OneMarvee:
Many teenagers have recently joined the dating pool. Every secondary school student now has a "special someone".

I am quite appalled at the staggering rise at which teenagers enter relationships just to join the trend.

Going into relationships without being friends first, for financial and sexual benefits, to update Instagram and Facebook?
It gets worse after several months of love-playing and exhausting infatuation, one party becomes bored and wants to try someone else and then the night falls on your undefined relationship. You then proceed to "chop breakfast".

No long term goals or aspirations, no detailed commitments. Just vibes and fulfilled emptiness.

Young people need to reevaluate their decisions and stop jumping on bandwagons. Focus on your education and your goals, that is what matters most now. And if you must, be with someone who you can grow with, share each others goals and ideas, have meaningful conversations, pray or attend religious gatherings.

Let your relationship be purposeful.

Shower thoughts with OneMarvee- E1S2

bukatyne:
Teenage relationships just started?

While I was in secondary school, there were plenty peeps who cut grass for making couples' list.

This was about 20yrs back.

And I had seniors in the very late 90s deboarded/suspended for getting pregnant.

Fiscus105:


Easier to say than do, harvest where u did not so

Are u virgin when u married? Provided u married

Did u marry her ur wife as virgin?

If u fail in any of the above, u lack moral ground to enforce ur daughters to remain virgin

Theunbothered:


You know nairaland is a social media platform right.

Honestly seun should start giving IQ tests before one can create an account.

VTJN:
you are not just wrong in saying this

You are also misleading

Akwamkpuruamu:
What exists in the mind of our teenagers subconsciously, isn't love but lost lust, infatuation and youthful exuberance

Theunbothered:


Everyone here wants to form saint

They should ask their grandparents the age they got married.

Fiscus105:



Is it not disturbing seeing 15-16 yrs old girls dress to kill mainly to attract 20-30 yrs old men?

bdchange:
I guess it is their hormone running high at that stage. While I was teaching in a secondary school. They practically told me how many bf and gf they had. I had to advise them on the consequences that they may encounter if they dont make it platonic and stay out of sex. They can be safe if they date their age group who is probably under parental watch. We should be concern when we see adults trying to lure them into dating and try everything possible to stop it or discourage it. I have done that in the past. The internet has corrupt their generations. You can help them by educating them on how to control their anxiety at that age and handle peer pressure. I have a young girl to raise in future, may God help me.

Ugaboy:
O.P pls leave teenager and focus on ur life...or are u flinging for anyone.

This normal, especially those one experiencing puberty...also exposure to social media.

Hollywood and Korea teen romance Movies stimulate them to wants to live their life like what they watch.

I don't see this as problem of life..cus u can't help it...as the word is advancing, we unlocking new level life.

Nigerians teen they learn work for were Americans or white teens dey...those one even introduce their love to their parents

Farid24224:
Am 19, haven't been in no sh*t relationship and I don't fvcking care 'bout it..Even though I have a lot of lusts, I always try to keep my mind straight not to even try being in a relationship...And am kinda an introvert and a no care someone... Ladies don't find me romantic one bit. Even though a lot of putas try to get me off the hook, it always ended up on the wrong side with me giving her a strict warning or her giving up 'cause I won't even bulge...

Farid24224:
Am 19, haven't been in no sh*t relationship and I don't fvcking care 'bout it..Even though I have a lot of lusts, I always try to keep my mind straight not to even try being in a relationship...And am kinda an introvert and a no care someone... Ladies don't find me romantic one bit. Even though a lot of putas try to get me off the hook, it always ended up on the wrong side with me giving her a strict warning or her giving up 'cause I won't even bulge...

loswhite:
What do you want to regulate on those mediums? Once a girl reaches 18 years she is free to do what she wants or do you want to increase the age to 25 because of suffering in Africa? The truth is if the economy is good most men and women will get married In their 20's, but now most ppl see 20 years old girl as small girl...lol forgetting that their parents even got married earlier.

SouthSouth1914:
Married men and women sleeping around with reckless abandon are even worse than these kids!!

All these are fulfillment and a testament that the world is gradually winding to an end!

Fiscus105:



I'm saying it to let you know ,you are just embarking on a mission impossible

Did u also realise that, it's not only sex that took virginity ?

Did u also know that atimes it good for teenager to involve in relationship before real marriage? and that ,often it helps in marriage?

Go and do statistics, marriages of those who had sex before marriage, spending weeks with each other are far enjoy and stable than marriages of so called believers who they don't go to each other houses alone not to talk of sex

Farid24224:
Am 19, haven't been in no sh*t relationship and I don't fvcking care 'bout it..Even though I have a lot of lusts, I always try to keep my mind straight not to even try being in a relationship...And am kinda an introvert and a no care someone... Ladies don't find me romantic one bit. Even though a lot of putas try to get me off the hook, it always ended up on the wrong side with me giving her a strict warning or her giving up 'cause I won't even bulge...

Theunbothered:


Will you keep quiet.

Before the 80s where HIV was being distributed like biscuits.

Fiscus105:


Easier to say than do, harvest where u did not so

Are u virgin when u married? Provided u married

Did u marry her ur wife as virgin?

If u fail in any of the above, u lack moral ground to enforce ur daughters to remain virgin

Aksnoopy:
stfu! That's his decision and not yours. If you married your wife with a borehole pvssy or as a virgin, how is that his business?

OneMarvee:
Many teenagers have recently joined the dating pool. Every secondary school student now has a "special someone".

I am quite appalled at the staggering rise at which teenagers enter relationships just to join the trend.

Going into relationships without being friends first, for financial and sexual benefits, to update Instagram and Facebook?
It gets worse after several months of love-playing and exhausting infatuation, one party becomes bored and wants to try someone else and then the night falls on your undefined relationship. You then proceed to "chop breakfast".

No long term goals or aspirations, no detailed commitments. Just vibes and fulfilled emptiness.

Young people need to reevaluate their decisions and stop jumping on bandwagons. Focus on your education and your goals, that is what matters most now. And if you must, be with someone who you can grow with, share each others goals and ideas, have meaningful conversations, pray or attend religious gatherings.

Let your relationship be purposeful.

Shower thoughts with OneMarvee- E1S2

Ynix:
It's normal, na puberty dey cause am, just that they need proper orientation and guidance.
I see nothing wrong in a teenager falling in love, all that matters is that the paradigm of boundaries be taught and followed. Also the need to checkmate negative peer pressures for them.
For me I never had a girl friend all my teenage days because I was way ahead of those things.

VTJN:
The only sister i had, she was the ADA and the first child of our parents. She got married as a virgin @26years to an igbo guy. They got married 2007 and their marriage is blessed with 3 kids (a girl and 2 boys)

The husband is so much into her, they loved themselves like say tomorrow no day

The guy flaunts her to whosoever that cares to listen that he met her untouched, the guy family loves and cherish her just because of that

My parents played a major role on her, especially my mum. She never dated and she was a good wife and mother to her hubby and kids respectively

Provided you are from a good home, you will definitely know how to build a family because you aren't blind. You see the way your parents built theirs and she was being taught and guided by her parents

The husband do respect my parents/family like say tomorrow no day, for raising an upright daughter with good morals.

I also have a female friend who got married last year as a virgin, she's blessed with a son now and the husband is so much in love with her for keeping herself

Fine, im still a young guy who doesn't even know his left from right though. But one thing i know is that getting married a virgin to the right partner as a grown lady brings respect not only to the lady but also to her parents.

Having relationship experience isn't a yardstick to a successful or blossom marriage, it's not a job or business that experience is needed. You can still even perform above average in some job without experience.


Provided she's from a good family, she will raise a successful family. My sister did, my friend did and so many other girls will.

Hammyaladin:
Thank God for you. I attended a boarding school and I had one. Mehn I spent money on her just to prove the love (childish infatuation)

When I look back, I laugh and regret! And get angry @ myself.

If only I had hung out with the front row guys. (Bookish and more disciplined and focused students ) Easter wouldn't have eaten my money!!

SenecaTheYonger:


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