Adultery and paternity fraud are two intertwined but very different offences
One should never raise a kid that is not his unknowingly

maynia:


She’s old and sad

And wicked. Its one thing to cheat on your husband and lie to him another man's child is his own and be sorry later but its another thing to say there is nothing wrong with it bcus other men are cheating normally...this is not feminism. It's like saying an armed robber should keep killing bcus people die normally...and some idiotic guys are cool with her rubbish

Asually, it is just so annoying that something as important as lineage/family/roots will be misrepresented. They are not only defrauding the husbands, the affected kids are being defrauded too. If you do the do, it's only fair that you take absolute responsibility. Imagine a grown arse man finding out in his forties that his father wasnt even his real father and his mother cant really remember who his real father was....this means this guy's children cant even trace their roots. Why will you give Taiye Kehinde's children? Not good jare. So I think I understand their outbursts

Back to sender a billion fold, it will happen to your children and ggrandchildren. Though that's exactly how I would handle that situation if it were to happen around me.

maynia:


I wish this on your children

MufasaLion:


WTF is this? You're a very wicked and selfish being! Would you have suggested this to your son, brother or uncle?

God bless you for this submission!

Elporo:


Justification is support. Your position justifies "paternity fraud"; though your arguments are nonesensical. You use "whataboutism" to justify "paternity fraud"!

In response to the original question - of which you had provided the answer through your "justification for paternity"

In the case of Men: Men rarely bring their bastards home.

In the case of Women: Women often bring their bastards home.

In both cases the man:
1. Supports the child
2. Gives the child a name
3. Gives the child an inheritance

However, the woman could have
1. Insisted on protection
2. philandered at least chance of pregnancy
3. used birth control pills
4. get an abortion.

But, the woman chose to offload the child on the unsuspecting man.


So why do women do it?

God bless you.... Everything you said was on point.

LilMissFavvy:
Back to sender a billion fold, it will happen to your children and ggrandchildren. Though that's exactly how I would handle that situation if it were to happen around me.

It’s a bad thing so I don’t want it. You just advise someone on it that’s why I said it will happen to your kids. Why are you enrage?

Kobojunkie:
How many men, knowing the damage it will cause their current situation, would dare to bring a child from a marital affair into their home?

Yes but it’s okay for a woman to do the same??

Lashist:

True...not telling your spouse the truth about a child elsewhere is cheating but in this case, the man takes care of the child elsewhere with his money while in OP's case, she is ready to give her man another man's child through lies and make him train the child

Well what some people don't know is how messy is this thing can get. some married women get pregnant for another married man so the parties involved start lying and deceiving their spouses

Kobojunkie:
How many men, knowing the damage it will cause their current situation, would dare to bring a child from a marital affair into their home?

Good that’s why we don’t want women to bring bastards home too. You get? Both are wrong

Dropping my opinion has nothing to do with you saying it should happen to anyone, we don't pray for shittt to happen, but when it happens ones gotta handle it the best way. So it will happen to you and your children.

maynia:


It’s a bad thing so I don’t want it. You just advise someone on it that’s why I said it will happen to your kids. Why are you enrage?

maynia:
Good that’s why we don’t want women to bring bastards home too. You get? Both are wrong

Those "bastards" end up in someone else's home, don't they?

LilMissFavvy:
You have asked without insults, so I will answer. Yes, I would accept the child, only on two conditions.......that's if she's truly repentant and promises to never cheat again. I would advise him against divorce. I would further advice that she should be observed to be sure that she is truly repentant of cheating.

Now youre playing from the old book maam

whats good for goose is good for the gander kinda stuff

i mean "men are polygamos in nature, the woman should forgive and safe their homes, so men do same"

dam thats wrong maam.

Proffessorr:


God bless you for this submission!

That lady or woman or whatever is a hypocrite. I'm sure she would have raised hell if such was done to her son or brother.

LilMissFavvy:
Dropping my opinion has nothing to do with you saying it should happen to anyone, we don't pray for shittt to happen, but when it happens ones gotta handle it the best way. So it will happen to you and your children.

It could be avoided but you supported it that’s why I said it will happen to your kids and your coming generations. There are many options you could take but you took that one . Why are you enrage over your options?

I can't even believe that some people are actually justifying a married woman getting pregnant for another man. Not rape o, Not a single lady o, married woman? Am ashamed on you people's behalves since you have no shame again.

See, the moment he proposes to you, don't sleep with any other man again and after marriage it is only your husband you are to sleep with. Is it not good that after putting a ring on your woman's finger, you should give months before marriage?

Olafisoyem:
Yes but it’s okay for a woman to do the same??

So are you suggesting your wife is free to take 7 - 9 months off to go birth the child, find it another home, and then come back to her marriage or what?
That ways you bear no real responsibility for the child?

Olafisoyem:


Sorry ma but you’re still off point.

Let me explain.

Case 1
If a man cheats and it does not lead to a pregnancy the woman is hurt and can choose to react how she wants.

Case 2
If a man cheats and it leads to a child and he tells his wife and takes responsibility for the child then the woman can choose to react as she wants. But the man takes responsibility and raises [i]his own child by himself[\i]

Case 3
A woman cheats and the man knows he can react as he chooses (same as above).

Case 4
A woman cheats and doesn’t tell the man and the man has to work everyday of his life raising a child that is not his (which means his own children don’t get the life they deserve or that he planned for them) and has no choice because he does not know and because has been deceived.

Now if you think all of this cases are the same then you’re not worth discussing with.

I don't need to to discuss with me they can all be likened to each other because they share the same ingredients, infidelity, betrayal,lack of trust, deception and what have you none is better than the other even the one man with a child outside another man can be raising the child.
The point of my topic was to call out infidelity on men too because it was what started this in the first place if you on the other hand think one case is better than the other you are the one not worth discussing

What did I support? Now show me where I told women to bring home bastards? Crop it and show, otherwise, your a liar.

maynia:


It could be avoided but you supported it that’s why I said it will happen to your kids and your coming generations. There are many options you could take but you took that one . Why are you enrage over your options?

i926:
Your first paragraph actually discouraged me from reading further.

... we do paternity test & kick the whọ̄re out without killing her.

Thank God some people are still thinking straight... cos I wonder what the op smoked before typing that r**b*sh.

Kobojunkie:
So are you suggesting your wife is free to take 7 - 9 months off to go birth the child and then come back to her marriage or what?

You call that marriage?

maynia:
You call that marriage?

I want him to explain himself.

Kobojunkie:
A man may not force his wife to raise another man's child but he can force another man to raise his own child, born from his affair with the man's wife. That is part of what OP is trying to get you to see here. That the married men who go out to have affairs with married women are also culpable in this entire paternity fraud affair.

What convoluted reasoning is this?

The victim is the man made to raise another man’s child. That is where the outrage is.

And the last part of your comment is redundant.

LilMissFavvy:
You have asked without insults, so I will answer. Yes, I would accept the child, only on two conditions.......that's if she's truly repentant and promises to never cheat again. I would advise him against divorce. I would further advice that she should be observed to be sure that she is truly repentant of cheating.

Then I pray with all my believe in the creator that you and yours experience this so that we'll know how strong you are.

BRATISLAVA:
Well, primarily because it concerns all they think about as vaginometers.

The thought that a woman dares do what men do is outrageous and makes them emotional. It is only then they care about fidelity. It's just a reflex reaction.

Some of the men talking so much about paternity fraud and DNA tests aren't even the sons of their fathers. The way they have instituted baby mama-ism is the same way they will later institute paternity fraud.

Male on male wickedness. Men are never their own best friends.

Men are definitely the cause of everything. Werey

Lashist:

So bcus men are cheating so therefore they should train another person's child even after they have found out?? i didnt know people can be this foolish. Infact this is beyond foolishness...this is heartlessness. This is not the feminism we have always wanted You are not condemning the act of cheating for both genders but you are saying women should do very well in bringing more children from other men home. Isnt this beyond stupidity to you?? I bet you dont have any guy that loves you...but if you do, tell him you plan to give him another man's child and he should take care of the baby..if he agrees, please share your body in your street and give him more kids ..though i really doubt you have a guy

You ended up saying nonsense.

LilMissFavvy:
When I heard that DNA tests will reduce by 70%, I began to wonder the motive behind the reduction, is it to make money or to scatter homes? They think they want to help men by reducing it's costs, but they do not know that many men will develop heart attacks, most of them their lives will never remain the same again if their wives are guilty. As long as a child bears your name, and grows to love you like a parent, why fret, if you can forgive your wife, fine.

Why not tell me before you let me raise a bastard! Why hide it? What’s the motive behind it?

kingxsamz:
I don't understand why this irrelevant post was created in the first place. What point are you trying to prove? Why shouldn't men be angry about paternity fraud? Is anyone justifying the fact that men cheat too?
So why are you bringing it up like you're trying to invalidate men's concern on the issue? Shey make dem no talk again? Are you sure you're okay?

You think you should ask men why they're outraged over the fact that they're being deceived to raise another man's child as their own?
you're actually daft.

You are the daft one here and the one who is not in anyway okay at all.

Now go back and read from the beginning this time slowly try to comprehend maybe then you will get the message I am passing across.

Don't be outraged over paternity fraud when you men cheat without remorse

Emotional cry babies, back to sender, it will happen to you.

olarid01:

Then I pray with all my believe in the creator that you and yours experience this so that we'll know how strong you are.

LilMissFavvy:
When I heard that DNA tests will reduce by 70%, I began to wonder the motive behind the reduction, is it to make money or to scatter homes? They think they want to help men by reducing it's costs, but they do not know that many men will develop heart attacks, most of them their lives will never remain the same again if their wives are guilty. As long as a child bears your name, and grows to love you like a parent, why fret, if you can forgive your wife, fine.

them go soon catch you.