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Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by simplesearch: 11:35pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1: Is there morning after pill in hell fire to assuage the eternal suffering there? The wise creator tells you not to indulge in something, you're trying to talk smart. When the medical and spiritual import of a promiscous life hit you hard, you'll realize the ordinariness of a man on his dying bed regardless of their status. 5 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 11:36pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
3minssex: a single mother comes as a package, and no matter how you wanna look at it, one way or the other, the child will be part of your life. yes it aint for everybody to raise another man's child, but if you set boundaries etc, it should be very easy. you cant marry a single mother and not be involved in that childs life. BePrepared: we are not here to judge people who have premarital sex nor are we here to give unreasonable solutions... the reality is that people will have premarital sex whether we like it or not, because not everyone's life is dictated by some holybook. now, is it wrong to have premarital sex?! NO ITS NOT. so long as you protect yourself accordingly. but hey, accidents happen everywhere in life...just like the holiest xtians who goes to church every single day can come out of church and get hit by a drunk driver. its called LIFE! 3 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 11:39pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
simplesearch: sorry, we are here to share valid solutions, not some gibberish nonsense... your creator hasnt been able to fix the world for 1000s of years yet you are still believing that this creator of yours is the solution?!?!? LOL, stop being blinded by nonsense. 13 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by jidewash(m): 11:41pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
TheGidRedpiller:I second this verification 1 Like |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Kingcalls: 11:41pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
Terrier99: @ bolden...unless she's tonto 1 Like |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 11:42pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
Kobojunkiee: unwanted by the two gullible people who had sex without thinking of the consequences of their actions... thus it resulting in single motherhood. 2 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by J2381: 11:43pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
AfroKnight:Ignore that human. Whether that story is altered or not, it still speak of the reality many Nigerian men face when it relates with single mothers and how they tend, like aways tend to push the responsibility of raising a child that isn't yours on whoever they're dating. To me that is very mischievous. It's something I've seen an experience not just once but many times. In all fairness, a single mother should let it out straight on that she's a single mother if and when she meets a guy who she feels is developing interest in her. Period. 11 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by tiswell(m): 11:43pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
SyrusdeHansome:and what makes you think most single mothers haven't done several abortions in the past and decides to keep the present for for fear of loosing their womb or some sort of medical complications? 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Nobody: 11:44pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
SyrusdeHansome: You can marry a single mother, that's your choice. But I agree with the OP. I can't marry a single mother because the consequences will be disastrous in future (especially one whose baby daddy is still alive). Most times, these single mothers still have emotional attachment to their baby daddy that with just a phone call, she is already in his place pleasuring him even while married to you. But the greatest problem will be the child. If you marry her, she will likely bring her child to stay in your house. Will you be responsible for his upkeep? To what extent can you discipline a child that is not yours? She may even tell you not to hit the child cos you are not the father. The child may grow up one day and warn you to keep your corrections/advise to yourself cos you are not his/her father. Will the child be maltreated for not being "part of the family"? Will the baby daddy come later to cause trouble for you and your family? The summary of it all is that marrying a single mother in Africa will almost always cause problems in the marriage in future! 33 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by RexTramadol1: 11:44pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1: Hmmm! I think the problem comes later In a case where the child knows you’re not his/her dad The woman for sure will want you to treat the child as yours when it comes to goodies and enjoyment, but on discipline she will remind you it’s her child Not just that, later in the future the father will come after you’ve brought the child up and start asking for silly forgiveness, the mother will just let you know...... thanks for all you’ve done, but the child’s father is the child’s father I’ve seen this Shii play out........ inasmuch as there’s nothing wrong so far the guy can believe he can go into it....... But those who have weighed the pros and cons should not be demonized for saying tufiakwa 25 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by tiswell(m): 11:45pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
SyrusdeHansome:and what makes you think most single mothers haven't done several abortions in the past and decides to keep the present for for fear of loooosing their womb or some sort of medical complications? 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by marwanafrica: 11:47pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
Romanoff: Your head Get oil. Please get to learn/Read about the teachings of prophet Muhammad personally. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Echara: 11:47pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
erico2k2: But 10% risk is such a big risk 1 Like |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by mkoabiola: 11:48pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
We stil av better single mothers than d single babes Some are not jus lucky |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by lovchalice(f): 11:48pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
I beg to differ. There are many reaspns why a wpman can judge a man wrongly and later realise her mistake And its better to walk away baby and all But it's wrong of you to assume that the woman will still be sleeping with the irresponsible man Yes their child comes first because they got this children in pains And they know that they're the only ones that can trulylove these kids And there's an element of guilt knowing your child will suffer the consequences of your mistakes And yes i was a single mum Davash222: 1 Like |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by AfroKnight: 11:49pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1: I feel I already stated where her loyalty would become a problem. It appears I was not clear though. As a father, it is my duty to raise my children with the full support of my wife. However women care more for their kids than the men who gave them the seed to form those kids. Now, I am talking from real-life experience. She will second-guess my intentions at various points in time, where the discipline of her son (who isn’t mine) is concerned. I’m not about to be told I can’t talk to her son in a certain kind of way or I can’t expect some level of discipline from him just because he isn’t mine. I’d rather raise kids I have equal rights to by virtue of my DNA. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Ruthymoon(f): 11:50pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
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Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by AfroKnight: 11:53pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
Ruthymoon: Irrelevant to this topic. You asked yourself a different question and answered it by yourself. 28 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by AfroKnight: 11:54pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
J2381: Period. |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 11:54pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
RexTramadol1: i beg to differ... you can easily set boundaries to make sure that you are not emotionally involved with that child, and as much as that child may be part of your life and shared expense (as a new family), you can easily take your emotional distance and remind that child always that you aint his daddy. just because you raise/live with someone doesnt mean you have to automatically be his daddy. Not just that, later in the future the father will come after you’ve brought the child up and start asking for silly forgiveness, the mother will just let you know...... thanks for all you’ve done, but the child’s father is the child’s father the child already has a father, and however useless that man may be, dont be fooling yourself to think that you are that childs daddy. now, if you have issues raising/educating/paying school fees for such child, then let his mother know from the get go and make sure he does not benefit a kobo from your income....but however you wanna look at it, that child will be in your life (since you are with his mother) so you might as well make it an enjoyable ride for the three of you. btw let the man be forgiven for his mistake, wetin concern you with that?! is your misplaced ego afraid that mama will now go back to the babydaddy and leave you?!?!?! But those who have weighed the pros and cons should not be demonized for saying tufiakwa sadly, you havent said a single pro here and only focussing on the cons. be open minded about the issue bro. 2 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Ofadaman(m): 11:54pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
Never be a step father, end of story 19 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by revolt(m): 11:55pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
Bro you didn't dodge a bullet. You dodged an atomic bomb. Some of us thought there's was nothing wrong in giving a single mother a second chance and being a hero to come save the helpless woman and child.....heheheheheh..... Before you enter they will be begging and crying till they trap you. 1. You will just be a cheque for her child...whom she only cares about in the true sense. You can starve and she will not care as long as her child eats 2. The baby daddy is the one she really wants and will always have access there.. you are just there for her to save face. 3. You will feel so stupid as you can't even discipline the child without she frowning. 4. The only way it can work is if she is not evil enough to expect you to take care of another man's child by leaving the child out of the union 5.if she tells you ..she and the kid are a package.... bro tell her you're not a scavenger. Finally the child will always be a reminder ,your partner was a man's sperm dumpsite. Trust me that bites... as you will be the neigbourhood fool. If you have your life together don't complicate your life. Its a very bad deal I don't wish my enemies. Don't mind these useless feminists that come to talk rubbish.... run for your life. 38 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Vision101(m): 11:58pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
@Romanoff Yet, if you tell both male and female to stop fornicating, they will come for you. Many are having premarital sex and children are one of the consequences of premarital sex. You people frown at people doing abortions but won't marry a single mum or won't abstain from sex. If your partner gets pregnant for you, na una go first say make she abort am, yet, some of you won't marry a woman who has done abortion before. Una no see say this premarital sex thing no worth am las las? @me 10 gbams for you. 3 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Lostchild(m): 11:58pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
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Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 12:01am On Sep 10, 2021 |
AfroKnight: well its her son, let her raise that little bastard the way she sees fit... why do you have a problem with that?! are you saying that if you meet a woman and live with her as a family, you should decide how she should raise that child?!?!? I’m not about to be told I can’t talk to her son in a certain kind of way or I can’t expect some level of discipline from him just because he isn’t mine. just because they come as a package doesnt mean you can do what you wish with her child... why do you even wanna be emotionally involved? shouldnt she have a say in the matter of HOW TO RAISE HER CHILD?! what if you are too strict, too harsh, too hard with the child, should she just be quiet and let you abuse the child anyhow? isnt it something that BOTH OF YOU should discuss as mature adults?! I’d rather raise kids I have equal rights to by virtue of my DNA. we all do, but even then you still should do that in a proper manner and MUMMY has the right to intervene, if she believes that your way of raising y'all children is too harsh/hard/violent/extreme etc 1 Like |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by foleskay(m): 12:01am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Its a mixed feelings sha. I would hv become a father by now if I had impregnated a single mother I once dated in 2011. Babe wanted me to date and impregnate her buh I japa. Few years later she told me d girl later died of typhoid or so. Babe is now in Dubai balling, she's now a very big girl. Chaii Yetunde baby 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Dalby(m): 12:03am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Romanoff: Condom breaks, there are pharmaceutical remedies immediately it is discovered... 1 Like |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by erico2k2(m): 12:03am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Echara:Less risky compared to abortion and damaging ur womb 2 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Gabkosh: 12:05am On Sep 10, 2021 |
AfroKnight:Guys that are cool with it only date them for Bleep, not marriage. Unless the girl get money sha. 1 Like |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by RexTramadol1: 12:06am On Sep 10, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1: It’s not even about the mother going back to her past love or whoever, wetin concern me? You’re picking it from the angle of a sane society, this society we live in, if you make such declaration with the woman, she’s the first to react cos you said you can’t pay her child’s school fee Then she tells her friends and those ones start demonizing you like he’s such a wicked man, what if it’s his child, forgetting there is no what if, father sabi him pikin number 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by madridsta007(m): 12:07am On Sep 10, 2021 |
AfroKnight: 1. Her child comes first before you, whether dating or married to her. 2. There will always be a third party in the marriage or relationship. 3. She can exit your life any given time. She has built herself to be independent and she can revert to that whenever she suspects you. 4. And yes, she will always suspect you. 5. Have a quarrel and she plans on leaving. Hence your life and mindset will always be on the edge. This happens in most of the cases. They dont normally heal after the pregnancy incident (pregnancy, coping with family, the child, etc) and the next guy will bear the brunt of that hate for men. 19 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 12:11am On Sep 10, 2021 |
RexTramadol1: bro, there comes a time in a man 's life when he has to start to live his life FOR HIMSELF and he shouldnt give a flying fukc about what people think/say of him (so long as he does right by his own maker). if you really wouldnt be with a single mother bla bla bla because of gossiping fools who know nothing about your life, then you sir have some growing up to do. |
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