Wan relate to am oh

Facts111:


Please doctors in the house, is there any drug or medication that i can take to make me overcome shyness ?...

I was the professor of shyness in the whole world . Follow these advises #1. stop being addicted to phone #2. Ensure u sleep early and wake up early #3 meditate on any Gods words you knw [either Bible, sanskrit, Quran etc] those words that elevates mind not the others #4 stop masturbating-masturbation affects mood and intensifies ur hidden fear and shyness #5 if u are a xtian- start asking questions during sunday school or answering, if u r a muslim, call for prayer #6 make friend with someone who is not shy and visit #7 debate on a topic in your room cos talking everyday kills the tension created by shyness #8 shyness is the mother of fear and low self esteem, they are the evils in the mind- touch ur head daily and speak to it in prayer #9 stop watching porn #10 exercise or do yoga. #11 read books like #the ultimate secret of total confidenc

U must make sure u are my friend. Make sure u get enough cash. I know how to fix u

OnlyDeCapPlease:


First of all. Don't join cult. It won't change anything.

Shy people alway take themselves too seriously and think that everybody is watching them or has time for them. Wrong!

Shy people tend to think that other people are easily doing things but it's difficult for them. Wrong!

Learn not to take yourself too seriously. It's not that important. It's ok to be wrong or foolish or mumu or be rejected. Shy people have a problem dealing with rejection. So you get rejected? Fvck em all! You get told off? Fvck em all! Someone laughs at You? Fvck em all! Someone gives you "that look"? Fvck em all! Someone insults you? Fvck em all! All these things don't kill, e nor go commot anything for your body. People often do those things to embarrass you or get a reaction from you. They get annoyed when they can't get any visible reaction from you. That's not your problem.

Pick one day. Call that day you "fvck ya'll" day. On that day do or say anything that comes to your mind. Damn the consequences and just do it for that day. If anyone gets angry, just say I'm sorry, but in you mind say "fvck you", and then carry on doing things. Just don't break the law or physically fight anyone.

Try it and let me know how it went.

I just like this your philosophy.

Forget about women for now, focus on your future. Try keeping yourself busy with acquiring skills, learning new things that will keep you busy till you are ready for marriage. Have you finished studies? go for further studies. Quit masturbation, with time you will overcome it.

It's not a disease, its who you are and you can't fight that, I was once like you, very very shy and do sweat in front of crowd but I'm not like that anymore though I still sweat in some situations but I don't give it a thought anyway, i speak to anyone and everyone now, any girl of any shape, if you need help, msg me, I can walk you through same process that I followed.

waploger:



an erection.

Hold a boner:
Can he maintain an erection or can he prevent an erection?
That is what I meant.





I love the seas

Elock1:
Baba no be say I be guru oh... Na just as I take help my own miserable life I just Wan relate to am oh

Post am for here make we learn abeg.

studentofTruth:


It's much easier to be addicted to masturbation than sex because masturbation is easier to get than sex.

Frequent masturbation raises your dopamine levels, which, in turn, desensitizes your dopamine receptors, leading to apathy, being disinterested in others, depression, anxiety, etc.

At a time, the person may even start experiencing Parkinson-like symptoms. Here's how: dopamine receptors have dropped so low that normal-state (as against aroused state) dopamine levels cannot efficiently activate them, giving an impression of dopamine deficiency!

Masturbation kills the man in you!

Wow this is a lot..

Albertone:


Post am for here make we learn abeg.

omo na gradual process oh. I was so bad that I even feel embarrassed to write what i did here.. Lol

I'm not a pro but I just feel different people have different approaches, what worked for A might not work for B.

But first of all I started with admitting I was a modafakin jerk.

Then I started reading all this rubbish online thing way no work oh... It sounds nice but liver dy always cut

I just hard to conquer my fear and register in a social group.. A theatrics group.

Then it all started by waving at random beautiful girls... From there we dy improve dy go.

I think whatsapp go dy better Sha.

Facts111

elmas:
Go and work in a market for 6months and come back to tell us something

this is true sha,because i own a shop in the market for like two year,this really boost my confidence in talking to whoever i like, but as for me i choose people i talk to,u can't chose me.

drizzle0007:
You didn't state this but I feel it's one of the problem.
Stop masturbating it enforces your current situation.
Rather than the cult option.
Take alcohol. It would give you that temporary confidence boost than could be a push.
For now forget about talking to women like you've been adviced. Creat strong bonds with your male folks and advance to the other gender. You have a social problem not a woman problem so start easy.
Try to go out more or get a job. You'll find it easier communicating with colleagues.
Exercise, it will make you feel good about your self and promote self confidence. You give your self a goal of 100 push ups a day 25 each set spread across the day.
Try to work on communication via calls. WhatsApp calls are cheaper and would make you talk longer. This would help you practice communication without feeling pressure from the person's physical presence. Work on this seriously and you'll find it easier to talk in person.

Pray, I works for some.
Goodluck.

The best post and advice is this. God bless you

Moura7:


Wow dude. .....how did you know he masturbates?

It's one thing that causes severe social isolation. There's hardly an 'extreme' introvert that doesn't.

mydas4ever:


The best post and advice is this. God bless you

Amen brother. Thank you.

Funny �... And you're telling yourself this big lie...

Facts111:
Good day everyone..

I'll be 24 next month. The problem now is that am too shy. I don't have confidence. I don't have any girlfriend (am too shy to speak to a lady). You can wrongly accuse me and i will went away crying.

I am the first born of a family of six. A man once accused me of sleeping with his wife (the woman in question senior my mama) and i was like "me ? Me ? Me ? " and I went inside crying.

The only friend i have is my phone. The thing is affecting me seriously. I can't eat in public. I can't insult. I can't even look at your face to talk anything.... I talk alot inside... Am an online keyboard wariorr..

One boy was telling me yesterday to join 'cult' to improve. Though am thinking of it. People take me for a fool. Nairaland is my best website.

Please doctors in the house, is there any drug or medication that i can take to make me overcome shyness ?...

Facts111:
Am an online keyboard wariorr...

Thank you for the confession.