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Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by Xman12345goat: 5:45pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
theForth: True talk |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by MufasaLion: 5:59pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
Never marry from a poor background! |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by mariahAngel(f): 6:46pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
[s] Xman12345goat:[/s] Trash talk! Oh! So, You never knew she was from a "poor background" before you decided to waste her time for more than 8yrs? Guy! No let god punish you! Your eyes don enter another person abi? All of a sudden, she's from a poor background!" Na now your eyes clear! 1 Like |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by chatinent: 6:49pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
Eight years? Abi na jail sentence? Mehn. 1 Like |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by Nobody: 6:53pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
mariahAngel: So you think there is one beautiful hour glass looking nurse in his Federal medical Center that he his eyeing abi? But jokes apart, which money will he use to take care of the 6 siblings. Then his own family, abi they should just die in poverty fa? 2 Likes |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by yomi007k(m): 6:54pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
VTJN: When he has money- it is the man that is expected to be bread winner. This is Africa. When she has money -it is expected to be gender equality. This is 21st century. 3 Likes |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by Oyin2212(m): 7:00pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
frozen70:It's not only be a man |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by mariahAngel(f): 7:05pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
truthsayer009: E no dey obvious? who’s he trying to deceive? But jokes apart, which money will he use to take care of the 6 siblings. Then his own family, abi they should just die in poverty fa? He doesn’t have to take care of her siblings (unless he wants to), as they’re not his responsibility. That is just a lame and available excuse to japa! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by Longsleeve: 7:06pm On Oct 06, 2021 |
Those two old women that commented 1st and 2nd won't say that thrash if the reverse was the case.. OP see how you can coordinate your finance for everyone. If you know you can't meet up, leave her.. make better rich man marry her.. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by PharoahIII: 7:00am On Oct 07, 2021 |
This op self no get sense, you don pay brideprice finish you come here dy ask questions? Talk of putting the cart before the horse? Oga shes your wife already. Congrats on your future suffering. You dated someone for 8 years and you did not think about all these until someone else had to point it out to you? I dont even think the op should be talking of marriage, he lacks common sense. 6 Likes |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by PharoahIII: 7:30am On Oct 07, 2021 |
From the op's replies to other people's comments, one can infer that his mind is already made up to dump Chioma like a very hot potato any moment from now. Look op I am a glorified philanderer and misogynist, and I think very little of women as they are all solipsistic beings. However a man should strive to be honorable at all times. You have paid her brideprice already so you MUST stay with her (notice I used the word 'stay' and not 'marry' as you are already married to her). You cannot change the goalposts after the game has started. That poor girl should not be the one to take the blame for your utter stupidity. If you leave her who will marry her again? Now she'll even have more problems because apart from having an aged mother and six siblings, she'll become second-hand. No man would want to pay any brideprice for someone whose hand had already been sought and in fact given out in marriage!! Abeg have conscience. 4 Likes |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by enemyofprogress: 9:00am On Oct 07, 2021 |
dominique: |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by enemyofprogress: 9:04am On Oct 07, 2021 |
You better take style run. Your story reminds me of bola146
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Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by yomi007k(m): 10:37am On Oct 07, 2021 |
Oyin2212: This "be a man" statement don kill many men. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by Oyin2212(m): 12:57pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
yomi007k:Aswear bro |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by shege45: 1:09pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
Mercychen:Can you marry a poor man?be sincere 1 Like |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by shege45: 1:13pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
frozen70:Abeggi, if this case was reversed, most girls would run. Make d bros go for him class. no b only girls get class 1 Like |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by Efewestern: 1:57pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
Xman12345goat: Have you discussed with her ? What was her response? No one can force you into paying bills you don't want to, unless there's something you aren't telling us. |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by Nobody: 1:58pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
shege45: What is your definition of poor? As far as I'm concerned, 80% of Nigerians are poor. So there's no need asking that question. Virtually every fellow you can still meet within your circle both middle class and the so called poor ( apart from the elites in the society) are in the same category> poor. The rich we know are obviously rich. To your question, I've dated a guy that was squatting with a friend before with marriage in view but I never saw him as poor. 2 Likes |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by Longsleeve: 5:36pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
Mercychen:So why didn't you marry him and squat with his friend.. |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by mariahAngel(f): 6:08pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
Longsleeve: If you were the friend, would you agree to that? 2 Likes |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by Longsleeve: 6:47pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
mariahAngel:You're not getting my point.. She doesn't like to marry the poor man but she advising the OP to do same.. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by Raalsalghul: 7:06pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
yomi007k: Lol! |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by bukatyne(f): 7:22pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
Xman12345goat: Your situation is a fallout of the confusion we see in marriage roles and traditions today. In our parents' time, you would not wait eight years before Chioma's poverty becomes uncomfortable for you as the traditional expectation of catering for her family is clear. You also did not develop Chioma to a point she can contribute financially to the family purse or cater for her family without your input. While you were going to Medical School, what was Chioma doing? What are/were your plans for the future? As it is, you have paid her bride price hence married to her; you can decide to cut her family off and care for only yourselves (Chioma + future kids) or become the beast of burden for both families.: > For yours, they trained you and want to reap where they sowed > For hers, you are their daughter's husband and should bear their burden In addition to the concern your mom has, she is also protecting her investment (you) so you don't neglect the family and face your in-laws. Whatever you decide, your story would teach people to count the cost of any venture before they embark on it. I also hope we will see an end to people having more kids than they can cater for. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by Truvelisback(m): 7:36pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
Xman12345goat:U reason like a little child. 1. For looking down on the lady u want to marry and her family and for saying She is not educated. 2. For allowing ur mum to control u like a baby and decide 4 u who u should marry. By the way, did anyone forced u to support her siblings? 4 Likes |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by Truvelisback(m): 7:41pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
Mercychen:No mind the guy jor! Na mummy's boy. It's people like him that ends up being a baby husband. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by Nobody: 8:51pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
bukatyne: Must men do everything for women, chai! Forget, men dey suffer abeg. 1 Like |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by Nobody: 8:53pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
Truvelisback: I'm telling you. 1 Like |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by Truvelisback(m): 9:33pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
Mercychen:U dey hear him foolish words. The lady waited for him For good 8years, even while he was still schooling. She could have left him and get married to another guy all these while but she didn't. Now, he has gotten a good job, the lady now is an illiterate to him. He is now looking for a filmsy excuse to dump her in the name of "my mummy say". Can u imagine? 2 Likes |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by Nobody: 9:55pm On Oct 07, 2021 |
Truvelisback: Don't mind him. He's forming levels all of a sudden. I don't blame him. I blame the girl for sticking with a student and wasting her time. |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by RightToReject(m): 6:33am On Oct 08, 2021 |
The major drawback I always see in a scenario like this is the fact that if the reverse were to be the case, the same lady might be among the 99.9% of ladies who wouldn't want to have anything to do with you because of your poor background even when the zeal and potential are glaring. Apart from that and assuming that she's resourceful and conscientious and has an altruistic interest in you, and vice versa, I don't see any reason why you should dump her when with just the equivalent of your two months salary you can set her up. And of course, provided that her family members are scrupulous. 99.9% of people who are poor/unable to become financially successful are so not because of the big money they don't have, but because they're not resourceful and gumptious in general. I don't always see the essence of sharing closeness with anyone who, by virtue, lacks what it takes to command one's selflessness or can't make a selfless sacrifice for one when necessary. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Cost Of Getting Married To A Poor Family by Frenzy01(m): 8:20am On Oct 08, 2021 |
Mercychen:Rubbish 1 Like |
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