Maybe your wife is into Other women..
investigate properly...

Sexual deprivation in matrimony is totally unacceptable...

DavidNative:
Need Advice Pls



Good Day, everyone, am having a serious challenge in my marriage, been married for a year and was no Premarital sex, since I need to promise her am a faithful guy and based on religion ground….

But honestly even in the marriage, it has been one sided, she said my private part is to big and I stay too long, I do every for her, love her, care for her, help her in kitchen, setup a home business/career for her to save her the stress of going out. I give her head, sometimes I suck and engage in pre-intimacy for long , but many times, since we had gotten married, I am the only active person, sometimes for a month no sex, am getting frustrated, I need advice.
Everytime i try to discuss it, she say i should try to understand that she is nott the sex type. Am tearing apart on my inside. What can i do pls

kingxsamz:
When you allow religious laws dictate your life, you should be ready for the results. No sex before marriage is like diving into what you don't know. Anything you see, you take am like that.

Don't be unfortunate little Sam. Having sex before marriage hasn't given anyone a happier marriage, i wonder what you are doing on this thread though. Maybe the public holiday.

Op, while you continue trying your best to make her enjoy sex with half penetration, short sex period and prolong pre-intimacy duration, She have to learn to enjoy sex(this is the only solution).
Ways she can learn includes
1) Mind:she should remove the fear of sex being painful from her mind. Sex is enjoyable. All ladies/women enjoying sex today once had painful sex.
2)Imagination: While on the move, she should fantasize on how she feels when you give her head/romance since she enjoys it.
3) Good remark: Appreciate her little efforts, let her know you enjoy her whenever you do.
4) Adjustment: listen to all her complaints and make corrections. Leave her with no choice than to also adjust since it takes the two of you for your marriage to work.
5) Make her jealous: Please don’t cheat(the damage it cause most time is irredeemable and everlasting) I don’t know how you will do this but let her know you are desirable.

I pray and wish you a blessed home.

Na Because u no dey do am make e sweet am..
If it's sweeting her, na she go dey sing "E get as e dey do me, do me, do me, do me, do me" for u. Just work harder, you're not doing well

Was she a virgin before u married her... Simple question u no gree answer.. .

Make it a duty to always eat her pussy passionately before inserting your dick. It will make her be in the mood for copulation. U need to also ejaculate semen inside her to achieve a result. Good luck bro.

Am sorry, ii. was banned, i had to use my second account
So am acctually very gentle
i also only had sex 4 or 5 times before i married and meet her , i am 32,
i actually appreciate everyone times
The reason i commented on the sexuality trend is also cause, i just feel getting on the telegram will help me to learn| i appreciate everyones concerns, trust me , i am very gentle and understanding . i will press more and as for oral, fondllng, i do that alot. if i waited for 2 years in relationship b4 marriage and no sex, it meant i am very understanding . The pain is am satisfying her but she is not receiporating , and for one year, the only sex style has been me ontop opf her the few times,, i most time do not penerate until abt 30 mins of pre-intimacy i believe,
She even cums/ orgaism as i know wen her body begins to sake , but she cannot suck me she says, her mouth pains her, romance or sex me, she says she does not have the energy. Thank you everyone once again

chatinent:


Medical advice, uncle.

Funny you! You don't even know if I am married! By the way, I think I made a good point.

Na your airtime and nairaland has given you the opportunity to express your self. Rottennaija is not censoring your comment or putting you in a cage. He has only been WOWED by it

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olizzz:
Op, while you continue trying your best to make her enjoy sex with half penetration, short sex period and prolong pre-intimacy duration, She have to learn to enjoy sex(this is the only solution).
Ways she can learn includes
1) Mind:she should remove the fear of sex being painful from her mind. Sex is enjoyable. All ladies/women enjoying sex today once had painful sex.
2)Imagination: While on the move, she should fantasize on how she feels when you give her head/romance since she enjoys it.
3) Good remark: Appreciate her little efforts, let her know you enjoy her whenever you do.
4) Adjustment: listen to all her complaints and make corrections. Leave her with no choice than to also adjust since it takes the two of you for your marriage to work.
5) Make her jealous: Please don’t cheat(the damage it cause most time is irredeemable and everlasting) I don’t know how you will do this but let her know you are desirable.

I pray and wish you a blessed home.

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DavidNative:
not yet Sir

No wonder, may God visit you soon, once she conceive and give birth,all these complain will die a natural death

DavidNative

Ignorance will make you to destroy yourself and your marital life.

I can see that you are not wise when it comes to women

1.Stop pleasing your wife
2.Stop helping her to do kitchen chores.
3. Stop sucking her vagina.
4. As long as you keep sucking her vagina, she will seem satisfied

Only mumu men still does this.

Oga your wife is a lesbian, take it or leave but do your investigations

DavidNative:
She has been exposed to porn in the past from what she said. All saying am comparing her to other ladies. i had bought books sex to help, she enjoys its when i perform romance and oral o her, but when i request for sex or she should give me some, she says she cant cos of my size and i should give her time, but its been a year, hence why i had to voice out
Thanks alot once again for your comment ma

U r a big FOOL!

KarinaLove:
Try and respect her decision. She said she is not the sex type. Then leave her.

Must marriage be all about sex?

I don tire.

Everytime Men And Sex....Tueeehhh

Can't men use their time for something more productive in life

Georgejeez:

2 minutes man don drop quote

Mumu man. Nigeria youths and sex, tufiakua!! Sex your life away bro...

DavidNative:
I thought so Sir. am just being honest, but marriage made me realise my assumption is wrong

Let her be on top and control how much she lets in.
If she truly likes you,not even love sef,then with time,she will be swallowing the whole thing.
If not,that lady doesn't love you/is a hardcore lesbian.A baby's head passes thru there so the head of the prick should easily.
If all these fail,my brother get a side chick or second wife and be bold and proud at it.
Sexual frustration is the worst thing a man can suffer and is worse when you're already cornered in marriage.
Our generation of men should try to be selfish about their wants and needs so as not to die off early like our fathers.

Hmm!! it's, either she ENJOYS it or she COPES with it MAKE HER UNDERSTAND there is no other option.
SEX is indispensable as long as marriage is concern. (If anybody feels otherwise they can keep the companion aspect oo that's their business).
Besides, bro sex no dey HEAVEN or HELL oo, enjoy the one you see now abeg!!
Women pushing HUSBANDS to (side chick). Due to inexperience, ignorance or stupidity
Tell her to sit-up before she SPOIL her MARRIAGE oo
MAN no be WOOD, KPEKUS Na constant
that is why I support sex before marriage,
So that stories no go touch heart.

Someone said that married women have high sex drive but i saw where someone wrote here that sexual urge of them depreciate after having a kid. I am confused

DavidNative:
Thank you ma.
Has any one gone through this pls, how were you able to fix. kindly help a brother, its been a lot of struggle , something i just sleep and just wait to go to office the next day so i can distract my mind, i am deeply struggling on my inside as a man,

Photo of the size or I don't believe this

Foodqueen:
Continue talking to her, one day she will reciprocate.

nonsense

achorladey:


He is well informed and have expertise knowledge for the matter.

He feels I am sexting..lol.

emperordelis:



Why you go carry big Gbola?? I feel your pains sha,try use lub before penetration,if it's still not working for her,then use soap my brother..Self serv and rest...I'm sure your type have talked bad a lot about people that had premarital sex,now you have seen why it's important to test before you buy

Gbam!

DavidNative:
Need Advice Pls

Good Day, everyone, am having a serious challenge in my marriage, been married for a year and was no Premarital sex, since I need to promise her am a faithful guy and based on religion ground….

But honestly even in the marriage, it has been one sided, she said my private part is to big and I stay too long, I do every for her, love her, care for her, help her in kitchen, setup a home business/career for her to save her the stress of going out. I give her head, sometimes I suck and engage in pre-intimacy for long , but many times, since we had gotten married, I am the only active person, sometimes for a month no sex, am getting frustrated, I need advice.
Everytime i try to discuss it, she say i should try to understand that she is nott the sex type. Am tearing apart on my inside. What can i do pls

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thorpido:
You need to be patient with her. She is a 'learner' when it comes to sex. It's like just learning to ride a bicycle. It's rough initially and full of falls.
Keep doing what you're doing... pre-intimacy. It will help her become more receptive. You also need to make love to her mind. You keep talking to her.

Good call

DavidNative:
hmm. Thank you Sir 4 this, this is what i had been doing, i had tried not to even react negatively since, but could get tiring,

You have no choice, other than 'this is what i had been doing' as matter of fact, its what called just one of your lot in life.

DavidNative:
sometimes i had to masturbate of if i cannot bear it again,

If only, it was as easy to banish hunger, by rubbing the belly, as it is to masturbate.

Beloved, be thankful that God thought of the day and need for you to masturbate because imagine you be a T-Rex, trying to do solo sex. See, you figured out that having good sex, is like good bridge, if you dont having a good partner, you're better off, having a good hand. Now the only shame in masturbation, would be, the shame of not, doing it well and not shouting or crying out your missus' name while doing it.

DavidNative:
last week wen i brought it up with her even in a very gentle and romantic atmosphere, we could not sleep as she was crying all through that i was not understanding, i had to plead with her never to bring it up before we could sleep at midnight

Let me clear you on what's happening here.

First, size doesnt matter, its how you position and use it, that counts. Other twists to first, are: Size doesn't matter, its all about the heart. Also big, huge, micro, regular, skinny size doesnt matter, skills and how you use it, does

Second, is delving a bit in the realms of psychology, I am not portraying to be a sex therapist nor doing a psychological analysis, but is there any reason or history for your wife to be frigid? Has she suffered sexual assault, sexual abuse etc?

Also has she been medically checked out for one or combinations of any of the below:
1. Vaginismus, that causes involuntary clenching of vaginal muscles to prevent penetration
2. Dyspareunia, that makes intercourse painful
3. Vulvodynia, which is chronic pain or discomfort around the opening of your vagina for which there's no identifiable cause and which lasts at least three months.

nairaman66:


And I asked for your opinion? Nonsense. You can’t even contribute, but quickly to jump on my comments

I don’t need to contribute because what I would eventually say has been said by different people but then I stumbled upon the Jagons u wrote so I gats reason am….I repeat
Off point !!!!!!

Solatium:



Still learning how to Bleep when the marriage is almost 2yrs?
Una funny for this forum

Some take longer. Not everybody jumps into the 'deep end' of sex quickly. You also need to understand there is something called sexual dysfunction.

Scottz:
I don’t need to contribute because what I would eventually say has been said by different people but then I stumbled upon the Jacobs you wrote so I gats reason am….I repeat
Off point !!!!!!

Who made you a judge on my comments? Please ride along

sorepco:
U r a big FOOL!

lol why u reply that Animal nau u no sabi clout when u see one?

Am sorry, ii. was banned, i had to use my second account
So am acctually very gentle
i also only had sex 4 or 5 times before i married and meet her , i am 32,
i actually appreciate everyone times
The reason i commented on the sexuality trend is also cause, i just feel getting on the telegram will help me to learn| i appreciate everyones concerns, trust me , i am very gentle and understanding . i will press more and as for oral, fondllng, i do that alot. if i waited for 2 years in relationship b4 marriage and no sex, it meant i am very understanding . The pain is am satisfying her but she is not receiporating , and for one year, the only sex style has been me ontop opf her the few times,, i most time do not penerate until abt 30 mins of pre-intimacy i believe,
She even cums/ orgaism as i know wen her body begins to sake , but she cannot suck me she says, her mouth pains her, romance or sex me, she says she does not have the energy. Thank you everyone once again
Thank you Sir

BassReeves:

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Good call

You have no choice, other than 'this is what i had been doing' as matter of fact, its what called just one of your lot in life.

If only, it was as easy to banish hunger, by rubbing the belly, as it is to masturbate.

Beloved, be thankful that God thought of the day and need for you to masturbate because imagine you be a T-Rex, trying to do solo sex. See, you figured out that having good sex, is like good bridge, if you dont having a good partner, you're better off, having a good hand. Now the only shame in masturbation, would be, the shame of not, doing it well and not shouting or crying out your missus' name while doing it.

Let me clear you on what's happening here.

First, size doesnt matter, its how you position and use it, that counts. Other twists to first, are: Size doesn't matter, its all about the heart. Also big, huge, micro, regular, skinny size doesnt matter, skills and how you use it, does

Second, is delving a bit in the realms of psychology, I am not portraying to be a sex therapist nor doing a psychological analysis, but is there any reason or history for your wife to be frigid? Has she suffered sexual assault, sexual abuse etc?

Also has she been medically checked out for one or combinations of any of the below:
1. Vaginismus, that causes involuntary clenching of vaginal muscles to prevent penetration
2. Dyspareunia, that makes intercourse painful
3. Vulvodynia, which is chronic pain or discomfort around the opening of your vagina for which there's no identifiable cause and which lasts at least three months.

One reason I campaign for sex before marriage. You see?

nairaman66:


Who made you a judge on my comments? Please ride along

my opinion shouldn’t be an headache to you damn!!!! I no abuse you nau chai

Masturbation is your friend, but don't over engage in it. Or get a second wife. Or maybe your wife need tutorial. Simple.

DenreleDave:


Good day sir thorpido, how have u been doing

Good day DenreleDave. Nothing has come up yet that is why i haven't given you any feedback.

Lmao