Let me ask you this honest question. Have you ever seen where they use fire to quench fire? If the answer is "yes," then marry her, but if is "no," then do the needful. My cent.

So you want to marry a mumu woman you can control?

So you know your attitude is so bad and you are re thinking about settling down with someone like you....this life no balance at all

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

As a choleric myself, it is the worst decision you would ever make if you as a choleric marry a fellow choleric. I am glad you know so much about temperament. This is my wish for youths of this age. Knowing your temperament is like knowing your genotype.

When you marry her, what follows?

1. You will either bend or break.
2. It will be a ship with two captains. Cholerics are leaders by nature. No choleric is ever happy as a subordinate. Unless it is for a short period.
3. You may have to become the mouse, while she reigns as the cat.
4. You will never be a happy person. You will feel caged unable to express your real self.
5. Your home will likely become a warzone.
6. You will never agree on most things.
7. The marriage will fail eventually. I won't hide this from you.
8. Worst still one of you will end up dead by the hands of the other.

I am saying this as choleric myself. My brother, please end the relationship. Look for a melancholic or a phlegmatic. But as a choleric, a melancholic is your best bet. Decide now!

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

Fire + fire = More fire. Thats my simple explanation to what you are planning of doing

One day, either you kill her or she kills you. That’s a given.
It baffles me when people see signs of disaster and still ask if it can be managed.
Calm down and find someone who compliments you, and not someone who will dig your grave. Besides, someone with low empathy is a big turn off for me.

OP dey make me laf

You wan to marry person who is like you and you are running away
Can a person run from it's shadow?

Na lie, go an marry her, so you go hear weee.
NONSENSE AND ITS INGREDIENTS.

If dem say work on yourself una no go gree
Now, you dey find person wey go be your tad.

E neva start sef, you don come hia dey disturb us.
Better marry her and let's settle your quarrels in nairaland too

My brother
Happy choleric married life in advance

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

When you find her, all this temperament stuffs or zodiacs matters won't even come to your mind if truely she is the one...
Things you both do will interest each other, it will be very captivating and supper affectionate..

So Oga this one you dey dissect...please come back with pre wedding pics and wedding venue when you find your woman...

Allow another man's woman go biko...you don dey find comma when una never sign certificate..lol


One thing av come to notice in marriage, It is a place of steady sacrifice aside respect and mutual understanding coated with Love.

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I think say una get cholera ni o

Sir Mosdii

Tell him something mehn

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

Don't work on yourself or on your temper or gain some empathy. Look for a sanguine to manage you. Hopefully they won't get tired of your behavior one day.

Or if your expectations are too high, get a lump of clay and get to work making that perfect woman of your dreams, if you can.

Don't be entitled.

Just remember to write you will once you marry..Make sure your mama and papa get something including your siblings..

Most importantly...remember to leave some change for your niggas...niggas you both drank garri,shepe and toast girls for street when anything no deh ground and also money for shayo for area boys on your funeral day...Very important.

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

Even as a negroe, God will not allow any innocent phlegmatic to end up with you.

Your girlfriend is your match and nemesis. Better grab your copy and manage her.

Edit: You are not a choleric. You are just simply mad. Creatures like you should remain single and imp0tent for life.

BRATISLAVA:


Don't work on yourself or on your temper or gain some empathy. Look for a sanguine to manage you. Hopefully they won't get tired of your behavior one day.

Or if your expectations are too high, get a lump of clay and get to work making that perfect woman of your dreams, if you can.

Don't be entitled.

A sanguine will divorce him straight up. They love fun and happiness alot.

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

I wanted to ignore your post before but my spirit won't let me because I believe you can use the help of God and his understanding. I, myself, have a choleric fiancée and we have manage ourselves for almost 10 years; we will be getting married soon, we absolutely understand each other and relate with respect to one another.

I'm Phlegmatic, but my personality trait or that of my partner is not the most important but How we both wish to treat each other and by extension many other individual. While your personality can be so strong and perceived to be domineering in your relationship with fellow humans, IS IT YOUR PRAYER TO BE SAME WITH YOUR PARTNER IN RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE?

Every successful and joyful marriage is made by two people who choose to be 'fools' to their partner. Marriage is not a place where it must be your way or no way regardless of your dominant traits. Any person who does not wish for a partner who he/she can submit, respect and love shouldn't bother to care for a happy marriage life.

To help you, ask yourself this honest question - Do I or my partner wish to respect, submit and love one another in every action and inaction? Can you feel that respect, submission and love currently in your relationship, you to her and vice versa?

If your answer is no, begin to work deliberately on yourselve or save yourselves the work and look for another partner.

Pray and love God through Jesus Christ his son.

ChiefSosa:

YES!

NO!
You should also work on yourself!
I believe the only reason you're complaining is 'cause you've finally met someone that will treat you in the language you understand, and that scares you.
If you (a choleric) decide to marry a Phlegmatic, you might want to take advantage of such person.

With those features you stated, I don't think both of you will last. Unless you want to turn to the new Kpokpogarri and Tonto dikeh!

U are gbamsolutely, if he goes ahead with the said lady, I see the relationship crashing.

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

Two controlling people in same environment for a long time will always be at loggerhead

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

Since you're also choleric the simple question you should ask yourself is: can you live with yourself and be happy? / Can a marriage with yourself workout? If you can answer this question sincerely you'll know what to do.

AutoChick4U:
Why exactly do you even need to settle down? Knacks?

Everything is sex to u people. Tufiakwa!!!

Incase you are a Christian, this is the question to ask the Holy Spirit not Nairaland or anyone. None of us knows that can happen tomorrow but God knows everything that will happen if you marry her or not, ask the owner of tomorrow please.

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

Pls edit my sobriquet out....I am getting lots of mentions.pls

Odidigboigbo:
OP go ahead, if she's the perfect match for you. At first (first five years) it might be tough but last, last, both of you will be alright due to maturity and understanding. In my former compound, I used to know a couple (then, they were dating) that fought almost every day, to the extent of the lady stabbing the guy. They are both joyfully married together now, the last time I saw them, it was like wow! I jokingly asked if they still fight, both were accusing each other for the cause of the fight then. That shows lack of maturity on both of them then. When I was much younger, I was very stubborn, even in school majority thought I was a cultist. But now, I'm gentle as dove. OP, one day you will change especially when you begin to have children.

What are the chances of success?
Because the guy was lucky to be alive after being stabbed, doesn't mean others will be lucky.
Marriage shouldn't be a gamble. If you're seeing the red flags, you just have to leave.

qtguru:


Fire and Fuel in holy matrimony, they should create a Netflix show around this.

The house might just collapse

multple both yours and her cholercs by 4.

that is what happens when the stress of marriage sets in .

Modernizer:



well, i really need to settle down, and im really not the type that eadily gets into relationships. so im wondering how long it would take me to reach this extent again with a new person

I am going same now
Don't know how I am going to start again with a new lady

seguno2:
With attitude like this, your situation is understandable.

You can imagine such a disgusting mentality. And he wants to get married to someone he will be calling a prostitute when his hothead madness starts and he throws his mannerless tanthrums.

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

Read the Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi and know about sexual dynamics before you take that step that could be the best or the worst decision of your life.

Modernizer:



well, i really need to settle down, and im really not the type that eadily gets into relationships. so im wondering how long it would take me to reach this extent again with a new person

It is better to measure the distance of getting to this stage again that counting the loss or damages that could come out from it all because you think it’s getting late and now , one could be left wondering how would you get out of the resulting chaos.
But I appreciate the fact that you described yourself perfectly without hypocrisy. So I think the best solution is to work on yourself first (mindset) and you will find it easy getting the best out of your partner.

SimplyFacts:


. .

You are making a mistake, but I won't tell you

Hmmmmm, is better you get married to a lady who can control her temper.

newbornmacho:


You are making a mistake, but I won't tell you

Smart guy

You already know the answer to your questions. You just seeking validation to what your instincts is yelling!!
Las las na you go still live with her for huz..