All these choleric phlematic ur discribing... Hope u k ow if u don't have much money, she will do u in five years...

Just so that u know!

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

It can work if you both put in the work. FYI all that phlegmatic and choleric jazz is bullshit, people's behaviours are always on a spectrum not a narrowly defined label. You and your intended have traits that can make a relationship work but you need to actively be harnessing those traits. If you rely on those narrow definitions to define your capabilities then you will constantly butt heads but if you allow yourself be the best you can be you will make a go of it. There are no perfect humans or partnerships only people determined to make things beautiful. To be fair it's easier for some than others but that is not the only criteria for success, all of them need active determination to become the dream they envision.

My brother pls let her be.
Except you are ready for the show that ll come after.
The points you raised were to help you make the right choice and not the other way round.

Pls be guided

Why are you seeking relationship advice from strangers that don't know two of you?

Have you not spent time with her enough to know if you can live with her in the same house with minimal clashes?

You said you are old enough to be married, yet, you are not old enough to tell if you can live with another person, but you want to seek advice from strangers.

Please, end that relationship and give yourself some time to grow mentally. When you can make independent decisions on such serious matters, you will know you are ready to be a married man, for now, you just sound like you want to marry because of peer pressure and "age is not on my side"

If you like go marry who you and am go dey do WWE Smackdown inside house, that is when you will know the relationship between a happy marriage and long life

Drop the babe.
The Beautiful Ones are Not Yet BoRn

alizma:

Please take this advise, don't marry on assumption that things will change. The fact that you know about temperaments gives me the feelings that you likely know about zodiac signs and what it means to marry someone who's temperament/sign doesn't complement yours or who is the same as you. DON'T ignore your feelings. In fact you are far ahead of many people from whom you are asking for solution/suggestions. You already know what to do, so be practical, leave sentiment aside.
You may be wondering why I am this straight to the point, that is because I saw the signs, I knew what they means, in fact, I advise people just like I am advise you now but I ignored my own instinct when I shouldn't. I hope you get me?
Success

In other words, you are speaking from experience, bia op listen to this man o.

Currently have a friend who is about to make this mistake, funny enough the both of them involved are my friends and I don't even know how to advise the guy so I don't appear being a jealous friend.
The lady in the picture became a friend before I met the guy, people still think am dating her because of the closeness.
Though I've been able to tell the guy to do his homework very well because he is always on my neck seeking for advise concerning the lady and am being careful not to put myself in trouble because you never can tell with people in love, he may end up telling the lady what I told him and I become an enemy.

Some people will come here to ask for help at the same time adding to their confusion themselves.
Whatever choices you have to make concerning who you settle down with is solely your personal decision.
I'll only advise you to consider your peace of mind and how long can you cope with the said person's attributes.

Marry her. People who are proud of their terrible traits should stick together please.

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

I did too...just ignor alot of tins she say or take her seriously..don't stress ursef to sacrifice all u hv dey don't value it..just be honest n don't cheat..dey expect less frm u so u do full dey tk u as Mumu u do less dey undrstnd..am a Phleg sha

With attitude like this, your situation is understandable.

Modernizer:
Females are impossible to raise. They become prostitutes

The problem with martial incompatibility will not be evident months and years before marriage. It will become very clear a few months after; for some sef, it is on the marriage day the war begins. Who you need is someone who will be quiet and cry in her little corner when emotions are high...it is the only way you can keep thriving till both of you blend in understanding. Trust me, she will begin to annoy you the minute you realized you've just married another you, in stead of your opposite. And we will be here to read comments later if you fail to have common sense. Shalom.

No mind them

TheWolfen:
If dem advice una now, Las las nah watin still dey una mind b4 una go do...

The woman is not ready to marry yet... When she go don clock 39.... She go begin dey calm down....
Meanwhile... Move to the next Available gal wey sweet

If you love and respect each other, it will work. Anyhow you wan turn am.
Choleric kò, Tuberculosis ni

Let me state that, you saw all these signs even before now but, you neglected them until now.

Truth is, to all temperaments, there is always a dominant and recessive one. In your case, what's your recessive and your partner's, if the recessive is complementary you guys can work out something.

Lastly, there is a place of self control and ability to work on your weaknesses.

You can sieve my write up to decipher your decision and let the Holy spirit guide you if you are a Christian.

Selah.

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

If I could advice you brother, Cholerics hardly go well together. I know of couples who are cholerics. their home is a war zone. they all prove dominant and though. no one is ready to summit to another. Romance become 5% in the marriage. What help them is the fact that the woman is born again. when she got to know they both shared the same temperamental threat, she decide to work on herself but she later felt into serious depression. you need either a phlegmatic or sanquine for a good blend.

Anything marriage is not my thing, maybe those ones intending to go into marriage will have something to say

Just like my mum, hot tempered. She no dey gree, the only luck my father get be say him ma na phlegmatic. If my mum Start laidis him go Sidon dey watch TV. Mumsy go dey boil to the point of turning off the TV then drag popsy. The man go just drop one hurtful word, climb bike and go out to enjoy himself. It is their saving grace. Two hot-tempered people hardly cohabitate successfully, talk more of marriage.

I inherited my own mum's temperament but I have already known that nothing can ever make me marry a hot tempered woman. The fights go dey bloody.

Modernizer:

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Brother leave her to become an evening newspaper in peace. Trouble dey sleep, yanga go wake am.

There are far better babes out there. Marriage is a life-time commitment, I don’t pray that you or even my enemy to spend a life-time with such a character as a wife. E no funny at all.

All these things plus “low empathy”, its like you don’t value your life nor peace to even consider. You see woman with bad behavior, your coconut head still wan carry am as wife. There is always a lesson to be learnt, you go see something.

You guys should stop deceiving OP. No one need a soothsayer that it will end in premium tears. One of my guys has just been reduced to nothing by her wife. I am talking about a "machoman" here. Op need someone that can easily calm down with some empathy.

SenecaTheYonger:


It depends. If you look physically threatening and act like a dominant male, her temper will only be for the children. But if reverse is the case, she could boss the hell outta your life.

You could try living with her for a few months and also test her temperament.

Modernizer:
.....ok. thanks

. Take this advise ... some women can play nice before marriage and turn to something else after you have tied the knot. The devil you know is better than the angel you dream about. Also it is likely that both of you may not be angered at the same time. Cheers bro

Nigerians definition of being hot-tempered is refusing to be oppressed, knowing your rights and standing up for yourself. They want you to keep being the doormat to be trampled on as they please, smh.


Op, you know the lady better, does she get angry for no reason You should work on yourself too.

Just follow your head.....that's your best option,the responses you get here Will only confuse you more...... nobody is perfect!!

Haha.... brother, I was like you before. The truth is for the both of u to sit down and discuss about it.
You need to change your attitude to have a good home. Everybody in naija body de hot, no be only u and d girl.... with a good change of attitude from the both of u, especially u....all will be fine.

Honestly, i suggest you date this lady long enough to determine compatibility and DONT rely on theories that may not necessary work for everyone.

Give the relationship time, at least 6 months to understand if you are happy together and forget about man made theories.

If you don't know what it takes to get the her down and make her change some part of her character like pride, hot temper, and over ambitious characters bro don't go into it o, I know you can't change everything about her because most of her characters are hereditary but don't allow her to always take advantage of your passiveness, otherwise, it could be very disastrous. Wish you the best.

If you decide to marry her at the end of the day, just ensure you make more money cos i have discovered humans especially women respects and adore rich/wealthy peeps.

Many men have gone to the grave because they married wrong women, if you love life and yourself, use your common sense that's not common with many people who died because of beauty of a woman. Choleric woman can kill her own children talk less her husband!

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Marry her una go dey break bottles wella

Modernizer:


Na waa oo. So na to ditch the babe sure pass be dat?

Na marriage Dem de talk about. Unless him wan de divorce like Abuja people

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

You're too alike to be compatible but you also need to work on yourself and develop some emotional intelligence/empathy if you're going to end up with someone with a phlegmatic temperament or you'll be too overbearing to her and any children you have