My greetings nairalanders,
I am married for 10years now and blessed woth 3 wonderful kids but my woman is a bit difficult.

To cut the long story short, i went out with a colleague on friday and due to the fact that the kids are on holiday, i took my wife along because she was already raising the roof bout my outing ( NOTE: I have never ever gone out without my family to avoid wife's palava).

On getting there, she complained i was looking at some ladies lustfully which was not at all.......just trying to figure out some important things in my head. After which she complained that i was drunk.....lo and behold i wasnt because i dont take beer, i only take red wine, bullet and spinnorf......which i took a red wine and bullet before leaving the house and also took 3 bottles of spinnorff ( I was never drunk with all of those)

Fast forward to today, i am very open with my finances guess one of my mistakes.........she noticed that a thousand naira (#1000) was missing in my wallet and all means to explain to her proved abortive even though i give her money for things she love like body cream, cloths and others but after all nagging, i was vexed and went to the kids room which i politely asked her to let me be at the moment because i cant withstand her nagging over a thousand naira but she persisted and i have to shut the door against her but she opened it and told me she hates me and regret marrying me.....sounded like the rapture sound initially but later realised it actually came from my woman, my mother of my kids!!!!

i still cant place those words.....could it be out of anger or she actually mean the words for real?

Please help a heartbroken brother.

U are lucky boss... She is still crazily in luv with u. She is only trying to protect n preserve her territory. Draw her close n give her better piping. Moreso women could be funny at times wen they are angry. Learn to forgive and forget!!!

could it be out of anger or she actually mean the words for real?

Ask her, she would be in a better position to answer you. Some of us here would say NO, some would say YES. After that we leave you to your troubles and face our lives. Which may be better or worse than yours.

ademidedavid:

Ohhhhh, why please?
She looks more beautiful, well packaged than all these younger ladies and you will never believe she has 3kids.....you will never ever.......

ademidedavid:


You have said well bro but i do put her in place of my sister and since i do not want any man to maltreat my sister the more reason i might not be able to do this.........not becuase i am weak but because i am humane. Thanks for this piece anyways

You really love your wife o, you come dey hype am even inside quarrel. E good make man LOVE im wife, that way the burden of keeping the marriage would be on him too. See as you are running around over your wife matter.

May redpillers never see this home and may madam learn to appreciate what she has.

Amin

Bros nah normal levels ... women are emotional they say anything to win the confrontation that is how they are built

But I think there is more to the outburst but it profits nobody but the devil for me to start putting ideas in your head.

Just handle it in the most logical way... don't let emotions cloud your mind ... that is a. Woman's department.

No biggie it out of anger and about taking her out dont take to such bar again, take her to cool restaurants thay only couples , bf and gf hangout no side attractions....those olosho twerking will be like they are ones you come to wen she's not with you..make one come greet you.....my brother ur finished

Ask her why

If after 10years of marriage and 3 kids, my wife tells me she hates me and regrets marrying me, I will just start laughing...

Na ex-wife talk na

This is hitting you hard because you've been too weak....take it or leave it being to weak on women is a suicide mission.

Read some folks up there saying go to her, pet her bla bla. unfortunately for you OP that's not the language a woman understands. if she said all that, the next thing you should do is not go to her or ask why (you'd only ensure something worse than that is said to you again) let her come herself begging .

Tbh I still don't understand how men find it hard to put women in their place and act manly like true House Heads.

You already said your wife is a difficult person.

Know the the type of things that you tell her and always try to avoid any form of confrontation.

Sometimes it is anger that reveals the hidden things of the heart. While sometimes angry people want to say anything to see that they hurt your feelings though in their heart of heart they know they are not being realistic.

sola12:
U are lucky boss... She is still crazily in luv with u. She is only trying to protect n preserve her territory. Draw her close n give her better piping. Moreso women could be funny at times wen they are angry. Learn to forgive and forget!!!

Stop being a simp. It does you no good

You sound like one of those weak simps. You gats drop her ass and move so as to be the man that she can respect. This one na see finish o. She has zero respect for you, forget ai those yeye "women are emotional" talk. That's manipulation.

All are good advice so far. Be careful of *Kandeed's* .It is better to be a Simp to your wife and enjoy peace than to be a super man to the world while your home boils.
To add more, when you left to be in the kids room, you left her lonely, in an angry mood she said that. Pardon her! Study careful the first three advice.

After 10 years of marriage, 3 kids na now she begin hate? hate wetin
Tell her you hate her too then finish the hate with beta knackson.

Just have sex with her... That woman loves you

You are one of his best gift and reward, she just want to say something that will hurt you.
Draw her close, look into her eyes at the heat of the moment and says to her I Love ❤️ You Too.

Why would your wife police you over a mere one thousand naira that did not come from her directly? The picture you painted, from not wanting to take her out, to accusations of being drunk and flirting with your eyes, shows a man who has been thoroughly emasculated, and whom his wife does not have a scintilla of respect for.

The fact that she resumed her toxic behaviour at home is a clear pointer that you have endured rather enjoyed the ten-year marriage. To me, her enunciation of hatred to your person is not a Freudian slip; it's actually what forms her sheer disregard for. It's now too late for you to write this wrong without causing a fundamental injury to your marriage.

Emotional blackmail.

sola12:
U are lucky boss... She is still crazily in luv with u. She is only trying to protect n preserve her territory. Draw her close n give her better piping. Moreso women could be funny at times wen they are angry. Learn to forgive and forget!!!

Okay, thanks so much.........

I also thought of this but the words were too heavy.....

Well appreciated

pocohantas:


Ask her, she would be in a better position to answer you. Some of us here would say NO, some would say YES. After that we leave you to your troubles and face our lives. Which may be better or worse than yours.

Hmmm, i appreciate......

May God be with you and yours

Franzinni:
Bros nah normal levels ... women are emotional they say anything to win the confrontation that is how they are built

But I think there is more to the outburst but it profits nobody but the devil for me to start putting ideas in your head.

Just handle it in the most logical way... don't let emotions cloud your mind ... that is a. Woman's department.

Thanks so much my brother, i appreciate and God bless

libertyfather:
No biggie it out of anger and about taking her out dont take to such bar again, take her to cool restaurants thay only couples , bf and gf hangout no side attractions....those olosho twerking will be like there ones you come wen she's not with you..make one come greet you.....my brother ur finished

Okay bro, suggestion noted.


Thanks so much.

bukatyne:
Ask her why

I sincerely wish

crackhaus:
If after 10years of marriage and 3 kids, my wife tells me she hates me and regrets marrying me, I will just start laughing...

Ohhhhh, why please?

She looks more beautiful, well packaged than all these younger ladies and you will never believe she has 3kids.....


you will never ever.......

UKBobo:
Na ex-wife talk na

Abeg expanciate

Kandeed:
This is hitting you hard because you've been too weak....take it or leave it being to weak on women is a suicide mission.

Read some folks up there saying go to her, pet her bla bla. unfortunately for you OP that's not the language a woman understands. if she said all that, the next thing you should do is not go to her or ask why (you'd only ensure something worse than that is said to again) let her come herself begging .

Tbh I still don't understand how men find it hard to put women in their place and act manly like true House Heads.

You have said well bro but i do put her in place of my sister and since i do not want any man to maltreat my sister the more reason i might not be able to do this.........not becuase i am weak but because i am humane

Thanks for this piece anyways

nzeobi:
You already said your wife is a difficult person.

Know the the type of things that you tell her and always try to avoid any form of confrontation.

FOod for thought......

thanks so much

Bless you

Afamsi:
Sometimes it is anger that reveals the hidden things of the heart. While sometimes angry people want to say anything to see that they hurt your feelings though in their heart of heart they know they are not being realistic.

I wish this is the case ........

i sincerely wish so!

Gratitude

Newboss:
You sound like one of those weak simps. You gats drop her ass and move so as to be the man that she can respect. This one na see finish o. She has zero respect for you, forget a those yeye "women are emotional" talk. That's manipulation.

Hmmmmm, move forward after 10years with 3 kids?

This decision will definitely affect my kids which i will not want to do........

Anyways, thanks so much

JaneYave:
All are good advice so far. Be careful of *Kandeed's* .It is better to be a Simp to your wife and enjoy peace than to be a super man to the world while your home boils.
To add more, when you left to be in the kids room, you left her lonely, in an angry mood she said that. Pardon her! Study careful the first three advice.

Thanks so much.....i have to read this over and over again.........the needful will be done.

God bless you and yours

Stereotypes:
After 10 years of marriage, 3 kids na now she begin hate? hate wetin
Tell her you hate her too then finish the hate with beta knackson.

You made me smile after she said those words..........

thanks for this.........but i know it cant work until we both have a one to one talk.