AmazonTopaz:
My arguments are not nonsensical and you know it I only pointed out the obvious hypocrisy and you didn't want to comprehend that fact.I am only pointing out how paternity fraud starts nobody is justifying anything here

Don't call people or children bastards,also because men don't bring the children home doesn't change the fact that it is deceptive and hurting to the wife they don't bring their children home doesn't mean that they didn't cheat and could probably cause pain and betrayal to their wives it still doesn't make it better than paternity fraud.
The child that they don't bring home could be answering another man's name and the other man will believe the child to be his own so what is the difference is it not the same deception.


Women give inheritance as well and some of them are left with no choice than to take care of their husbands outside child when the child is brought home and some of them swallow a bitter pill by seeing their children share inheritance with an outsider

You should ask your men who cannot stick to one woman and stay faithful,you should ask your men who couldn't remember their vows and use protection or better still have a vasectomy done ask them why they do it after all na dem be the hunters wey dey chase the women,is it not?

Lol at they should have an abortion I am very pro-choice but then isn't abortion illegal in Nigeria why not call the spade a spade and tell your men to respect their marriages and keep their legs intact.

If they don't they will keep going about impregnating other men's wives and failing to use protection.
Tell them to respect their wives and think about their children too

LilMissFavvy:
Emotional cry babies, back to sender, it will happen to you.

AmazonTopaz:

You ended up saying nonsense.

cococandy:
It’s cognitive dissonance to promote promiscuity but be outraged at the direct result of it. nothing more.

AmazonTopaz:

You are the daft one here and the one who is not in anyway okay at all.

Now go back and read from the beginning this time slowly try to comprehend maybe then you will get the message I am passing across.

Don't be outraged over paternity fraud when you men cheat without remorse

AmazonTopaz:
Facts,see the way they are outraged.

AmazonTopaz:
First and foremost I don't support cheating and deception I can never support deception or paternity fraud but I wonder why some men are outraged over paternity fraud.

We live in a society or some of us grew up in a society that gave excuse or justified infidelity amongst men under the guise of "men are polygamous in nature"they forget that men can be used to refer to women too and that polygamous is a gender neutral word for men it is polygyny for women it is polyandry.

When you justify infidelity or adultery you reap paternity fraud because these married men sleep with married women who are wives of other men who are at the receiving end when it comes to paternity fraud.

You men cannot always eat your cake and have it you feel bad when cheated on and call women who commit adultery all sorts of names but hail men when they cheat on women what happened to what is good for the goose is good for the gander.Some people seem to forget that the cheating men don't sleep with themselves they sleep with people's wives and girlfriends too so maybe that shows that women are polygamous in nature and two can play a game.

You cannot be preaching morality and chastity on women while failing to hold yourselves to account as well it doesn't work that way because it is a small world afterall if boys are not taught morality, decency and chastity we will continue to hear tales of paternity fraud and infidelity.

As we try to shame and tell young girls not to follow married men let's not forget to tell young boys and married men to leave married women alone it is the same polygamous men that are sleeping with these women and another man is at the receiving end of this disaster men don't sleep with themselves they sleep with women

As for the married men and women depending on your vows if you promised to be faithful try to be faithful and stop cheating beautiful women and handsome men will never finish in this word try to stick to one be contented,committed and try to learn discipline.


I think we should ask men why they are outraged

Richy4:
I don't understand this question... She called it fraud and she's still asking question on why men were outraged...

Is there a particular fraud that someone should be happy about?

Proffessorr:


Thank God some people are still thinking straight... cos I wonder what the op smoked before typing that r**b*sh.

revolt:
atleast she knows it's not her child and doesn't spend a dime of hers on the child.... while a man spends all his resources on another man's child without knowing.

Only an animal makes this comparison.

Lashist:

So you are saying again that since other men cheat, any man that trains another man's child should continue cus there is nothing wrong with it??

phaya:



Well what some people don't know is how messy is this thing can get. some married women get pregnant for another married man so the parties involved start lying and deceiving their spouses

Elporo:


1. Young lady, the woman makes the decision to 'take in' and/or keep the child. My first response listed 4 options an adulterous woman has. Why don't women prevent pregnancies, if they need to go outside to feed their sexual desires?


^{2. Don't call people or children bastards, also because men don't bring the children home doesn't change the fact that it is deceptive and hurting to the wife they don't bring their children home doesn't mean that they didn't cheat and could probably cause pain and betrayal to their wives it still doesn't make it better than paternity fraud.}

2(i). Nothing can change this. I am not sorry to say this - A child with an "unknown/unnamed" father is a bastard.
2(ii). Carrying another man's child for 9 months, deceiving your husband, parents, family, neighbors, and everybody else. Naming ceremonies, birthdays, sick days, memories .. all lies. Have you really sat down to think, about this - imagine one of your siblings belongs to your mother's ex-boyfriend? How do you think your father will feel or your brothers will feel? Men brag with their wives, Sons brag with their mothers!


_{3. Women give inheritance as well and some of them are left with no choice than to take care of their husbands outside child when the child is brought home and some of them swallow a bitter pill by seeing their children share inheritance with an outsider}

3(i). How often do men bring home their bastards? Mostly, they live with their mothers - who in many cases are not married. Men rarely bring home the bastards. Except, the mother is late or an edge case but most men will do anything to avoid it.
3(ii). And, when women bring bastards home, a first son that is a bastard - does he not inherit the lion's share? And, others do not inherit from their "live-in father".


_{4. You should ask your men who cannot stick to one woman and stay faithful, you should ask your men who couldn't remember their vows and use protection or better still have a vasectomy done.}

4(i). How often have you asked women similar questions?
4(ii). Have you asked yourself the question - why would I choose to not only be an adulterous wife but also keep evidence of my adultery? Not just that .. but deceive everyone that respects me and looks up to me. Why did I get married? Why don't I ask for a divorce?




5. Another nonsensical position. Do men have remote controls? They just hit play and a woman gives him unprotected sex, sex so unhindered she gets pregnant. I mean what is this leverage men have over women, that it is so easy to get a married woman to spread her legs. Perhaps, Uzoamka Ohiri can tell us about his magical power - I mean her son's real papa.

AmazonTopaz:


I never said that if that is what your small brain could comprehend that is not my fault.

AmazonTopaz:


I don't need to to discuss with me they can all be likened to each other because they share the same ingredients, infidelity, betrayal,lack of trust, deception and what have you none is better than the other even the one man with a child outside another man can be raising the child.
The point of my topic was to call out infidelity on men too because it was what started this in the first place if you on the other hand think one case is better than the other you are the one not worth discussing

AmazonTopaz:


I don't need to to discuss with me they can all be likened to each other because they share the same ingredients, infidelity, betrayal,lack of trust, deception and what have you none is better than the other even the one man with a child outside another man can be raising the child.
The point of my topic was to call out infidelity on men too because it was what started this in the first place if you on the other hand think one case is better than the other you are the one not worth discussing

BlackFlamefromP:
Are you a paternity fraudster?

LilMissFavvy:
Emotional cry babies, back to sender, it will happen to you.

DMerciful:
When you're in a hole, stop digging.

This your post is trash and you know it. How can you compare paternity fraud with cheating? Keeping the evidence of your cheating to do damage both for present and future generations is devilish.

AfroKnight:

What convoluted reasoning is this?

The victim is the man made to raise another man’s child. That is where the outrage is.

And the last part of your comment is redundant.

AmazonTopaz:


Why are you crying,call your men to order or you keep seeing these results.

doyin01:
who did those men sleep with??is it not the same women??it takes two to tango...if all women decide to remain faithful will there be infidelity??if all men decide to remain faithful,will there be infidelity...it is both men and women that cause infidelity and not just one gender...

See cheating is bad...whether from man or woman...we should stop trying to subtly defend paternity fraud because we feel one gender does it too...let's condemn it..if a man does it,condemn it...if a woman does it,condemn it...this thread is unnecessary.....so unnecessary...only those that are guilty of it or close to someone guilty of it should be creating such threads.....

AmazonTopaz:


The post is very very necessary to call out the one side hypocrisy in men.

And we are saying the same thing cheating is bad I never justified or supported it.
I only made a case on another angle we don't often talk about.

BRATISLAVA:
Well, primarily because it concerns all they think about as vaginometers.

The thought that a woman dares do what men do is outrageous and makes them emotional. It is only then they care about fidelity. It's just a reflex reaction.

Some of the men talking so much about paternity fraud and DNA tests aren't even the sons of their fathers. The way they have instituted baby mama-ism is the same way they will later institute paternity fraud.

Male on male wickedness. Men are never their own best friends.

AmazonTopaz:
I didn't even remember to add this,thanks for your input.

In a nutshell men are their own enemies

AmazonTopaz:
First and foremost I don't support cheating and deception I can never support deception or paternity fraud but I wonder why some men are outraged over paternity fraud.

We live in a society or some of us grew up in a society that gave excuse or justified infidelity amongst men under the guise of "men are polygamous in nature"they forget that men can be used to refer to women too and that polygamous is a gender neutral word for men it is polygyny for women it is polyandry.

When you justify infidelity or adultery you reap paternity fraud because these married men sleep with married women who are wives of other men who are at the receiving end when it comes to paternity fraud.

You men cannot always eat your cake and have it you feel bad when cheated on and call women who commit adultery all sorts of names but hail men when they cheat on women what happened to what is good for the goose is good for the gander.Some people seem to forget that the cheating men don't sleep with themselves they sleep with people's wives and girlfriends too so maybe that shows that women are polygamous in nature and two can play a game.

You cannot be preaching morality and chastity on women while failing to hold yourselves to account as well it doesn't work that way because it is a small world afterall if boys are not taught morality, decency and chastity we will continue to hear tales of paternity fraud and infidelity.

As we try to shame and tell young girls not to follow married men let's not forget to tell young boys and married men to leave married women alone it is the same polygamous men that are sleeping with these women and another man is at the receiving end of this disaster men don't sleep with themselves they sleep with women

As for the married men and women depending on your vows if you promised to be faithful try to be faithful and stop cheating beautiful women and handsome men will never finish in this word try to stick to one be contented,committed and try to learn discipline.


I think we should ask men why they are outraged

AmazonTopaz:


Why are you crying,call your men to order or you keep seeing these results.

AmazonTopaz:


But the outside child could also be trained unknowingly by another man it is the evil that men do.You talk like as if all men are responsible for their kids abeg let us here word jaare

They are the same thing only a blind human fails to call a spade a spade and sees that betrayal and deceit happened on both sides..
That talking point about resources is stale already.

AmazonTopaz post=106282906[s:
]First and foremost I don't support cheating and deception I can never support deception or paternity fraud but I wonder why some men are outraged over paternity fraud.

We live in a society or some of us grew up in a society that gave excuse or justified infidelity amongst men under the guise of "men are polygamous in nature"they forget that men can be used to refer to women too and that polygamous is a gender neutral word for men it is polygyny for women it is polyandry.

When you justify infidelity or adultery you reap paternity fraud because these married men sleep with married women who are wives of other men who are at the receiving end when it comes to paternity fraud.

You men cannot always eat your cake and have it you feel bad when cheated on and call women who commit adultery all sorts of names but hail men when they cheat on women what happened to what is good for the goose is good for the gander.Some people seem to forget that the cheating men don't sleep with themselves they sleep with people's wives and girlfriends too so maybe that shows that women are polygamous in nature and two can play a game.

You cannot be preaching morality and chastity on women while failing to hold yourselves to account as well it doesn't work that way because it is a small world afterall if boys are not taught morality, decency and chastity we will continue to hear tales of paternity fraud and infidelity.

As we try to shame and tell young girls not to follow married men let's not forget to tell young boys and married men to leave married women alone it is the same polygamous men that are sleeping with these women and another man is at the receiving end of this disaster men don't sleep with themselves they sleep with women

As for the married men and women depending on your vows if you promised to be faithful try to be faithful and stop cheating beautiful women and handsome men will never finish in this word try to stick to one be contented,committed and try to learn discipline.


I think we should ask men why they are outraged [/s]

AmazonTopaz:


The post is very very necessary to call out the one sided hypocrisy in men.

And we are saying the same thing cheating is bad I never justified or supported it.
I only made a case on another angle we don't often talk about.