My wife no longer loves me. She always insults me, snub me and has no respect for me. I will confess I am not very rich but I work extremely hard. I noticed that my wife attends political meetings and they have overpowered me as she has no atom of respect for me.

In fact a time I sent 90% of my total monthly earning she told me real men send their wives 500,000 naira monthly but you send me this rubbish and call it money. The time I wanted to pack my things to the house we built together she told me that I cannot bring it in because it is her house.

It is a very shameful thing for me to mention that she gives me blow sometimes when I ask for sex. The day I got angry and revolted the whole world went against me that I went against the rights and dignity of a woman. I was accused of trying to rape my wife.

The last day I kissed a woman was on my wedding day when they said I can kiss her. Till today I have never kissed a woman. I take a lot of pains but cannot take that anymore. She seems to have carry on with her life in her political group in Ogun State. As she is mingling well with politicians there.

The problem is why are pastors telling me that I cannot carry on with my life.

Why is it called sin if I go for another woman. Didn't God himself say it is not good for man to be alone. I blame myself, I might have married a wrong lady. But didn't God himself say that if his people repent he will heal their land.

Why do they believe it is wrong to re marry?

May my Sons never Marry a Woman that will make them to be Weeping and gnashing their teeth in agony and despair like this man.... Amen.

It look serious and at the same time funny..

I don't know what you want.. a reconciliation with your wife or the issue you have with pastors and their beliefs on remarriage..

Well.. I leave that to righteousness2 to enlighten you on the reason or reasons why it is wrong to remarry..

Back to your wife.. I don't understand what you meant by she gives you blow when you ask for sex.. blow as in ?? I want to believe it is Mouth Gig.. but if otherwise.. man!! Na wahala you marry oh

If you don't have kids.. it is best you move on with your life..

op sorry, more like loosing your gf to yahoo boys.

Sorry to the op...here for the comments.

Hope she no APC member sha

Shallow thinking pastors. I have one question for you, If she doesn't change, can you continue with such for the next say 3, 5, 10 years. There lies your answer

Some see marriage as achievement

Me - I see that thing as a scam


Bro, move on with your life, and hope on God she changed for better.

taiwotimitt:
Hope she no APC member sha

Wether she belongs to CPA or not, Once a nagging woman comes into your life, your life will know no peace.

Move on or become a politician too..

How am I supposed to believe that a man last kissed his wife on their wedding day?
Did she start mingling with politicians right at the wedding venue?

This one off me, sha.

If you two built a house together and she contributed the bulk of the money, I'm assuming you must have spent at least 2 years together. House no be 1 naira thing. And in that two years you've never touched your wife and she's never asked to be touched?



This one no follow, sha.

How long have you both been married? And was she in the political group before you guys got married?

She is your wife and you need to try and reach her somehow. At least you guys must have been in love at some point.

And if you can't reach her, what about her family, are they aware of her behaviour? Explore all options before you decide to end it.

If she has no children yet for you, divorce her ASAP, else you're heading to uelr early grave

Bornsinner7:
It look serious and at the same time funny..

I don't know what you want.. a reconciliation with your wife or the issue you have with pastors and their beliefs on remarriage..

Well.. I leave that to righteousness2 to enlighten you on the reason or reasons why it is wrong to remarry..

Back to your wife.. I don't understand what you mean by she gives you blow when you ask for sex.. blow as in ?? I want to believe it is Mouth Gig.. but if otherwise.. man!! Na wahala you marry oh

If you don't have kids.. it is best you move on with your life..

Real blow on stomach. Sometimes real dirty slap for me to leave her alone. It continues for months.

I don't want reconciliation as she seems to be enjoying her life. I only have problem with the no remarry preaching. We have 3 children

taiwotimitt:
Hope she no APC member sha

I don't know her party but my children most of the time tell me that she went for political meeting.

cybertruss:


I don't know her party but my children most of the time tell me that she went for political meeting.

Did you marry her cos she richer? Probably was bringing to the table before marriage? I don't understand d lack of support

wait shey you don't have family members that can talk to her Abi she does not have family members you can go and meet to talk to her?

If you have exhausted this option and no changes,it's obvious she's gone so open the gate for her to Go give her the divorce except you want her to be willing in your presence or doing aristo under your nose and then she push another man pikin for you to train.if you don't want that then let her go.its obvious she hasn't enjoyed life enough before getting married.she still wants to be on the Streets so let her be before she turns into esabod aboderin Tokunbo before your very eyes and be bringing embarrassment to you

My advice is that maybe u people should see a therapist ... Or u can sit her down and pour ur mind to her if that does not work maybe u can talk to her parents I hope that helps

KimberlyWest:
How am I supposed to believe that a man last kissed his wife on their wedding day?
Did she start mingling with politicians right at the wedding venue?

This one off me, sha.

If you two built a house together and she contributed the bulk of the money, I'm assuming you must have spent at least 2 years together. House no be 1 naira thing. And in that two years you've never touched your wife and she's never asked to be touched?



This one no follow, sha.

She is my first love and we struggled together. We are married for more than 20 years. Our first daughter is 22. Everything was ok with us till I sold my car to build our first house in Obada, Ewekoro, Ogun State. Because I don't hear Yoruba so well I allowed her go for landlord meeting on my behalf. They elected her as the PRO of the community. That was the time the thing climaxed. I have asked her that I want to kiss why don't she allow me. No answer was given . Once in a blue moon either once in a month or 2 to 3 months she gives me green card for sex. Half bread is better than none. If you try to kiss and the green card goes you might not have sex in another months. I survive by masturbation. And in 2 ocassions I went for prostitutes (I won't lie, when I cannot take it again) but hate it because like my wife they don't want kissing.

No vex but do you have small stature?

cybertruss:


Real blow on stomach. Sometimes real dirty slap for me to leave her alone. It continues for months.

I don't want reconciliation as she seems to be enjoying her life. I only have problem with the no remarry preaching. We have 3 children

cybertruss:


Real blow on stomach. Sometimes real dirty slap for me to leave her alone. It continues for months.

I don't want reconciliation as she seems to be enjoying her life. I only have problem with the no remarry preaching. We have 3 children

You have three kids yet claim you have no sex life?

Or are you both hyper fertile that the three times you had sex turned to pregnancy?

Unfortunately, all your problems seemed tied to money.

It seems she now has more money/access to more money than you hence the disrespect.

How was your marriage prior to her joining politics?

What about her family? Your family?

@Pastor: is he just saying you stay together without proffering solutions? Is he aware of the true picture?

What does your wife want (apart from money)? Upon engagement, what are her pain points?

@slaps and blows because of sex: that is serious sexual abuse; was she raped?

I think you both should really engage as regards your expectations or go to a therapist.

@divorce and remarriage: there are two reasons for divorce; adultery & abandonment/the other person walks away. I would also strongly consider divorce/separation in the case of physical abuse (not fighting). That is loving my neighbor as I LOVE MYSELF.

If you can remarry in scenario two is what I don't know.

cybertruss:


She is my first love and we struggled together. We are married for more than 20 years. Our first daughter is 22. Everything was ok with us till I sold my car to build our first house in Obada, Ewekoro, Ogun State. Because I don't hear Yoruba so well I allowed her go for landlord meeting on my behalf. They elected her as the PRO of the community. That was the time the thing climaxed. I have asked her that I want to kiss why don't she allow me. No answer was given . Once in a blue moon either once in a month or 2 to 3 months she gives me green card for sex. Half bread is better than none. If you try to kiss and the green card goes you might not have sex in another months. I survive by masturbation. And in 2 ocassions I went for prostitutes (I won't lie, when I cannot take it again) but hate it because like my wife they don't want kissing.

I find it very hard to believe any of this.

cybertruss:


I don't know her party but my children most of the time tell me that she went for political meeting.

if Na APC or PDP, she's gone.forget her and move on.them dey love-vendor themselves to politicians with the highest bidder

If you know what the women do after political party meetings

cybertruss:


She is my first love and we struggled together. We are married for more than 20 years. Our first daughter is 22. Everything was ok with us till I sold my car to build our first house in Obada, Ewekoro, Ogun State. Because I don't hear Yoruba so well I allowed her go for landlord meeting on my behalf. They elected her as the PRO of the community. That was the time the thing climaxed. I have asked her that I want to kiss why don't she allow me. No answer was given . Once in a blue moon either once in a month or 2 to 3 months she gives me green card for sex. Half bread is better than none. If you try to kiss and the green card goes you might not have sex in another months. I survive by masturbation. And in 2 ocassions I went for prostitutes (I won't lie, when I cannot take it again) but hate it because like my wife they don't want kissing.

From community meeting she recently joined politics 2 years ago. I just let her be. Things worsened after we build our house. Our contribution to the building was equal in the house.

Mennnnnnnn,op,the big goons don snatch your woman like ballot box from you just like that

Honestly,this kind thing can pain guyman en... Especially when you've already built your world around her......To the extent that both of you even built a house together,well,na big loseguarding be that.....

One lesson wey I don learn as a young bachelor na be say--"no matter what, Don't make your Banny your colleague via Access to your finances, unless you wanna be committing suicide with style"

Well,like I do normally say here--"wahala for any guyman wey make woman him best friend..Las las them no dey tell person...

elonmuskbaby:

wait shey you don't have family members that can talk to her Abi she does not have family members you can go and meet to talk to her?

If you have exhausted this option and no changes,it's obvious she's gone so open the gate for her to Go give her the divorce except you want her to be willing in your presence or doing aristo under your nose and then she push another man pikin for you to train.if you don't want that then let her go.its obvious she hasn't enjoyed life enough before getting married.she still wants to be on the Streets so let her be before she turns into esabod aboderin Tokunbo before your very eyes and be bringing embarrassment to you

Well that has been exhausted. Family, church, friends. Nothing can change her. However I have problem with people telling me it is a sin to remarry. However, I am going to be extremely careful if remarrying

KimberlyWest:
How am I supposed to believe that a man last kissed his wife on their wedding day?
Did she start mingling with politicians right at the wedding venue?

This one off me, sha.

If you two built a house together and she contributed the bulk of the money, I'm assuming you must have spent at least 2 years together. House no be 1 naira thing. And in that two years you've never touched your wife and she's never asked to be touched?



This one no follow, sha.

Maybe na one of the politicians be the chairman of the day gaan. Things you read on Nairaland.

As beating done enter, I for say make e divorce, but redpillers hate divorce. So I would advise he controls his mouth and work on his marriage.

Innovia:
Shallow thinking pastors. I have one question for you, If she doesn't change, can you continue with such for the next say 3, 5, 10 years. There lies your answer

Pastors aside.... why is the OP looking to jump into marriage against right after this? What about taking time to let the lessons from this one properly sink in, and the wounds heal, so he can mature as an individual before heading back into another battlefield?

this is serious! Be careful sha

cybertruss:


Well that has been exhausted. Family, church, friends. Nothing can change her. However I have problem with people telling me it is a sin to remarry. However, I am going to be extremely careful if remarrying

what is your business with people's opinion? Na people get your life or you aren't man enough to make your own decisions and stand on it?

If you die of depression and loneliness the people you're scared of disappointing or trying so hard to look good to will mourn you for 1 day at the maximum and move on while your wife will Kuku bring all her sugar daddies to be fuckin in your house while they wear your clothes to Bleep her

cybertruss:

Well that has been exhausted. Family, church, friends. Nothing can change her. However I have problem with people telling me it is a sin to remarry. However, I am going to be extremely careful if remarrying

How long were you married to her for? And how long has it been since she left the marriage?