Johel:




All I see here is poverty thinking imo....you haven't even developed yourself enough psychologically, mentally,financially, spiritually etc,she isn't even ready and you are not even sure of anything yet,u just Wana rush into marriage because of societal pressure,stop using loneliness as cover up,well...whatever rocks your boat though....But i advise you see marriage with a lady that's done with education totally,that's working and earning,that's supportive,God fearing and honest,one that respects you and all that surrounds you,a mature lady with common sense...But for now,work on yourself properly and gather up while u seek the face of God for a good wife,a good woman and a good mother to your kids.....Don't forget,age is just a number...cheers.

MrBachelor:
Don't marry bro.
Save money and travel.

Kadejo:
I meet this lady during COVID-19 pandemic period which was last year May 2020. She is still a student in a reputable University here in Nigeria, 300Level to be precise. She is 25years old.
She has insisted that until she finishes her school, gone for service and do what ladies call "Sisi" for at least another one year, she won't get married. That will be about 4years to this time.

I am in my mid 30s already, working class, earn below #70k per month, also into IT business, willing to get married now because I feel lonely, also need to build a family of my own before I turn 40yrs.

This lady in question appears to show me love, that's to her own way, my orientation is a bit different, I love her too anyways.

But would you advice I wait for her till she is done with all she has said or should I leave her and look for someone else to get married to?

Please, no insult, advice needed from experienced person.

Thank you.

Romanoff:
If you're sure of the woman you're dating, you wouldn't come here to make this post.

There's already doubt in your mind, that's why you're here and you're on the right place.

They will feed your doubt with fertilizer and waters nd it will grow and yield plenty fruits.

Kadejo:
I meet this lady during COVID-19 pandemic period which was last year May 2020. She is still a student in a reputable University here in Nigeria, 300Level to be precise. She is 25years old.
She has insisted that until she finishes her school, gone for service and do what ladies call "Sisi" for at least another one year, she won't get married. That will be about 4years to this time.

I am in my mid 30s already, working class, earn below #70k per month, also into IT business, willing to get married now because I feel lonely, also need to build a family of my own before I turn 40yrs.

This lady in question appears to show me love, that's to her own way, my orientation is a bit different, I love her too anyways.

But would you advice I wait for her till she is done with all she has said or should I leave her and look for someone else to get married to?

Please, no insult, advice needed from experienced person.

Thank you.

Parizz:
women are like weather. They are unpredictable

Vinnie2000:



So he should just pick any Girl from the Street and Marry, abi?

It's marriage we talking about here o..

He loves the lady and if she loves him too, He should Wait!..

Kadejo:
Thank you very much for your advice ma'am!

MeghaneMorgane:
I don’t know why this thread is making me laugh

4reala:
When she marries now wouldn't stop her from achieving her goal.
If she is really in love with you, Tell her you can only wait a year for her to finish her university program, while u start arranging a side chick, so that after that 1 year, she is still not ready, then tie the knot with your side chick.

Kadejo:
I meet this lady during COVID-19 pandemic period which was last year May 2020. She is still a student in a reputable University here in Nigeria, 300Level to be precise. She is 25years old.
She has insisted that until she finishes her school, gone for service and do what ladies call "Sisi" for at least another one year, she won't get married. That will be about 4years to this time.

I am in my mid 30s already, working class, earn below #70k per month, also into IT business, willing to get married now because I feel lonely, also need to build a family of my own before I turn 40yrs.

This lady in question appears to show me love, that's to her own way, my orientation is a bit different, I love her too anyways.

But would you advice I wait for her till she is done with all she has said or should I leave her and look for someone else to get married to?

Please, no insult, advice needed from experienced person.

Thank you.

abimic:


All these una analysis, if God blesses a man, you would pay the school fees with ease at any stage. Senator Chris ngige, buhari, Ned nwoko, and so many pay school fees at their current age which is above 50. So, people should marry when they're ready and not because they would be paying school fees at 50 or 60. There's a popular young girl called small mummy, even at her so young age, she makes money even adults aren't making and she even makes money to feed her parents, just at her young age. So bro, it's not a crime to train a child at 60, when you have the resources to do that with ease, then it won't be a problem. Giving birth to child or getting married is not a competition biko.

Vinnie2000:


If she is cool, fine and respectful generally, Wait..Be patient!

Do not Rush into marriage with any Available young lady because you are 34..
Pple still see Marriage as a Competition!
It's the ability of a Man to bring up a beautiful family and Cater for them, without Stress!

When I see some 29, 30 yrs Guys rushing into Marriage, I just Pity some of Dem!..

BTTS:
Hmm. And some of us, graduate, are still single at this age. Where do they find this relationship sef, cuz ayam tayad

OkuFaba:

[s]GBAM!
GBAMER!!
GBAMEST!!!

He who get ears, make e hear word.
A word is enough for the wise


I am 29, my girl is 20, we have finalized next year to get married, I've brought her home and we seeing her people this December.
She's happy we would finally live as hubby and wife.

Yo girl is using you to catch cruise until she falls for the one she truly loves, for the fact that she's not even observing her age, she's wasting your time[/s]

Xscape047:
Error

bobowaja:

DM the op na. Don't be shy

sandra50:
Please do not listen to this

Funkybabee:
She's scared of her future

It's just that some men are wicked Nani while trapping ladies to marriage and become irresponsible for her and the children when load of responsibility wanna kill them but forgot they are the one that brought the term marriage up.

I have one marriage that played like this, that girl withdraw from her school and the marriage broke Las lass

If you know you will take care of her and her children, and promised not to give her any responsibility until she's fit to support

[s]Then go ahead with these method

Petting, u can only pet or tamed her to bowl for you unless it can not work

Give her reason u are ready for it and see wether she will yield or not[/s]

Gaddafi1:


My brother, the best time to marry is between the age of 30 and 35. My grand father told me that a child should not be trained with pension money. Your first child will be 20 years when you are 60, not sure you plan to die young because of stress of school fees.

I waited for my wife for 7 years but when I turned 32, told her that I wont wait again. She agreed and I married her at 33 years.

Since she is good, passionately and prayerfully explain these challenges to her and hopefully she will listen. If not, go for a more matured girl and trust God for the best.

Volkswagen90:
By the way,are you kadejo of carbon?

mastermaestro:


[s]Very annoying to read. A 25 year old girl wants to continue doing sisi? What exactly has she been doing since she turned 18? This is unbelievable! When most girls are marrying between age 20 and 22, this one doesn't know she is even too old to be in 400l unless of course had had some other kind of education somewhere before.

Rubbish talk![/s]

mastermaestro:


She wants enjoy the life of a single girl. Play games without relationship restrictions. In other words, freedom to run around and mingle.

BTTS:

I don't want another lady to 'pray' for me o.

MrBachelor:
Don't marry bro.

Save money and travel.

Kadejo:
I meet this lady during COVID-19 pandemic period which was last year May 2020. She is still a student in a reputable University here in Nigeria, 300Level to be precise. She is 25years old.
She has insisted that until she finishes her school, gone for service and do what ladies call "Sisi" for at least another one year, she won't get married. That will be about 4years to this time.

I am in my mid 30s already, working class, earn below #70k per month, also into IT business, willing to get married now because I feel lonely, also need to build a family of my own before I turn 40yrs.

This lady in question appears to show me love, that's to her own way, my orientation is a bit different, I love her too anyways.

But would you advice I wait for her till she is done with all she has said or should I leave her and look for someone else to get married to?

Please, no insult, advice needed from experienced person.

Thank you.