kokanepyramid:

Does being a non-virgin guarantee successful marriage?

Capital NO!!!

brodalikeme:


Capital NO!!!

So all things being equal, a virgin comes with less baggage than non-virgin.

jmoore:
So you had a bath, got dressed, sprayed perfume and walked out of the hostel to head to the class for lectures.

Then you meet someone dressed in rags with the most offensive smell ever. He says to you "being clean is not a guarantee for a successful graduate".

That marks are not given for being clean doesn't mean you should be a dirty pig. You being clean is for your own good, it's healthy to be clean.
Is being dirty a guarantee to be a successful graduate?

Now, you can see where I am heading to. Being a virgin till marriage is a healthy lifestyle. Borehole doesn't guarantee anything. Therefore, let virgins be free to virgins.

Thank you.

brodalikeme:
I disagree with you absolutely! The virtue of being a virgin as lofty as it is alone, cannot guarantee a successful marriage.

Brand new tyres alone does not make an efficient vehicle.
Clean cups doesn’t make great drinks.
There are so many important tiny components that makes a good woman/wife.

Most wrongest analogies I’ve ever seen. You’re trying so hard to twist your analogies to favor the non-virgins.

The efficiency of a vehicle depends on, oh my fvck, SOOOO MANY THINGS. Wtf is tyre when talking about efficiency of a whole vehicle?

Also great drinks depends on good ingredients not spoilt one. Why the fvck would you mention cups?

This is the worst analogy I’ve ever seen in my life

Obaxxx:

I don't know about una,but as for me, virginity na one major recipe that must be added to marriage..It may not be as important as to prove a point of her decency but you see that HYMEN,if I no see am,I no go ever respect that banny

are you a virgin? If not, then you're just a bloody double standard hypocrite and shouldn't crave for one.

duality:



In your life, will you advocate chastity and cleanness even if you're not measuring up?

Just like the word on the street nobody only pass and it also doesn't mean one should be filthy...But in the context of the virgin makes a successful marriage might not be visible because of individual differences.

duality:


Why not this way...

If you were to choose between a virgin with good character and a non virgin with bad character. Which will you choose.

There's something in most people that makes them accentuate the negative to justify their stance

Lol,you sabi their gimmicks, always ascribing negative things to virgins to make you biased in choosing
Happy to see you also turn it around

cooooooks:
So this is why productivity is so low in Nigeria.

People are focused on useless topics.

You can discuss that one with your fellow ashawao and your mom

ESANMEA:
I just tire o.. That's how one man that married his wife as a virgin made a stu*pid statement while they were having issues. He said, "if you're truly a good person, how come I'm the first to have sex with you". That talk pained me en..
Virginity is a choice please..

Lol bc of just one stupid man's statement , these lose unpatriotic non virgin ashawaos sef

shaybebaby:

Mentally enslaved people. Even with access to information at their finger tips, with everything going on the world, natural disasters, global economic instability, poor access to healthcare/education, a global pandemic, rising food prices, bad governance etc.
In the face of weightier issues facing mankind, their most pressing problem is..*drum roll* ....virginity.
It would be funny if it wasn't was soooo pitiful.

Ashawao large hole ,you can start solving those problems with your fellow Ashawaos and mom

Ashawaos feel pained

Adekaka12345:
I don't even want to talk about virgins.

I don see many things.

A girl claiming virgin but has had anal sex numerous times, what do we call that?

Make una de deceive unaself.

That's a different thing altogether. We all know who a virgin is

Ikpunwanyianamb:

Ashawao large hole ,you can start solving those problems with your fellow Ashawaos and mom

Ashawaos feel pained

Indeed I feel pained. Pained at the abundance of stupidity on display.

If this is your contribution to humanity, then you existence is inconsequential.

The Op got everything muddled up.
Being virtuous and and striving to be sexually pure is a virtue both genders should have. Virginity is an indication of moral uprightness particularly in this present time when sex is cheap and being sexually immodest is considered fashion and smartness.

The statement is however correct. Virginity is not enough guarantee for a successful and happy marriage. As much as I will love to have a woman who is sexually modest and decent, I wouldn't look forward to her coming with just her virginity. After the virginity what else? That a woman or man is a virgin doesn't mean she will be upright and adequate in other areas of human endeavors.

Nature has a way of doing its things. Those wayward things always have happy stories while the modest, unfortunately, go through undeserved hell. Being a good, brilliant and focused student sometimes does not guarantee success after graduation. The unserious ones and the ones labelled olodos always fly higher. It's a mystery.

The statement can be said to be stupid and useless if it is said with the intention of encouraging philandering in men or promiscuity in women folks.

It is good and fulfilling to be a virgin purposely to fulfil your own personal moral or Philosophical principles and not in expectation of special treatments from the society.

being a virgin is a strong positive attribute when looking for a partner. to me it make a whole 50% of the required attributes. but that alone is not enough for a successfully marriage. being a virgin does not automatically makes one a perfect partner, marriage.. is a very complex union that last more than a wedding night.(virginity last only to wedding night)find a woman that meets all the attributes your require , concentrating on virginity alone is a big mistake.

henrybomb:

If you were to choose to between a virgin with bad and annoying character or a non virgin with sweet and amazing character which will you choose?

I will choose a virgin with a sweet and amazing character.

brodalikeme:


I find it unthinkable that someone would suggest that a single aspect of an item can make it perfect when other parts are not right. This is laughable!
I bet you’re not married yet.
Forget the context of this discussion, think about life in general. Perfection, peace excellence etc. are a sum total of different things.

THIS IS BOT AN ATTACK ON VIRGINITY PLEASE!!!

And being married means automatic wisdom?
Is the topic about perfection?

You came up with ridiculous analogies that I crushed, hence you are trying to divert away from the crux of the matter.

Joeboy4ever:
why do you want to argue blindly what makes a stool stand is that it has it three legs break one of those legs regardless of two being new and watch the whole stool crumble, stop justifying nonsense.
Yes being a virgin is the absolute best cause that way you’d have an empty cup which you can fill to your taste rather than having an already filled cup of coke when you want to fill it up with coffee you’d definitely have issues

It's a good thing for ladies to strive to keep their virginity till marriage a d all, but I have watched you attacking people that say Virginity alone does not guarantee a good marriage and I am trying hard to understand why exactly...is it that your position is that virginity guarantees a successful marriage??

duality:


Why not this way...

If you were to choose between a virgin with good character and a non virgin with bad character. Which will you choose.

There's something in most people that makes them accentuate the negative to justify their stance

He asked a simple question based on what you said, instead of answering your being smart...so those that are not virgins are doomed to unsuccessful marriages abi?? because that seems to be ur argument.

Table shaking

jmoore:
So you had a bath, got dressed, sprayed perfume and walked out of the hostel to head to the class for lectures.

Then you meet someone dressed in rags with the most offensive smell ever. He says to you "being clean is not a guarantee for a successful graduate".

That marks are not given for being clean doesn't mean you should be a dirty pig. You being clean is for your own good, it's healthy to be clean.
Is being dirty a guarantee to be a successful graduate?

Now, you can see where I am heading to. Being a virgin till marriage is a healthy lifestyle. Borehole doesn't guarantee anything. Therefore, let virgins be free to virgins.

Virginity has a strong connection from the kingdom of God, That is why God sent his son Jesus into this world through a virgin, that shows that virginity is a sacred, any woman who married as a virgin have obtain favour from the lord, she will automatically inherit the kingdom of God.

jmoore:
So you had a bath, got dressed, sprayed perfume and walked out of the hostel to head to the class for lectures.

Then you meet someone dressed in rags with the most offensive smell ever. He says to you "being clean is not a guarantee for a successful graduate".

That marks are not given for being clean doesn't mean you should be a dirty pig. You being clean is for your own good, it's healthy to be clean.
Is being dirty a guarantee to be a successful graduate?

Now, you can see where I am heading to. Being a virgin till marriage is a healthy lifestyle. Borehole doesn't guarantee anything. Therefore, let virgins be free to virgins.

My brother, some ball less men on Nairaland will come for your neck ranting nonsense about virginity with below assertion.

Virginity doesn’t make a good home. Nah non virgin go make a good home awon low life guys.

Women that are virgin have tried various type of sex except virgina penetration. As if them dey among the guys these ladies tried the different methods with stupid fifu.

Women that are virgin will turn slut after marriage. Person wey no turn slut before marriage, if she no turn slut make them go turn am to one, awon weyrey mindset and or opinion.

I only see them consoling themselves since they don’t have a virgin lady in possession.

Ask them between a good beautiful virgin lady and a good beautiful non-virgin lady who them go wife? You go see them begin dey stammering, ah no get issues with used hoes nah stupid guys justifying their hoeing around lifestyles dey always pepper me.

henrybomb:
So if you were to choose between a virgin with bad and annoying character or a non virgin with a calm and amazing character which will you choose?

I know I will come across one primary 6 baseless point being raised.

Lemme ask you also, between a virgin with calm and amazing character and a non virgin with calm and amazing character who will you go for?

shaybebaby:

Mentally enslaved people. Even with access to information at their finger tips, with everything going on the world, natural disasters, global economic instability, poor access to healthcare/education, a global pandemic, rising food prices, bad governance etc.
In the face of weightier issues facing mankind, their most pressing problem is..*drum roll* ....virginity.
It would be funny if it wasn't was soooo pitiful.

When they are watching people having sex on national TV in big brother Nigeria, natural disaster didn't happen, global economy was stable? You have been noticed.

That you are calling us mentally enslaved shows how poor your IQ is. You don't know the impact of STDs on health.
Rule 1: Anyone that speaks against virginity temporarily suspends his/her brain for that moment. You have proven that.

cooooooks:

So this is why productivity is so low
in Nigeria.
People are focused on useless
topics.

And fornication adds to the GDP?

The argument is a non causa pro causa Infact, what OP is trying to say commits the fallacy of secundum quid et simpliciter.

Virgin , Borehole non is a guarantee of a successful marriage

VERDA:


It's a good thing for ladies to strive to keep their virginity till marriage a d all, but I have watched you attacking people that say Virginity alone does not guarantee a good marriage and I am trying hard to understand why exactly...is it that your position is that virginity guarantees a successful marriage??

pls where did I attack anyone, honestly speaking ehh, Una just de tire me for this nairaland, bro go ahead and marry an olosho and build a happy home, thanks everybody with his own headache

duality:


Why not this way...

If you were to choose between a virgin with good character and a non virgin with bad character. Which will you choose.

There's something in most people that makes them accentuate the negative to justify their stance

As u can see, the priority is good character and not virginity.
There's more to marriage than virginity. Marriage is hard work from both couples.
I'm not really sure how virginity helps sustain and keeps the marriage going, but if it helps in anyway...then good.
But I'm sure good character, sacrifice, understanding, healthy compromise, excellent management skills, emotional intelligence are established keys that holds the foundation of a long lasting marriage.

Some Questions:
1. Virginity of the man or the woman? I have observed even on this thread how people always focus on the ladies when it comes to marital and societal issues.
What if the lady is a virgin but the guy is quite promiscuous?
If you can marry as a Virgin, fine but if you are no longer a virgin, don't be discouraged or think that you can't have a great marriage because neither (virginity or non-vigirnity) is a guarantee of a successful marriage.
2. Is virginity of the body alone or it includes the heart? I mean, some ladies can do all sort of sexual acts like giving BJ, hand jobs, anal sex etc but will not allow penetration. Their minds are already wild. They watch porn and do many things. Will you call them virgins because their hymen is intact and can that virginity guarantee a successful marriage?

Let those who are virgins be and let those who are not virgins not made to feel like their own is finished. They are some people like me who don't care whether a lady is a virgin or not. Others are very particular about virgins and others can't marry a virgin.

To each his own.

Joeboy4ever:
pls where did I attack anyone, honestly speaking ehh, Una just de tire me for this nairaland, bro go ahead and marry an olosho and build a happy home, thanks everybody with his own headache

Stop being childish, so anyone that is not a virgin is an Olosho.

SIRTee15:


As u can see, the priority is good character and not virginity.
There's more to marriage than virginity. Marriage is hard work from both couples.
I'm not really sure how virginity helps sustain and keeps the marriage going, but if it helps in anyway...then good.
But I'm sure good character, sacrifice, understanding, healthy compromise, excellent management skills, emotional intelligence are established keys that holds the foundation of a long lasting marriage.

And having sex with hundred people before marriage is a good character?

Choose your own priority, while others will choose theirs. Some want the combination of both virginity + good character as their priority.

If you love promiscuity, you can't understand the importance of virginity.

Ikpunwanyianamb:

That's a different thing altogether. We all know who a virgin is

You don't know who a virgin is.

You just assume you do.

All the best...

I'd prefer virgins any day but are there true virgins? Lol.

shaybebaby:

Mentally enslaved people. Even with access to information at their finger tips, with everything going on the world, natural disasters, global economic instability, poor access to healthcare/education, a global pandemic, rising food prices, bad governance etc.
In the face of weightier issues facing mankind, their most pressing problem is..*drum roll* ....virginity.
It would be funny if it wasn't was soooo pitiful.

With all the 'weightier' issues you stated up, you still took your time to open this thread, read through it and comment. You're the the most wretched of all human beings.