Base from experience

In 2012, I met one executive and lady boss who I intended to woe. She was a beautiful elegant lady who was financially a successful person. I marvel when she told me that, she likes me but she is sure I can not handle her. I asked her, how do you want to be handled?

She told me - she find me very fascinating but I am too gentle for her personaity and I cannot handle her. I sense it was because of her kind of masculine egoistic personel.

She told me, she is the type that does not submit to any man. She said, even in her place of work, she controls everyone and she doesn't submit or regard the opinion of any person. I just understood that, she is the impossible and egoistic type. I did let her go.

QUESTION
As a man, what are the challenges of marrying a wealthy Nigeria woman?

Waiting for those with first hand experience

This thread go dey interesting

1. You will have to face her pride/ego daily.
2. You will be silenced in every matter, you won't have a say.
3. Her friends will make mockery of you.
4. Others will see you as a parasite

I dated a stubborn young woman, and she told me what she doesn't like about me.

She told me I am too fragile (easily broken)

I was astonished when she told me this

It is only an insane woman will not like a calm man

You both will have financial disagreement due to the general entitlement mentality of Nigerian ladies. It is worse when the lady earns at least one naira above what you earn as a man

Not a good thing to do to your ego.
Even if she loves you,what will her friends(possibly in her class) think of you?
Will you be comfortable meeting them?
It'll destroy your confidence.
And also make you push your self to impossible limits just to catch up that will always end up to fail because you want to jump many steps at a time to catch up to a woman's lifestyle and acceptance.
Then of course it won't work,then you end up depressed,thinking low of yourself and eventually accept your fate ,walking in a woman's shadow.
Run!

Marry a wealthier woman with the prepared heart to deal every nonsense out of her head. Be prepared to divorce her but not after impregnating her like 4 times just to let her have your kids as a parting gift in case her head too boil like hot oil

Be a boss man from the word go. Don't enter into relationship with them with a sissy liver if you want to live long. Remember the more wealthy they are than you are, the stingier they become and the more they will nag and brag over financial matters. So be prepared for divorce from the day you say I do, just in case things don't go as expected.

Never let a woman mess up your life

SeaTrade:
Not a good thing to do to your ego.
Even if she loves you,what will her friends(possibly in her class) think of you?
Will you be comfortable meeting them?
It'll destroy your confidence.
And also make you push your self to impossible omits just to catch up that will always end up to fail because you want to jump many steps at a time to catch up to a woman's lifestyle and acceptance.
Then of course it won't work,then you end up depressed,thinking low of yourself and eventually accept your fate ,walking in a woman's shadow.
Run!

What does that mean? Women of her class looking down on her because she earns higher than the husband. Is she married to a leprous man or a cripple? Do men humiliate married women because they feel her class is lower than her husbands?

This is nonsense and a logic women craftily align with just to satisfy their greed. Trying to use the man as a ladder to go up but never allowing themselves to be someone else ladder. We call it selfishness And it will be okay to say every woman is selfish if this your logic be accepted

It most always don't end well for the man..


Because women shows love through respect and a woman who's higher than you by standard won't respect or love you genuinely.

In whatever you do as a man never lose the respect of your woman because when your woman begins to respect you less you should know that there's a challenge around the corner in your relationship.

Women love and find who they respect attractive, unlike men who don't find a respectable woman attractive.

Ruke1989:


What does that mean? Women of her class looking down on her because she earns higher than the husband. Is she married to a leprous man or a cripple? Do men humiliate married women because they feel her class is lower than her husbands?
This is nonsense and a logic women craftily align with to satisfy their greed. Trying to use the man as a ladder to go up but never allowing themselves to be someone else ladder. We call it selfishness And it will be okay to say every woman is selfish if this your logic be accepted

Blame society.
They made it okay for men to be women's saving grace which is one narrative that should change ,cos this people won't condone you if the situation was reversed.

One reason I get nauseated when I see a less successful girl telling me they love me. I realize they won't do that to a broke guy. So I get nauseated because I think love is being used as a trick to get successful men to sponsor poor girls who try to play on men's intelligence. The high income ladies will never in their young age profess undying love to a broke guy unless for fear of not finding a husband eventually using that man as sperm donor. They hate to be used by men financially but they love to financially hook up once they see a Roch man they can use. Stop hiding under tradition of man being the financial head or even scripture and accept the fact that ladies are just selfish without restriction.

They are quick to reject submission to a man headship over them but once topic is about
whose money should be spent. They will quickly tell you you are the head so spend your money on the family and leave me to spend mine on myself

SeaTrade:
Blame society.
They made it okay for men to be women's saving grace which is one narrative that should change ,cos this people won't condone you if the situation was reversed.

exactly boss. That's the truth

Struggles ke...when guys are already struggling to marry them,as an escape from poverty.

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You've nothing to worry about if both of you're coming from strong ethical leanings and are in sync, and provided that you're gumptious and have an altruistic interest in her, better if she does towards you too.

Eventually, it would be different strokes for different folks.

I know this thread is for men to share their experiences. But that kind of union will have both parties walking about on eggshells with each other...

Woman trying so hard to not bruise man's ego...
They go out, and she slips her card to him so it looks like he's the one paying.
Trying to dim her light so he can shine comfortably.

Man trying to act unbothered...
Trying to prove it's all love and mutual respect and wokeness...
Trying to hold firmly to the reins he already feels left his grasp...

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That scenario up there is for couples who are honestly trying to make it work..

For most others, it's gbas gbos...

Woman wants to live her best life... Freely, as she pleases.
Submission may be challenging
She may a couple of times remind him who takes the lion share of running the home...

For the man, he's always wearing his insecurity on his sleeves....
Won't let her buy the new big car...
Won't agree to change the kids' school
Wants to suppress her and establishes unnecessary laws just to show control...

Starts cheating.

Ruke1989:
One reason I get nauseated when I see a less successful girl telling me they love me. I realize they won't do that to a broke guy. So I get nauseated because I think love is being used as a trick to get successful men to sponsor poor girls who try to play on men's intelligence. The high income ladies will never in their young age profess undying love to a broke guy unless for fear of not finding a husband eventually using that man as sperm donor. They hate to be used by men financially but they love to financially hook up once they see a Roch man they can use. Stop hiding under tradition of man being the financial head or even scripture and accept the fact that ladies are just selfish without restriction.

They are quick to reject submission to a man headship over them but once topic is about
whose money should be spent. They will quickly tell you you are the head so spend your money on the family and leave me to spend mine on myself

95% of the times,it's all lies!Comfort by association at its peak.

This boy called lostchild again, life is really fucking u front and back

Ruke1989:
One reason I get nauseated when I see a less successful girl telling me they love me. I realize they won't do that to a broke guy. So I get nauseated because I think love is being used as a trick to get successful men to sponsor poor girls who try to play on men's intelligence. The high income ladies will never in their young age profess undying love to a broke guy unless for fear of not finding a husband eventually using that man as sperm donor. They hate to be used by men financially but they love to financially hook up once they see a Roch man they can use. Stop hiding under tradition of man being the financial head or even scripture and accept the fact that ladies are just selfish without restriction.

They are quick to reject submission to a man headship over them but once topic is about
whose money should be spent. They will quickly tell you you are the head so spend your money on the family and leave me to spend mine on myself

A man can meet a woman with no money,no face,no nyash, no breast,sparse education but still vote for her and wife her.
But a woman will never marry a man that has nothing going for him.
In Nigeria,a woman can be hanging out daily or almost daily with empty pocket,even their transport fare,they might not have but a man can't try it except with his close friends.
Little wonder there are almost only widows and no widowers.

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Most times, the main problem is from the girl's parents, they will never see you as a suitable suitor, the handwriting on your forehead will show "Gold digger" in capital letter in their eyes.

Even if you genuinely love their daughter, the kind of treatment they will give you will affect your self esteem, only a white man trusts his daughter's judgement without probing unnecessary further when it comes to romantic affairs but to a wealthy black man, many things are involved.

Lostchild:
As a man, what are the challenges of marrying a wealthy Nigeria woman?

Base from experience ?

Just respect yourself that's all she needs

And that word respect yourself involves everything about marriage and relationship disciplines

The definition of "wealthy" with reference to this topic, needs to be explained.

If what you mean is a situation where the woman earns a higher monthly income/salary than her husband-to-be, then I don't believe there's any real struggle to be had.
Both are still within the same social class but simply have disparities in earning power.

However, if what you mean is a situation where the woman is wealthy (as in millions/billions wealth), then forget it... It's ONLY in Nollywood that such a woman could marry a man beneath her social class.

In the real world, there aren't that many young "wealthy" (in millions/billions) women to start with... and even where there are, they'd rather marry a man who is equal to them in wealth or slightly higher.

frozen70:


Just respect yourself that's all she needs

And that word respect yourself involves everything about marriage and relationship disciplines

I disagree with you 100% because this is a question for men to answer

emmanuelbrown26:
This boy called lostchild again, life is really fucking u front and back

You are correct

Ruke1989:
One reason I get nauseated when I see a less successful girl telling me they love me. I realize they won't do that to a broke guy. So I get nauseated because I think love is being used as a trick to get successful men to sponsor poor girls who try to play on men's intelligence. The high income ladies will never in their young age profess undying love to a broke guy unless for fear of not finding a husband eventually using that man as sperm donor. They hate to be used by men financially but they love to financially hook up once they see a Roch man they can use. Stop hiding under tradition of man being the financial head or even scripture and accept the fact that ladies are just selfish without restriction.

They are quick to reject submission to a man headship over them but once topic is about
whose money should be spent. They will quickly tell you you are the head so spend your money on the family and leave me to spend mine on myself

Hmmmnnnn

Well said

Lostchild:


I disagree with you 100% because this is a question for men to answer

Let's wait for the men then

frozen70:


Let's wait for the men then

Its even difficult to find a comment from a man base on his experienced. Check the above edit write up.

crackhaus:
The definition of "wealthy" with reference to this topic, needs to be explained.

If what you mean is a situation where the woman earns a higher monthly income/salary than her husband-to-be, then I don't believe there's any real struggle to be had.
Both are still within the same social class but simply have disparities in earning power.

However, if what you mean is a situation where the woman is wealthy (as in millions/billions wealth), then forget it... It's ONLY in Nollywood that such a woman could marry a man beneath her social class.

In the real world, there aren't that many young "wealthy" (in millions/billions) women to start with... and even where there are, they'd rather marry a man who is equal to them in wealth or slightly higher.

You have said it all. I had one small encounter in 2012 with one of those managerial lady boss.

Check my edited write up above